Going cold

I used to get responses almost instantly, and recently she started ignoring me a little. I send her an email asking her if she was fine and that didn't respond to what I said, and apparently she was felt that she was being really nice to me and I wasn't returning any favours (basically I did her wrong). Really sensitive. I apologized twice, asking her to forgive me but no response yet. I wasn't expecting a quick response though since apologize are quite meaningless or difficult to respond to especially if their aren't face-to-face. So how you think I should go about handling this? Should I just ignore this until I see her in person and have a express myself in a more clear manner?

Talk to her face, not text, email, or phone call. Then PROVE you are sorry by your actions.

I agree

if you are sincere show up at her door then say what you want maybe that will solve your problem.

if you are sincere show up at her door then say what you want maybe that will solve your problem.

Posted by root
I used to get responses almost instantly, and recently she started ignoring me a little. I send her an email asking her if she was fine and that didn't respond to what I said, and apparently she was felt that she was being really nice to me and I wasn't returning any favours (basically I did her wrong). Really sensitive. I apologized twice, asking her to forgive me but no response yet. I wasn't expecting a quick response though since apologize are quite meaningless or difficult to respond to especially if their aren't face-to-face. So how you think I should go about handling this? Should I just ignore this until I see her in person and have a express myself in a more clear manner?

Good Luck on that root...Most Libra's, in spite of what is said about us, are really giving and free hearted folks, but if we're the only one giving and the kindness and consideration is not reciprocal, then yes, she will totally turn off. Thing is, she doesn't even see herself as being cold. She probably feels like....why should I continue to extend common courtesy and not have it be returned, so she's just turned completely off and even if she turns back on, she probably won't be the same. She'll have her guard up for a long time, so even if she's smiling and pretending to be happy, trust me, that flaky little mind of hers is forever wandering. By the way, may I ask what did you do to make her turn cold towards you?

hmm, i'm not sure she is giving you the full story. sounds like bullshit to me.

Posted by jeane
hmm, i'm not sure she is giving you the full story. sounds like bullshit to me.

what makes you say that?

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Posted by root
I used to get responses almost instantly, and recently she started ignoring me a little. I send her an email asking her if she was fine and that didn't respond to what I said, and apparently she was felt that she was being really nice to me and I wasn't returning any favours (basically I did her wrong). Really sensitive. I apologized twice, asking her to forgive me but no response yet. I wasn't expecting a quick response though since apologize are quite meaningless or difficult to respond to especially if their aren't face-to-face. So how you think I should go about handling this? Should I just ignore this until I see her in person and have a express myself in a more clear manner?

Good Luck on that root...Most Libra's, in spite of what is said about us, are really giving and free hearted folks, but if we're the only one giving and the kindness and consideration is not reciprocal, then yes, she will totally turn off. Thing is, she doesn't even see herself as being cold. She probably feels like....why should I continue to extend common courtesy and not have it be returned, so she's just turned completely off and even if she turns back on, she probably won't be the same. She'll have her guard up for a long time, so even if she's smiling and pretending to be happy, trust me, that flaky little mind of hers is forever wandering. By the way, may I ask what did you do to make her turn cold towards you?

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I said something a little insensitive plus I left my underwear in her room (she's a clean freak so to her that was the biggest insult even though to me it's petty).

Posted by root

Posted by jeane
hmm, i'm not sure she is giving you the full story. sounds like bullshit to me.

what makes you say that?

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just a feeling in my waters.

they seems like weak excuses to start ignoring you. it sounds like she is using them as a way to perhaps letting you go in the most confrontational-non confrontational way.

but i'm just guessing.

Well if she really wanted to end it she would ignore me completely after the fact that she was upset, but she at least expressed reasoning behind why she was a little upset with me, she just hasn't responded to my apology YET. If I know anything about her, is that she would drop anybody in a second if they didn't mean anything to them, given the slightest hiccup. And trust me, I'VE MESSED UP A LOT WITH HER and she has given me second and third chances. Even though I don't consider them big mistakes, she does. For example, she is very considerate of her friends and she hates making them feel uncomfortable, so if I'm a little loud when they are sleeping it annoys her and it shows slightly.

If she comes back to me I'll know for sure she does have some feelings (even if little), if she doesn't, well, I'll know I wasn't that important to her.

Posted by root
If she comes back to me I'll know for sure she does have some feelings (even if little), if she doesn't, well, I'll know I wasn't that important to her.

Well, I wouldn't go as far as saying you're not important to her, but being inconsiderate of other's is a pet peeve of mine as well,so if she see you constantly doing it without concern for her and others, then she's slowly realizing that you just don't care. You're right about one thing. If she's still mingling with you, she really likes you because if she didn't, you would know about it by now. Why do you keep trying her though?

What do you mean "keep trying her?" It's not like I do it on purpose, I just don't think some of the little things I do are a huge deal, even though they may come off as inconsiderate, but obviously to her they are. There are times were I got her in trouble with her friends and she called me and it was clear she was upset (lol I couldn't get a word in), but a couple days later after that she sent me a friendly text asking how I was. I might have pulled the last straw with this one, but I'll just cross my fingers for now and wait to see what happens.

Posted by root
What do you mean "keep trying her?" It's not like I do it on purpose, I just don't think some of the little things I do are a huge deal, even though they may come off as inconsiderate, but obviously to her they are. There are times were I got her in trouble with her friends and she called me and it was clear she was upset (lol I couldn't get a word in), but a couple days later after that she sent me a friendly text asking how I was. I might have pulled the last straw with this one, but I'll just cross my fingers for now and wait to see what happens.

When you made this statement " And trust me, I'VE MESSED UP A LOT WITH HER and she has given me second and third chances" it kinda sounded like you seem to always get her goat..lol. But yes, just wait for her to come around because apparently she likes you if she keeps giving you chances. Just don't get borderline annoying because then she may never come back around.