need advice about a Libra woman (Page 2)

I think he is just afraid of rejection. Why all the what if's— 😢

What if you don't try—😢

You seem to have every excuse NOT to do something.

She is obviously busy right now because of the time of year. I suspect she and family are close and the next few days are going to be hectic for them.

Do you see her at work— If so, like i suggested, buy the gift, give it to her with good wishes to her and her family for the holiday season.

After Christmas, ask her out for coffee, not a big date, a small gesture in friendship.

DO SOMETHING and stop playing every scenario over and over in your head. OK—??

The Leebra

Hello!!! Once again different languages...Ask her to "go out with you" "be your girlfriend" "be an item" whatever you want to call it!!! TO THE POINT! I think you've been flirting around long enough to make a call one way or another.

You really have to stop playing games mate and find out one way or another and then deal with it!

....lol..... you're making my head hurt.

lol...thats all the thinking....stop thinking, then it wont hurt....God, all that thinking would most certainly do my head in - sheesh LOL

oH great I managed to go through 3 quater of your post, go to her and ask her if you can give her a hug and say please then warm smile and she'll be very happy with you.

Denny... did you ask her out yet? You never updated us.

no i couldnt get up to the mall to get the ornament i wanted too....and the only day i could go out with her would be christmas eve and i know she would be busy gettign ready for xmas....so to answer your question i didnt ask her....all i did was send her a merry xmas text on christmas...and she sent me one back the day after xmas. I think whatever little hope i had went out the window...im not asking her out because i just dotn have a good feeling about it..especially around the holidays, shes gonna tell me shes busy and this and that...idk...i was thinking of asking her out next week and giving her a late gift but idk...if you notice, all i ever say is idk, idk, idk, idk, idk, idk...because i never f'n know waht to do

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Oh welllllll. You're probably doing the right thing. I have a feeling if she was really interested you would have known it.

Maybe she'll discover she misses you after a while, and maybe by then you'll be over it. 🙂 Ooops.

I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there hoping you'd give up on that girl so you'll notice them. ♥

erm, I think your bedroom's a bit scary but idk, ijdk 😛
are you in a band? I like 🙂

all i did was send her a merry xmas text on christmas...and she sent me one back the day after xmas. I think whatever little hope i had went out the window...im not asking her out because i just dotn have a good feeling about it..

You know what, what if she's being as indecisive as you - lol - that'll be cute when you finally get together. OK dream scene over ...

It's a good idea to invite her after the holidays, bite the bullet, say you didn't invite her over the hols because of what you thought, worse comes to worse, you already have all the rejection scenes ready, right?
have you never had anyone say no to you before?

brianafay:

I have the same feeling...i have a feeling if she was interested in me...i woudl have felt it more than i do. If she decides that she misses me then il deal with that when it comes...but the thing is...i feel like she dont even realy know who i am...i feel like she doesnt know me enough to miss me...i mean we talked in school and on the p hone a few times and some BS text messages...but she didnt get to see me outside of school regular u know...thats why i feel like if she did we may fall in love and have 7 kids ...hahaha

zenalchemy;

im glad u like...no im not in a band....my room is a little scary but i guess it depends on whos doing the looking...Im a die hard Oakland Raiders fan...have been since i was old enough to know what football was....so your tellign me i should swallow my pride and just call her tommorrow or monday and make plans....idk...i feel like if i call her..shes gonna be like "doesnt this kid get the hint"...thats how i feel anyway. She may be excited to hear from me...she was when i called her for Thanksgiving...but idk what happened. I figured if we went out and didnt really hit it off...we would at least be friends, which would be fine for me...but its like, she dont even want to hang out or be friends....im like, wtf did i do to her that she doesnt even want to be friends...thats how i feel anyway. IDK what im gonna do...(like always right?)

ok you're not only gonna hurt yourself with all the idks, you'll hurt us too 😛

i feel like if i call her..shes gonna be like "doesnt this kid get the hint"...thats how i feel anyway
You've managed to talk yourself into and out of the whole thing...now you're gonna make this chip into your self-confidence by using 'kid'...

You gave her hints, then you pulled back, she's confused too, don't you think?
You gotta step-up, she won't say no to a friendship to begin with...have you thought about going the friendship route? removes a lot of the pressure you know?

the frienship route was the only way i was going from the start...i was never going after her as a gf...even though in my head its where i eventually wanted it to lead too...but my intentions were to go out to dinner as friends and do the frienship route. Thats why im like "this girl dont even want to be freinds—"

I was never going to show up to the restaurant with roses the first time...or anything dramatic like that....after hanging out with her a few times, and if things were going good, I would have delt with taht then..but it looks like i dont have to worry about that.

When she said she liked Italian food, i was truly askign her to come to this place with me as a friend cause this place is the best. I never gave her the impression it was a formal date, i downplayed the dinner as much as possible. She was even going to meet me in her work clothes one time..it doesnt get more informal than that...but at the same time the restaurane is like a casual classy place so it woudl have been fine...she coudl have got dressed or went in her work clothes...idk maybe il call her next week...i just dont understand her reasoning for texting me back and showing interest at times to this.

lol - that was pretty funny...

maybe change your friendship route tactics...chitchat some more on the phone or text, find out what else she likes...pull random unpredictable stuff --- dinner or grabbing food may be too obvious where you wanna go...until you find out where she wants you......make your presence known...
oh email her your youtube video 😛
be silly - my Libra guy friends are good at that - pulling silly stuff

im going to send her the youtube clip...but what do i say in the email?

lolololol

but what do i say in the email?

erm, how about 'I did this for you?'
lol ok - joking !

ok something along the lines of...

