DennyV's saga.....part 2 (Page 3)

if she is busy then ask her what time she is free. thats the way you handle it.

if she says shes busy than you have to put the ball in her court. she may have changed

her mind about you all together. you havent had a date yet. its not too late to back out.

if she says she is busy after your text, then you ask when then? in a nice way.

if she says i dont know....then be coridal but dont call again.

cordial

ok...so il text her tonight...if she TEXTS me back and tells me she already has plans...then il text her back, "ok so when is a good time for you?"

but the thing is...dont you think if im inviting her...and she cant make it...she should be like "hey i cant mke it saturday but im free sunday" ??

no denny, that what denny's response will be... you don't know what hers will be, right? or does everyone respond the same way?

ok so text her tonight or call her tommorrow?

Did I get lost in all this—?🙂

Don't you want to go out with her next Saturday?

Myself I'm confused and I don't even want to go out with you Denny LOL

How hard is it to call.. email.. or text. Hey next Sat we are going out..... I will be at blank place or I will pick you up... Or I will hire a limo...

GEEZ another week of this I will be in NJ and make sure you go out with this woman LOL

haha...dont be confused...

i am going to text her tonight

thought you sent text already 🙂
anyway good night - wanna read the 'sent text' when i wake up you hear 😛

ok..will do

il let you know if she gets back to me or not

ok...heres the update...its 12:27am now

at around 8:30 i texted her....and i just texted what came to me...heres what I texted:

"Yami, first it was hurrican Ike, this weekend it was blizzard Bob...if its not tornado theresa or earthquake eddy on saturday, do you want to go out?"

lolol

So she responded at 10:30 and was like "ok, are you sure you will be free? I can also do lunch tommorrow"

so i texted her back saying...lets do lunch tommorrow, do you want me to come by you and we can go to that italian place u were tellin me about

shes like, no lets go to trovatos (thats the place ive been ranting and raving about to her) but...trovatos is closed on mondays..my fn luck

so i texted her back tellign her that trovatos was closed on mondays...but that I know another italian place and a good spanish place

that was about 40 min ago..and she hasnt gotten back to me yet...so once again...idk wahts going on...

I'm late again. I always miss the good parts. 😢

I'm glad you texted her instead of calling her. If you call once and she doesn't answer either you leave a vm or you text her shortly after. Don't call her again! What are you people thinking? There was obviously a reason she didn't pick up the first time. Calling someone multiple times in a row will only guarantee you will not get a call back.

Anyways, texting seems to be the way she prefers to communicate. Maybe she's at work or busy while you call so she can't talk on the phone - but she can text. Or maybe she doesn't want to talk on the phone because you make her nervous. 🙂 Cuteee.

I think being aggressive would be ok. She's not aggressive enough, so there's room for you to be.

I like how she said "are you sure you will be free?" about Saturday. Hahahaha. That's what I say when trying to be smart with someone after I've tried to hang out with them and they were busy. 🙂

Ugh, I hate women who play these games but sweet DennyV ...all the facts are there: Her plans fell thru and she called you after 5 months.

BTW You sent her a great test asking her out for the following weekend and she derails you with "how about lunch tomorrow"? and avoids answering your question about your invitation for next weekend entirely. Then she can't approve of going out to lunch with you unless it is precisely where she wants to go and on her clock !! (ie: well if the restuarants closed where "I" want to go then forget it...I don't want to have lunch with you so.... I guess I won't answer any more of your TM's today.)

As painful as it is to see how she's just playing with you, your intuition (gut feeling) told you all you needed to know from the start. You were plan B or more likely plan Z. She loves the attention of you "trying" to reach for her while she stays just outside your grasp.

Your grueling schedule and the isolation that comes with the success you are creating for yourself is clouding your ability to see that the attention you long for from this woman is not going to happen. She's toying with you plain and simple. She called just to see if you were still interested in HER !

If she really wanted to be with you it wouldn't matter where you ate or when. Snow storm (she could only hope to get snowed in with you if she really wanted to be with you.

