Libra Inaction (tldr, nothing happens) (Page 2)

Posted by GeminiSparkle
It's so sad that many Librans are like this. The whole inaction thing, I really feel it's because they are afraid of rejection for the most part, the second part is that they 'think' a lot and they realize that if they do initiate and things go as planned then they will have to work at it, and that for a Libran is a big reason to not initiate. Being the charming characters they are should be enough for a woman to want to fawn over them. Libra's love to be admired and love the idea of seduction, it's a turn on for them, so if they have to do the ground work they can't get the same feelings they would if the woman they really liked initiated and seduced them instead. Some people call it lazy, but I see it differently, I understand that it's their thing. Beware of a Libran that is all up in your face and initiating, coz if you meet on of them they only want one thing from you. Supprisingly enough, the best Librans to have a full on committed relationship with are the ones that expect you to do the work, they will repay you in full plus more with their devotion (even if they can't tell you, they show you).

This only works with Libran's though, any other guy that is not a Libran that expects you to persue, is generally a calculated player that wants you to make the moves so he doesn't have to make you any promises, or else he's so shy he's incapable, in either case you should just move on.

So basically they want it set up so they put forth as little effort as possible, get their insecure ego stroked, and have an out should they choose to be flaky?

Sounds like a winner.

So basically they want it set up so they put forth as little effort as possible, get their insecure ego stroked, and have an out should they choose to be flaky?
Sounds like a winner.

Actually sounds like quite a good percentage of men really, did I forget to mention they are tight as fuck also. On the plus side if a Libran commits he will do his best not to let you go.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
So basically they want it set up so they put forth as little effort as possible, get their insecure ego stroked, and have an out should they choose to be flaky?
Sounds like a winner.

Actually sounds like quite a good percentage of men really, did I forget to mention they are tight as fuck also. On the plus side if a Libran commits he will do his best not to let you go.

This whole branch off ain't right. To rric's quote, everyone wants that. If you think not, consider the opposite. You put in tons of effort, instead of ego stroking you get nagging and nit picking, and you don't get an out.
Sounds horrible.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
It's so sad that many Librans are like this. The whole inaction thing, I really feel it's because they are afraid of rejection for the most part, the second part is that they 'think' a lot and they realize that if they do initiate and things go as planned then they will have to work at it, and that for a Libran is a big reason to not initiate. Being the charming characters they are should be enough for a woman to want to fawn over them. Libra's love to be admired and love the idea of seduction, it's a turn on for them, so if they have to do the ground work they can't get the same feelings they would if the woman they really liked initiated and seduced them instead. Some people call it lazy, but I see it differently, I understand that it's their thing. Beware of a Libran that is all up in your face and initiating, coz if you meet on of them they only want one thing from you. Supprisingly enough, the best Librans to have a full on committed relationship with are the ones that expect you to do the work, they will repay you in full plus more with their devotion (even if they can't tell you, they show you).

This only works with Libran's though, any other guy that is not a Libran that expects you to persue, is generally a calculated player that wants you to make the moves so he doesn't have to make you any promises, or else he's so shy he's incapable, in either case you should just move on.

The first part of this is true, for me at least. I recognize my fears and confidence "issues". I do hesitate with women because I expect rejection. True or not, it is my automatic response. More than that, it's an idea that I don't know what to do if she said yes anyway. Then its planning and surprises and much less hermitting. Letting someone see how dorky you really are.

I don't agree with wanting a woman to seduce me though. Once all that planning and dating stuff starts, it good. It actually comes kind of natural once it is started. I just can't get the ball rolling.

For me personally, it is only with womenthat I have confidence problems. In every other area I am very confident and successful.

Oh and it's not an overwhelming crippling fear or nothing like that. It's fine. Im just cautious. I don't take risks or put myself out there much is all. I don't expect/want a woman to pursue or do the chasing. I have just historically had them express interest first.

Posted by tiziani
I think the whole chasing thing just isn't for Libras in general. When we chase, it's laughably bad how inconsistent it is and when women chase it's just awkward. We live and stay outside that world where we're probably best with people who are happy to let things happen naturally. If the people who are chasers or chasees into the dating game see that as lazy, so be it.

+1000

Posted by tiziani
I think the whole chasing thing just isn't for Libras in general. When we chase, it's laughably bad how inconsistent it is and when women chase it's just awkward. We live and stay outside that world where we're probably best with people who are happy to let things happen naturally. If the people who are chasers or chasees into the dating game see that as lazy, so be it.

