Is it all over (with Libra guy)?

Hi everyone! I've been lurking on this forum for a while and have enjoyed reading many of the discussions on Libran guys. And since I'm here I thought I might share my story with you and get some insight into my current situation.

First of all, for some background information, I'm a Sagittarian girl (Gemini rising) with Moon, Mercury and Venus in Scorpio. The guy in discussion is a Libra Sun, Scorpio Venus and Mercury, Mars in Leo. His Moon sign is either Virgo or Libra (it moved on the day he was born and I don't know the time of his birth).

Okay, this is going to take a while so bear with me. And I apologise if I bore you with too much detail??_

So I met him on an online dating site. He's American and recently moved to Australia for work. And in his profile he said he wanted to meet an outgoing girl to show him around town and for dating/relationship. He contacted me first, and within a few emails we agreed to meet up for coffee. We met and I felt an instant chemistry — he was everything I had been looking for — good-looking, fit, successful and very intelligent. Oh, and he was well-dressed.

To be continued.....

Usually I'm very outgoing and talkative (even a little crazy) but when I'm with a guy I'm attracted to, I lose all ability to be me . This is what happened with him — I was so nervous that at times my mind would draw a blank to the point I can't remember the name of the Prime Minister or simple words like —dominant gene?? — I'm serious :/

Mr. Libra didn't seem to be bothered by my lack of vocabulary/trivia knowledge though and suggested after coffee that we go somewhere and get a drink.

So we did and we talked for another hour and half — I continued to be nervous and basically making a fool of myself. Mr. Libra was all gentlemanly and chivalrous and made me feel very special. He told me he liked me because I was pretty and I seemed like an interesting person, and that he was having a great time.

Eventually my nerves got the better of me and during a moment of awkward silence (Mr. Libra didn't seem to mind at all and was looking into my eyes and smiling when I??_) ??_suddenly said I needed to get going (okay, it was really awkward the way I said it too — like I had had enough and wasn't enjoying myself. I was just really, really nervous). Mr. Libra was surprised/disappointed but continued to act like a gentleman.

He gave me a hug outside the bar and said he??ll give me a call and we??ll hang out again.

The next day, right before midnight he sent me a text and said that he had great time and hoped that we would see each other again. I replied to his text the next morning apologising for my abrupt exit and let him know I??d love to see him again too.

Then nothing. I never heard from him again.

A week later I sent him another text asking how he was and still nothing.

In that same week I realised that some of the text messages I sent to a friend were never received (3 in total) and wondered if the same thing happened with him??_ So I decided to send him an email through the online dating site where we first met (I get an email notification when my emails are read). He read my email and right away replied saying he never received my text and that he was moving that weekend (it was Friday night when he emailed me) and asked me to text him again.

I texted him again and I asked him if he wanted to hang out again to which he replied —yes?? so we agreed to meet the following week. He continued to text me every day just to say —hi, how??s your day??. We never actually chat over text as I don't want to come off as too eager and he's a very busy guy (he works in stock trading). But he always initiates the text messages.

So we met again the following week, and we did a 3 hour scenery walk (I suggested that because he was new to Sydney). After which we had lunch and caught a ferry back to the city (I fell asleep on the ferry, not sure how he felt about that but I was —trying to be myself??). I don't think he was offended though because he suggested that we —walk around?? after we got off the ferry. I was not as nervous as on our first date though.

We went for a drink after that and he told me that he was glad that I'd emailed him. He said when he did not receive a reply to his text, he just figured I wasn't interested. He sounded sincere and I believe he was telling the truth.

The next week he asked me to dinner on Saturday. We met for a very late dinner. He was very considerate — knowing I was vegetarian he took the time to find a very nice vegetarian restaurant even though I told him that I'm not fussy about that.

I have noticed that on all of our dates Mr. Libra was a true gentleman — he was very cautious with the amount of physical contact. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with my ethnic background (I'm Chinese) but the only time he would put his arm around my waist was when we were walking through crowded areas. I never initiated any physical contact because the Rule books said not to (okay maybe I need to stop reading dating books) but I thought I had shown enough interest by asking him out on a 2nd date.

So the only physical contacts we had were: him lightly touching me while talking (arms and legs) on our 2nd date followed by a kiss on my forehead and a peck on the lips at the end of the 2nd date; On the 3rd date, he put his arm around my waist on a couple of occasions (I could feel him being very cautious, almost like he was worried he might offend me by doing that) and he kissed me twice when we parted, I had to pull away both times because my cab was waiting, not because I didn't want the kiss to continue.

He said he wanted to see me again that same week (it was Sunday) and I said okay.

He continued to text me to say "hi" every day and early that week I told him that I was having a busy week and the only time I was available was Sunday, he said Sunday was perfect for him and that he would call later in the week to work out a plan which he did.

We chatted over the phone for a bit and we decided on a couple of things based on the weather (he had checked the weather forecast which said it might rain). So the plan was for him to give me a call on Sunday morning to confirm where we were doing and where we were meeting. He said he was really looking forward to seeing me. The next day (Friday) he again texted me and we had a bit of a chat over text and I told him I was looking forward to Sunday and he said he was, too.

Come Sunday, he never called in the morning. So I texted him in the afternoon, did not get a reply. I called his phone in the evening, it rang a dozen times and went to his voice mail, I left a message for him to call me. Nothing.

On Tuesday I sent him a another text saying that I hoped he was okay and —please drop me a text to let me know you havn't been eaten by a shark?? (he was supposed to be having surfing lesson prior to our Sunday date). Nothing.