You can make all the excuses in the world for her not responding to phone calls and TM's people but the bottom line is.........if she really wanted to be with you DennyV.......she'd make time in her schedule to be with you. Take a look at the facts and you will see the truth. It hurts but it is the truth. She obviously had time to do lunch she is the one that asked you but then.......suddenly.....she won't follow thru because the restaurant she wants to go to is closed? How cruel is that?!! This woman is selfish. Move on sweet DennyV. Don't answer her calls and TM's.

I have to agree with you

Its 12:00 noon here in NJ and guess what....she still hasnt responded to my last text last night.

so now what am i supposed to do...be the sucker ONCE AGAIN...and send ANOTHER text or ANOTHER phone call....come on....this is just not right. If she didnt want to text me last night, maybe she fell asleep (once again, benefit of the doubt) then i can say ok, but there is on excuse for not getting back to me today. Im sorry. I still have half hour for her to contact me...but at this point...its like wtf

I cant do this up and down anymore...im getting worn out...its affecting my sleep...i was already an insomniac before this....now its 10x worse.

I dont get it...i really just dont get it

temple laid it out Denny. this girl wants to keep you hanging on and is doing the minimum to keep you around. who knows what the reasons are.

you should just ask her what is up.

people..

i called her to see what the deal is...she answered

im like "are we having lunch"

shes like yea...about 2:00 2:30..then we started talking about nursing....

but shes coming to my house....i told her "i hate to see you do all that driving" she said she didnt care

so shes going to be here in an hour and a half...i got to clean my whole house...and get dressed and clean my car out

people, say a prayer for me.

il be back later with the details

OMG! They have a date!

After only Five hundred and something posts! *sparrow passes out with fatigue*

😛

Go have a good time! And be nice!

Seeeeee. 🙂

To be honest Temple, normally I would agree with you. In this case, however, I really think she doesn't know what to make of our little Denny here. I don't think she knows what his intentions are so she doesn't know how to treat him. I think she is remaining open-minded but isn't over the moon about him. I suspect it has to do with their age difference. Most women in their thirties are very hesitant to date guys in their twenties because chances are they have already gone through the long term relationship with the guy who wasn't ready to settle down and don't want to waste anymore time.

Good on him for being persistent.

I am excited to read the date report.

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watch, my car wont start....please God just give me this day

Stop posting and get a move on! LOL!

"I don't think she knows what his intentions are so she doesn't know how to treat him. I think she is remaining open-minded but isn't over the moon about him."

That's exactly the impression I've gotten. She probably just doesn't know him well enough to make any conclusions about him. But obviously she has the same "feeling" for him as he does for her, or she wouldn't give it a chance.

Yay. 🙂

alright real quick....after lunch....do i ask her to come to dinner and a movie with me saturday night—

im going to but what dou think

You still here Denny?

Just see how the lunch goes. Take it from there. Now shooo! 🙂

im here...

Yea i will...

ok..house is clean...car is good...(got brand new vanillaroma air freshener in there)

room smells good....got money, im dressed (🙂)

i think everything is a go...now im just waiting for my princess to arrive in her chariot

Ive been telling you all...my feeling was...she was interested but skeptical..didnt know enough about me but kind of liked what she saw so far

well hopefully today i remove some of the skepticalness

wish me luck...and seriously....say a quick prayer for me if you can 🙂 much thanks to all

You're cute!

I read it wrong. I thought she was going to be there in 1/2 hour. I could get what you were doing posting. ha ha ha!

Just take some deep breaths, relax, maybe do something to take your mind off of it. I am so excited for you!

In this case, however, I really think she doesn't know what to make of our little Denny here. I don't think she knows what his intentions are so she doesn't know how to treat him. I think she is remaining open-minded but isn't over the moon about him. I suspect it has to do with their age difference. Most women in their thirties are very hesitant to date guys in their twenties because chances are they have already gone through the long term relationship with the guy who wasn't ready to settle down and don't want to waste anymore time.

