What should I do with this Aries ? (Libra Views)

Hello everyone,

I need your opinion on this one.

I'm a Libra woman and I dated this Aries Man for 3 months, he ended with me a month ago as he's moving to New York for a year. We both knew this from the start and have agreed that we both didn't want to be in a relationship as I just got out of one before I met him.

As time goes by, we talked everyday. He always texted me first even though it was random at times.

He took turns making plans and it ended up with me planning most of our dates as I had much better ideas. He enjoyed all of our dates, we both did. I think we never asked the question as we both know it couldn't go anywhere.

We has one small misunderstanding when we were dating as he was travelling to Amsterdam with his friends and before he went. We went out for this romantic dinner beside the beach. We both got really drunk over few bottles of wine. Long story short. In my head I wanted a fridge magnet and I thought I said it him.. but I didn't. When he returned home he didn't have a fridge magnet and he was clueless as to why I was confused.

He remembers everything, Including what I wore on our first date. so he was annoyed that I would think that he would forget such things. I know.. silly me ! but this became one of our things that we always laughed about. He referred to (Ross & Rachel in friends, where Rachel never forgives him). Anyway, I needed to include this in so you would get a better understanding later why.

For me, I wasn't head over heels at the start but the more time I spent with him. I realized I really like him, I didn't say anything because be both never said anything emotional. There were times I wanted say something cute but I knew both of us wouldn't be the type to say cute things.

I thought he liked me as well as I went out with his friends, he introduced me to everyone. We even joked to his friends that we weren't going out, I was okay with it. I've accepted since day one that he's going to New York so. I never gave him the impression that I wanted more. He knew.

So over 3 months period, closer to the time he ended. We both did so many things together. We laughed so much. Over one weekend, He seemed a bit off. I didn't bother him. I knew he's the type that needed space. but 2 days gone by and I didn't get any calls or texts of him. So I asked him how his weekend was.

He said, He couldn't do it anymore. He said It's nothing to do with me. He just doesn't to use anyone's time. I told him that's fine. I knew it had to end sooner or later. so I went to his place picked up few things I left behind and gave his few of his belonging that he left in my place.

He greeted with a smile like nothing happened, He then told me about his trip to Canada for a week like the way he went on was like the way we always spoke to each other. I went along with it and didn't get upset until I saw a bag with all my stuff in it.

I cried as I really did like him, I tried not to make a scene as I never expressed any loving emotions with him due to the situation we were in. He was upset that I was upset. I told him it was okay and it really was. I just really liked and I couldn't say it because I knew this was going nowhere from day one so why should I bother saying it.

For the whole we were together (Dating) We never placed any label on it. So I asked if there was anyone else and he got very offended by this and He said no, It was just me. I left his place in good terms. We hugged and said our goodbye, I joked about his upcoming trip and I thought that was the end of it.

But..

He texted me straight after as he couldn't get over me questioning him talking to someone else and he said this.

If there it was anyone it would be me but he just doesn't want any one at the moment.

I was beyond upset I saw this text, I didn't know what to say. so I didn't say anything.

He wouldn't stop texting me until I told him It was fine.

So that was it. I respected his decision. He was always honest and nice to me and that was one the main things I liked about him. I knew he liked me and I believed what he said was true. Sometimes you just have to let it go and I did.

A month later.. my best friend returned home from her holidays. She bought me a fridge magnet. We laughed so much because I told her about the story I gave this Aries Man such a hard time over it. I don't know what got into me, I sent him a picture of my best-friend holding a magnet as a joke.

He replied back straight away and we laughed about it again and made so many jokes. We talked for a bit and he told me about Canada and asked me questions about my upcoming holidays. It was like the old times, but I knew in the back of my head he ended this. So I didn't continue the conversation and left it.

Few days later, He liked my photos on Instagram and I thought about him non stop when I was out.