I was thinking about this recently, this is very true. The natural thing is big. Most of my past relationships were with someone I knew as a friend first. Be it church, school, neighborhood...it was someone I spent regular time with. At some point the amount of time increases, and increases, and then she falls in love with me haha.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
So basically they want it set up so they put forth as little effort as possible, get their insecure ego stroked, and have an out should they choose to be flaky?
Sounds like a winner.

Actually sounds like quite a good percentage of men really, did I forget to mention they are tight as fuck also. On the plus side if a Libran commits he will do his best not to let you go.

I know, I was about to say the same thing, really.

Sounds like a lot of guys with a cakey eaty mentality.

And Sid, not everyone wants that. Only lazy, entitled people who treat others as an emotional band aid do. Anyone who has their shit together doesn't go around putting half assed effort into a relationship, expect maximum reward, all while they think they can take off when they stop getting their selfish needs met/something else shiny comes along. ...sounds like something a 21 year old would do, really.

In all actuality, both parties should be putting in as much as the other is, and both should be equally appreciated for doing so.

LibraSid
See the Librans I've dated seemed to want to be seduced, things were only natural after I had made the first move, this includes initiating in the bedroom. I felt like the Libra maybe thought they were initiating but they do it in such a subtle way that it could go over ones head. And therefore it definitely feels like you are making the moves to seduce the Libra, once started they are good to go though.

Rockyroadicecream
Yea agreed, but Libra is entitled, didn't you know that lol. I love them, but geez they are hard work. I once read somewhere that 'If you are in a relationship with a Libra and you tell them you like something (say a type of flavored candy bar they brought in the shopping) that they will never buy it again. And I have to say that, that actually resonated with me, because it's so fucking true, I've experienced this. And also I have this experience with Libra when in a relationship, that they don't like seeing you really happy (fucking weird I know) maybe they like to be rescuers, I don't know, I give up. Maybe Librasid can enlighten me, I love his honesty in all his posts.

Rocky, I agree it should be a balance. I'm libra, neither side should be "putting in more". I was half joking because it would be better to have a good response from little action than a bad response from tons of action. Hope that makes sense, because but yeah both have to try.

Sparkle, I'm not that way at all. My pov is more as a husband than a bf because that's what I know. But if my gf/wife said they liked a certain thing, I get more of it. I looked at it kind of like "my job" to make her smile everyday. Sometimes that is as easy as bringing home that favorite candy bar she mentioned.

I've seen the rescuer thing mentioned about libra's before. Sometimes a point or two hits home but for me the basis of it is all off. I don't want to rescue someone if it means they're a screwed up person who can't hack it. I do however like to think I somehow make their life better or easier. Not rescuing though.

LibraSid

Okay that's great to know, thanks.


Libra Sid and Tiziani

Question: What would it take for you to want to pursue and make the first move on a woman, what qualities would she have to possess that would make you HAVE to make that first move, have to have her or risk never get to know her, losing her?

Posted by GeminiSparkle
LibraSid

Okay that's great to know, thanks.


Libra Sid and Tiziani

Question: What would it take for you to want to pursue and make the first move on a woman, what qualities would she have to possess that would make you HAVE to make that first move, have to have her or risk never get to know her, losing her?

Her telling me I should...I guess that's her making the first move still...dammit!

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Rockyroadicecream
Yea agreed, but Libra is entitled, didn't you know that lol. I love them, but geez they are hard work. I once read somewhere that 'If you are in a relationship with a Libra and you tell them you like something (say a type of flavored candy bar they brought in the shopping) that they will never buy it again. And I have to say that, that actually resonated with me, because it's so fucking true, I've experienced this. And also I have this experience with Libra when in a relationship, that they don't like seeing you really happy (fucking weird I know) maybe they like to be rescuers, I don't know, I give up. Maybe Librasid can enlighten me, I love his honesty in all his posts.

I like Sid's posts, too.

And I think that a lot do like to be the rescuer/white knight. I realized this about one I dated when we saw the kind of girls he'd go after. He behaved like that toward me and I think he started to get bored with everything when he realized I didn't need rescuing and that I didn't NEED him like he thought.

Insecure people do that, though- the whole rescue/white knight thing. It's a really unhealthy approach to relationships, tbh.

Wow wrong thread. my bad.

Tizani:
"but the fact I can't remember should say everything"

Haha 🙂 ohhh so passive. What is your Venus and Mars signs if you don't mind me asking?

