Understanding the Libra Man

Tisk Tisk Tisk. Ladies Ladies Ladies. You are in for a treat, if he hasn't already charmed you right out of your panties, has you doing and saying things you said you would never do and say, jumping in and out of your world, and making you feel as though he never left when he returns after days or weeks of nothing. Leaving you with question marks on where you stand in his beautiful sociable word. Why he seems hot one minute, and distant the next. Well here are the answers??_.

The Famous Disappearing??_.
If your libra man has disappeared he has most likely done it for a couple of different reason, and if you are not his girl yet then this wont be the last time. Reason number one: You became clingy. They hate it. Even if you are their woman, they do not want to be up under you all day everyday. They do however want to see you everyday, sometimes all day, but not allll the damn time. He needs time to regroup, think, process, and plan. You need to give him that space. The last thing you want is a libra who is confused, hasn't had time to plan, either you going to let him or he'll disappear simple as that. Reason number 2, You have turned him off. And this could range from a whole lot of things, from not keeping yourself, starting out one way then turning out to be another. This means if you started out being a diva everytime he saw you, a couple confortable days are okay but he will not tolertate you letting yourself go, because he wouldn't do it to you. Fair is fair. This may also include, being sweet, fun and independent at first, then transforming to naggy, fussy, and dependent on him for your own happiness. Whatever you did to get your libra, keep doing it if you wish to keep him. The 3rd reason and most common, is you fell for him before he's had a chance to fall for you. As I've stated in some of my comments and post, Libra feels the need to ALWAYS be on the same page with their partner. We don't like to be out of balance, emotionally, physically or even mentally. Something has to come to a common EVEN ground. If not, it will drive us nuts. So if you fall hard for you libra, and you let them know it before making sure its mutual they will become distant in an effort to stop you from falling any harder before they've even made up their mind about you yet. They may still have something they want to weigh out about you and they cant do it with you jumping the gun before they are finished. So they are not doing it to be mean, play games, they are doin

What to do when he disappears:

You can ask him why, if he doesn't respond then leave it alone. Do not nagg him, or curse him because it will only make him stay gone longer. He will respond when he's good and ready. If you do curse him out or let him have it, you better be ready for the consequences. If they are wrong they will accept it, but yelling at them or nagging them about being gone will only make them pull away further. The more you push, the more they pull. So mimic them. Match them when they do this. If they become airy or show a carefree attitude then do the same. They will think "This is more like it". It will put the tenderness of emotions at ease. If they become mushy then you have the green light to be mushy. If they are constantly disappearing on you, then chances are they are taking advantage of the fact that you keep letting them back. Sometimes you have to be strong and shut the door on a libra. Meaning, don't let him come back so easily. They need and even crave a challaneg every now and then. But being a challenge to a libra is different than other men. They don't react well to total silent treatmeant they will suck the relationship up as a lost. So just spread it out. Answer one day and don't the next. Text back to maybe 2 text, and don't respond to others. Always be sweet, and have a carefree attitude until he's back to mush or all over you again. Be carful though because you don't want him thinking you don't care at all when you do, so if he says something careing and sweet its cool to respond. Just be careful not to read too much into his soft words because they are ultimate charmers, and to tell if they are being sincere is to watch their actions not their mouths and the words that come out. If you do only listen to them and not watch them, then sistah you??re a goner.

Getting a handle on the irresistible charm:

If you haven't noticed that this a charming little joka. He can charm his self out of the stickiest situations with one winning smile. Don't make the mistake of letting him know you??re a complete victim to that charm. He will use it every chance he gets. And he will step right over you to the next exquisidley dressed beauty, with great convo and and independent nature with a no b.s type of attitude that can knock right back over his heels. You must be that girl. You have to stand out. Do not baby him. If he's been bad, then so be it. No your worth, and stand tall. Drift away only checking on him from time to time, and even then no mushi business. Leave all that up to him. Remember you are not even close to homefree until he makes you??re his girl. Because at that point, chances are he's already in love,and all you have to do is keep him in love which will consist of keeping yourself up, smelling good, being clean, affectionate, independent, and strong. He will adore you. He adors any woman whom is sweet, looks damn good, and doesn't really need him or at least that's how she acts.

