DennyV's saga.....part 2 (Page 2)

"THAT IS AN OLD TUNE. ITS ABOUT PLAYING YOUR LAST HAND OF CARDS IN A GAME OF HEARTBREAK."

believe it or not i've heard it before. good song!

hey zen 🙂

denny, it's funny that you're from bergen county. i live in NY myself but i have family that lives in hawthorne and served in the bergenfield police dept. small world!

oh yeah about the situation, i wouldn't stress about it too much, but then again i'm a hippie. i say go with the flow and let things unfold naturally. do whatya feel.

oh yea....im in Little Ferry,,,,near Hackensack, Hasbrouch Heights...i actualy grew up in Ridgefield Park....small world is right

hehe you two - see den, if it doesn't work out, then you can hook wheelie up 😛

"hey im at willowbrook, do you want to meet me here and we can go see a movie or grab something to eat?"

just finish it with, if you're free or get this message before I finish from the mall, hope to hear from you... so you know if you don't hear from her, she's not free or doesn't have her fone, so you're not kept waiting or stressing and stuff, right?

yea...true

and what if she dont call me back today...or tommorrow...then what? You mean to tell me shes nto going to see her phone for 2 days.

Thats the thing...she wont get back to me for 3 days...but then shell hit me with something like "oh lets get lunch this weekend" or "hey i jsut wanted to see if you wanted to go to the movies" .... its just so weird I dont get it.

everytime im like...ok shes not that interested...maybe i hsould try to forget about her....she hits me with soemthing that keeps me coming back

see the thig is you're looking at this and weighing it based on what you'll do and how long it takes for you to respond to people, etc...

I've learnt everyone's different --- look at it this way

--- if there's something that keeps drawing you back, you want to find out from her if she's interested or not right? right now, she's responding back and stuff so you just gotta chill, unless there's someone else in the picture for you to go after? 😕

--- she currently owes you nothing so she may just be herself in the time she responds like you're being yourself... when she gets to know you, she'll know you like to be responded to immediately, etc... right?

when was the last time you actually saw her in person Denny?

Its not even that she has to text me within 5 min....i mean...i just think if there was a girl who i was interested in...and she sent me a text...i wouldnt take a whole day to respond....idk if i would respond immediately...but i know i wouldnt take 1 or 2 days to respond. But who knows if she has her phone on her or what...who knows...agian, she gets the benefit of the doubt

Well, i called her today...shell see the missed call....now i wait for her to get back to me. Who knows when it will be.

right now there is nobody else....I try to be open to other women.. i really do...if i met somebody at one of these hospitals, i may see where it goes...but truthfully, its all about this girl. And thats sad on my part but its true. Im in a tough nursing program which requires studying day and night..so i dotn have any time to go out and put myself out there to even try to meet somebody else...so all I do is study, work in the hospitals and medical centers...and think of this girl. Its not like i have my career and i can go out and stuff...with this program...there is no time to go out...so im left just studying and thinking about her.

the last time i saw her was August

See the thingis denny, you haven't come right out with your intentions, have you?
I would do exactly what she's doing solely for the fact that I tend to get distracted as trying to juggle so much...
like today, it's 8.39pm here - I haven't looked at my fone all day 🙂

you wanna get more in-your-face with trying to see her to find out what the deal is, everyone's different, forget all you know about your ex-es, your ideals, etc... get a feel for what she's like and she gets to know you too and go from there, right?

im trying too...i dont want to be to in-your-face cause i dont want to pressure her...but i want her to know that im interested and want to go out....ive tried as hard as i could to find a happy medium.

i know everybody is different and tahts why im trying to let her be in addition to trying to asking her to hang out.

