Do Libra men scare easy? Or did he just not like me? Or a jerk?

I was dating a Libra guy for a few weeks and it was good. He knew I was a parent from day one. Never met my child or anything, and my child is older and not needing a Daddy. I don't need money or anything else, I am totally self sufficient.

He invited me away for the weekend, and we had a really amazing time (IMHO) and we were intimate for the first time and............ he broke up with me as soon as we got back!!!!! saying he wasn't ready for a relationship.

I didn't see it coming but I guess some guys like to hit and run. I was pretty angry with him and upset because I don't sleep around and we were dating with both sets of expectations clear. I then felt pretty upset that maybe I looked bad naked or the sex was bad or I looked ugly in the morning. I didn't feel good.

Then six weeks later, he messages my friend on match! She sent me a screenshot of his message and I was quite mad that he was still advertising himself online to act this way so I told her to talk to him and get some information.

He used all the same opening lines on her, about how he was looking for a relationship and just wanted to meet the right person and all that and how he didn't do casual sex (puke).

Then it got a little weird because I got her to ask him about his past relationships and he talked about his last couple of dates, saying they were bad, and then said he had really liked one girl a couple of months ago but it didn't work out.

I asked her to ask him what happened and he said he dated her for a while and she was a great and really beautiful and that they'd had a weekend away together and that the sex had been amazing and they'd stayed awake all night and gotten closer and he woke up in the morning and realised he couldn't commit to her. He said because she had a child and he felt like if he saw her again it would be a relationship and that he would need to step up to the plate with the child and be responsible for that too and he didn't want to let either the woman or her child down or take a risk of it going wrong.

He actually talked about me for a long time and everything he sad was nice and I was sad for him reading that because we obviously both liked each other and this issue got in the way.

What do you think about this? Is this how guys are with women with children? Or some guys? Or did he just not like me enough?

I feel annoyed that he shoplifted the pooty, but also the things he said about me and my child were kind and seemed like he did care.

Just want to get closure on this so asking how others would feel.

lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

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Yeah, I understand that. Especially when you've already discussed that you weren't interested in a hit and run and now you feel bad about yourself. You just never know, unfortunately.

We're older though, not 24 🙂

He has 3 kids also, I have 1.

He's divorced, but he doesn't see his kids (long story they live far away with ex wife)

My child is teenager so it really isn't that big a deal.

Maybe it's a responsibility thing from his end, I guess he was kind of a failure or absentee father to his own kids and abandoned one family already! I was sure there was more to the story of him not seeing his kids. Maybe he's a deadbeat.

My ex is also not on the scene, he disappeared 14 years ago.

All in all it felt like a weird reaction.

He wasn't ready to commit to someone with a child. It is what it is.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

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I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

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He wasn't ready to commit to someone with a child. It is what it is.

He knew that before he took her to bed!!

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Its a big deal for me! Teenager is a bigger deal imo!

That little fucker is in his prime time of fuckery and testing the authorities! He is not going to make me feel welcome, he is going to fight me because I'm that bad guy fucking his mom in his eyes and all that.... Oh hell naww!!

I don't want to date women with kids....

To reply to your title, yes he is definitely a jerk.

Sorry for what happened to you, I don't hit and run..

and that dude used the same copy-paste pick up lines... Jerk move!

I would be furious too.. :/

Lol, yeah no problem with guys who don't wan't to date women with kids.

Less impressed by men who date them, take them to bed and then decide the kids are a problem.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

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Yeah, I never stop being amazed at the lengths and words some men go to so they can have sex with a woman they want to have sex with. Sometimes it's like two different people: before and after.

Oh the Scorpion sting. I do know where he works but he's not worth another minute of time.

I WAS tempted to get my friends to agree to meet him on match and then stand him up but I am trying to temper down the worst of my Scorpion genes

You do have to wonder at the general intelligence of a guy who's hitting on someone online and talks for two pages about how beautiful his last date was and how great the sex was. He even told her about my job and life. It was like he was bragging! He even went into detail saying "the sex was really amazing, we barely slept all night".

OMG, like - does he think women want to hear this when they meet a new guy?

Jackass

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I don't think he's a jerk, I think he did like you but what he told your friend was the truth. After sex a lot of things become clearer. It is what it is. Don't think about it in terms of him taking anything from you. If anything he's sparing you by ducking out as soon as he realized it was too much for him.

So you think before sex the attraction is dominant and after sex reality hits and doubts come?

Maybe.

