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ThaLioness
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Okay I know I been on this thread a lot about a damn libra man but now I'm lost on what's going on. Me and my libra guy had an off and on relationship type thing going on for a year. I knew my feelings were at since day one. We basically had a friends with benefit relationship so I knew where my feelings stead must definitely. I think ever since he told me about his health and we argued a lot because of little things. Now things are out of hand. He told me he didn't trust me which I was like okay then he told me about his health issues since I really didn't believe it because all I know he just drinks a lot when he says he's stressed out. He disappeared maybe three times but now the relationship is at its worse. We don't talk much no more ever since he asked me what are we and I said we just sex then he was saying slick things about me taking pictures of him like me driving his car sounds like somewhat someone would do in a relationship. I'm confused if he wanted to be with me no lost interest because now the relationship became just sexual. I feel like he just doesn't care anymore but he told he all the time he does. I think I just made him uncomfortable now like he has to hide his feelings. I think he showed signs he wanted more from me but I messed it up and don't know what to do to fix the friendship atleast. I told him I don't want a relationship and I think he does. Any help. Hopefully I can hear clear answers. It's like when we argue the argument gets flip on me always starting stuff then he says he's done can't do it no more too many games being played which no games being played. I told him I loved him as a friends and cared he always says I know you do. Hmm what kind turn this situation around ?? Now I think he hates me but I can't be mad because all the dumb lil things I do sometimes.
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Posted by topes
'I blocked my libra guy I don't want him to try to crawl back to me when he finally makes up his mind on what he wants to do. So I feel good and I'm going to keep him blocked.'

Thank fuck I'm not involved with a Leo.. No idea this one.
It's fucking crazy how many times this has happened in the Libra forum. Different Leo chicks, ALL the same M.O. Same behaviors. Same responses. 56798357489355489 threads. It's kinda hard not to read these though. The amount of crazy makes it reality show status- it's stupid as fuck, yet you can't help but watch out of morbid curiosity and amazement.

After the 583925728932nd thread, you can't help but start to feel bad for the Libra in question. This is what happens when you stick your dick in crazy...
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ThaLioness
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Posted by scorply
You said you guys had an on and off again "relationship" type thing and then told him it was just sexual... Do you see how this is confusing and comes off as playing games?

A little but if I already made my feelings clear why should there be confusion ? I don't want to express my feelings towards someone that we just have basically a sexual relationship. It's just lust so that's dumb.
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ThaLioness
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Posted by Arielle83
Posted by Tharealher
I'm laughing but you an dummy to respond to a stranger too. So bye bye dummy. No advice never to help. Y'all help other mfs on the same forum but let it be someone like me you pass judgement it's okay wtf this got to do with me coming for advice basically trying to get more clues to my situation.
No you're the dummy or you're insane.

He uses you for sex, but you wish you were special.

He whines when he doesn't get his way. You see that as him wanting you when it's just manipulation to keep your head obsessing over him.

Like you are now.,,

If he didn't have control, you wouldn't be all confused and wondering what he wants.

He still has control.

Get some self respect and move on.
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What dumb ass sign are you
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ThaLioness
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Posted by DollyLuxe
Ok I'm a Libra and you got me confused. You guys are fwb. YOU didn't want a relationship. YOU told him you loved him as a friend. Now YOU are trying to fix.... What exactly? It sounds like he wanted more but you blew him off. Can you really blame him if the "relationship" is purely sexual now? ??

Now I can't be mad. I just don't like leaving on bad terms I did that with my last dude and he ended up passing away. I think he only gave me sex because I wanted it more than ever. I figured that's all he wanted. I just wanted to make sure he doesn't hate me but I see he doesn't want shit to do with me I think he's done for good.
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ThaLioness
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Posted by Arielle83
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Posted by Arielle83
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I'm laughing but you an dummy to respond to a stranger too. So bye bye dummy. No advice never to help. Y'all help other mfs on the same forum but let it be someone like me you pass judgement it's okay wtf this got to do with me coming for advice basically trying to get more clues to my situation.
No you're the dummy or you're insane.

He uses you for sex, but you wish you were special.

He whines when he doesn't get his way. You see that as him wanting you when it's just manipulation to keep your head obsessing over him.

Like you are now.,,

If he didn't have control, you wouldn't be all confused and wondering what he wants.

He still has control.

Get some self respect and move on.

What dumb ass sign are you
You're so defensive.

If he wants you, he wants you.

