Feeling Smoothered

This guy I work with is totally attached to me. He wants all my time, all. my. time.

I feel like I can't breathe.

The thing is I am pretty certain he is in love with me or at least thinks he is. I find him very domineer and controlling. He constantly pushes me and challenges me. Although I know he is a good person, I find him a bit angry and really impatient with people. Our whole value systems are different. He doesn't get me AT ALL. We are a complete mismatch. He would break me before he even got to know me.

The fact that he is impatient and forceful is GREAT for the type of work we do together but I don't want to date that type of person. It is too much.

I am not sure what to do. I need to get away from the constant demands and need for attention.

Ugh.

😢

Is this the Cappy guy? There's nothing wrong with constant demands and need for attention. I think everyone deserves their share, especially us Libras. Just be straight and tell him how you feel about that. If you can't breathe, then this can't make you happy. Oxygen is a necessity. Approach it in a way that would cause the least strife in your work environment/relationship.

....Just my 23 3/4 cents

Nah. It is a taurus.

* There's nothing wrong with constant demands and need for attention.

I can't handle that at all. I need space. I need to see other friends. I need balance. He wants to be with me 24/7. He emails me and talks to me constantly. I need to run away. It is too much.

Especially since we are co-workers and friends. Can you imagine if I ever dated the guy? He would never give me a second of peace.

It makes me sad. I hate losing friends.

I can only take so much of one person. I need to switch it up. I feel like I am being forced into an intimate friendship before I have had time to grow into it.

This sucks.

Plus, he keeps track of everything I do, say, etc.

I can't stand being under the microscope.

Hmm, he's forceful and impatient? Are Taurus males and Taurus females different in terms of temperment? I ask that because I hate confrontation and I tend to be very patient. Is he very good at it or does it seem forced because of the position he holds within the company?

I dated a fellow Taurus for about a year and the downfall is that he was very much a smothering person. I don't think all Taurus are like that. I know I'm not - I need my space as I've mentioned on here a few times. Has he asked you out on a date or is it just a hunch that he's into you? Taurus boys are Don Juan wanna be's, btw.

Every taurus boy I know is a fighter. They may say they hate confrontation but it doesn't stop them from confronting.

No. He has it bad.

No Taurus males and females are different.

The controlling, smothering, domineering isn't just a taurus guy thing, it is a male in a femanine sign thing. Males in feminine signs exagerate their masculinity and are more confrontational to project a false sense of security in their masculinity.

LIke how branh is a cool guy who opens up on the other boards such as the Virgo and Scorp board, he is laid back, opens up and has a natural sense of humor. When he comes to the Libra board he projects an alfa male image.

LOL

certain people are instigators. i didn't say i avoid confrontation; i said i hate confrontation.

That is what I mean ... you may hate confrontation but you feel the need to confront and push people even when it doesn't matter. (I am thinking of happycancer or whatever her name was.)

Don't get me wrong, I call people on thier stuff too.

I just don't want to date someone who will constantly do battle with me. Life is too short. I am too vulnerable in relationships for that. I don't want to be dominated and constantly criticised. Ya know?

Wow, my experience with Taurus boys are... They are considerate, loving and pretty much stable in a relationship. I have never had a smothering problem with them. Now Cancers... Gaaaaawwwwwddd, borderline stalkers!!!

I must say they can be pretty stuborn at times.

LS, I really don't see HP as confrontational, she just doesn't appreciate the BS, I am similar. I dislike people getting on the threads whinning and complaining asking for advice, when they are insincere about their intentions. Happcrab(yeah I know LP, no Happycap)for example,being a cancer, whinned and complained about how her Libra treated her, not matter how much he told her he didn't want a relationship with her and he was involved with someone else, and she even mentioned that he was running from her. She dam near stalked the hell out of him, so yes he took advantage since she didn't get the message. Point being, either complain, take advice and handle your business, or shut up, and continue to accept being treated like crap. It can be annoying...

mmmmmmm, turnips.

notso7, what's up with you? Why should HP be careful?