I try and be a humanitarian about it but I am still pretty mad about it. would have been less mad if he'd come to see me and explained it all to me honestly instead of just ending it and telling some stranger the truth rather than me.

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I don't think he's a jerk, I think he did like you but what he told your friend was the truth. After sex a lot of things become clearer. It is what it is. Don't think about it in terms of him taking anything from you. If anything he's sparing you by ducking out as soon as he realized it was too much for him.

So you think before sex the attraction is dominant and after sex reality hits and doubts come?

Maybe.

I try and be a humanitarian about it but I am still pretty mad about it. would have been less mad if he'd come to see me and explained it all to me honestly instead of just ending it and telling some stranger the truth rather than me.

Yeah sex makes things more real. It's not just fun and infatuation, especially on a weekend away together. That's a lot of intense feelings and emotions.

It's not easy to explain that. Especially as he might have his own baggage since you say he was a bit of an absentee father. Talking about kids might be difficult for him because of his guilt.

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He did get upset about his kids when we were talking, he cried a bit actually.

I just find it hard to accept it when people let their pain translate into treating other people in hurtful ways.

This is why I don't jump into bed with anyone until the relationship is already established. I want to be sure, no matter how sure the girl says she is, that I want the relationship. I know how I am and how I panic on and off about committing early on. I take my time and get used to the idea that this could be permanent.

Opinions seem kind of split about this. To me, he's a jerk. Everyone thinks jumping someone's bones as soon as you feel like it is fun and exciting, but then this shit happens. Even if he meant well by not stringing the OP along, he could've spared her some heartache by holding off until he was sure he was cool wih the kid.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

Wtf? This could be considered as a murder..

What if he can't find a new job, loses his home, becomes homeless and someone kills him?!

You want to live with the rest of your life with THAT in your conscience?!

Anyway, boss won't really give a fuck. Its his private life.

Business and private life, 2 different things.

Can't mix them together.

If you really want to get some kind of little revenge go and destroy his car / tires.

Shit in a bag and drop that sht on his door... Lmao.

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F u ckk yeah! I got him that job! I don't know if he actually got fired but I did tell the human resources that he was a drug dealer and that he was selling marijuana on the job.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

Yeah, I never stop being amazed at the lengths and words some men go to so they can have sex with a woman they want to have sex with. Sometimes it's like two different people: before and after.

Oh the Scorpion sting. I do know where he works but he's not worth another minute of time.

I WAS tempted to get my friends to agree to meet him on match and then stand him up but I am trying to temper down the worst of my Scorpion genes

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Wait patiently Scorpio; chill out, be cool, get even. ?

I am absolutely outraged at the mother fuvking injustice of this matter! Who the fu k does he think he is?

You know what? One day he is going to try that shyt on the wrong one!! This is my pet peeve I hate when guys do this !!!!!

Who the hell does he think he is?

? I feel furious from the injustice of it all!!!

But you're taking the high road so that's quite impressive....!!?

One time about maybe 18 years ago I took the high road with this idiot! After he screwed me over!!!

I prayed sincerely for him; three weeks later he had a head-on three-car crash collision that totaled his beautiful truck and he got kicked out out hostel. My little Revenge couldn't even almost compare to the universe's Revenge.

I got no satisfaction out of that either. I haven't taken the high road since then. ROLMAO! ROLMAO!

F uk that! That's not cool; that brazen coward! What an awful thing to do. But he will pay the piper.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

Wtf? This could be considered as a murder..

What if he can't find a new job, loses his home, becomes homeless and someone kills him?!

You want to live with the rest of your life with THAT in your conscience?!

Anyway, boss won't really give a fuck. Its his private life.

Business and private life, 2 different things.

Can't mix them together.

If you really want to get some kind of little revenge go and destroy his car / tires.

Shit in a bag and drop that sht on his door... Lmao.

F u ckk yeah! I got him that job! I don't know if he actually got fired but I did tell the human resources that he was a drug dealer and that he was selling marijuana on the job.

Oh wait! I just realized he didn't even fck you...

You guys didn't even have sex. Jesus Christ wtf.

Was he a drug dealer or did you just lie?!

That's a pretty harsh revenge for some lies.

You crazy af girl.... Lmao

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We did have sex!!! Lots of sex

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I am absolutely outraged at the mother fuvking injustice of this matter! Who the fu k does he think he is?

You know what? One day he is going to try that shyt on the wrong one!! This is my pet peeve I hate when guys do this !!!!!

Who the hell does he think he is?

? I feel furious from the injustice of it all!!!

But you're taking the high road so that's quite impressive....!!?