THE ATTRACTION:
Forget about saving that gorgeous head turning outfit for a night on the town with your girls, your libra man is well worth the tags being ripped off and even buying nice pair of shoes to compliment it. He will surely show his appreciation and you will win points all around the board. He can tell when a woman has actually took time in her appearance, and if he feels it was done especially for him, it's a bonus. If your toes are out, polish must NEVER be chipped that goes for nails to. He's checking it all. He may not say anything but heck you might as well be standing on spinning panel because thats how deep he will be sizing you up. Hair should be done, if not professionally It should at least be neat. Even if you didn't have time to shop, just make sure you look as though you tried your best, only because he will be doing the same for you. Please splash on the perfume, don't take a bath in it, but by all means apply some. He's smitten by a woman that has a plan of her own and has ambition and drive to acheieve it. He will want to be apart of it, because he will want to be apart of your life. For convo he's game for anything, just nothing to raunchy unless he initiates it.

SEX:

The ultimate people pleaser goes double for his lover. His only goal is to please. He will get his, but you first. He loves to see his lover panting and staring at him with stary eyes from the orgasm he just gave her, and then he will be on for his own. He's up for trying new things, he will even be game for outside sexual fun, just make sure theres a blanket if its on grass or sand, and no one is around, he doesn't like his sex to be a show for others. To this man, sex is an adventure and is a display of ones emotions displayed physically. Chances are he's planned out how he was going to make love to you from the very first time he saw you. He's planned it down to the wine you two will drink, the sheets it will be done on, and what new position he will try on you. He's into kissing while love making only if you know what your doing. A bad kisser is a deal breaker, unless it can be fixed. So if your not good a French kissing, then stick to long passionate pecks, he'd prefer that then you drowning him with saliva and tongue. He's into sensual massages, looking into your eyes, kisses on your neck and ears the whole nine, you may feel as though he making love to you, but if you haven't established love or a relationship don't get it twisted he's still a man, until then its passionate sex, not love making.

Break up-

It's the same a the Libra woman. He will break up if the relationship has began to drain him emotionally. They wont stay in something negative or stuffy for long, no matter how much they love you. A libra is capable of loving you and leaving you if you deliberately hurt them, lie, manipulate, or nag until they are ready to yank their hair out, or walk around like you have a gray cloud over your life. They love to help with problems, but try not to dump negative issues into their lap every single day. It will make them depressed.

Posted by ALibra
if he hasn't already charmed you right out of your panties, has you doing and saying things you said you would never do and say,

LOL he has been doing this for the last 3 years 😄

you know, I never experience a disappearing act with him. tbh, the only game he played with me was making me think i had the charm and i was leading the relationship. which was essential for getting me to where we are now. he told me he had to change the game plan with me, because he thought i could match him game for game and he felt that i can see right through him.

I support this thread.

Good stuff.

GO AHEAD GIRL WITH YOUR BAD SELF!!! LOL...SO SO SO SO ON POINT AND I KNOW FROM FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE AS YOU ALREADY KNOW AS WELL!! 🙂

LOL!! ^_^

I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.

Posted by MzDiana
I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.

So...you Libras need total opposites or what? I mean what makes you people tick? What can I do to make this Libra man STAY AROUND? What are the right buttons to push? What are the wrong ones?

Some of us do need a complete.opposite. Heck I'm crazy in love with an aries we couldn't be more opposite. Like night and day emotionally n how we love. But yet its a challenge for me everyday.to try to understand him. Sometimes I like it other times it drives me nuts

Total opposites...maybe when I was younger NOW I'm happy to be with someone that I am in sync with. We have similar moods and appreciate a lot of the same thing. He doesn't do hot cold, in fact I did at first and he hauled me up on it. It's also nice to be able to read what the other is thinking and wanting...you just know!

And love without constant battling gives more time for loving!

Posted by sweethearts
Total opposites...maybe when I was younger NOW I'm happy to be with someone that I am in sync with. We have similar moods and appreciate a lot of the same thing. He doesn't do hot cold, in fact I did at first and he hauled me up on it. It's also nice to be able to read what the other is thinking and wanting...you just know!

And love without constant battling gives more time for loving!

I'm thinking this too... I'd prefer someone just like me. I fucking love me, why wouldn't I want someone like me?

I've done the opposite thing and I like a challenge but if you are different at the core it doesn't really matter how hard you work. The whole challenge was trying to find or create a deeper connection between people who basically speak different languages. If I had somone like me and we didn't have that struggle (or it was lessened) there would be more time and energy for loving. We can challenge each other in other ways to deal with that aspect.

