Libras and Doting

My Libra is such a doter - I LOVE it. He always makes sure he has the food, drinks, etc I like. He plays my favorite music when I'm at his house. He will always get up to do things (close the door, change the movie, etc.) and wants me to just sit. He loves to cook for me and serve me, etc. etc. etc.

I'm guessing most Libras act this way...thoughts?

I dote and get doted on. I can be quite affectionate and demonstrative. I also am very restless and have a hard time just sitting there.

Ditto Sparrow

I definately dote back as much as he'll let me. I was never much of a doter before. It's amazing how much another person's characteristics can rub off on me if I really really like them. I've noticed that he has picked up some of my personality traits (especially how direct he's been lately in conversations and questions) and I pick up his (I spent 1/2 hour trying to decide which bubble bath I was going to get at the store! LOL!)

It's fun.

Awww, that?s sweet!

It looks like it's just the three of us today...and I'm trying as hard as I can not to work - what else can we talk about?

Im going in a minute! Sorry, its dinner time here in Spain, and its bloody freezing too!

I dunno. I am kind of in a weird restless mood today. I am feeling kind of tired and burnt out. I know how to pull myself out of it but I am being lazy and not letting myself get up.

I would love to be sipping hot tea/chocolate in bed right now. *sigh*

God Sparrow, dont worry about that! Ive been feeling weird all week and im not getting much better! Thank God im off tomorrow, no work until Monday!! I love tea in the morning..Earl Grey, yes im a snob!

I've been feeling that way all week, LS. It sux. Hopefully, you can put your feet up tonight and have that cocoa in bed!

I guess we're all feeling it!

I think it is romantic frustration on my part. WHY can't boys just do what I want, when I want it?

Life would be SOOO much easier if they did.

I am really frustrated by the dating scene.

I am in the same boat. I wish my boy would get his life in order and decide to STAY here with ME.

No. You are blissfull in a happy relationship. I am in dating hell.

LOL!

Dating HELLLL!!!!

lol!

ugh. you just know I am going to end up really embittered by all these near misses.

I really don't think we are meant to go through all this emotional push-pulling. It can't be good for us.

Sorry. I am just frustrated.

The only guy I have heard from this week is the little Virgo that I don't want to shag. Why does the wrong guy always call?

*The little Virgo that I don't want to shag* LMAO!!!!

Have a little patience, and I bet your aqua guy will resurface. I think many men don't realize how happy it would make you to just hear from them, especially air signs. We all have a tendency to do the push pull, constantly changing our minds, etc. Besides, now you're missing him and it will be that much more exciting when you do hear (at least that's how it works for me).

Yes, I am happy in this relationship, and I am also scared to death that he will crush me. So, the grass is always greener, I guess!

I dunno about Aquaguy. It isn't so much that I miss him, I just thought he would have called by now. I realize ANY number of things could have happened that have nothing to do with me including his crazy ex-gf, but I am starting to take it personally.

I mean ... how many near misses can one person have? My whole dating life is bordering on ridiculous.

When we open ourselves up we take the risk of being crushed. It is a delicate balance. He sounds like he is crazy for you. Just give him time.

🙂

I think I am just having a bad day. I am taking things personally even though they aren't.

Awww, thanks for saying that! I've definately being working on my patience skills with this one. It's really great that I am growing so much from this relationship.

I can't remember what it was called, but I remember you posting some videos about drawing things to you by channeling your energy, etc. You can totally do that with love. I actually spent some time cultivating exactly what I want maybe 3 months ago. I was totally prepared to let the Libra go if it turned out that I realized that what I wanted to attract. Instead, he started to make some small shifts that wound up fitting what I declared to the universe I wanted. I didn't tell him any of this, either. It just happened naturally. Maybe you could give it a try and see what happens.

Now, I'm working on the job situation - trying to attract the perfect fit for me career wise. Waiting to see what will happen.

I was not thanking you for saying you're having a bad day, btw! LOL!

It's hard not to take things personally in the dating game. It's even hard to do that in a relationship when you know it's good, you know he's into you, but something happens and it becomes personal. Remember me last week, freaking out b/c he needed some time to himself? Perfect example. But, we learn from these experiences and hopefully next time, your energy stays up, no matter who's calling or not calling. Remember, it's about them, it's not about you.

Thanks Ammo. I needed to hear that. I know I need to turn this around even on an energetic level. I know nothing really is wrong just my own garbage creeping out to play.

LS your dating the Aqua right? What happened?

I dunno. I called to thank him for our date and to tell him I had a great time. He hasn't called back. (shrugs)

He has a crazy ex-gf so anything could have happened.