LibraSid:
"Her telling me I should...I guess that's her making the first move still...dammit!"

So funny! and yet again passive. What is your Venus and Mars also please, if you don't mind?

Rockyroadicecream:
"And I think that a lot do like to be the rescuer/white knight. I realized this about one I dated when we saw the kind of girls he'd go after. He behaved like that toward me and I think he started to get bored with everything when he realized I didn't need rescuing and that I didn't NEED him like he thought."

Glad you agree, and I agree with your unhealthy quote as it can become a little narcissistic and could only end with them devaluing you, maybe a little bit of 'You rescue me, I'll rescue you' could be good 🙂

Libra sun
Aries moon
Libra mercury
Leo venus
Scorpio mars
Libra Saturn, Pluto, rising, & lilith. Somebody said that much Libra meant something. I really don't know much astrology.

Posted by GeminiSparkle

Question: What would it take for you to want to pursue and make the first move on a woman, what qualities would she have to possess that would make you HAVE to make that first move, have to have her or risk never get to know her, losing her?

I've been thinking about this more. When o read the question I knew there was something I wanted to say but didn't know how. Still don't but that ain't gonna stop me haha.

First, I don't think there will ever be a woman who could make me feel pains of loosing her before I really knew her. I can develop crushes (Such a high school girl word 😢) but don't get attached easy.

When I fell like I have to do something, it with someone I'm already comfortable with. I'm comfortable and will talk to anyone, but you gotta be something special if I'm gonna take those conversations to heart.

Plus, historically for me, I've never made the first move...with anyone...ever.

At least not seriously. A buddy and me were wondering if we were weird because he's shy just like me, but not as bad (he's aries sun, libra moon)...so just to make sure we could, we went to the mall and hit on everyone. We got lots of numbers and it was good for confidence. We never called anyone from it though, that really was just to see.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Tizani:
"but the fact I can't remember should say everything"

Haha 🙂 ohhh so passive. What is your Venus and Mars signs if you don't mind me asking?

Lol yeah I am passive as hell, you're right. Virgo Venus and Mars conjunct here.

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My leeb ex had those placements too along with his scorp moon. He was veeeery passive. It took him 8 months to tell me that he wanted a relationship. lol Sometimes that's the problem with leeb + leeb or leeb + air sign because most automatically think the other is just being friendly.

Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani 🙂

So if you guys don't really make first moves, then how would a girl who comes up and talks to you know if you were interested in her as more than a friend if being Libra you are genuinely friendly to everyone? Any signs? Are you more nervous? do you act more serious instead of really friendly, so you keep the conversation short? or is the opposite.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani 🙂

So if you guys don't really make first moves, then how would a girl who comes up and talks to you know if you were interested in her as more than a friend if being Libra you are genuinely friendly to everyone? Any signs? Are you more nervous? do you act more serious instead of really friendly, so you keep the conversation short? or is the opposite.

You will know, darling, you will know. It's the little things that doesn't seem like much at first. It's veeery subtle but they'd always be there for you when you need them. You'll have their full attention. They'd listen to whatever you say, make mental notes and even bring it up a few weeks/months/years later on. Some might be jittery. You'll notice the stolen glances as well. Pay attention to their body language. Pay attention to their smiles. Leebs have different smiles like everyone else. They have a smile for every mood, even a smile before they lash out. There's that specific smile for that too like saying 'you don't know what you got yourself into'. Watch how his eyes light up when he sees you.

Sorry gtg now. I'll be back later.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani 🙂

So if you guys don't really make first moves, then how would a girl who comes up and talks to you know if you were interested in her as more than a friend if being Libra you are genuinely friendly to everyone? Any signs? Are you more nervous? do you act more serious instead of really friendly, so you keep the conversation short? or is the opposite.

When I first talk to someone my interest is nothing more than a conversation. I need to know a person some before I develop an interest in more. Although I've rarely been single in my life, I've never actively looked for a girlfriend. I don't know. Like I said, my girlfriends have always been someone I already knew. I talk to everyone and anyone. When I take a shining to someone the attention just kind of grows. Weve talked more, hung out more. Earlier in the thread tiziani said "natural".


Me being friendly and open is just me. It has nothing to do with my attraction, or lack thereof, to the person I'm talking to. When I'm interested I definitely try to talk longer and more frequently. Well not just talk, but see, be near, whatever. Ya know? I wouldn't say more serious though, I'm pretty playful in general, interested or not. I would be more flirtatious but my definition of that was always different than most.

