When a libra leaves, are they done forever?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Panda on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 and has 17 replies.

When a Libra Man Is Done With You, Do They Come Back?

Many people notice a Libra man can leave quietly without fully closing the door. In real situations, this often feels like distance, silence, or mixed signals after a breakup. Some experience them coming back later when emotions settle, while others see them move on without much explanation. It tends to depend on how the relationship ended and how much emotional balance they feel.

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@Panda
14 Years

He will respond if I contact him but has never initiated contact. What would this say about a Libra man? Our relationship was not perfect and he left as things were getting more serious. I do believe he had feelings for me and has not dated anyone since we broke up. I do not want to keep contacting him if he
Is never going to reciprocate. Our can I get him to contact me first or do you think it is a lost cause? How can I reattract him to me?

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@happykitsune
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Sounds like he didn't care as much as you did.

I would forget about him. He probably won't contact you first if he hasn't done so already. If he does it'll be because he's bored

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@Panda
14 Years

Well can I also add that I know he did care and was kind of a mess when the relationship ended. He sent me a song after we were over saying that "he loved me but could not stay." I think it was difficult on the both of us. I've never had a breakup like this and its just been so hard to move on from.

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@LibraX
14 Years

I'm a Libra girl but with Venus in Virgo, and every relationship I've had where I've left the man, I NEVER looked back. I'm kind of friends with one, but that's to be polite. The way I see it, if I don't like you enough to date you, I don't like you enough to be my friend. I have to add I was sad when I broke up with them, even cried, but I knew it was over for me and that was it.

On the other hand, I dated a Libra 9 years ago and he has contacted me as recently as maybe 2 years ago so we could "go out". He called me and left a message but I never called back. I think he'd be willing to get in a relationship again so all hope isn't lost for you.

I have another Libra friend who really liked a girl and dated her a year, but when he broke up with her it was OVER for good even though he still liked her but he knew it wouldn't work out.

I'd say move on to someone who will love you without any drama!

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@LibraX
14 Years

I have to add it's really hard for Libras to let go and break up (ok, it is for me personally) , so if he's the one that broke it off, it was something that was in his head for a long time before he actually did it. We weigh the pros/cons a lot.

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@Panda
14 Years

It's hard because I feel alot of the problems were almost logistical. I was in school/working without alot of time to really invest in deepening te relationship. There
Were some money inequality issues because he wasnt working and I found it frustrating. He got a job when we broke up and my life has calmed down. We have so so much in common that it really sucks it did not work out better.

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@sweethearts
20 Years5,000+ Posts

In contrast, my Leeb man has initiated contact from the get go, relentlessly. He has showered me with gifts and affection and still does after 8 months. It's not that I was playing hard to get but more not sure at first and he's never done the hot cold thing or dropped out for days unless we have both needed space because of a disagreement.

I think you are selling yourself short, if a man really wants you they will go all out and give to and for you and you only. If there is uncertainty there let it go. MAke him step up or step off so that you can find the one that will step up.

Trust me there are plenty of suitors out there, you won't sit not he shelf...sometimes we think that we will miss out because this person in the now we seem to get on so well with but there are dozens like that. Yes they are few and far between but they are there and with patience you will find...don't be in too much of a rush, you seem to be bending over backwards to try and suit him!

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@ALibra
14 Years

I've tried re-kindling with some of my ex's before, but I think it's only because a Libra has a very hard time letting go if they really loved the person at some point. Plus, we are always looking for "that one". Libra is the sign of harmony and partnership. We can be okay single, but will love a chance at a great partnership even more. Ruled by Venus we are in love with love. Most of us are just in love with the "idea" of love, but when it comes to the actual act we are lost. That goes double for our Libra male counterparts. Most Libra's are always afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing in a relationship and striving to be close to perfect, instead of just relaxing and being ourselves. Anyway you have to allow a libra that head space to even think about coming back. If you're hovering over us, it will either force us into a decision which we will be gone again anyway, or we will become frustrated and pull away even more. I hate when a person doesn't give me space to think, it irritates me to the max, and it never works. Like when I broke it off with my sagg ex, he begged and sent text and called for 2 weeks. At first I was pissed, but then he sent a message that made me feel it was now or never, so I responded finally but it didn't last. I didn't trust him or the relationship anymore and it was a complete waste of time. So back up. Give him the air he needs to process and ponder everything. He will drop in from time to time if he truly cared, but first you have to loosen up your grip. Then when he does pop in don't flood him with conversations about the failed relationship. PLEASE! Keep it light, it will make him feel more comfortable in contacting you. Let HIM bring up the relationship, since he was the one that left, and LISTEN more than you talk. Once he gives you the floor, let him have it in polite way. No crying or hysterical acts of emotions it will scare him off most likely. We hate negative depressed, stuffy situations so you want him to remember the good times you had, instead of all the bad. Just my take on it.

