He wished me a happy Valentines

Got home, cooked dinner for my baby girl we eat and I get yet another text message. This time from my Libra friend...

He texted: "Happy Valentines Day!!! Hugs and Kisses!!!!

I texted: Excuse me, do I know you?

he texted: Hahaha!!! Very funny. I think you do, I know you.

I didn't reply, just smiled. He still isn't ready...

What you guys think— I was shocked. You guys are full of surprises though...

Right on, Queen--I SHOULD have done that with Libra Girl!

I think I AM going to do that with Libra Girl from now on. (She'll think it's a joke!).

Maybe it will work with her. However, who knows what the outcome will be with me. He isn't ready and it isn't about me. I do know he thinks about me sometime and he cares, but that might be all he can give right now and that just isn't enough.

However, as usual I enjoy being his friend, but can no longer be both, feelings involved now, not like before...

QS, we need the fire and spice.

Indeed we do... Hint, hint...

QS, Thanks for reminding ALL of us it's not about us, it's about her / him.

yeah!!!

As you can see I keep repeating it... Therefore, reminding myself. They can make us feel it is about us, but it isn't. If it was they wouldn't come back.

QS, "If it was they wouldn't come back." Wow. Very insightful.

right on sister!!! Its their manipulative talents that keep making us think its us at the time but reality makes us realise its THEM!!!

Well at least you know us in and out QS. Your right. He isn't sure how he feels but is really sensitive and perceptive to how you feel so he is doing things in his mind that are about you but they are really to make him feel better about the situation.

"to make him feel better about the situation," huh? Hmmmm.

sounds like its always about him Nic!! In fact, everything that happens is about the HIM or HER of the LIbra world LOL

True, in my experience, although they can be the kindest and most caring people. The ultimate ending is about them. They can only balance that when they are truly in love with you.

Sorry, Libra buddies, but you do tend to come off that way, wanting the stage---'course arrogant Aries should talk!

Libras although not percieved as arrogant, do love the attention, hence the ego stroking. Something I don't mind doing hence, the reward fromm the turn on.

We only want attention from the ones we're in love with. The rest is in the way...:-)

I don't need attention perse, but sometimes I go into my shell for dramatic sulking purposes. Then when I venture out again and talk to people I realise how good it makes me feel to be amongst people again.

The wanting the stage is such a misconception...

archer, it's NOT fun. When they disappear you're in agony. When they appear you'll do ANYTHING for them and feel like a fool cuz they "gotcha" again.

I don't think they are manipulating you. I think they genuniely care. They love who you are but not in love with you. We tend to love our friends deeply. Losing a friend is a terrible pain.

These guys (and I have NO IDEA what is going on with your girl Atom. I give up on her!) aren't ready for a relationship. It isn't about you. It IS about them and where they are.

That doesn't mean that they don't think you are smackdab great people. It doesn't mean they don't care. It means they think you are great people but they are a) in love with someone else b) mourning the loss of someone else c) aren't ready for a relationship right now.

His text was his way of saying you are great. I still love ya. (friendly not romantic)

** We only want attention from the ones we're in love with. The rest is in the way...:-)

** I don't need attention perse, but sometimes I go into my shell for dramatic sulking purposes. Then when I venture out again and talk to people I realise how good it makes me feel to be amongst people again.

** The wanting the stage is such a misconception...

Well said!

Funny LS, I took it that way too. Thought it was sweet, but didn't get excited about it.

Although, he has never sent me a text like that. or any on holidays... Especially the "hugs and kisses" part. He ain't ready though, this is what I really feel deep down. I do know he cares for me, he just isn't able to provide me with what I want right now and I do know it is him not me. Making my peace with that.

Still sucks though.

(((QS)))

One day the right boys for us will come along. I will be very happy when it happens.

LS, I believe so too.