As much as I dislike this generic answer, you'd just know. Nervousness would be a dead give away for me. If I wasn't interested I wouldn't care enough to be nervous.

Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani you are both so informative.

Okay, so what if you thought a woman you really liked or were in a relationship with was going to move on. Would that jolt you out of your comfort zone, would you still be laid back and just let her walk away. I've actually left two Libra's and they just let me (despite both later saying I was the love of their lives). Whenever thought I was about to wonder away they would buy me expensive gifts, but never say how they felt. Gifts don't do much for a Gemini, at the end of the day we fall in love with your mind, nothing else.

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Posted by GeminiSparkle
Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani you are both so informative.

Okay, so what if you thought a woman you really liked or were in a relationship with was going to move on. Would that jolt you out of your comfort zone, would you still be laid back and just let her walk away. I've actually left two Libra's and they just let me (despite both later saying I was the love of their lives). Whenever thought I was about to wonder away they would buy me expensive gifts, but never say how they felt. Gifts don't do much for a Gemini, at the end of the day we fall in love with your mind, nothing else.

Move on in what way? Move on to the next level or move on without them? It will 'jolt' them but it can either be good or bad depending on what you meant by moving on.

Something I observed being a leeb and how leebs react is, if you make them feel that you'd rather not have them in your life, their reaction will be, "If you're better off without me and that's what would make you happy, then I'll let you go. We all have a right to find the person that can give us what we need". In short, it's like saying, "If that's what you want, I won't stop you".

So if that's really not your intention, it's better to be clear. Tell them what you want and that you'd like the relationship to go forward or be more exclusive, etc. Be clear with your intention because how you say things and what you do will impact their decision.

In general, reverse psychology doesn't work with leebs. They'd consider it as you playing games so it's best to say what you mean and mean what you say. Besides, it's confusing. Leebs value your words and actions so don't give them mixed signals. This applies to other sun signs as well.

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Posted by GeminiSparkle
Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani you are both so informative.

Okay, so what if you thought a woman you really liked or were in a relationship with was going to move on. Would that jolt you out of your comfort zone, would you still be laid back and just let her walk away. I've actually left two Libra's and they just let me (despite both later saying I was the love of their lives). Whenever thought I was about to wonder away they would buy me expensive gifts, but never say how they felt. Gifts don't do much for a Gemini, at the end of the day we fall in love with your mind, nothing else.

Move on in what way? Move on to the next level or move on without them? It will 'jolt' them but it can either be good or bad depending on what you meant by moving on.

Something I observed being a leeb and how leebs react is, if you make them feel that you'd rather not have them in your life, their reaction will be, "If you're better off without me and that's what would make you happy, then I'll let you go. We all have a right to find the person that can give us what we need". In short, it's like saying, "If that's what you want, I won't stop you".

So if that's really not your intention, it's better to be clear. Tell them what you want and that you'd like the relationship to go forward or be more exclusive, etc. Be clear with your intention because how you say things and what you do will impact their decision.

In general, reverse psychology doesn't work with leebs. They'd consider it as you playing games so it's best to say what you mean and mean what you say. Besides, it's confusing. Leebs value your words and actions so don't give them mixed signals. This applies to other sun signs as well.

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Well said.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Thanks LibraSid and Tiziani you are both so informative.

Okay, so what if you thought a woman you really liked or were in a relationship with was going to move on. Would that jolt you out of your comfort zone, would you still be laid back and just let her walk away. I've actually left two Libra's and they just let me (despite both later saying I was the love of their lives). Whenever thought I was about to wonder away they would buy me expensive gifts, but never say how they felt. Gifts don't do much for a Gemini, at the end of the day we fall in love with your mind, nothing else.

A woman I like and a woman I'm in a relationship with would also get different reactions. If it's just someone I'm interested in and they are ready to move on, eh whatever. I hadn't started building anything with her. A girlfriend, there's some feeling there so yeah you don't want to see them go (if I did I've have broken up already), but I ain't trying to "make" anyone stay either.

People often comment about the grass being greener on the other side. I say that's because they water it and feed it.

Ultimately that's how I got over my exes. I don't want someone who doesn't want me. All the bull shit drama I've had with the latest ex is because I wouldn't accept that.

If your partner is ready to move on, you have no choice but to let them.

Very insightful guys and gals, thank you 🙂