I really dont know what else I can do.

in this case, you gotta be the decisive one I think... because you 2 ae libras so bound to be heavy indecisiveness... somewhere...

finding out what she wants takes only a few minutes...

you don't have to do much than you're doing... even if it's not trying to meet, just having a long conversation on the phone or online or summm... they work too to fill in blanks cos right now, you have thought up so much possibilities you don't know the actual picture, right?

yes....correct

and the thing is...i have school/hosptials in the mornign and afteroon...she works 3-12 sometiems 1am....so its liek we cant even have a phone convo...the weekends right now are our only shot...but she dont see her family during the week and only sees them on the weekends....lol...so its just one thing after another

but ur right...i over analyze and over think everything

liek when she called me friday night to invite me to the movies...and when i hung up the phoen i was so sick to my stomach..cause of all nights for me to go out..an di didnt even have my car....but instead of being happy she called (which i was) i was just thinking that she was inviting me out of process of elimination...but then again she sitll invited me...so i go back and forth...was this good or bad...etc etc etc...but then sometims im like F it. and i just call ehr without thinking about it..

Denny,

you are too cute. listen, about the very flakey plans and promises shes making...

its not intentional. we are a bit airheaded and we love to just throw all kinds of

things up in the air and hopefully one will sound good? you are going to have to take

charge because she isnt going to. but stop thinking shes doing things intentionally.

its just the elevator doesnt always go to the top, if you know what i mean.

if you want someting concrete you are going to have to tell her...we are going to have

to set the plan and the follow it. she will follow you.

just find out when she is available and you are too and then make and agreement

and GO DO IT! IF THIS HAS BEEN FLAKEY FOR FIVE MONTHS THAN GIVE IT ONE LAST CHANCE

AND THEN LET HER DO ALL THE WORK!

AS SOON AS YOU GUYS ACTUALLY MAKE A DATE AND GO THROUGH WITH IT NEXT WILL BE KISSING

THEN ENGAGEMENT AND THEN COMES LITTLE DENNY IN THE BABY CARRIAGE..SUCKING HIS THUMB!

alright...let me tell you want I want to do

I want to send her a text...telling her not to make any plans for saturday cause we're going out...not asking her... kind of like telling her, were going out..

but is taht being TOO assertive? you know what im saying?

she could be like "who does this guy think he is TELLING me what im doing" or she coudl be like "ok sounds good"

i dont want to be giving orders you know...maybe I can re-word it. but idk...u see what im saying.

but then sometims im like F it. and i just call ehr without thinking about it..

this is what it's got to be like - she's still the woman afterall... And I know all that independent woman crap is in vogue but this time, you gotta chase... lay it on the table so you can nip this in the bud... at that moment when you think she might be free, call... what if you call her once everyday, mmmmmm... the way I see it, if you're not insistent enough, you're never gonna get an 'in-card' to at least see what's up...

yea it was a good sign she called spontaneously... see this is probably due to you contacting her more lately, if you do even more, she'll start unconsciously clearing parts of her calender and you can fill in, right?

thought you were going to the mall Denny? 🙂

lol hothouseli... nice imagery...

WELL, SHE LIKES YOU OR YOU WOULDNT HAVE GOTTEN A PHONE CALL AT ALL! TRUST ME.

SO YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO NOW. ONCE YOU GOT THE PHONE CALL THAT IS THE GREEN LIGHT! YOU ARE GOOD TO GO. DO WHATEVER YOU LIKE THE MORE CONFIDENCE THE BETTER.
THE MORE BOSSY THE BETTER. WE LIKE IT.

GETTING IN HER FACE IS FINE. JUST DONT BE RUDE.

YOU TWO ARE GOING TO HAVE TO DROP WHATVEVER IS GOING ON AND MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER.

Im going to give her a couple days to get back to me....if she doesnt...i really dont konw what im going to do. I dont know if il wait more for her to get in touch with me....or il just send her the text about us going out saturday. I really dotn know...waht would u guys want the guy to do. You know what happened...i called and she didnt asnwer...but i think u guys woudl call the guy back. But where is the line between annoying and itnersted though...thats what im afraid of.

