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Hi ok so I need help! Ive been dating this wonderful guy for about two months! We were getting along great he even told me he loved me and wanted me to always be around. He introduced me to his parents and everything and out of nowhere he started to become distant fewer texts dry phone convos and he didn't seem like he wanted to see me as much. He pretty much stopped telling me how he felt verbally and when I ask he said it's not me its just how he gets he just wants to be alone and not bothered by anyone at times and I couldn't understand the comets switch so I asked him reassuring questions and my pms didn't make it better because I'm super sensitive during that time so I may have annoyed him asking the same questions over and over. Now I've been the one reaching out but he's been making it clear he wants to be to self he also says things like some days he wants a relationship some days he doesn't. I don't know what to do so I kinda fell back a lil..I texted and told him I care about him and that I fell fast and just wanna make sure the feelings are mutual and he didn't respond ... Before that we were on the phone going back and forth about being together him saying he didn't wanna hurt me when he got in these modes and If he felt like he didn't want to be with me he would say it.. We only texted once yesterday and it was from me reaching out. At this point I don't know if I truly have pushed him away and should let go.. Or if I just need to give him space and time. I've read libra men can get distant so I just need to know because I really feel we have something special and really don't want to loose it if i haven't already....
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Posted by Lovehim15
Hi ok so I need help! Ive been dating this wonderful guy for about two months! We were getting along great he even told me he loved me and wanted me to always be around. He introduced me to his parents and everything and out of nowhere he started to become distant fewer texts dry phone convos and he didn't seem like he wanted to see me as much. He pretty much stopped telling me how he felt verbally and when I ask he said it's not me its just how he gets he just wants to be alone and not bothered by anyone at times and I couldn't understand the comets switch so I asked him reassuring questions and my pms didn't make it better because I'm super sensitive during that time so I may have annoyed him asking the same questions over and over. Now I've been the one reaching out but he's been making it clear he wants to be to self he also says things like some days he wants a relationship some days he doesn't. I don't know what to do so I kinda fell back a lil..I texted and told him I care about him and that I fell fast and just wanna make sure the feelings are mutual and he didn't respond ... Before that we were on the phone going back and forth about being together him saying he didn't wanna hurt me when he got in these modes and If he felt like he didn't want to be with me he would say it.. We only texted once yesterday and it was from me reaching out. At this point I don't know if I truly have pushed him away and should let go.. Or if I just need to give him space and time. I've read libra men can get distant so I just need to know because I really feel we have something special and really don't want to loose it if i haven't already....
Just give him his own space and do what you gotta do. You've already made it known where you stand. If he wants to pull away then that's his loss.
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Posted by Lovehim15
I'm a Taurus.
eek. While I don't want to rain on your parade, it could be a lost clause. You Taurus's can be a lot to handle and are actually one of the worst matches for Libra (you frustrate us Gems too sometimes):

Taurus: Taurus and Libra share an appreciation for music, art, and luxury, but that's where the similarities abruptly end. Taurus is quite regimented, plan-oriented, and methodical which rubs free-spirited Libra the wrong way. Libra's inability to make decisions promptly or definitively will frustrate Taurus to no end. Neither of these signs is patient either, meaning this union lacks staying power over time.

Of course there is more to it than just your Sun sign. Only time will tell. Good luck.
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Yea I know we don't seem like the perfect match per our signs.. I guess I got so wrapped up in him courting me and everything we did just felt right! Joking around to talking about serious things so I'm just confused what went wrong .. Idk why this is tripping me out. I usually would be the oh well moving on type but he's got me so confused and I really let my guard down with him so I didn't wanna just give up.
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Posted by Lovehim15
So right now I don't know if I should contact him at all to say hello or what since I really don't know where we stand or should I just leave the initiating to him? He also said that he may be depressed.. So I don't want him to think its all about me and my feelings either...
Leave it alone. Give him time. Your rushing things and he might not like that. Suck it up. Pulling away sometimes, especially when the relationship is in the development stage, is actually quite common. I recommend checking out the thread "Guide to Dating Libra."

You can also do some reading here:

http://www.horoscopecompatibility.com/libra/compatibility.html
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This is normal. Typical fell in love with the "idea" of being with someone and when it's real at their feet they need "space" time to make sure they made the right decision. There's no trick to handling us when we get like this but to live your life and fall back. We actually think about you more when you leave us alone in this mode.

I do anyway. If he's unsure if he wants a relationship I would start dating other that know for a fact they do. Dating someone that doesn't know what they want is very stressful and not worth the headache.
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You fell for it, hook, line, and sinker.

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Realize that if a Libra falls head over heels for you very quickly this is good and bad.

It's good because they feel a connection with you and there is a possibility that you guys will have future together.

It's bad because the Libra doesn't know you yet but they think and feel that they do. They could make all types of promises and be talking about your future together, marriage, kids the whole works. But, the moment you have your first argument or you let some food fall out of your mouth accidentally while eating and talking at the same time, BINGO! The lights go on and the libra says to themselves, "I don't know this person at all! But, I've been talking about marrying them and I already let them meet my family. Oh shyt, what do I do now—" Cue disappearance or slow fade of libra.