'a little something I was messing about with, what do you think? my friends think blah blah'
OR
'oh did I tell you I played guitar? check it out, tell me if you think I suck'

Spontaneous-like you know? relax ! please?


hehe - I'll click loads on it so it seems you're famous 🙂 lol

hahaha...dont laugh at me....you see how tense I am? You can sense it through the computer.

Yea, you should leave me a comment on youtube like "your the sexiest guitar player alive...can i have your baby" ahhahahahahaha im kidding...that would be funny...alright im gonna send her the video...should i send her a text saying "check your mail?" ...the indecisiveness again...you see

I'm amazed! when do you ever get anything done?!
don't worry my best friend's a Libra male - I've had practice 😛

yea I have to laugh at you in hopes to get you see how funny it'll be when you look back 1yr from now...

lol, let her see it - texting her will be like making it special, right?

may be up to you to keep the communication lines open and constant once she responds, right? ---- you 2 being indecisive means nothing will happen

alright....im gonna send her an email...now what if i send her the email..and a few days go by where i dont hear from her.....am i still supposed to call her and see about hangin out?

My head is hurting again.....

Just ask the damn girl out after the new year. Ask if she wants to hang out and do something. Go to the mall; whatever. Stop freaking out and over analyzing this shit before I come through this computer and smack you around. Jeeeeshh. 😄

im sorry briana 😢...your head hurts? how do u think i feel? haha

...that is how you'll really know if she's interested or not. Not by assuming or playing different scenarios in your head.

lmao briana, so Sag 😛 but he's so cute, no?

Denny, please stop thinking, for a minute, and act --- the worse that can happen has already happened in your head. Reality is not that different 🙂

If your instinct says call her, email her, text her, then don't think it, do it - just try it once, then the 2nd time gets easier, then 3rd, etc

I think we should ban "what ifs" on this message board— LOL.

Oh to be a Libra with so many what ifs....the world wont stop because you didnt just for once think "what if"....sheesh!!

My poor LIbra ex went through so many what ifs....he used to spend hours deciding if he would go out, he'd weigh up the odds of whether he'd have a good time or not, whether he could be bothered or not and then he'd miss out on going altogether coz once he decided to go, it was too late - it was over. this one time he took so long to get back and make that decision, that he caught the bus into town (so he thought anyway) but it stopped half way to the city as it was the end of the night for the drivers....he walked all the way home again - hilarious!!! His comment though? it was a good night for a walk.....jeeeeeeeeeeze he drove me bonkers LOL.

I know what your saying...but I would have a hard time calling her if she didnt get back to me after I email her. Alright listen...both of you....just stay with me through this...we got this far...dont bail on me now. Im going to email her now and im NOT going to text her to check her mail...just going to email her...and in the email...im going to write "Yami, check out my youtube debut....you can tell me if I suck, I wont be offended"....but now what shoudl I put as the subject? you see, ...it never ends with me...alright il think of a subject heading....but thats what im going to put...is that ok? If you have somethign better for me to write tell me...

LOL !

hahaha....right back at you woman

Press send yet?

haha..what do you think? Im close though...i can feel it

*chants* do it, do it, go on do it, you can do it 😛

im sorry to drag you all into this

im stuck on what to say...this is wha ti got so far

"Yami...check out my youtube debut....(how should I close it?)

more pressing, less talking to dxpeople please... 😛

Im close though...i can feel it
OMG, my libra friend says exactly that when he stalls !

Put "Hey Sexy"

ummm...how about....no dont even think about it, just write this to close it off....

"as you're a woman of the world, Id appreciate your critique".....

Now what's for dinner—

haha...ok...here is the final draft

subject: "hey"

body: "Yami...check out my youtube debut...waht do you think?"

no, no more drafts, give me your address, I'll come over, knock on the door, you'll let me in and I'll send the damned email for you!!!!

Just do it - its killing us here!!!

close it off w/ "feel free to critique me"

ok ok ok...im gonna send it....here I go.....right now....Im gonna do it...I swear....alright F it....here goes

SUBJECT: Hi

BODY: "Yami, check out my youtube debut....you can tell me if I suck, I wont be offended" or "what do you think"....((INSERT YOUTUBE LINK))

EN😱 Hope all is well - we never got to catch that meal :-)
Take care ((or later dude 😛 ))
Denny.

wooooooooooooooohoooooooooooooooooo you rock!!!!!!

everyone shhhuuuuuuuuussssssssshhhhh - the moment we've been waiting for !!!!!

*drum roll*

Yami....check out my youtube debut....what do you think....feel free to critique me



hope all is well

-Denny


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are yous proud?

hahahahahahahaha.....that is funny....

OMG I am so proud of you - mwah!!!!

Now we can all rest easy but what if she does critique you and you dont like what she says?? LOL

Nah, she'll reply....probably not straight away (from experience, NOTHING is ever in a hurry and ummmmm you prove that LOL). When she does? then you mention that you havent caught up and then let her know that you'd like to and to let you know when her schedule allows it 🙂

you deserve this


lol yea chatz is right, don't over think it, you'll back off again, or you'll end up idealising her to the point where you're scared of her - attempt going with flow when she responds... if it's positive, wow her with more of silliness or getting to know you stuff...I wouldn't push for the meet right away cos you're sensitive if she has scheduling probs, right? plus you need to know if she's interested for real 🙂

if she responds, it is up to you to push communications, it's the beginning so you'll know as time goes by if you're doing all the work, right?

anyway more celebrations

does a hug come with that rose?

ok so if and when she does respond...you will be the first to hear.

🙂

good luck with it all.... 🙂