Well spoken @ Sweethearts. I didn't purposely go after my aries because I knew he was opposite. I fell for him because we knew each other since childhood, and I felt I could honestly be myself with him an not be judged for it. He seemed to truly be into me for me. However, by the time I found out how different we were I was already smitten in love. I mentioned needing a challenge because for me things can get boring when being with same person for too long, I don't like arguing but a good healthy debate with someone with complete different opinions and outlooks exercises my mind.lol. I love it. I don't know. My aries being my opposite has this as a positive. But your right, the negative side is we are opposites in ALL areas, which is not good. Some areas are okay, but love and emotion I think needs to be in sync and this is where he and I have a problem. But im seeing a taurus too, who seems to be just about perfectly in sync emotionally.

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Posted by MzDiana
I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.

So...you Libras need total opposites or what? I mean what makes you people tick? What can I do to make this Libra man STAY AROUND? What are the right buttons to push? What are the wrong ones?

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I LOVE me and Yes, my daughter even says that I am conceited and all that jazz. However, I like my scales balanced. And for as many people as you have, you will have just as many opinions on the topic. I know that I can get along with almost anyone and I KNOW that I need something other than someone with my same idiosyncrasies. I am by no means in my 20s (41 as a matter of fact) and I get bored with someone like me. I do not want to MIRROR me. I want someone who is going to bring out the me that I do not want to readily bring out. I like my space, so then, with differing interests. I have my space cos he is doing his thing and I am doing mine. JUST ME! No other person exactly like me.

Oh we have differing interests too, I said SIMILAR not IDENTICAL... He's into heavy metal which I barely tolerate, well, I can do the soft stuff and he's aware of it so he doesn't blast it in my company. He's introduced me to motorbikes and going on long Sunday rides around our country, there is a whole different world out there! We share and care together and it very rarely is hard being together.

But it's the important things that make a difference. The children, healthy life style and having and spending time with our own friends, it just all fits easily.


With other relationships I found my scales tipping all the time and a lot of the time I was the one trying to balance it out.

I have only ever been with one Leeb and that was as a teenager...a very welcome change!

Oh okay. I feel you. Yeah. I'd love to meet someone like that. Im so sick of dating I want something special with someone I can call my own. I can picture marriage and kids, but im not financially ready for that just yet. But I do plan to share it with someone soon, so I'd be nice if I could meet them dang.LOl! My mom says im too young to think like that. But heck ive been dating since I was 16, she had already met my dad and had a baby and was married by 22. Im 23. All my cousins are married with kids, or have at least had a long full-filling relationship at least once in their life. But not me. I don't mean to sound pitiful but sometimes I wonder if my standards are too high, or if I should stop lowering them every time I THINK I've found love. Ugh. Im thinking it's the 2nd one. Lol. Motorcycle bike-rides round country huh? That sounds very exciting! I'd love that??_hmm maybe I should talk the Taurus into getting a bike. I hate heavy metal, not really into rock either. Im an R&B girl to my soul, I like jazz sometimes when im sleepy, and I when Im mad I like a little rap. lol

Hi Arieslove, make your own thread in Astrology. You're likely to get more answers there. 🙂

Posted by ALibra
SEX:

The ultimate people pleaser goes double for his lover. His only goal is to please. He will get his, but you first. He loves to see his lover panting and staring at him with stary eyes from the orgasm he just gave her, and then he will be on for his own. He's up for trying new things, he will even be game for outside sexual fun, just make sure theres a blanket if its on grass or sand, and no one is around, he doesn't like his sex to be a show for others. To this man, sex is an adventure and is a display of ones emotions displayed physically. Chances are he's planned out how he was going to make love to you from the very first time he saw you. He's planned it down to the wine you two will drink, the sheets it will be done on, and what new position he will try on you. He's into kissing while love making only if you know what your doing. A bad kisser is a deal breaker, unless it can be fixed. So if your not good a French kissing, then stick to long passionate pecks, he'd prefer that then you drowning him with saliva and tongue. He's into sensual massages, looking into your eyes, kisses on your neck and ears the whole nine, you may feel as though he making love to you, but if you haven't established love or a relationship don't get it twisted he's still a man, until then its passionate sex, not love making.

Break up-

It's the same a the Libra woman. He will break up if the relationship has began to drain him emotionally. They wont stay in something negative or stuffy for long, no matter how much they love you. A libra is capable of loving you and leaving you if you deliberately hurt them, lie, manipulate, or nag until they are ready to yank their hair out, or walk around like you have a gray cloud over your life. They love to help with problems, but try not to dump negative issues into their lap every single day. It will make them depressed.

i must say this is kind of silly as you are a libra woman, your point of view is a fem one. I've been with my libra man for 15 years, 5 yrs dating, 10 years MARRIED. Some of this applies to him in the read it in a book and fit it to apply, but you make them sound like metro sexuals who want to go shopping with you and paint your toes. Yes he loves how i look dressed up but he also really loves the casual me. And fyi guys r guys they all like a pretty sweet smellin chicks 🙂 lol

