Do u guys gossip?

Hello beautiful ppl. There's this new girl at my block of flats, we met while throwing some trash, lol, and we hit it off right away. Some little background: i've been staying at this complex for 2 years now and in these 2 years here, ive only spoken with 3 ppl out of hundreds. I'm at work most of the time, so.. Now, my new libra friend has been here for at least a month and she already knows everybody by name. Back to now: while we were talking i noticed how she seemed to know everybody's business and that left me feeling a little uneasy. She is fun to talk to, but im a tad distrustful of her and something is telling me to keep my distance. Do u think im being too judgmental since i spoke to her only once? She was born 4th October btw.

If she's sharing with you everyone else's business and you have only just met.....then quite obviously this girl is that way! It's a social thing being in the know. However if you are considered a close friend then what is said about your business is private and respected more. Maybe not completely private but not for the likes of mere gossip!

Im a little conflicted here because she told me stuff about herself too, personal things. Im not sure if she just has an open personality (no secrets) or a busybody. She was open about other ppl as much as she was open about herself. So far she only told me things that happened during the week while i was at work. Im just wary of ppl who cant keep things about themselves private, if u cant keep yours a secret, surely u will do the same with other ppl's private matters. Maybe im just being paranoid, i'll be watching this one very closely.

sounds like a libra i know. she calls it knowing the people around her and keeping an eye on her surroundings. it sounds like pure noisiness to me, she got insulted. but i have learned that if she is telling their business and her own, there is nothing stopping her from telling yours.

i know one neighbor she didnt like the way the mother was treating the children. apparently she didnt like the mother being on the patio smoking a cig and talking on the phone for about an hour, leaving the kids unattended. she told me that she was going to tell her husband about it. i was like NO NO NO, you dont do that, you dont have a right to do that. i dont know if she did or not. but yea.

dont tell her nothing!

The fuck do u care if people know ur business? Do u have weed growing in your apartment or large sums of cash? Who gives a shit of she gossips? She's just tryin to talk about somthing interesting.

You said she was fun to talk too. Sweet just dont say anything that you dont want spread. Who cares, if you enjoy her company. You sound a bit reclusive so you never know you might make some friends in your near vacinity thru her outgoing socialness. Relax have a laugh. I have many friends and some i just never tell personal things too, some i can trust with my life. Imagine how boring this world would be if everyone was so reserved

Or you could have a bit of fun and tell her something ridiculously stupid and see how long it takes to get around. Be inventive

I have two close librian friends and yes one is as you say sultry but the other not at all. They are both good to me so thats all that counts in my book

Yes honey go with your gult, I had a libra coworker who done this, I was working at my job for 2 years act the time. and she was the newest girl ,in one month she had got close with everyboby and told me everything. She had a big mouth, she use to always say to me (me and u are tight! ,I only tell u stuff!!!!, u the only one I'm close that's y I confin into u!!!!) The girl was full of shit. I found out she told everyboby the samething. And repeat my bussiness to people.

@srgntlibra, im not a weed grower..yet, but im a very private person in rl thats why i can count all my friends in one hand. I judge each person's character before i let them in. I have no shady dealings, i just want trustworthy ppl around me. She seemed nice enough and she was funny, i think i'll keep her as intertainment, nothing more. My scorp moon is always right about ppl, when it tingles, its time to listen and it works better that way.

And everybody here seems to prove that im not being paranoid about this libra female. Its my 1st time dealing with one, im only familiar with the males of this sign- my lips will be sealed now and in the future around her. Thanks everybody for your input, much appreciated.

Oh my, i dont think this is going to work at all. Its now past 10am here and this girl, her name is Munira btw, has already came twice. 1st she came to give me some gajar halwa (carrot homemade sweets) that she made, the 2nd time she came to show me the stuff she makes, she is a seamstress. And also envited me to come eat some samoosas for lunch at her house. The thing is, i dont like going to ppl's houses and i dont like ppl coming to mine either. Im weird about my time and space. I feel like an arsehole because i know she means well, but i like my alone time and im starting to feel a little claustrophobic. Do u guys move this fast in friendships? Btw i lied and told her that i was busy during lunch time, i dont want to keep lying. I feel like im being thrown out of my comfort zone and i dont think i like it very much. Sorry for the long post, im just feeling strange about all this.

Posted by WaterCup
Oh my, i dont think this is going to work at all. Its now past 10am here and this girl, her name is Munira btw, has already came twice. 1st she came to give me some gajar halwa (carrot homemade sweets) that she made, the 2nd time she came to show me the stuff she makes, she is a seamstress. And also envited me to come eat some samoosas for lunch at her house. The thing is, i dont like going to ppl's houses and i dont like ppl coming to mine either. Im weird about my time and space. I feel like an arsehole because i know she means well, but i like my alone time and im starting to feel a little claustrophobic. Do u guys move this fast in friendships? Btw i lied and told her that i was busy during lunch time, i dont want to keep lying. I feel like im being thrown out of my comfort zone and i dont think i like it very much. Sorry for the long post, im just feeling strange about all this.