One time about maybe 18 years ago I took the high road with this idiot! After he screwed me over!!!

I prayed sincerely for him; three weeks later he had a head-on three-car crash collision that totaled his beautiful truck and he got kicked out out hostel. My little Revenge couldn't even almost compare to the universe's Revenge.

I got no satisfaction out of that either. I haven't taken the high road since then. ROLMAO! ROLMAO!

F uk that! That's not cool; that brazen coward! What an awful thing to do. But he will pay the piper.

I love it, you're madder than me. I was mad for a bit and then thought he was just a jerk and lost respect. I place such a high attraction on integrity...he's kind of pathetic in a lot of ways

Posted by MagicMona
the only thing i would have been angry about is him not having the balls to tell me everything he told my friend. i cannot be upset if a person does not want the responsibility of caring for me and my child. you are a package deal, your child and you. eventually, any man that gets close to you will have to extend his care to your child as well. i could understand where he was coming from. but he knew his feeling from the start; he could have told you that instead of running away like a coward bitch.

I feel the same 100% on that.

Everyone has the right to choose and he could even legitimately changed his mind once reality hit, but not coming to me was a coward move.

If I am breaking up with someone I always take the time to explain by reasons honestly, because it saves them inventing reasons in their head which leads to insecurity and sadness.

So simple for him to tell my friend, he should have told me weeks ago and saved me a few days of tears. I'd have understood right away. My kid is amazing, I make no apologies for being a Mother and it's the best thing about me.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

Wtf? This could be considered as a murder..

What if he can't find a new job, loses his home, becomes homeless and someone kills him?!

You want to live with the rest of your life with THAT in your conscience?!

Anyway, boss won't really give a fuck. Its his private life.

Business and private life, 2 different things.

Can't mix them together.

If you really want to get some kind of little revenge go and destroy his car / tires.

Shit in a bag and drop that sht on his door... Lmao.

F u ckk yeah! I got him that job! I don't know if he actually got fired but I did tell the human resources that he was a drug dealer and that he was selling marijuana on the job.

Oh wait! I just realized he didn't even fck you...

You guys didn't even have sex. Jesus Christ wtf.

Was he a drug dealer or did you just lie?!

That's a pretty harsh revenge for some lies.

You crazy af girl.... Lmao

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You don't understand how fyuked up that makes a woman feel. It's a very fuked up deeply cruel feeling!

Sure thing @MagicMona. Irony being my child is more emotionally mature 🙂

I did ask him where he stood beforehand and he obviously changed his mind. I guess this is life.

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I am absolutely outraged at the mother fuvking injustice of this matter! Who the fu k does he think he is?

You know what? One day he is going to try that shyt on the wrong one!! This is my pet peeve I hate when guys do this !!!!!

Who the hell does he think he is?

? I feel furious from the injustice of it all!!!

But you're taking the high road so that's quite impressive....!!?

One time about maybe 18 years ago I took the high road with this idiot! After he screwed me over!!!

I prayed sincerely for him; three weeks later he had a head-on three-car crash collision that totaled his beautiful truck and he got kicked out out hostel. My little Revenge couldn't even almost compare to the universe's Revenge.

I got no satisfaction out of that either. I haven't taken the high road since then. ROLMAO! ROLMAO!

F uk that! That's not cool; that brazen coward! What an awful thing to do. But he will pay the piper.

I love it, you're madder than me. I was mad for a bit and then thought he was just a jerk and lost respect. I place such a high attraction on integrity...he's kind of pathetic in a lot of ways

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Oh Okay.?

Sounds like you have it all under control then.?

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Sure thing @MagicMona. Irony being my child is more emotionally mature 🙂

I did ask him where he stood beforehand and he obviously changed his mind. I guess this is life.

he said he was with it in the beginning because he wanted to get with you. guys will agree to anything to get laid. after their tiny soldiers have spit up and went soft, then they realize what they got themselves into. it's like, hey morons, how about thinking and navigating with the intelligent brain on your shoulders that God gave you? maybe then they wouldn't be such fuck ups in life. i am thankful everyday that i am a lesbian.

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So funny. Lesbian sounds amazing. So tempting!

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Posted by Bricks195
This is why I don't jump into bed with anyone until the relationship is already established. I want to be sure, no matter how sure the girl says she is, that I want the relationship. I know how I am and how I panic on and off about committing early on. I take my time and get used to the idea that this could be permanent.