Im not afraid to call her....i dont have a pride thing...but the last thing i want to do is annoy her

how do you know you're annoying her? 😛

Den,

this is what im saying. you cant annoy us unless we dont like you and so if she gets annoyed then you might as well tell her to go to jump off a bridge. slap her around a bit
too.

call her tonight. she is off tonight and call her before 9 or 10 pm/because after that
time it becomes a little seedy. if you know what i mean. those hours after that people are up to NO GOOD! they looking for booty calls. i hope this isnt too much information.

i will try and stick to your question. what i would like for you to do is you show me that
you are really intrested. i would be thinking==is he for real or not! she maybe getting
coached like you are too. ever thought of that? her own mother may be helping and if
thats the case, be prepaird to roll out the red carpet treatment. nothing will be good enough. so step it up. like i said...you got the phone call and that means she alreayd
looking at you like potential husband. now its up to you if you want to be that involved.
because once she latches on....like barnicle on a boat.

haha..how do i know im not....i shouldnt say annoy...maybe over persuing

house,

You want me to call her AGAIN? tonight?

come on...i called her already

you have to go two calls or more to every one of hers=actual invites or she will think she did

more and she is more eager than you are and thats not very ladylike.

yes. call her again. tonight. tonight is the night she is free. she is with her parents
and missed your call.

shes a lady and just because you called once and hung up doenst mean she is going to
run back and call you again.

come on, denny! give a girl a break! call her until you contact her. trust me, please.

dude, another phonecall, so? or even a text ! it her last free day for another week!

you don't know her, you don't know what annoys her yet... 😉

I'm sure you'll hear it in her tone when you get annoying plus the way you overthink everything, I don't think you could be annoying in your actions, your overthinking - now that will be the ANNOYING thing 😛

start chasing harder, denny!

be a guy and chase man CHASE !!! act !
oh and you could quit being so decisive if you don't hear from her when you expect

how abotu I text her instead...tell her "Yami, dont make any plans for saturday becasue were going to go to dinner and a movie"

Call her and say that exact thing, even if you leave a VM...

You guys have been going back and forth too long now. Do it,,, you make the move...

Then don't think about it anymore. Study and work and she her next Sat. She of all ppl must know how hard your schedule is..

PLEAAAZZZZZZZEEE Denny 4 me LOL

call her again—? are u serious

whats wrong with the text?

if i call her again..and she dont answer...then thats twice in one day...thats bad.

Its either this...i call her tommorrow...or text her tonight

exactly denny, you're getting the idea... start making more solid plans... very very SOLID...

thats what you should have done the first time. if you get lucky enough and it goes

to message that would be PERFECT. LEAVE EXACLTY THAT MESSAGE. IF SHE DOESNT GET BACK TO

YOU ....GO AND GET HER!

LOVE HAS NO PRIDE, DEN

denny call again, then text if no answer - it's 2 calls not 100! and you're telling me it's not pride - phsss... one missed call spells no effort after 5 months or back and forth

wait...if i leave her that vm...and she STILL doesnt get back to me...im supposed to keep calling—

alright listen...i understand your point about callign again...but i dont feel rigth callign twice in 1 day...i just dont think it looks good

so im either going to send her a text tonight...or call her tommorrow

damn it, lol - hothouse and I are saying the same thing Denny

Yes, as a Libra woman myself, I appreciate knowing what I might be doing next Saturday.

You want this to happen...

Really, she is probably thinking you are playing with her, not the other way around.

can i call tommorrow afternoon?

I AGREE WITH DENNY. SEND A TEXT BUT SAY EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE GOING TO SAY BEFORE.

TELL HER TO KEEP HER TIME OPEN FOR YOU ON SATURDAY BECAUSE YOU HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL.

THATS PERFECT.

DONT LEAVE VM, BECAUSE YOU LL PROBALBY STUMBLE AND THEN YOU WILL BE WORRIED ABOUT THAT.

I THINK YOU NEED TO GET USE TO BEING BOSSY SO DO THE TEXT FIRST.

WE DONT LIKE SPUR OF THE MOMENT. IT TAKES ALONG TIME TO LOOK GOOD. THAT TAKES PLANNING.

WE ARE NOT FLY BY THE NIGHT TYPES. A WEEK IN ADVANCE WOULD BE GREAT.

ok so text her tonight?

YES! ABSOLUTELY AND WHEN Y'ALL GET MARRIED I WANT AND INVITATION TO IT!

sounds good with definite plans

ok now ... what if shes lik "i already have plans on saturday"

i need a back up plan

just talk to her extesively like asking if any little time in between or sunday or friday evening...... be cute 😉

friday night i know she works....so ask her what about sunday?

ok you start with texting about saturday right? if not ok, then sunday or summat... wait please until she confirms *pulls hair out*