If I've said it ONCE I'll say it twice. This is MY experience from Libra males that I'VE met. And I work with one, and your right, he does like the more casual me, but let my hair be out of place he'll comment. Let me even have a piece of lent on my shirt he'll notice and depending on how he feels he'll comment. And that's how all the ones I've met are, but if you read my other post I stated that different environments and upbringing goes into play into a person's character then it also depends on the relationship they are in and the basis of it. You say you're married, PSshh enough said. This don't really apply to you.lol. None of my post say anything about the libra men when married. Heck everyone knows their attitude changes with the wind and sometimes to suit whatever situation or relationship they've stuck themselves in for whatever reason, love, emotions, etc... just to keep peace and harmony. The ultimate people pleaser until they move along or until the situation becomes too negative or too stuffy for their airy attitude. Just MY opinion. lol
But since your married to one, perhaps you can drop a little more insight than me. I've only dated them.lol. This post is open, its not like I've written it in blood. Plus PEOPLE, please keep in mind im talking sun signs, and SIGNs period, this is like only an outlining if that of what to expect from a person..

Posted by ALibra
If I've said it ONCE I'll say it twice. This is MY experience from Libra males that I'VE met. And I work with one, and your right, he does like the more casual me, but let my hair be out of place he'll comment. Let me even have a piece of lent on my shirt he'll notice and depending on how he feels he'll comment. And that's how all the ones I've met are, but if you read my other post I stated that different environments and upbringing goes into play into a person's character then it also depends on the relationship they are in and the basis of it. You say you're married, PSshh enough said. This don't really apply to you.lol. None of my post say anything about the libra men when married. Heck everyone knows their attitude changes with the wind and sometimes to suit whatever situation or relationship they've stuck themselves in for whatever reason, love, emotions, etc... just to keep peace and harmony. The ultimate people pleaser until they move along or until the situation becomes too negative or too stuffy for their airy attitude. Just MY opinion. lol
But since your married to one, perhaps you can drop a little more insight than me. I've only dated them.lol. This post is open, its not like I've written it in blood. Plus PEOPLE, please keep in mind im talking sun signs, and SIGNs period, this is like only an outlining if that of what to expect from a person..

true, you said its from your opinion of the ones you know. but i would have to agree with more than half of what you said about them. i said before i have never experienced the disappearing act, but i have seen them do it to others. i let him read it all he could do is smile. and then he said you must be a libra. that is the only time he has ever seen himself described like that is by his own. 🙂

LOL. I should let my libra co-worker read it, but he likes me so maybe it wouldn't be a good idea for me to let him know that I know MOST of his secretes eh? LOl. My favorite male cousin is a libra too. And watching his Pisces girlfriend deal with him is hilarious. But I have a Pisces moon so most of things they have problems with I be on her side??_.i be like "Get him girl! That's right!" LOL

And yes, if you go up and down this message board most women post about Libra's either disappearing completely, or dropping in and out. I just figured I drop some of my insight on why I've done this, and why I THINK the Libra men would do it. Like I said, before my libra cousin got into a relationship, he use to disappear on A LOT of girls, breaking hearts unintentionally and when he would return for whatever reason they'd be angry for maybe 24 hrs if that, and then fall right back under his charming spell. Sadly the same thing happens with me, unless they've moved on and have a girlfriend, and sometimes even then they go nuts when I return. My Pisces ex has a girlfriend, I dropped in with a phone call to wish him happy b-day he wound up inviting me to the bday dinner, and even told me his girl would be there! Why would I go? Then he called me for the next two days. I'm thinking like geesh! I only wanted to wish you happy birthday. He normally dumps girls when I come around, so I decided to prevent that by not answering.

LOL. Possibly for my own good huh? Could be why I've only dated (as in hung out for dinner or games, or parties) with my libra guys. Its never went further than that. Not on purpose, they're great! Sweet and very charming, and most just knocks the swag meter off the charts! BUT, we may be too much alike.lol. I bump heads with the one I work with, we like each other, but sometimes our similarities get the best of us and its not always a good thing. lol

LOL!! They dont know that! At least the ones that never find out about this website doesnt.lol

It seems to that libra men like to be controlled.

The ones I know (including my poor brother and cousin) fell head over heels for some controlling, manipulative chicks.


Has anyone else noticed this— Why is that??

