Do I move on?

Found an older Cancer male (41) and I’m a Libra (32), we couldn’t be more compatible. Everything seemed so easy to do together and never a difficult moment. He quickly became my best friend. Met in July, and by Jan he found out he needed to move for work. We had our first difficult night of not knowing what to do about us...but then decided to try. At this point I truly believed I found my soulmate, but he clearly needed more time. By the end of April it was suddenly over. No great big fight, he just didn’t “see us” in the future. But he wanted us to be life long friends. I’ve never been so confused.

He’s been gone a while and he doesn’t talk unless I message. He will always message me back. And everyone says he was happiest with me. But I’m ready to just delete and block.

I miss my best friend but will never force someone to just stick around. I don’t need the bf back, but I’m tired of hoping for him to just come out of his shell. What would you want from an ex, who really just wants her friend.

Thank you!

stop wasting your time waiting for someone to change their behaviour.

while you are occupied with him, you are missing the available men (for friendship or otherwise) around you.

so sorry, that sucks - and of course he might come back so just blow him off and see what happens but don't wait around - by the time he comes back you might just have something else more solid ...

I just really miss my best friend. Trust me, I’m not waiting for the Prince Charming to come back. But he really did understand me, and I miss that friendship. Nobody has ever gotten me before.

So except his friendship... if you can.

Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

As long as you in your mind can except just being distant friends then why do you have to loose him, however, if it’s going to effect you going out and finding someone else then let him go.

Those are the two sides of the scales and only you can answer which you can live with.

Relationships are ambiguous for men, because generally women are hard to get, that's the default position "women don't want you unless you're given 10'000 clear signs, and even then, she might change her mind".

So, subconsciously, l think a lot of men resent women for this, and when a woman likes a man, it's like, well, really? Are you sure? I'm not sure l want you anymore, you show so much dedain for men generally....

And so we may fall in love and all but ugh...we just need space. And if you decide to detach because it's confusing to you, we'll be like, well what else is new. Better that than someone clingy.