Yet you can't even get a direct hit from him.

If you're so confused, he isn't direct, and probably doesn't feel the need to be.

You're hanging on his leash.
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Not really getting used if I'm the one asking him for it so whose getting used I said the situation is weird which is I never dealt with someone that doesn't know how to handle their emotions. By telling me to keep my feelings to the side I feel like he was doing manipulation. More fact why am I even explaining myself to someone that doesn't have a real profile pic.
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I don't believe, that It has anything to do with ,what a person sign is , It depends on who you are attracting
I'm a Libra and I've been married to a Libra for close to 30 years , and in any relationship, you are going to have some, confusion if one person, or both aren't, sincere about their feelings, in that relationship.

If all you want is something sexual , then that's what that person is going to give, you, if you want more than, that always, let the other person know, that you want more. before entering into the relationship, cause feelings, for one another can change if , one person wants more and the other person want's less´ thier feelings basically fall asleep on you, because they see that you don't want what they have to offer you, think about it , would you stay if the feelings You have for some one wasn't shared, l know I wouldn't, if I say I love you, then I expect to hear it back, if there is no response or the person says I love you as a friend then that is my Q , basically my way out of that relationship, because we don't share the same emotions for one anotherª
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Posted by Tharealher
I do but I don't know how it is to be someone's girlfriend.
You can start by not letting guys view you as a fuck hole.

Being down for casual sex is one thing. But you've clearly taken it too far. A miscarriage at 21 and fucking around with an older, taken man at 22-23? This isn't "judging" it's an observation of YOUR behavior and how it's negatively affecting you.

You have problems and should probably stay away from men/the dating scene until you get your shit sorted out. You can't be anyone's girlfriend until you know how to be a normal human being that doesn't validate themselves by doing this shit.

Until then, you're going to be viewed as a trainwreck.
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He said he wanted to talk to me. He texted me last night then today he hits me up asking if I'm busy so we can talk then he said he had plans I said that's fine. Then now he flipped out saying leave him alone everyone stressing him out and he doesn't want to be bother with. I asked him if he wants to talk I'm here. But he told me he's done. So I don't know I try he always does this maybe that's why I don't try to pursue a relationship I feel like he blocks me out when I try to be supportive he pushes me away more.
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Posted by Tharealher
He said he wanted to talk to me. He texted me last night then today he hits me up asking if I'm busy so we can talk then he said he had plans I said that's fine. Then now he flipped out saying leave him alone everyone stressing him out and he doesn't want to be bother with. I asked him if he wants to talk I'm here. But he told me he's done. So I don't know I try he always does this maybe that's why I don't try to pursue a relationship I feel like he blocks me out when I try to be supportive he pushes me away more.
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Ok I'm a Libra and you got me confused. You guys are fwb. YOU didn't want a relationship. YOU told him you loved him as a friend. Now YOU are trying to fix.... What exactly? It sounds like he wanted more but you blew him off. Can you really blame him if the "relationship" is purely sexual now? ??

Now I can't be mad. I just don't like leaving on bad terms I did that with my last dude and he ended up passing away. I think he only gave me sex because I wanted it more than ever. I figured that's all he wanted. I just wanted to make sure he doesn't hate me but I see he doesn't want shit to do with me I think he's done for good.
You do realize Libras are all about fairness. Sit down and talk to him. Trust me he would want to hear you out. You'll get the closure you want if you just TALK to him.
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you know - I hear you but if they are fair people why does Libra treat people unfairly ?
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Well if I'm getting used he's getting used too. I think I come off sexual towards people I don't see people for their feelings sometimes. He says I'm selfish which is true I am but I have the right to be. I think he's hurting so he's blocking everyone off. I never seen him break down like this. I'm scared to open up to someone at all. I'm used to being judge I been thru a lot I told him how I feel all the time he says I keep it real. I don't hold nothing back. I'll just give him space but I'm not going to stress myself. It's sad he got health issues so that's my big consider.
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Ok I'm a Libra and you got me confused. You guys are fwb. YOU didn't want a relationship. YOU told him you loved him as a friend. Now YOU are trying to fix.... What exactly? It sounds like he wanted more but you blew him off. Can you really blame him if the "relationship" is purely sexual now? ??