@ ALeeb- thank you for taking your time to write out this very informative post for anyone who would like insight
into a libra from the perspective of another libra!!
I know you will enjoy your single days thoroughly! You certainly need not settle for any guy-you are obviously
too special for that! 🙂 You have plenty of time for true love to find you!

@ chem- You and your libra sound like the real deal! Congrats to you both on the upcoming nuptials! 🙂
My father was a libra and he and my mom had a long and happy lifetime together...I wish you the same!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Plus Libra women are too much like hard work heh (ie: you know too much ALibra 🙂 ).

^^^^My take on this...It should not feel much like work, should it? And not in the least like work until the two have
been together for quite a while! Yes, all relationships require a little work and compromise to survive and flourish
long term. But I just don't think there should be a need for game playing strategies in any real compatible loving
relationships.

Just be your best self, and continue when in a relationship to be your best self! When the real thing comes
along it should be relatively easy to work the little things out, especially with the ability to understand ourselves and
our guys a bit better with all this knowledge!! 🙂

Posted by SillyFilly

@ chem- You and your libra sound like the real deal! Congrats to you both on the upcoming nuptials! 🙂
My father was a libra and he and my mom had a long and happy lifetime together...I wish you the same!

thank you sillyfilly 😄

Ughhhhhhhhhh. I am so in love with my Libra ex and want him back badly. This is all so true.

Libras drive me mental. They are like psychiatrists, it's like they read your mind and they understand exactly what you are thinking, why you behave how you behave... my ex always says nobody knows you or will ever know you better than me. He knows me better than I know myself! And my best friend is Libra too, and we are like an old married couple - always bickering, but I can't live without her!

Posted by GeminiGal
Ughhhhhhhhhh. I am so in love with my Libra ex and want him back badly. This is all so true.

I'm a Gem too and the only man I ever loved is a Libra. the bastard.

Loving what you wrote ALibra.. You must have Venus in libra(?)

LOL. Thanks. But no ma'am. I have venus in leo.

@Geminigal "The basterd" LMBO!! Ahh yes, they have been called many things before, but the sentece always ends with "But damn i love that Libra" This taurus, and cancer is feeling that way about me now. I dont even know why they love me, they just do.

OMG, this is spot on! I'm laughing so hard I'm in tears right now! Thank you for this insight, because I seriously thought I was alone in this disappearing act business that is Libra.

I've been seeing a Libra since November of last year. When we first started talking, it was consistent. He would text and call me like crazy, and there I was thinking to myself - good lord, this boy is going to fall hard, I'm not sure that's what I want.

Well here I am, almost 5 months later, and the tables have completely turned!!!! I've gotten a little better dealing with the disappearing act, as we've talked about it and I understand that it is just the way he works. But it is so confusing.

When we spend time together, it is the most amazing time. He is sweet and I can get him to show me lots of love and affection. He has told me he loves me, which is the confusing part because of the disappearing acts.

He's on vacation right now, and he asked me to look after his apartment. He gave me the key to his apartment, and told me to check on it when I could. Can I take this to mean something? Can I take this to mean that he is genuine about his love and that he trusts me? He's given me his ATM card and pin to go and grab him cash when he couldn't leave his office. He's asked me to open up his phone to check something when he's in another room, it's got a passcode but he gives that to me to open up the phone.

I want to believe that we're going somewhere with this, but I guess I got so used to consistency from early on in the relationship where he would call and text. He just said that it his him being busy. So I've managed to do the same and get my sanity back.

I'm an Aries and you are so right about how, I've found myself doing things for this guy, that I normally would not do for ANYONE!!!

Your insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Thanks everevolvingepithet.

I'm awaiting a response from her. I've read all of her posts on Libra and they sound pretty accurate to me.

I Skyped with my Libra this afternoon. He seemed a little sad, he said that being home made put some things in perspective for him. He is visiting his family whom he hasn't seen in years. so I was supportive and listened. He told me I looked pretty and that he missed me. I told him I missed him too and to enjoy his time out there and to take tons of pictures.

It was a nice conversation considering most of our correspondence lately has been via e-mail ... understandable as he is with family. I think I've slowly learned to understand him ... key word: THINK. lol, which is where I'm hoping ALibra comes in, or anyone with insights on Libra for that matter. 🙂

Haha, yes - like you wouldn't believe. It's crazy because I really do find myself doing things for this guy that I would NEVER EVER do! I really like him though. The inconsistency scares me, I guess because I've read that sometimes the inconsistency is because they aren't so sure about you yet. When the drawback came, I thought, "Damn, did I come on too strong all of a sudden?" I felt like I was going with what he was going with ... so when he started to open up, I did too. Then it was like "Heyyy where'd ya go?" But he seems to come around more when I mirror him ... if he draws back, I draw back too.