Opinions seem kind of split about this. To me, he's a jerk. Everyone thinks jumping someone's bones as soon as you feel like it is fun and exciting, but then this shit happens. Even if he meant well by not stringing the OP along, he could've spared her some heartache by holding off until he was sure he was cool wih the kid.

Not everyone works like that. Ive had two exes who told me they would never know how they truly felt about someone until they have had sex. For some people you can't just talk your way to how you really feel in relationships.

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Talk is cheap and I don't trust it. There are limitless real and tangible ways to display your feelings. If everything hinges on sex for someone, they're shallow.

I have to be honest being naive here: it never occurred to me that any person could have a problem with me having a kid. totally naive but for me he's the best part of my life and so awesome it just never hit my brains that a person could feel this way.

My kid is amazing; top of his class, volunteers with the elderly, goes to church with my Mom voluntarily, visits my grandma religiously because he says he likes spending time with her while he still can, won class president, represented his county in a science fair, lead role in the school show, funny as heck, kind and nice to people. He's self-sufficient, mature, great to have around.

It literally blew my brain because everyone loves my kid. I actually have my brothers and sisters calling me at the weekend to ask if he can come over because he's so good keeping their kids under control.

Maybe Mother's pride at work here 🙂

@Ellygant

I wouldn't have asked my friend to question him if he had not disappeared on me without giving me answers. I don't feel bad about that because I think he was out of line. If he had told me clear reasons and not ghosted me like a man child then I would have not asked my friend to talk to him. I treated him with a lot of respect and generosity and he didn't return the same.

As an update before anyone feels too sorry for the guy, over the day my friend told him all sorts of thing to put him off and end the conversation. She told him that she has an eating disorder, fragile mental health and can't work, has been hurt so many times by guys who just wants sex and now she wants to marry and have kids right away and he said he wanted that too! He was offering to come over to her place and cheer her up. He was literally saying anything she wanted to hear even though she was being obviously a very fragile human being. He also lied about his age and didn't mention having children already!!

So he's not trying to date my friend, he is trying to sleep with her, then dump her too in the morning of course. I told her to just block him now, but this guy is really the lowest of the low! He preyed on a single Mom and now on someone who's obviously fragile.

there are just men like this and they say whatver it takes.

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lol at shoplifted the pooty?

I wouldn't feel bad about it. He probably bit of more than he could chew. Sometimes people think they can handle dating someone with kids or that they won't mind, but when they get in that situation it's different( I think I'd be that way). Not your fault in anyway.

It's the only word for it 🙂

I think I just feel really bad that he hit and run like that. I got the impression he really liked me a lot or I wouldn't have been with him so it felt really bad.

I know exactly how you feel I dated an aquarius who was the sweetest talker!!! Girl I believed everything he said! He was talking about how he wants to get married and he took me to the water and he showed me how he wanted to build a house near the water he just was looking for the right woman and this and this and that and that.

I believed him too I really believed him but thank God I sprained my ankle and instead of him being by my side to take care of me he was nowhere to be found and then I had a flat in my car and he was also nowhere to be found so that let me know that all of that talk was just that just talk !!!!

I didn't have sex with him because he didn't prove to me with his actions that he meant business! it's a terrible feeling so you know what I did? I got him fired! I sure did!

Let's get his ass back do you know where he works? f*** him!! He needs to pay for this!! Upu need to talk tell his boss what he did!##

Wtf? This could be considered as a murder..

What if he can't find a new job, loses his home, becomes homeless and someone kills him?!

You want to live with the rest of your life with THAT in your conscience?!

Anyway, boss won't really give a fuck. Its his private life.

Business and private life, 2 different things.

Can't mix them together.

If you really want to get some kind of little revenge go and destroy his car / tires.

Shit in a bag and drop that sht on his door... Lmao.

F u ckk yeah! I got him that job! I don't know if he actually got fired but I did tell the human resources that he was a drug dealer and that he was selling marijuana on the job.

Oh wait! I just realized he didn't even fck you...

You guys didn't even have sex. Jesus Christ wtf.

Was he a drug dealer or did you just lie?!

That's a pretty harsh revenge for some lies.

You crazy af girl.... Lmao

We did have sex!!! Lots of sex

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That's a great thing!

Posted by MagicMona
the only thing i would have been angry about is him not having the balls to tell me everything he told my friend. i cannot be upset if a person does not want the responsibility of caring for me and my child. you are a package deal, your child and you. eventually, any man that gets close to you will have to extend his care to your child as well. i could understand where he was coming from. but he knew his feeling from the start; he could have told you that instead of running away like a coward bitch.