Now I can't be mad. I just don't like leaving on bad terms I did that with my last dude and he ended up passing away. I think he only gave me sex because I wanted it more than ever. I figured that's all he wanted. I just wanted to make sure he doesn't hate me but I see he doesn't want shit to do with me I think he's done for good.
You do realize Libras are all about fairness. Sit down and talk to him. Trust me he would want to hear you out. You'll get the closure you want if you just TALK to him.
you know - I hear you but if they are fair people why does Libra treat people unfairly ?
Remember, "fair" is based around their own comfort zone and emotions. It's only "fair" if they're comfortable with it and it benefits them emotionally, in some way, shape, or form.

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Well if I'm getting used he's getting used too. I think I come off sexual towards people I don't see people for their feelings sometimes. He says I'm selfish which is true I am but I have the right to be. I think he's hurting so he's blocking everyone off. I never seen him break down like this. I'm scared to open up to someone at all. I'm used to being judge I been thru a lot I told him how I feel all the time he says I keep it real. I don't hold nothing back. I'll just give him space but I'm not going to stress myself. It's sad he got health issues so that's my big consider.
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Thank you @taurusbull1977. I don't feel like I'm being use. I feel like there's mix feelings and emotions. You don't mess around with someone for a year and some talking personal issues. Libras love sex with the right people. I think I got my answer he was giving me sex cause that's what I wanted. I don't know how it is to be in a real long term relationship. I dealt with dudes stalking me trying to kill me mental abuse and sexual assault. So I feel like everytime I make a post you guys pass judgement but I can go thru the libra forum you guys are giving advice to people that are asking the same questions. Looks are decieving and don't get fooled by them.
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Not passing judgement,

Although some opinions are a little less than tactful than others, nevertheless, all the opinions on this board is coming from a place of concern.

The issue here isn't with this Libra, it's about your relationship dynamics and interpersonal relationships with men, they're brief, unstable, chaotic, and short-lived. A stable, harmonious relationship never blossoms.

My guess, you enter romantic relationships prematurely with unrealistic expectations, the courtship process is non-existent, and somehow you have deceived yourself with confusing lust and chaos as a symbol for true love. Your view on relationships is quite distorted. This isn't a problem that this Libra man can fix. You will have to decipher this destructive pattern you possess on your own.

Spend some time alone.

Creating more threads in regards to this Libra will not help you.



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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Not passing judgement,

Although some opinions are a little less than tactful than others, nevertheless, all the opinions on this board is coming from a place of concern.

The issue here isn't with this Libra, it's about your relationship dynamics and interpersonal relationships with men, they're brief, unstable, chaotic, and short-lived. A stable, harmonious relationship never blossoms.

My guess, you enter romantic relationships prematurely with unrealistic expectations, the courtship process is non-existent, and somehow you have deceived yourself with confusing lust and chaos as a symbol for true love. Your view on relationships is quite distorted. This isn't a problem that this Libra man can fix. You will have to decipher this destructive pattern you possess on your own.

Spend some time alone.

Creating more threads in regards to this Libra will not help you.


Sadly, she's a Leo. She won't ever be single because she thinks she'll shrivel up and die if she doesn't have a relationship to get her through life.

These chicks make my brain bleed. :/
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Posted by Tharealher
Thank you @taurusbull1977. I don't feel like I'm being use. I feel like there's mix feelings and emotions. You don't mess around with someone for a year and some talking personal issues. Libras love sex with the right people. I think I got my answer he was giving me sex cause that's what I wanted. I don't know how it is to be in a real long term relationship. I dealt with dudes stalking me trying to kill me mental abuse and sexual assault. So I feel like everytime I make a post you guys pass judgement but I can go thru the libra forum you guys are giving advice to people that are asking the same questions. Looks are decieving and don't get fooled by them.
I think in life every thing is allowed. You can let yourself be used or not. It is your life, your journey.

But of course freedom and authenticity bring responsibility.

I am a person who asks herself:
- am I wasting my time? if yes, does it bother me that I waste my time? for what could it be late? for waht could it be wasted? what would I miss?

- does thing thing change me in a bad way? do I have less energy? do I have less time for my work, study, family, friend, explorations? have I started taking my original goals for less important? have I started to see more bad features in myself (speak is my self-hate mode triggered)?

I give you an example. Remember the girl Chris Brown had in the lines after Rihanna? Well, she left him after five years of being kept on the back burner. When she left him, she had her first wrinkles under her eyes. 25 and she had bag under her eyes. (ok, I know that could be genetics too. sorry for abusing the facts)
The girl did not listen to her critics until her own common sense did wake her up.