Example - he goes on a ski trip. I decide alright, I see him the night before his trip and send him a message the day of that says, "Hope you have an awesome time." He says "Thanks boo!" Don't hear from him three days straight ... so I don't respond either. Finally the morning after he gets back, he writes ... "Hey I know I was MIA all weekend, but I wanted to say I was thinking of you and I missed you and can't wait to spend some time together."

ACKKKK...LOL

"He's on vacation right now, and he asked me to look after his apartment. He gave me the key to his apartment, and told me to check on it when I could. Can I take this to mean something? Can I take this to mean that he is genuine about his love and that he trusts me? He's given me his ATM card and pin to go and grab him cash when he couldn't leave his office. He's asked me to open up his phone to check something when he's in another room, it's got a passcode but he gives that to me to open up the phone."


Hi There!

Hi There!
Okay, re-read what you just said to me. Girl you are definitely on the right path. You just have to keep your cool. And just so you know I WILL be inboxing you because im out of my mind crazy and helplessly in love with an Aries, and he was in your shoes 8 months ago with me. Now HE turned the tables, and im crazy about him. He was persistent, but not in a crazy, clingy way. He made me feel comfortable around him. And believe me I'd disappear for days sometimes weeks, and before the summer he wouldn't see me for months or until we were at a family gathering. Just stay at it with your Libra, but don't crowd him. You got this in the bag. Your Libra likes, and trusts you.

Getting him to fall in love, and actually show it will be easy, for you, anyway. He lets you check his phone, umm I'm like a Lions quarter back with my phone and I will tackle someone for even TRYING to touch it, this means he trusts you. Libra, when honest with themselves, never truly trust someone without the person earning it. They want to think the best of everyone, but mostly are always preparing for the worst. We know we are sweet, and we know we are nice, and because of these two main factors people are always accustomed to preying on those that they "think" are weak. Libra's are NOT weak. We are just in love with love, and we love beautiful happy, fun and free things. So its like our guard is down, and then it goes back up, then its down again, and then it goes back up again. This cycle will continue until they've made up their minds. Don't even stress yourself out trying to figure out a Libra's mind. You will give yourself a headache. Just keep doing what you are doing. He's definitely into you, before you know it you CAN and you WILL have this libra wrapped around you like a spandex cloak.

Thank you for your insights ALibra!

Please feel free to inbox me! I'm happy to help in any way that I can.

So, in other words - just keep doing what I'm doing? In terms of giving him enough space to breathe, and giving him enough attention without smothering him. Should I mirror him then? I mean if he draws back should I draw back, or is that when he needs me most? Will he want me to pay attention? LOL. I'm sorry I sound like a broken record.

I really do like this guy, and the communication has gotten a lot better since we've talking about all this more openly. But I don't want to keep asking him, "Hey what is it that you want me to do?"

I'm an Aries - and an alpha female, lol so this has taken me some time to adjust to, but again I really enjoy my time with this person and I would hate for my alpha tendencies to get in the way of a really good thing.

Thanks again!!! 🙂

Thank you for your insights ALibra!

Please feel free to inbox me! I'm happy to help in any way that I can.

So, in other words - just keep doing what I'm doing? In terms of giving him enough space to breathe, and giving him enough attention without smothering him. Should I mirror him then? I mean if he draws back should I draw back, or is that when he needs me most? Will he want me to pay attention? LOL. I'm sorry I sound like a broken record.

I really do like this guy, and the communication has gotten a lot better since we've talking about all this more openly. But I don't want to keep asking him, "Hey what is it that you want me to do?"

I'm an Aries - and an alpha female, lol so this has taken me some time to adjust to, but again I really enjoy my time with this person and I would hate for my alpha tendencies to get in the way of a really good thing.

Thanks again!!! 🙂

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Now I want to tell you some thing my Aries did to get me to fall without him even trying.

HE BACKED OFF! I mean, not completely he still let it be known that he liked me very much. He was pushy and stubborn at first, but then he became patient, and it seemed all he cared about was being next to me if only for a minute.

Which I can't stress enough how important it is, to make sure your Libra always knows that you like them and care for them. Don't lay it on too thick where they think you are getting ahead of yourself, or worse "them", but enough to let them know you are still there, for friendship, love, a listening ear, whatever. You will find them slowly being the same for you. If you are always there for them, they will most likely try their hardest to be there for you.

My Aries was so cool. I loved it! I just didn't let him know right off the bat. I used to tease him, and I still do. I would just pick with him. It would make him laugh. Little did he know, I just loved watching him laugh, because he was always so quiet. I got a kick out of being the one that made him laugh.