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@MeowCancerian007
13 Years

Posted by ALibra
I've tried re-kindling with some of my ex's before, but I think it's only because a Libra has a very hard time letting go if they really loved the person at some point. Plus, we are always looking for "that one". Libra is the sign of harmony and partnership. We can be okay single, but will love a chance at a great partnership even more. Ruled by Venus we are in love with love. Most of us are just in love with the "idea" of love, but when it comes to the actual act we are lost. That goes double for our Libra male counterparts. Most Libra's are always afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing in a relationship and striving to be close to perfect, instead of just relaxing and being ourselves. Anyway you have to allow a libra that head space to even think about coming back. If you're hovering over us, it will either force us into a decision which we will be gone again anyway, or we will become frustrated and pull away even more. I hate when a person doesn't give me space to think, it irritates me to the max, and it never works. Like when I broke it off with my sagg ex, he begged and sent text and called for 2 weeks. At first I was pissed, but then he sent a message that made me feel it was now or never, so I responded finally but it didn't last. I didn't trust him or the relationship anymore and it was a complete waste of time. So back up. Give him the air he needs to process and ponder everything. He will drop in from time to time if he truly cared, but first you have to loosen up your grip. Then when he does pop in don't flood him with conversations about the failed relationship. PLEASE! Keep it light, it will make him feel more comfortable in contacting you. Let HIM bring up the relationship, since he was the one that left, and LISTEN more than you talk. Once he gives you the floor, let him have it in polite way. No crying or hysterical acts of emotions it will scare him off most likely. We hate negative depressed, stuffy situations so you want him to remember the good times you had, instead of all the bad. Just my take on it.

Hi ... I've seen your posts around here
and you seem to know A LOT about Libras
I was wondering if you could help me out with my Libra

I'm a cancerian ... Emotional, affectionate, sometimes clingy and very impatient
My Libra has been giving me a lot of mixed signals ... says and makes me feel like im the only girl for

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@ItsWorking
13 Years

Posted by Leeeebra
There has been a surge of hurting here on the forum.

There sure has...

It seems mostly because Libras disappear.
Because they have every right to, I don't really care that they do (anymore), but I know the frustration.
Some Libra men (my Libra sister is not like this- I'm a Cancer by the way) could surely use a backbone.
Hurt a couple of feelings. Be hated. Because, guess what? You end up doing it anyway.
I'm all about pulling the bandage off. Instead of one big emotional BOOM! lol, it can be a rational decision stating what is obviously felt.
It would save a lot of face.

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@Alive123
10 Years

20 October

My situation:

Things were great, got married to a Scorpio. Problem number one. We libras compromise so much to make things work, and we are not hard to please either. After we have tried, and you have agreed to try, we watch. Kindly give you a hint when youre slipping, but let me tell you when you take us for granted, we will not come back.

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@Queenofthepheasantfairies
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by LibraX
I have to add it's really hard for Libras to let go and break up (ok, it is for me personally) , so if he's the one that broke it off, it was something that was in his head for a long time before he actually did it. We weigh the pros/cons a lot.

Exactly this. If he is the one who broke it off. It was a decision he would of thought VERY long and hard over. I am not the text book Libra but there are signs. If they just stop "caring" it is pretty much over. The small things they used to do for you, if they not doing them anymore you can bet your bottom dollar they have moved on emotionally already.

The times I have left someone I have never looked back and not even kept contact as friends, which is something a Libra will still try hold onto.

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@Shrewdsharp
11 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Panda
He will respond if I contact him but has never initiated contact. What would this say about a Libra man? Our relationship was not perfect and he left as things were getting more serious. I do believe he had feelings for me and has not dated anyone since we broke up. I do not want to keep contacting him if he
Is never going to reciprocate. Our can I get him to contact me first or do you think it is a lost cause? How can I reattract him to me?

This kills me when a woman says - he's not dating anyone else. How do you know this? Most men... especially LIBRAS have more than one they are dating. If you don't know about the others, that means he is especially skillful with hiding his activities, or he's not serious with anyone yet.

He could be gay or simply not "that into you." Men pursue women they want; unless they have a lot of Pisces or other feminine signs in their charts. Try and tell him how you feel and step back. If he doesn't step up he doesn't want too.. If he is not gay, and when you call he doesn't ask you out, then he's a friendly guy who likes to talk on the phone, and doesn't want you like you want him.

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@Shanmack
10 Years

That guy didn't love you. I'm a Libra and when we love, we love hard. No other sun sign knows about true love like a Libra. When in love nothing or no one can separate us from our partner and even if the relationship is rocky we gonna want to try and work it out and fix it.

If we feel nothing for you then we are gone with the wind

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@Librag
10 Years

If i break up its over... If u break up i will be like a little puppy wanting your love back... I love the chase (alot sagg in my chart)