Good on him for being persistent.

agree with this a lot - his recent persistence has paid off too because I don't think he was in her face enough... as Libras are signs that think a lot, she'll be confused about that surely

anyways, WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Denny... Briana, sparrow, cappy, hothouse, etc, we really need to celebrate this...

ok not one detail missing Denny - every juice needs to be squeezed out you hear 😛

I truly wish you the BEST of LUCK !!!! But luck isn't what you need Denny. You need to be upfront with her and direct. Secure your date for next Saturday. (remind her she didn't answer you) If the girl WANTS to be with you......she'll make plans around that date without any hesitation!!!

this boy....is in love

ok....so she showed up at 3:30ish....but she did give me a call saying she was on her way...when she got out of the car...my heart just melted...i have forgotten how beautiful she was....my God

So i showed her my house...and what not....so i drove us to the restaurant...not the one i was bragging about (thats trovatos...they are closed on mondays)...so i took her to another one by my house...not as good but still ok....so were talking about her job...and and about nursing...and about life and what not....so then she mentioned she was going thinking of going to the mall later...so we ate some more and we got dessert and whatever...and she was telling me about how rough her job is...because her preceptor isnt showing her everything and that Yami came home crying one night...so i even told her "i picked a bad time to ask you out huh?" but she like no no...but she was having a lot of problems because she doesnt like the people at her job because they are not showing her the right way...and shes lookign for a new job constantly...she had a lot going on and on top of that...here I am asking her out you know...so i understand.( but she did come to hang out with me 🙂)...so then when we were leaving i was like "are you going to the mall"? shes like "yea you want to come?" so im liek yea il go

so I drove us to the mall...and were talking and talking about our mothers....and about other stuff...i was on such a cloud, i couldnt even tell you what were talking about...and i was not nervous, i was just excited to be with her. The convo was flowing...shes just an incredible person. And you can tell we both loosened up after dinner...So im about to park at the mall and shes like "next time i go to the plaza im gonna call you to come with me"...so in my head im like "anytime baby" haha...i said that IN MY HEAD...so then were at the mall and shes trying on shoes in Macys...so im talking to the sales guy trying to get her the correct size and shes looking at us from a far...and im taling to the guy and im like "you see that girl, i like her a lot",...hes like "yea man shes fine" hahaaha....im like "first time im takign her out...havent seen her in 5 months"...hes like "wtf took you so long" hahahaha...but she knew we were taling about her....so she wanted these two pairs of shoes...but shs not the type to drop $ 100 on shoes...shell wait for sales...shes not cheap...but shes not flashy either...shes moderate... (Im running out of room...have to continue on next post)

so she was buying a pair of pumas for 75 $ and a pair of guess sneakers for 50...so I was holding the shoes for her....so i gave her the 50 $ pair and i bought the $ 75 pair for her...i said "merry xmas" shes like "no no no...i dont wnat you to buy me anything" im like "its an xmas gift"

now, just listen to me...i know some may agree or disagree but just listen to me...im not trying ot buy her at all...she just looked like she didnt want to spend all that money, and i realy did want to get her an xmas gift....i really did to put a smile on her face...and it did....i consider that $ 75 well spent...i was not trying ot buy her and she knows that...i truly wanted her to have the sneakers and it was an xmas gift to her.

So we were walking around more...she was going into all the stores she wanted..i was telling her where the stores were...and i swear I just felt like she was my gf tonight...i didnt hold her hand, but i did little things like hold on to her jacket...just little things...we really loosedned up when we were at the mall...it was good....also...when we were in Macys, BEFORE i bought her the shoes she was like "i like going to the mall with you, your patient"...i todl her "take as much time as u want" there was no place else i wanted to be.