What she said ... he's a coward for not telling u what he told a stranger .. he could have at least called/texted u to explain himself if he was too embarrassed to do it in person .. there are not many things worse in this world than a coward

Yeah you know something @SofiaV87, the one thing I think that I can't tolerate from a guy is when he's a coward.

Pretty much anything else you can work on, but if you haven't got the courage to do the right thing (even if it's hard or uncomfortable) I think that's going to flow over into every aspect of your life.

I had an ex who was a genuinely sweet guy who gave a lot of love, but he was a coward. This flowed over into every aspect of his life. His marriage turned sour and he couldn't have the difficult conversation so he had an affair. He ended up hating his job because he didn't communicate with his boss. He did "bad" things (like cheating) because he couldn't just be upfront about his own needs.

Also means that when parts of you need to change or improve you don't have the strength inside to do it. A lot of the greatest things in life take courage, and if a grown man lacks the courage to telephone a woman and explain why he is leaving (what...10 minutes of mild discomfort?) then he's going to be a guy not worth having.

I think it's easy to do stuff that comes easy, but what really measures a person is how they act when it's hard.

the easy way isn't often the right way!

Just read the title.

He wasn't into you.

Next.

lol @ Tiz dismissing the OP's feelings from an asshat being an asshat, especially after being wrong (as usual).

Mansplaining ftw.

Lots of people aren't into me.

Not so many of them pretend to be into me for a long time, date me, send me gifts, take me away for a weekend and then ghost me immediately after.

Don't make the mistake of normalising this.

Women aren't dumb for being confused when men act this way.

Posted by AlaniaB
You do have to wonder at the general intelligence of a guy who's hitting on someone online and talks for two pages about how beautiful his last date was and how great the sex was. He even told her about my job and life. It was like he was bragging! He even went into detail saying "the sex was really amazing, we barely slept all night".

OMG, like - does he think women want to hear this when they meet a new guy?

Jackass

Some of those dating apps show mutual friends on fb. What are the odds he already knew she was your friend and was saying all that assuming you would see it...?

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Posted by AlaniaB
You do have to wonder at the general intelligence of a guy who's hitting on someone online and talks for two pages about how beautiful his last date was and how great the sex was. He even told her about my job and life. It was like he was bragging! He even went into detail saying "the sex was really amazing, we barely slept all night".

OMG, like - does he think women want to hear this when they meet a new guy?

Jackass

Some of those dating apps show mutual friends on fb. What are the odds he already knew she was your friend and was saying all that assuming you would see it...?

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Well he's not my friend on anything and never has been - and I live in a huge city, so I'd say zero. I think he's just very dumb.

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Posted by AlaniaB
You do have to wonder at the general intelligence of a guy who's hitting on someone online and talks for two pages about how beautiful his last date was and how great the sex was. He even told her about my job and life. It was like he was bragging! He even went into detail saying "the sex was really amazing, we barely slept all night".

OMG, like - does he think women want to hear this when they meet a new guy?

Jackass

Some of those dating apps show mutual friends on fb. What are the odds he already knew she was your friend and was saying all that assuming you would see it...?

Well he's not my friend on anything and never has been - and I live in a huge city, so I'd say zero. I think he's just very dumb.

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No, I meant if he matched with you prior and then her it would show him that you and her are mutual friends.

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I wasn't normalising it, you were in what you wrote up there.

This talk is not going to go very far right now. And I've said you were right and knew better than my first take on the situation.

But you're also probably going to set yourself back years if you try to reason as to why it happened. That's what people do here, take bad experiences and come up with red flags based off nothing else. Those some red flags fail to protect you from winding up in a situation like this, and the response is.... more red flags. At a certain point you have to brush it off.

I have things I am still a coward about, I have things i'm great about, like anyone else.

I'm fine about it now so it's all good. It's not such a big deal at all...in a week will have totally forgotten about it.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AlaniaB
You do have to wonder at the general intelligence of a guy who's hitting on someone online and talks for two pages about how beautiful his last date was and how great the sex was. He even told her about my job and life. It was like he was bragging! He even went into detail saying "the sex was really amazing, we barely slept all night".

OMG, like - does he think women want to hear this when they meet a new guy?

Jackass

Some of those dating apps show mutual friends on fb. What are the odds he already knew she was your friend and was saying all that assuming you would see it...?

Well he's not my friend on anything and never has been - and I live in a huge city, so I'd say zero. I think he's just very dumb.

No, I meant if he matched with you prior and then her it would show him that you and her are mutual friends.

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No, there's no way to see that kind of connection.