Confused by Libra Man

Haha, man, this is EXACTLY what happened to me with my ex.

I think it has something to do with the family, maybe. He started acting different after I'd met his family. I don't know if he got feedback that had him rethinking all of it or what, but to this day, I can't help but think that meeting them switched something in his head and suddenly he's rethinking the relationship and behaving weird. Maybe he'd had an inkling prior, still trying to sort it out and family just cemented what it was he was internally hung up on/unsure of?

Libras tend to rush into things because in their head, it's just SO ideal at the time. Omg, hot and heavy and they're soo into you.

Then cue slamming on the brakes. Omg, what am I doing?? I'm moving too fast. Is this really going to work? I need to slow down. This is getting too real. Freeeak out.

It's annoying. They tend to do things in reverse. They want it and they want it now. So they go after it. Then they go through "buyers remorse" and start balking.

Confusing as hell though. As bad as it sounds, just don't take them seriously in the beginning phases of dating and relating.

From what I know about us Leebras, we are the one sign that can be friends with an ex. Hell, I've set friends up with guys I have dated or had relationships with an never felt an ounce of jealousy or envy or possessiveness. I was truly delighted that they hit it off. I tend to think the best of the people that I meet. And just because they aren't the one for me, doesn't mean they are a great guy for someone else. Know what I mean?

I think something happened on your trip that tipped him off that something about this does not work for him. You aren't compatible in some way that he needs you to be. Doesn't mean that you aren't a great person, just not the great person for him. He may not even know exactly what it is or is too polite to say because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I don't believe in changing people, so if I see something I really don't like in another person, I am wise enough to realize someone out there will find that very thing endearing so I release us both to find someone/something better.

Give yourself a good week of eating ice-cream, watching crap movies, and feeling bitter about your life. Then get out your sparkles, revamp your profile, and put it up again.

Life is too short to wonder why. Chances are he will be back and I hope for your shake that you will be happily on to someone else by the time he comes sniffing around. Living a fabulous life without them is the best revenge.

Feel better. Dating sucks. I know. I know.

And to be honest, I am impressed he broke up with you the way he did. A lot of men just vanish without a word.

And also, I have never found or heard of any relationship ending conversation that felt good and brought closure. No matter what anyone says the message is really just the same, this doesn't work for me. I want to end this .... and there is no way to dress it up that makes it fun to hear.

Posted by mwill34
Thanks for the input folks. Although I have to ask the question, why did the relationship have to end? I agree that it does take a while to get to know someone and that even I may have been guilty of getting wrapped up in the rush of feelings. But it was only 2.5 months....so why not take a step back, slow things down, and really see how we feel about each other. While I appreciate his effort to communicate and be honest with me, I do feel there was still a bit of immaturity in the manner in which he just walked away. He clearly felt strong feelings enough for me to bring me into his life like he did and then a week later just decide to call things quits. What happened to waiting things out?

During the break up convo, I told him that I am dissapointed, but I think he's a really great guy and I wish him the best. He said he feels the same about me and hopes we can be friends and that he may be making a huge mistake. The romantic in me (I'm a Pisces) hopes there may be a possibility that he'll want another go at it. What do you think?

There COULD be. Everyone says Libras are notorious for coming back around. I would be wary if he did, though. I'm always wary when a guy comes back around. It's either for selfish reasons, or they're attempting some half assed attempt again for the sake of easing THEIR mind. Generally, they aren't always taking your feelings into consideration in the process and you always have that risk of being dragged through this all over again.

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Posted by mwill34
Thanks for the input folks. Although I have to ask the question, why did the relationship have to end? I agree that it does take a while to get to know someone and that even I may have been guilty of getting wrapped up in the rush of feelings. But it was only 2.5 months....so why not take a step back, slow things down, and really see how we feel about each other. While I appreciate his effort to communicate and be honest with me, I do feel there was still a bit of immaturity in the manner in which he just walked away. He clearly felt strong feelings enough for me to bring me into his life like he did and then a week later just decide to call things quits. What happened to waiting things out?

During the break up convo, I told him that I am dissapointed, but I think he's a really great guy and I wish him the best. He said he feels the same about me and hopes we can be friends and that he may be making a huge mistake. The romantic in me (I'm a Pisces) hopes there may be a possibility that he'll want another go at it. What do you think?

There COULD be. Everyone says Libras are notorious for coming back around. I would be wary if he did, though. I'm always wary when a guy comes back around. It's either for selfish reasons, or they're attempting some half assed attempt again for the sake of easing THEIR mind. Generally, they aren't always taking your feelings into consideration in the process and you always have that risk of being dragged through this all over again.

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