You will have to bear with me this is a complicated story...Im 38 and married to a soldier but its broken down and we are just on the verge of splitting. this has been on the cards for a while so nothing new there. I am a support worker working with ex military guys in a 'hostel' type arrangement. I have developed strong feelings for one of my clients (libra)as we spend a lot of time together due to him living there, our regular support sessions and my long shifts there. I think the feeling is mutual and up to now for proffessional reasons and not overstepping boundaries i have kept my feelings under control. my question is, doe she like me too and is it worth giving up my job to persue this...? Basically he is always around when im there and always smiling. i am the only member of staff he will talk to and gradually our support sessions that took half an hour now run for two hours plus but that time flies by and we find ourselves talking about so much more than him...he asks all about me and my life and i have found myself - unprofessionally telling him about my crap home life which he is realy concerned about and asked if my husband had ever hit me. he is very ossessive of other residents talkiing to me in a flirty way and walks off visibily angry if he sees this. he is always telling me how funny i am and always staring at me. He also tells me all about his failed relationships and keeps saying 'i just need to find a good woman whos beautiful and has a good personality' all whilst staring at me or going really shy. I suggest girls but he says no every time. i want to tell him i could be that girl and wuld be willing to leave my job but im too scared in case im imagining he likes me back or if im just wishful thinking. the other day i told him i might leave my job so he would get a new support worker and he got upset saying no you cant leave i dont want anyone else and coming up withsolutions why i should stay there. he then asked if i left my job would i still stay around this area etc.. i said well one good pount if i leave we can be friends and i can buy you a drink if i see you out.. he said but who will i talk to and i said i an still 'counsel' you...so then we started laughing an joking around..we do laugh a lot and i make him smile. he then hung around my office all night. i miss him on my days off. what do i do? tell him, risk rejection and my job or what? how do i tell if he likes me as much back? im a piscs so have good instinct.