So we walked the mall...talked...and i felt sooo bad like just putting my arm around her and just kissing her forehead....i mean shes looking at clothes all innocently and im at her side just thinking, Damn i adore this woman....

then on the way home...listen to this....we're driving home...and shes like...wow you live close to where I used to work....then shes like "I wish i still worked there, if it ever was a snow storm...i could just stay by you"...so i was a little shocked by that and i even said "yami, if there was a storm, you would really come by me?"...shes like "yea why not? isnt taht what the spare room is for" so im just like, wow i cant believe she would even think to sleep at my house in an emergency...so we get to my house...and i go in and get the Dave Cd...i go back outside and give it to her...she gives me a hug and sais thank you so much for everything..and i kissed her on the cheek...so she gets in her car...and i kneel down so im level with her...and im like "Yami, how about saturday we go to trovatos....meet me there at 5, 5:30ish and then well see 'slumdog millionaire"...shes like...ok let me see because you konw everything thats going on with my job..

(continuted next post)

so shes like "you know whats going on with my job situation...but let me see"...but honestly, shes right people...she has a lot going on..she wants to quit her job, shes applying for more jobs...she has interviews to go on...they are offering her bad hours....she does have a lot going on for her...and just by talking to her I realized that...she got 2 phone calls during dinner from places that wnat to reschedule her time for her interview....and when she told me she came home crying that one night...i felt so bad.

so i told her if she couldnt make it its ok, that i understood but if she coudl I would like to take her..and then i told her to drive safe...

so then i got in my car and led her back to the highway....What a night

and to boot....i just got a text from her "Thank you 4 everything"...so i texted her back saying "anytime, it was great seeing you" and thats it people...but her mother must have asked her how it went and she was probably talking to her mother about it....but that text she sent was a nice ending to a nice night.

God came through for me big time...i really hope she enjoyed herself....just thinking about some of the comments she made...i think she has to be interested...i mean im very excited right now...and i dont know where its going to lead...but, I saw her tonight...and i just adore her....i also made it a point to tell her when we were eating dinner, we were talking about marriage...and i told her..."i wish i could be 80 years old and still be holding my wifes hands like we just met yesterday" and i didnt even mean to say it...it just came out in the conversation.

I just adore her...walking with her and talking with her just made me realize she does have a lot on her plate iwth her job...but it also made me realize how much I do like her..she is incredible..she was telling me nursing stories, and how she is just so compassionate...and she was telling me how her patients love her...

people, I dont know whats going to happen...but God came through today big time...and prayers do get answered...and I put my faith in him and he just listened and answered. Now I need your thoughts....come on people...i spent a half hour typing this...i want thoughts, insights, feelings....and predictions....just tell me what you think of everything? 🙂🙂🙂

Wow Denny... You did it!

Anyone who puts that much thought, prayers and ambition, can accomplish anything.

I hope your next date on Saturday happens. I only mean maybe she gets busy with family or bogged down at the job. Nothing about you... in other words

I bet her Mom was happy for her daughter. It is really hard to meet a truly nice guy.

All the best to you..

See what happened when you used a little aggression?! She likes ya!

I've been following this, but this is the first comment from me, but two things:
a. You are too adorable
b. I TOTALLY GOT THIS, cause' I'm like this too "now, just listen to me...i know some may agree or disagree but just listen to me...im not trying ot buy her at all...she just looked like she didnt want to spend all that money, and i realy did want to get her an xmas gift....i really did to put a smile on her face...and it did....i consider that $ 75 well spent...i was not trying ot buy her and she knows that...i truly wanted her to have the sneakers and it was an xmas gift to her."
It made you feel good to get her something! YOu shouldn't feel bad at all!!!! No matter what anybody says.
Just keep being you, and hopefully she could be that 80 year old woman you are holding hands with 50 years from now! GOOD LUCK and definitely keep us posted!!!!

thank you so much...im glad somebody understands....i know that some people are gonna be like "Denny dont try to buy her"...trust me...it has NOTHING to do with that...im in no position to do that even if i wanted to...but thats totally not me. I just wanted her to be happy, i had a $ 100 on me...i said F it...to put a smile on her face....well worth it.


The best part was that text i got tonight "thanks for everything"...that just put a smile on my face.