yes they do..the chick i spoke about came by my house unannounced all the time. it got to the point where i didnt answer my door. and i had the tv on, didnt care. they can be bugaboos...you you think its a problem now, believe watercup it gets worse. I let her come over once. No matter how much I hinted I was ready for bed....she didnt get it. I just had to tell her to leave.

i would just like to say not all libra women are not like this. my bff is a libra and this other libra got on her nerves. so they are not all that way. 😄

This is the beginning , after u be around them long enough u start to see them slack that shit down.also u will notice that they like getting on your nerves with all there conversation but do the same to them and they will talk shit about u, my ex coworker would call me all the time talking and complaining about work,and she would confine to me about work issues , after 6 months of this shit I had want thru some of the same situation and confine into her and she act as if I was a bad person and she didnt want to here my issue. She was the only libra that did that to me. It was weird. Anyway the calling or coming around is nerve crasy,but I kind of don't mind that as long as they cool it down alil ,but the one way behavior end shit with me

Lol chem, u werent even shy for ignoring the door? This is the reason why i dont like having friends nearby, i dont like ppl who come over too much. My ex sadge friend did that too and i was so elated when she fucked with me, as i've been looking for an excuse to get rid of her for months prior. I d/k im just not a ppl's person. I work with ppl everyday so when i get home i dont want any kind of human contact. I told her that my husband doesnt like visitors (lol) and she was so sweet, she told me to come over her house instead. Its not gonna happen! I've already noticed some major differences, she is very religious (she attends madrassa daily, so she says) and im not, lol. Maybe she is bringing me change, who knows?

Lol ecent, u make me laugh. Whats your sign babes? So, u say they tone it down after a while? I hope so because i really dont like ppl hoarding my time. Its funny that aqua is known as a sign of friendship, but the fact is that most aquas dont have that many friends and they dont like to have them either. The irony in that, hmm

Posted by WaterCup
Lol chem, u werent even shy for ignoring the door? This is the reason why i dont like having friends nearby, i dont like ppl who come over too much. My ex sadge friend did that too and i was so elated when she fucked with me, as i've been looking for an excuse to get rid of her for months prior. I d/k im just not a ppl's person. I work with ppl everyday so when i get home i dont want any kind of human contact. I told her that my husband doesnt like visitors (lol) and she was so sweet, she told me to come over her house instead. Its not gonna happen! I've already noticed some major differences, she is very religious (she attends madrassa daily, so she says) and im not, lol. Maybe she is bringing me change, who knows?

lol i use my bf for an excuse not to be bothered all the time. ha! i feel i worked all day i should have that time to relax. and you work at night..right?? you need your rest. i believe some of them dont learn about boundaries. but when you try to set boundaries then they seem to get insulted. my libra bff said to tell her when you are available and that you are not available any times besides that. if you say that she may lay off a little. because she is extending friendship with to you..but she is also smothering you with it. you have to ease into an aquas life..not ambush us just because we said hi and talked for a minute. they are really sweet ladies, i just think you need to set some boundaries. i still talk to that other libra but now she live 2 hours away 😄.

@toc, i must be a liar then because i dont have time to talk about people behind their backs. Most ppl would probably hate me in rl bcause im 'in your face' type of person, courtesy of my aries rising. I see gossiping as a waste of time and as a weakness- weakness because it shows that ur afraid of the other person, hence the snake-ass behind the scene discussions.

Yeah, i like to hear about other ppl's stories, but thats not gossiping imo. Gossiping to me is when u talk negatively about another person behind their backs or telling their private affairs to others- thats weak to me. Talking about what someone said/did without being personal is not gossiping to me, its talking. We are humans, we deal with other humans, so its nearly impossible to not talk about some experiences

Im the 'how dare' kind and i dont think its weird at all. If u have something to say then say it to my face or keep it zipped. On the other hand it makes me happy because it proves that ur a pussy by not saying whats on your mind to my face. Its an individual thing, i guess

3Es, of course u cant stop ppl from talking, but what i hate is when they talk about something and then add little bits and pieces to make it jucier than it really is. Thats when i come in and clear it for them. Your examples arent bad, its bad when u sleep with one person and somebody else goes around telling other ppl that u had an orgy or something. I remember being sick years ago and my gemini friend at the time went around telling ppl that i was pregnant. When no baby came, she turned around and told them that i aborted. This is my version of gossiping, it drives me crazy. Its unnecessary and dumb imo

Toc, thats because ur a libra hence the hate of confrontation. I love it and i bring it too. U cant go around talking shit about ppl and expect some to let it roll over, it doesnt work like that.

Im not that petty, come on now. Go on and talk about whatever, but just make sure its all true- no extentions or weaves, nothing

Lmao @ they are funny without her crazy additions. I find pisces and geminis to be the worst offenders. Pisces they just lie too much (they add an extra something) and gems just cant keep a secret. My sister is a gem with a pisces moon, telling her something is same as broadcasting yourself on live radio. Thats why i despise her with every tendon in my body.

Is dick a better word then, 3Es, in regards to men and gossiping? It is sort of like an extention to a man, unless u have one the size of a fingertip then it isnt.

Haven't read the thread yet, but just wanted to say..