He started coming off as more of a friend, than someone that was just trying to lock me down or have their way with me. This is what I mean when I say he made me feel comfortable. He started joking and laughing with me, and he started talking to me. My fam was like how could like him, he barley talks! When I found out that he only talks to people he trust, I felt special and it made me want to be closer to him. Plus he was funny as hell!

Also, he would brag on me. Libra loooove compliments, probably more than a leo. We are just too modest to let it show. But we adore them. A bum on a street could compliment a Libra, and it would still make them smirk and say "Thank You." He would tell my aunts, and cousins how mature he thought I was, and how he wanted to make sure he had it together before he got with me completely. He'd tell them how pretty he thought I was, and they would even tell me how much he liked me when we were kids. He didn't know they were telling me things, but it all played out in his favor because each time some one told me how he braggs on me I fell harder. He was sweet, but not a punk. His mushiness didn't come off as weakness, but a strong a man that knows how to be sweet to the right person. His kisses were firey and full of passion! And the sex, well a volcano eruption couldn't compare.lol

Okay, I hear you!!! I'm all ears...and this is all so helpful..

I think what happened was when things started to get really serious, like in January sometime after New Year I started to notice when he kind of got distant. This was my first time dealing with something like this. It was like he told me he missed me the other day and I wouldn't hear from him for 3 days ...so different from the consistency in November...

He explained to me that he wasn't used to having someone who was always around and willing to take care of him ... which is crazy because, again, this is not normally something I would do for ANYONE. But I'd offer to bring lunch, or a coffee or something.

Then I started to test the theory and see ... so he wouldn't write, so I wouldn't write and even it would be eating me up inside. Sure enough, I'd get that random message. And at the time it was not even about the consistency - sometimes I just wanted him to be the one to initiate. LOL. I guess because then I felt like it was more genuine, like you weren't just saying I miss you because I said it first, kind of thing ... is that silly?

But I've slowly learned to work around it ... I don't want to use the word cope or deal, because that sounds like it's a burden and it's not because I really do like this guy and want to keep him around and if it means a compromise then I'm willing to do that.

As for the sex - AHHHH MAZING! LOL he's also Latino so I'm not sure if that adds to it as well, I'm like really? You're going to speak to me in Spanish right now? Sorry, TMI!

Aside from all of that, he's an amazing guy who has goals. He's a sweetheart and well liked ... he's funny, and he picks on me ALL the time! It took me a minute to get used to but now I think it's kinda cute ... is that some sort of defense mechanism or what?

Thanks again ALibra...I'm all ears if you need any help with Aries! I'll do my best!

Okay, I'll tell you exactly what to do.

Yes, by all means you hit right on the nail. Mirror him! Don't loose your self though, I mean after all being you is what caught his interest in the first place. I don't want you to completely mold yourself to his liking, just brush up on that fiery Aries passion that you give. With other male signs that beasty, independent, hard core but sexy woman attitude will work. But if you notice with your Libra, you have to soften and lighten your approach a little bit. He adores the feminine side, keep the independence because he's independent and adores a partner that doesn't weigh him down about everything.

Keep their air light, and free from emotional baggage and stuffy attitudes. He will love how sexy you are, and how you give him just enough space. A Libra doesn't necessarily need space to date others, of course they love to weigh their options but it works out better for you once they realize you are the best! Once you got your libra, you will have them for the long haul so long as you don't become clingy, depressed all the time, needy, mean, disrespectful, or criticize them. You don't have to worry about smothering him, because you're not the type. Don't change that. I'm sure he's happy to hear from you, but if you're not his woman yet, then I can assure you that you are in competition but no one probably comes above you. He only talks to others because he doesn't want to smoother you. This will change once you are his, he will drop them like dead flies. He will have no use for them anymore now that he has the one he wants.

However if his feelings are completely there, then he probably just needs a little reassurance from you. LIGHT reassurance every now and then on how much he means to you and where the two of you stand. Meaning, let him know how much you like him, he will want to know why you like him so much so you might as well be prepared to answer that too. Then, just be chill. When you're with him make it rememberable. Not necessarily in terms of sex, but kiss him on the forehead or cheek at a random moment. Then pull away. My Aries got me hook-line-sinker when he would walked into my aunt's room while I was on the phone with my best friend and give me a big juicy long passionate kiss on the lips for no reason! I was like well damn! And then he'd walk out like nothing happen. I swear I melted.

