Cannot find a balance!!!

This topic was created in the Libra forum by sweethearts on Wednesday, August 10, 2011 and has 4 replies.

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@sweethearts
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My new Leeb is absolutely adorable and I like him loads....however, he's in love already and its been 4 WHOLE weeks OMFG way too much for me to even comprehend!!!

I don't want to give him up because I really enjoy his company not to mention the FAB sex...but seriously way too much too soon. I feel an imbalance and wonder if it's meant to be or maybe I'm just older and wiser and more jaded but I have to wonder......

Is there any balance in love—

Do we love the same or does one normally feel more than others?

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@little_sparrow
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Sweethearts, my partner asked me to move in with him after our second date. I told him maybe ... but let's just try to get through our third date. Months and months later, I am packing up and we are moving in together, doing pre-marital counseling, and getting to know my new stepdaughter.

My point? Other than to share my good news is that when a guy is into you, you know it. They don't hold back and there is no pussyfooting around. It can be kind of overwhelming. And as you know, some guys come on strong only to crash and burn. My best advice take it day by day. Enjoy the ride. Hope for the best but hold a tiny piece back just for you.

Wish you all the best!

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@sweethearts
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@ LS, I've never been one to fall fast and if I do I hold it back and not say anything but the more he pushes for me to reciprocate the feelings openly the more I retreat. I've spelt it out in so many ways. I asked him the other night if he would want me to say "I love you" to him when he says it to me, even if I didn't really feel it and his answer was yes! I just said, sorry it's not something I can do. His theory is the more you say it you start to feel it...

I understand your point and he is definitely into me, no mistake about that. Right from day dot he was talking long term as in meeting his children. He's met mine but his are younger and I'm not wanting to go down that track because of my indecision!

Personally I think that my going away for 10 days will make or break us!

Oh and Congrats on your new found romance, best of luck there lady. You deserve some happiness. x