The only way to keep this from happening is to control the timing and remind libra that you all need to take time getting to know each other. Let them know you're happy you have such a strong attraction and connection. Also let them know that because you want to get the relationship right (Libra wants this too), you think it's important to slow down and really get to know one another before all the big stuff is even discussed.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/guide-to-dating-a-libra-5568687/?p=2
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Thanks for your views. It's crazy because initially I was the one who was guarded and hesitant.. Even when he said I love you I didn't say it back tho I do feel I love him I just was afraid to say it so soon... And when I finally let my guard down it seems that's when the fade began. I think it's more so that I came in guarded and now that I'm all in I'm feeling foolish because he's withdrawn. I'll give him space tho.. And see where it goes. It seems hopeless but I still have hope.
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Posted by gemguyaz34
Posted by Lovehim15
I'm a Taurus.
eek. While I don't want to rain on your parade, it could be a lost clause. You Taurus's can be a lot to handle and are actually one of the worst matches for Libra (you frustrate us Gems too sometimes):

Taurus: Taurus and Libra share an appreciation for music, art, and luxury, but that's where the similarities abruptly end. Taurus is quite regimented, plan-oriented, and methodical which rubs free-spirited Libra the wrong way. Libra's inability to make decisions promptly or definitively will frustrate Taurus to no end. Neither of these signs is patient either, meaning this union lacks staying power over time.

Of course there is more to it than just your Sun sign. Only time will tell. Good luck.
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def not true, if you do extensive research on taurus and libra, you will this combination is highly popular. yes, they all do not last, but it's the start the counts, it's on you to make it to the end.
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Two weeks is a long time and it's selfish that he is taking that long and not even sending you a text at least once a day. But like freshnog said, just be patient and focus on yourself because he clearly needs time alone. It's like libras constantly need to be refreshed or something, charging their batteries ‚ who knows, but I wouldn't text or call him if I was you... Let him come to you. Good luck and be patient, let us know any news.
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Yea I mean we talked everyday and texted but just not as much I was saying that was at least once a day so and a lot of time he would text one part of the day I would call another part of the day and if he didn't answer he'd call back but this no contact at all thing just happend yesterday. But I'm being optimistic... It's just crazy when we first met we spent hourssss on the phone talking anout everything now our convos are like basic how's Ur day what you eat... We Spent every weekend sometimes the entire weekend together lol so maybe he's trying to rebalance from all that time.
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Good. Yes some people are very positive where as others claim to be realist but they're actually very pessimistic and negative, so be careful whom you take advice from. I have Been into astrology for like 6 years now I have a lot of experience with libras and basically all the other signs except for Gemini and aquarius, don't know a lot about them. If you need anything else you can PM me whenever. 😉
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Posted by Lovehim15
Thanks for your views. It's crazy because initially I was the one who was guarded and hesitant.. Even when he said I love you I didn't say it back tho I do feel I love him I just was afraid to say it so soon... And when I finally let my guard down it seems that's when the fade began. I think it's more so that I came in guarded and now that I'm all in I'm feeling foolish because he's withdrawn. I'll give him space tho.. And see where it goes. It seems hopeless but I still have hope.
I was in the SAME boat. Was putting on the brakes, keeping him in check. Finally started easing into things and getting comfortable, and BAM he changes on me.

Immature Libra men are a joke to date, tbh.
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Posted by Lovehim15
Yea I guess it's even harder because we are still a new relationship.. And for a new relationship were still getting to know each other.. Haven't seen him in 2 weeks just feel like he should miss me by now!
It's it just me, but how do you women put up with this kind of behaviour. It's kinda of crap!! Disappearing for two weeks?! Push and pull?

Jeez is it me or are my leo placements out of control?! Surely that's pretty selfish of the libra person. So the rest of us have to put up with this kind of behaviour?! Where does the patience come from? For a new relationship and trying to get to.know the person that is disgusting behaviour! Is that kind of behaviour necessary?

I just delete!!!!
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Desperation is why some of these women stick around and tolerate this crap.

It's one thing to understand things happen and people get busy. But not seeing someone for 2 weeks when you're in a relationship is just weird, barring any circumstances that make it really hard to do (conflicting schedules, for example). It's promising that he keeps in touch to make up for it, but generally it is NOT a promising sign tbh. He can text but he doesn't bring up seeing you? Uh no.

This isn't how relationships are supposed to work, people. Telling her to "wait" around for him is fucking stupid.

This shit just sounds like the typical scenario the Libra forum sees 578354 a month.

"I USED TO HEAR FROM HIM AND SEE HIM ALL THE TIME. NOW HE'S DISAPPEARED!!! WHAT DO I DOOOOO??"

Fairy tale replies usually are "enable bullshit behavior and wait around."

I mean yeah, sure, wait to see what the hell is going on, but if it starts spanning out well beyond what's necessary (like in this thread), bring that shit up and figure out what's really going on.