Other times while I was laying next to him, I mean literally we'd be watching t.v and he'd just

rub my back, and kiss me on the cheek. Those type of things your Libra wont forget. Also make the times fun, talk about various different topics, preferably funny ones. When my Aries would say something sweet or funny I couldn't wait to tell everybody, and before I knew it I was talking about him all the time, which turned into thinking about him all the time, and so on and so-forth. Also, don't forget to show your girly side. Be flirty, spontaneous, independent, and sexy. Be free with him, have fun with him. If you have some fun idea's or things you'd like to do; suggest them to your Libra, we will try anything once as long as it's fun and pleases the person we love.

This is so insightful I am a pisces female dating a libra I do really like him but are aware for there need for space so don't smother him. Do you have any advice for me would be really appreciated?

"I'm an Aries - and an alpha female"

This sounds like you're going to put Mr Libra on a leash whenever you can.. The last time I heard someone say they're an alpha female, they were bulldozers gunning down people on their path.. dangerous admission you have there..

And what ALibra wrote seems to be a prologue, there are more, and by the way the Libra woman one doesn't necessarily fit. Your Libra man article is way better, strange how Libras can understand better their opposite gender eh? 😉

Libra is half woman/half man, with incredible insight into the other gender.. I wonder will this Alpha Aries understand the meaning of balance, or will she have to walk on eggshells and compromise who she is just for this...

Not afraid to admit I'm an Alpha ... sometimes it's a great trait to have and other times it's not .. patience is something I've had to learn, and I've definitely picked that up becoming a Mommy. I'm a Mom to a 3-year-old. I'm in the military, and when you work in the environment that I do, you constantly have to watch your back and stand your ground among a male dominated profession.

It took me a minute to get used to but, after communicating with him about what his needs were or how he works - I think we're on the same page. I don't think I was smothering him, in fact if he didn't text then I just wouldn't either - but it did bother me so I, kindly asked him if we were okay. He explained the situation and I think we're on the same page so far.

He's a very good person, and when you say "walking on eggshells," I really don't see it that way ... I genuinely like this guy and for some reason I feel like he balances me out really well which is why I want to keep him around. I don't feel like he has changed me ... I've still got that Aries spunk, after all I think that's what attracted him in the first place.

But I'm willing to wait and see how this all goes ... even if it means I have to challenge my will.

He'll be back in 10 days and we've talked a couple of times since he left - he is visiting his family who he hasn't seen in awhile so I'm not trying to bombard him with too many messages or e-mails.

Wish me luck!

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Not afraid to admit I'm an Alpha ... sometimes it's a great trait to have and other times it's not .. patience is something I've had to learn, and I've definitely picked that up becoming a Mommy. I'm a Mom to a 3-year-old. I'm in the military, and when you work in the environment that I do, you constantly have to watch your back and stand your ground among a male dominated profession.

It took me a minute to get used to but, after communicating with him about what his needs were or how he works - I think we're on the same page. I don't think I was smothering him, in fact if he didn't text then I just wouldn't either - but it did bother me so I, kindly asked him if we were okay. He explained the situation and I think we're on the same page so far.

He's a very good person, and when you say "walking on eggshells," I really don't see it that way ... I genuinely like this guy and for some reason I feel like he balances me out really well which is why I want to keep him around. I don't feel like he has changed me ... I've still got that Aries spunk, after all I think that's what attracted him in the first place.

But I'm willing to wait and see how this all goes ... even if it means I have to challenge my will.

He'll be back in 10 days and we've talked a couple of times since he left - he is visiting his family who he hasn't seen in awhile so I'm not trying to bombard him with too many messages or e-mails.

Wish me luck!

Just be yourself.. if it works, and you're a good person, then you're mutually lucky. But bear in mind Libra doesn't always like being first.. so the opposition clash will be a highlight, especially when you find him holding you back on some things.

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And what ALibra wrote seems to be a prologue, there are more, and by the way the Libra woman one doesn't necessarily fit. Your Libra man article is way better, strange how Libras can understand better their opposite gender eh? 😉

Libra is half woman/half man, with incredible insight into the other gender.. I wonder will this Alpha Aries understand the meaning of balance, or will she have to walk on eggshells and compromise who she is just for this...

ALibra's insight is worrying hah, i disagree on libra male being half and half though, that's a bit far fetched! They just have devastating insights into anothers preferences imho 🙂

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Ok then Libra Females are half and half.. better? 😉 .. Libra males are all male.. actually I think the Libra man covers all bases stronger than the female.

I am dealing with a 16 yr old Libra boy.. he's got ALL bases covered at such a young age.. no difference..