My Libra is Oct 3rd.. and he's a gossip. Not in a malicious way, mind you. He doesn't get off spreading dirt about people and making them look bad or wreaking havoc -- he'll spread good news, bad news, funny things that happened, it's all fair game. But he's nosy nosy NOSY.. he knows everybody's business, knows what everyone's been up to.. he's so easy (and fun) to talk to, that people are always telling him stuff. There were a bunch of cop cars, etc at a house down the block last summer, people milling all over.. he went over to find out what was up. Drug bust *smh* yes, the cops and narc team talked to him about this stuff when I would have thought they'd keep mum.

Libra and his Leo Mom are a lot alike.. the three of us sitting at my kitchen table drinking coffee.. it's a gossip fest! Well, it's more like my eyes getting bigger and bigger while they trade knowledge and catch up on everything that's happened to everyone they know. *_*

Thing is, he's a blabbermouth.. SO openly talkative (Libra Merc!) and a friendly conversationalist.. he just blurts out whatever's on his mind. Nothing really *automatically* qualifies a a *secret* to him (unlike with us naturally secretive/private Water signs!).. so you have to lay the ground rules very carefully, or at least I did. One too many times of him saying something in front of our friends that *I* would have considered "personal" and not "public" (like him accidentally tearing out my nose ring during sex, and my screaming making him think he was doing a GOOD JOB YEAH BUDDY, for example).. I had to sit him down and spell it out very clearly. As it turns out, I've learned that I have to TELL HIM when something is specifically VERBOTEN to be discussed with others. And yes, I have to do it every time. If I don't TELL him that THIS specific discussion/event is PRIVATE and not to be mentioned, he doesn't know he can't talk about it. But yes, if I ask him to keep something private, he does.

And it's not a double-standard, at least (whew - Libras have plenty of THOSE! haha).. talking about HIM is fair game, unless he tells you to not mention something. So no, don't tell a Libra your secrets and foibles, until and unless they are a GOOD friend and wouldn't want to ever make you look bad, and unless they've proven they can keep their mouth shut about YOU when you ask.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Libra and his Leo Mom are a lot alike.. the three of us sitting at my kitchen table drinking coffee.. it's a gossip fest! Well, it's more like my eyes getting bigger and bigger while they trade knowledge and catch up on everything that's happened to everyone they know. *_*

Too funny, you hit the nail on the head there. Although I will state Libras are on the right side of Mamma's boy if that helps anyone at all.

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Agreed. Definite Mama's boy.. but the kind I consider good.. not the namby-pamby spoiled baby kind.. the kind who will love and respect his Mama for life, and always be close to her.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
In my case she'd tell me what for if it was anything but otherwise haha. 🙂

She's a Leo.. "what for" is her personal forte. :p

What's your Mum, eee?

my bf doesn't do this. i mean he discusses what is going on with the family and his friends. also he wants to hear about my family and friends. is that gossiping?? i don't have to tell him what is essentially private or not he has a pretty good filter for that.

i would have to agree with the mama boy thing, but in a good way. she has a very good relationship with all of her sons (who are libras). I admire that.

Posted by chemengin
my bf doesn't do this. i mean he discusses what is going on with the family and his friends. also he wants to hear about my family and friends. is that gossiping?? i don't have to tell him what is essentially private or not he has a pretty good filter for that.

i would have to agree with the mama boy thing, but in a good way. she has a very good relationship with all of her sons (who are libras). I admire that.

Mmm I bet that "pretty good filter" comes from his Scorp Moon... like I said, Water is more naturally secretive/private.. they can usually figure out what things should be kept private without actually having to be told.

My Libra, no Scorp influence. No Water to speak of, really. (little bit waaayyy down in the little asteroids and stuff lol) Mostly Air and Earth and a bit of Fire... and the man simply does not realize he shouldn't talk about something, unless he's told otherwise.

Well, I guess that's not *entirely* true (anymore).. the nose ring incident was early in our relationship... three years later, and he CAN be taught (lol).. I haven't had to call him to the carpet for any "blabbing" for at least a year or more by my reckoning. So as we learned each other.. he's come to realize what things *I* would consider too private to talk about in indiscriminate company, and behaves accordingly.

Posted by WaterCup
Lol ecent, u make me laugh. Whats your sign babes? So, u say they tone it down after a while? I hope so because i really dont like ppl hoarding my time. Its funny that aqua is known as a sign of friendship, but the fact is that most aquas dont have that many friends and they dont like to have them either. The irony in that, hmm

I am a cancer, or a cancer /gemini cusp I say sometimes lol . I dnt have many friend either. Sometimes I say dam I dnt have no dam friends then when I meet someone and they do something stupid or just crowd me or anything that piss me off ,I quote the same word(that's y u don't have friends ecent!!) I say that everytime someone get on my nerves. Although I like being needed or give people advice or just listen to people but I always need this place were I hide away for awhile.

That coworker I brought up I had to do that to her,she would call and I am in a fuck up mood I would have to edited her call cause I just need to be alone,she use to say (y u didn't answer the phone) I told her I was alil busy and I was going to hit her back later, when get to no them u will realize that they do the same for different reason when they are not balance they would go to be alone.