Posted by tizianiHe blamed me for 15 years.... after our relationship ended. From having a kid with her to marrying her and now after all this time that we haven't spoken this comes out. Well i hope now that he has "stopped" blaming me that he can move forward. I don't think i have ever been blamed for that long.=)
I blamed my exes for a long as it served a purpose for me. One ex, I may have blamed her for only a day. Others no blame at all. One ex for 5 years. Using her as a symbol for everything I hated in life gave me the kind of anger and motivation to make find my own image and identity in courting the favour of others.
That led to good enough daily routine and was highly profitable for me, only until it wasn't anymore.
When it started living out it's shine or I threatened to became a boring, repetitive person or just straight up resentful then I knew it was time to move onto new things.
Your Libra ex is at a new stage in his life and that's probably all he means by he now has to stop blaming you. It's no longer pushing him forward but holding him back.
Posted by PlaguedWhile this can pertain to any sign, this sign is the one i run into with the most issues. I have never been blamed for things that i haven't done for so long.
Why is this pertaining only to Libra? Anyone can play "it's your fault I did blah blah" game.
Can you even begin to wrap your mind around your own question? Or do you still wade on the surface of astrology. Had you taken a deeper swim you'd know Moon : Emotions... Mercury: Communication.... Aspects: Change the way energy works together.
And you would have compiled all that into consideration and end result would be = Not such a stupid question
Posted by candylips007
I dated a Libra male and after we broke up, he went on to date someone he didn't love and marry her. When we last met up he said "that he had to stop blaming me for it".... How is it my fault? He admitted to blaming me for a lot of his decisions but whenever you ask why, he shuts down.
Posted by communicatorI thought I might have been but his indecisions about things for extended periods of time and his inability to communicate emotionally effectively have kind of made that love start to back away slowly.Posted by candylips007
I dated a Libra male and after we broke up, he went on to date someone he didn't love and marry her. When we last met up he said "that he had to stop blaming me for it".... How is it my fault? He admitted to blaming me for a lot of his decisions but whenever you ask why, he shuts down.
Good evening Candylips007 Are you still in love with him?
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Posted by topesYou are correct, he did not confront the issue when it occured and i also did not discuss it so i cannot say that he is totally at fault. He is an every two week drinker socially that i know of but when he does.... out comes everything he bottles up. I get texts telling me that I never loved him and if i had just told him to stay then he would've or that he wanted me to fight for him. I never even knew he was remotely a jealous man till he drank and it came out. I won't lie when i see what he texts me there is a part of me that wants to hug him and tell him that we can talk it all out so he can move on without holding that grudge but when he sobers up he gets reallllllllllly quiet and won't text me.
It can also be communication based. Libra fails to directly bring up their issues with people. When it becomes too much they explode and point the finger, but even when they do, they STILL won't be brutally direct about it.
Libra is terrible with conflict resolution. They try too hard to see both sides of an equation and as a result they cannot act out when it matters, saying things that are either too painful, or they flip out trying to fix it, only to fuck it up more. By the time they've hit both extremes of the scales they freak the fuck out, shut down like a power outage, and barely make it back. Not without guidance, and most Librans won't seek advice. As a result, victim mentality kicks in.
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This 15 years thing.. Proves your Libra ex doesn't let go nor copes well with whatever caused the conflict between you in the first place.
Maybe he's drinking too much? Drugs?
Posted by LibraLovesHimI like this. This is a very good way to look at things and I feel the same way.
I thank all my exes-they've essentially primed me for the right guy 🙂 I had alot of faults to deal with to get to who I am now-and I am loving who I am now.
Posted by Aylul88I used to do the same in my old relationships. I have learned to be more direct in my communication and stop making excuses for their stupidity. Takes a minute though =)
I always blame myself even when it's others fault, I blame myself for hanging on too long with the wrong people. I give them excuses and I lie to myself that everything is ok and I'm happy until my energy drains and I leave them all of a sudden without giving them an explanation ..
Posted by rockyroadicecreamAmen!. Look i am by far not perfect. I admit not everything i do deserves an award but at least if i screw up i take accountability.
Insecure people finger point and refuse to take accountability for their own actions. It's everyone else's fault that they didn't get their way. Remember, being the one in the wrong is a negative light, and Libras specifically hate being the "bad" guy.
"OMG HE/SHE WAS TERRIBLE. THEY DID THIS AND THAT AND IT WAS JUST A MESS. MY EX IS A BAD PERSON!"
Translation- "I did x & y wrong and it brought out the worst in my ex or I cheated. I moved too fast/acted too weird/was fickle and changed my mind (insert whatever else here). I was equally to blame for the relationship to end."
Libras are really good at painting themselves the innocent party when they usually have as much blame in a situation gone wrong. Gotta keep up that "good" image, after all.
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