Come on Denny...us Libra have our way of showing love! Who's to judge you! I think you did an excellent job! Libra girls love to shop!

she does love to shop....and she so f'n cute when she shops too...shes just so innocently beautiful...i know i sound like a sap right now..but the way she looks at clothes and looks at shoes....shes not into all that flash coach stuff (no offense to anybody who likes coach...im not judging), but shes into guess...but if its on sale....shes just my woman

Just take it slow, admire her and verbalize that to her but be patient and understanding! That will get you so far! I can tell you as a Libra woman we dont waste time on guys WE DONT LIKE!

Denny...I'm happy for you that the evening made you feel wonderful. You TRULY are an amazingly sweet man. I hope to God you prove me wrong about this girl. BUT...I stand by my original post. This girl is toying with you. EVEN THE BUSIEST PERSON IN THE WORLD HAS TIME FOR SOMEONE THEY WANT TO BE WITH !!!!!

Maybe it's the Libra thing to just toy with peoples hearts because they really aren't aware of how much their flirting affects the emotions of others so deeply. They really don't see the harm in in because they're just being their "charming" selves. This girl will make an amazing friend for you because you care so much about her but she will break your sweet, adorable, amazingly generous, precious heart Denny. Proceed with extreme caution.

Good luck with her.......... I HATE to sound cynical but ...Good luck..you're gonna need it !! If she's really into you Denny (for more then friendship) every woman has a way of letting a man KNOW that she wants him for more then just friends!!!!!! See how next Saturday goes and if she cancels....it's a red flag you should not continue to ignore. Don't let her physical beauty blind you.

temple

I am proceeding with caution...Im not taking anything away from last night because it was great...where its going to lead to, i have no idea. Only time will tell. If she cant make it saturday, i wont really take it to heart because she has a lot going on, especially this week...and im not making excuses for her..im just saying.

But the way the next few weeks play out, we will see. Im sure she has to fee a little something...she drove 40 min to my house, i dont live around the block from her, she still wanted to hang out after dinner...I mean it could mean nothing but it could be something...who knows. Im just taking it day by day. Im in school right now and il be here all day until 5 or 6pm so im not banking on talking to her today...and thats fine...but we will see what happens in the next couple of weeks. 🙂 Still has a great night though.

wow - I read all the juice Denny - just wow! ok yea you do have a way with words too...

GREEEAT! Don't forget, just keep on-top of it... constant communication 😉

I'm so happy for you. Sounds like an amazing date. I would have been asking you for the ring. 😛

Goodluck. Now the ice is broken.

Briana, it was good.

I actually sent her a text today to see how her interview went..and she textd me back within a minute. I dont know if she would have done the same before we hung out. Probably not....i never got a response that quick from her.

Let me tell you, if the the mall we went to had an alter, I would have just married her right then and there...hahaha...i swear...Why arent their alters at the mall? hahaha (half joking).

You are right, the ice is broken...she was in my house, in my car...we spent several hours together...now I take it slow and I hope she comes out with me saturday night

I dont plan on hearing from her tommorrow or friday...because of my school and her work...so i was thinking of sending her a text on saturday morning/afternoon asking about dinner and a movie at around 5. I already asked her after our date before she went home, but she was like 'let me see' because she is busy with work, and i understand...i told her if she cant its ok but I wuold like to take her...so we will see.

Im holding back so much too....i have all these romantic thoughts but Im so afraid to do anything to much cause i dont want to F anything up....but im so holding back.

For example, if she watned to meet up saturday...i would have a rose in the passenger seat...but im not going to do it cause i dont know how she'll take it and it may ruin the night...or it may make the night...but at this point, i dont know if thats a gamble I want to take. But I have all these romantic ideas...but right now, i just dont want to F anything up. And if we go to the movies, i know im gonna be tempted to hold her hand when were watching....but again, im not going to.

How about instead of a rose a big gerber daisy or something? Less romantic but still cute.

i think if i put anything..it will be a pink rose...she said she liked the color fusia...idk..when we were shopping she picked out this color between pink and red..so i was thinking about a pink rose or a fusia rose—

If you're insisting on the rose definately do pink and not red.

Pink Tulip are wonderful!!!!

well...should I do it?

I just dont want to scare her or anything..or move to fast...idk

I want to do it so bad...but idk if its a good idea