🙂

Don't you just love playing in the garbage? Uck.

Do something extra nice for yourself tonight and see how you feel tomorrow.

When did you call him?

Maybe him and the leo are hanging out comparing notes. They live in the same hood and have a lot in common. lol!

I called Monday.

When I first met my Libra, he would sometimes not call me for 5 days. Now he calls pretty much every day.

I believe many men do this for a few reasons. 1) If they start calling a lot in the beginning, some women are likely to interpret it as a serious relationship though it's not (stupid, I know, but it happens. 2) They do not want to scare women off with desperation (and believe me, if Libra called me everyday when we first started dating, I would've seriously wondered about him). 3) They are just busy. This is potentially the most common reason, and we tend to think of everything else in the book, especially the worst case scenario. 4) He likes you but the timing is off (too much crazy ex action, maybe?)

In the worst case, he may not be interested. But you know that if he doesn't get how amazing you are, he is not for you anyways, and this frees you up to meet Mr. Right.

I have some HORROR stories from dating right before I met my boy. I mean, I know that it is UGLY out there. Trust me, not hearing from someone for a few days is a treat compared to what can happen!

* 4) He likes you but the timing is off

This has happened to me four times in a row. FOUR times!!!! It REALLY bites.

* In the worst case, he may not be interested. But you know that if he doesn't get how amazing you are, he is not for you anyways, and this frees you up to meet Mr. Right.

I get this on an intellectual level just not feeling it at the moment. Thanks for trying to help. I appreciate it.

Damn, my roommate is home. I really was hoping she had plans tonight. I kind of need alone time too. I feel like I need a good sulk.

Anyhow have a good night sweetie. I am going to run off to my room so I can bask in my self-loathing.

🙂

I am feeling MUCH better today.

I did a little meditation and feel so much more at peace. I know the answer. If I want to be the Leo's friend, I have to be the Leo's friend.

I know what to do. It will be okay.

🙂

Thanks Ammo and aquabrat for talking me through last night.

I'm so glad you're feeling better! I thought you probably would. It's cool that you take such good care of yourself...you'll attract what you need for sure!

I am very much a doter to the max. But one thing, make sure to tell you libra you appreciate it now and again. Nothing is worse than a libra who doesnt feel some sort of praise or ego boost lol.

I know a lot of Libras who are sweet. I agree that they dote, unless they're on the edge of another sign

I am so glad you are better LS.. It is just a mental thing.. you can turn it off and on by taking control over your emotions and feelings. Good going. This is best so that either way you can mentally handle things. The guy could be feeling too much too soon. Sometimes this will cause a guy to flee too, their own interpersonal conflict and you will never know. I am sorry.. I thought he was an aqua for some reason. I dunno much about leo's.

You have had a string of bad luck it seems.. I am with ammorocks you are better off without the jerks, be glad they ended, cuz fussin and trying to get rid of a crazy guy for years is NO fun..

Good luck sweety!

Back to the Board topic..

My libra best friend dotes.. I love it.. my ex libra was on the cusp of Scorpio.. no doting!!!!!!!!

Very true.. Multihoroscoped...

Aquabrat

You aren't confused. I am just juggling too many men. lol!

The aqua was the guy I met two weeks ago and had a great date with last weekend. He has a crazy ex-gf. I called him Monday to thank him for the date. *poof* He has disappeared. I really think something happened with his ex. She seems a bit unstable to say the least.

The leo is a guy I met beginning of Septmeber. He is the guy who really has my heart. But, I apparently inspired him so he is off chasing rainbows. 😢

I am trying to remain open to any possibility since no one is really stepping up.

And Yeah. I have had a stream of bad luck. The first year I was single I only met guys who were in relationships or married. The last six months it seems they all just broke up with someone or aren't quite ready for a relationship. In someways, this is an improvement. lol!

I sincerly don't think any of them are jerks. Just bad timing. At some point, the tide has to turn. It just has too.

May the best man win! (I hope the leo wins in the end. We really inspire each other and would be very good for each other. But him or someone better.)

hee!

I am not even telling you guys about the ones that don't make into onto the board. I have a cancer and yes, another leo in the wings. God help me.

lmao!

I don't lack male companionship just the only guys I have had mutual attractions too and who would be happy with me long term, just aren't quite ready for a relationship for a multitude of reasons. The guys that don't give up will never be happy because they aren't at my level.

Love is strange.

LS.. okay you are too much. we can't keep up with you like HP.. too many men to follow. That is understandable about the mutual attraction and long term potential. No need to waist time, unless your waiting for another.. then waist away.. until you can get the real thing..

I will post the newest segment to my saga on Update..