This is very strange as Mr. Libra is a very confident guy who always did what he said he would do (at least in the short period of time we were dating). But then again I've only being on 3 dates with him, what do I know about him?

A week later, I noticed that he had deleted his online dating profile. Straightaway, I thought he had met someone. But being the kind of girl who always consults her psychic on matters of the heart I went to see my psychic again. And this time I deliberately went to a lady I had never been to before (My two regular psychics had both told me that although this will not be a happily-ever-after relationship, it will however continue on for some time, instead of just 1 month/3 dates).

The lady I saw was able to tell from the Tarot cards that Mr. Libra was foreign, had dark hair and worked in a highly stressful job. Before I even told her about his disappearance she said that he was having some major problems at work and that he would not have the time for anything else besides work right now (—Give him some space??). She also said that Mr. Libra is the kind of guy whose main focus is in his career and that to him, I'm just —company??, and he??ll come and go depending on whether or not he wants some company at a particular time. She assured me that he will get in touch once he's sorted out the issues at work but this will happen (disappearing) again and again if I were to continue seeing him. Her comments on the 2 other guys I'm dating (Leo and Scorpio) were also spot on so I kind of believe in what she says.

It's been 2 weeks since his disappearance and I still havn't heard anything, besides knowing for a fact that he had deleted his dating profile.

So what do you guy/ladies think? I apologize for the lengthy posts. I know that I will possibly have to move on (and I'm still dating other guys) but Mr. Libra is by far my favourite and I want to see him again 😢 But I will not contact him again unless he contacts me first. So what do you think happened and how likely do you think he'll be in touch?

Thanks in advance 🙂

Posted by QLIbraMale
Thank U for leaving SPACES in your message, that a rare trait on these Libra Boards. 😛

Anyways you still have his number, and email correct? He probably got off the website because he's either into you and no longer needs that date site or, he moving back home over seasee andstarting his new life over again.

Thanks for your feedback QLM 🙂

I'm usually not very organised (okay, this is in fact, quite an understatement) but I thought I'd at least make an effort to make my "essay" easier to read.

Yes, I do have his number but not his email - we always emailed each other through RSVP so now he longer has an account there, I can no longer email him!

I don't think he's moved back overseas, he said he was having all his belongings (including his 1000+ DVD collection and all his paintings/framed photographs) shipped over to Sydney so I assumed he would be here for at least a while. And really, there's nothing wrong with him leaving the country, but he could've texted to let me know instead of leaving me hanging. What he did was RUDE and he is anything but rude!

Well, I figured that since he still has my number and he knows where I work - I took him back to my office to pick up my gym stuff on our last date - he'll be able to find me if he really wanted to. And I'm sure out of the 2 text messages and one voice mail I left him, he's at least received one of them.

So we'll just have to wait and see......

Okay there is good news and bad news. Considering you don't know dude from a can of paint we are going to leave his sign out of this. Because you haven't known him long enough to even know the bumps and curves of his personality that would co-exist with his sign. So in this case im ruling his sign in the matter out.

Good news is, he was very much interested. However the bad news is, AGAIN you don't know him from a can of paint. He could be married and have a whole other life. Usually in brief encounters such as these; tarot, and astrology all aside I look at it as a hidden blessing from God. The person was removed for a reason, and if its meant to be then they will return for an even better reason. You have done all that you can, you've reached out to him and have gotten nothing in return. The best thing you can do is to leave this one alone.

I had a brief encounter with a Sagittarian last summer. It was the best time I've ever had and he always left me thirsty for more. However when he disappeared and started dropping in an out I didn't chase him. I reached out to him once to let him know I was still interested and when he didn't respond I dropped it. He didn't get two and 3 phone calls like you gave your Leeb, I have Leo in my chart so my ego is ridiculous to a point and I'll protect it at ALL cost including disappearing right the hell back. To this very day which is a year later I still think about and even dream about that Sagittarian, often had his number ready press dial but would instantly hang up. I have faith in my religion and relationship with God, so I trust that the Sagittarian was most likely removed for my own good. It's still fun to think about him from time to time tho. That's just how fun he was. So let it go, if he comes back maybe its meant to be, if not then hey??_

Thanks ALibra 🙂

I agree with you that I barely know the guy - we only met 3 times, and I've been saying to friends that yes, although it's hard to imagine him doing what he did, considering he was always so "well-behaved" on our dates, it could've been just a facade.

I don't think he's married though, as he's very open about his past relationships and girlfriends - not that he would go out of his way to talk about them, but he would casually mention them if a topic comes up in our conversation and he has a story to share that involves one of his exes. It didn't bother me at all. But yes, he could still be married >_>

I didn't call him multiple times, after I did not hear from him on the day of our date, I called him once in the evening and left a message. I then sent him a text two days later and that was it, I never contacted him again. And during the month and half we dated, I never called him once, and most of the time only replied to his text messages. When he called, I always ended the conversation first, just because i don't feel comfortable talking on the phone, not because I was playing by the dating rules.

I do have a lot of pride as well (hehe) but when I meet someone I like, my pride goes out the window! The only reason I'm not even thinking about contacting him is that if I've learnt anything from dating books and stories i heard, it's that multiple texts/phone calls are a serious turn-off.

I will definitely not contact him again and if he does come back, he'd better have a very good reason for his disappearance. In his case, he didn't just "disappear" or "drop in and out", he stood me up on our date and that is unacceptable unless he had an accident that rendered him immobile.