I have a feeling we're going to keep hearing about these issues from this user for a bit.
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while it is one thing to be hesitant, it is another to discount someone solely because they are not complying to a schedule you've deemed appropriate. if this guy is making real effort to keep in touch and she believes his intentions are good then it would be foolish to cut things off because they haven't seen each other in two weeks.

relationships are negotiations. you negotiate. you compromise. you argue. you tell the other person what is important to you and if they are worth their weight, they will do everything in their power to make it work. you can't just get rid of someone because you are not getting what you want at this exact moment in time.

if that is your strategy then it doesn't take a genius to work out why you're single. no one has been able to live up to your expectations 100% of the time.
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You're clearly misunderstanding.

The fact he's keeping in touch is a good thing and promising, but combined with his lack of attempt to see her, it counters it a bit so it makes it not so promising, in a sense. I understand her confusion.

She does need to speak up and clear the air instead of asking us what she should do. The main issue here seems to be communication, or lack thereof.

HOWEVER, the whole point is that if this continues like it does, like we've seen SO many times before from women getting screwed around on, then yeah she should cut ties before she gets sucked into that infamous Libra dude cycle that can be impossible to get out of.

In case you didn't realize, I was addressing another user's comment in regard for women here having too much "patience." The thing with all the chicks that come here is that they are not being "patient," they're being desperate. They're hanging around, wringing their wrists over some stupid fuck behavior when they should be taking action and doing something about it.

As per usual with the coddling Libra crowd, we get another "OMG HE'S CHANGING ON ME AND BEING WEIRD. WTF MATE" and the usual response is "oh just wait around/enable crappy behavior in some way, shape, or form." Why? Because that's what YOU guys would want people to do for YOU when you're going through your flaky fuck bullshit toward other people. "Oh just wait around while we decide what we feel like doing with you!"

Something the fucknuts on this website seem to fail to understand is when I give the advice I give, it's telling women not to tolerate bullshit and being treated like they are, which is crappy. That doesn't mean drop things at the first sign of trouble. Of course they need to find out wtf is going on. They need to communicate, which many DON'T do here. They come running to the interwebs as if it's a magic crystal ball that will tell them what's really happening, which, might I add, at that point, the garbage they're whining about has been going on for quite some time with very little change. The reality is that they should be addressing these issues with the dude. If his reaction is as full of shit as his behavior, then absolutely, drop the dude. "Why?" Why NOT? Why should someone stay with someone else who treats them with little respect and makes them miserable?

"Let him miss you." If you gotta play these type of games to keep a guy around, something ain't right.
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Posted by jeane
if that is your strategy then it doesn't take a genius to work out why you're single. no one has been able to live up to your expectations 100% of the time.
Sweetheart, that's because most of the guys women come here about are assholes. You don't hear happy women with good guys coming here whining about their relationships, do you?

Let me save you some time- Nope.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by jeane
if that is your strategy then it doesn't take a genius to work out why you're single. no one has been able to live up to your expectations 100% of the time.
Sweetheart, that's because most of the guys women come here about are assholes. You don't hear happy women with good guys coming here whining about their relationships, do you?

Let me save you some time- Nope.
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please stop with the terms of endearment. it's passive aggressive, unnecessary and makes you sound like a bitch.

of course, it's always the guys fault. heaven forbid, women stop for a bit of introspection, see a pattern forming and consider that possibly they are the common denominator in this equation.
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Posted by Sugarfoot
Posted by Lovehim15
Yea I guess it's even harder because we are still a new relationship.. And for a new relationship were still getting to know each other.. Haven't seen him in 2 weeks just feel like he should miss me by now!
It would have been helpful to know that from the beginning :/ How often were you guys seeing each other in the 1st 6 weeks? Is there a reason you haven't seen him in 2 weeks?

Bottom line is this:

You need to back it up and realize that you do not know this dude. 2 months is not a lot of time, especially if you're not spending a great amount of time in each others presence. I went back and read over the OP. This guy is vacillating over whether or not he wants to be in a relationship and now he's fading away. He senses a loss of his freedom. This is exactly what I'd do if I were you: give him his freedom back.

I'd just be like, "I've noticed that things between us aren't the same. You've said that sometimes you don't want to be in a relationship. I don't want you to feel that you're obligated to be with me. I love hanging out with you and I think we have an awesome connection. It's cool with me if we just go back to getting to know each other like in the beginning without the pressure. I'd like to slow things down a bit. Do you think we jumped into this too fast?" Guage his response, but keep in mind how YOU want to be treated and what's fair to YOU.

It may be for the best if you back out of the commitment in an honest and direct way. Not the way he's doing it.

Then you're free to do whatever you want and he's free to figure out what the hell he wants without dangling you on a string.
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i agree. great advice.
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Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Lol I'm tired of people arguing on here it's so annoying and pointless. We don't know each other in person we don't have a right to speak to each other all rude. People come here support, answers and insight. Not to have more drama in their lives
Careful. According to one person who comes around, you might be encouraging bad behavior by giving your own take on things and we don't want that! 😉
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