Libra disapppears

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Candylipsxoxo on Wednesday, July 12, 2017 and has 5 replies.

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@Candylipsxoxo
9 Years

So my friendly Leeb disappeared. He and I get along very well and we like each other a lot. He told me he had an arguement with his ex which depressed him and he needed a few days to himself. No problem, space is needed at times. I sent a text 4 days later to just check in and see how he was feeling... no answer all day (sent it today). We were doing so well and then out of the blue he just disappears which he did another time when they had an arguement. I don't want to smother him but he usually shuts down when someone pierces his thin skin... and I don't like the silence. Last time it took him 2 weeks to come around again. How can I broach this subject....

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@Chuckcem
15 Years5,000+ Posts

Sounds like you care about him more than "friends". Just because he said he needed a few days, doesn't mean that his emotions will magically change to match that timetable. It sounds like he is still dealing with his feelings, so you will need to be patient. You can't force a Libra to change their feelings or think a certain way.

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@Candylipsxoxo
9 Years

I'll say that I do have feelings for him but it's kind of annoying to be told you're not in love with your ex but she has this effect. I mean I don't know what she said to him but he shut down. So she might just know what to say to him.

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@jeane
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Posted by Candylipsxoxo
So my friendly Leeb disappeared. He and I get along very well and we like each other a lot. He told me he had an arguement with his ex which depressed him and he needed a few days to himself. No problem, space is needed at times. I sent a text 4 days later to just check in and see how he was feeling... no answer all day (sent it today). We were doing so well and then out of the blue he just disappears which he did another time when they had an arguement. I don't want to smother him but he usually shuts down when someone pierces his thin skin... and I don't like the silence. Last time it took him 2 weeks to come around again. How can I broach this subject....

if you're friends be friends. if a female friend doesn't respond to your text within the day, do you fret?

do you count how long it takes them to get back to you?

it doesn't sound like you are even great friends but just someone you know and get along with.

he is still dealing with stuff with his ex. leave him to get past that.

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