I texted him again a week after on a night out when I was drunk. I asked him to come over, he didn't see the message till morning time. He said he would have if he was awake. So I said I don't mind him coming over now and He did. I even told him that he doesn't have to come over. He said he wants to !!

He came over and we talked for 2 minutes and after that he couldn't keep his hands of me. He was never the type to say much when it comes to (Romantic Things) but I knew by his body language he missed me. We watch 3 movies and ate junk food like the good old times.

I had to my other friends that evening and so did he. As I was walking him out I said have a nice evening and he said you too !..

So this was yesterday and I'm waiting for him to text me 😢

I don't know what do you think ? was it just a one time thing. What should I do ?

So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...the rship *only* started after this 4 years and total break ups btw...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

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Posted by IamTheRam

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

Because OP said that he'll be moving for New York for a year, that's why ( i think )

But i don't understand the rest of the story, he's moving but they see each other ? They can try a long distance relationship then when he comes back they can date normally ...

Hahaha i don't understand this story really, what a shame

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Rofl! Was just editing my previous post xD

And in my case...and with this same person...we decided to start oficialy...2 months before i was going to change to another place xD (an ocean away distance ^^)

So for about 2 years..it was kinda ldr ^^

And we both had absolutly zero expectations...we just went with the flow 🙂

So yeah...people think so much in the long run...when infact they should focus in enjoying what they have at that particular moment ..

There is nothing worse in life then having a heart full of regrets...

Rships are hard...they are not easy at all...

But in the end... *you* will never know what could have happened if *you* never try 🙂

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

Posted by tiziani
I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

Posted by IamTheRam

Posted by Rozaeon

Posted by IamTheRam

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

Because OP said that he'll be moving for New York for a year, that's why ( i think )

But i don't understand the rest of the story, he's moving but they see each other ? They can try a long distance relationship then when he comes back they can date normally ...

Hahaha i don't understand this story really, what a shame

Rofl! Was just editing my previous post xD

And in my case...and with this same person...we decided to start oficialy...2 months before i was going to change to another place xD (an ocean away distance ^^)

So for about 2 years..it was kinda ldr ^^

And we both had absolutly zero expectations...we just went with the flow 🙂

So yeah...people think so much in the long run...when infact they should focus in enjoying what they have at that particular moment ..

There is nothing worse in life then having a heart full of regrets...

Rships are hard...they are not easy at all...

But in the end... *you* will never know what could have happened if *you* never try 🙂

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Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

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Posted by IamTheRam

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

Because OP said that he'll be moving for New York for a year, that's why ( i think )

But i don't understand the rest of the story, he's moving but they are seeing each other ? They can try a long distance relationship then when he comes back they can date normally ...

Hahaha i don't understand this story really, what a shame

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Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I'm not a libra. But a simple Virgo woman.

I see "fidget spinner", I read

Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I'm not a libra. But a simple Virgo woman.

I see "fidget spinner", I read

You just made my day hahaha

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Posted by IamTheRam

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

Because OP said that he'll be moving for New York for a year, that's why ( i think )

But i don't understand the rest of the story, he's moving but they are seeing each other ? They can try a long distance relationship then when he comes back they can date normally ...

Hahaha i don't understand this story really, what a shame

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

Oh no don't worry, your writing skills are actually good, it's just that English is not my first language so i can be a bit confused sometimes ^^

Why don't you tell him what you feel ? In a subtle manner and you can tell him that you want to keep in touch now. I really don't see why it would be unfair ? Since it does not commit the both of you to anything right now, it also seems like he really likes you too... So why not ? ^^

( you can also keep in touch when he's in New York )

Maybe when he'll come back you'll be together and i hope so

But on the other hand, if you continue, it's possible that the feelings gets more and more intense and the " separation " will be hurtful. And one year is a long time for some people, he can meet other people, you too etc who knows ? So i would advice to keep your distance until he comes back

It's up to you to decide what will be the best solution for you

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This is what I said to him

'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all.'

Phewwww I'm just going to wait and seeeeee

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Posted by tiziani
I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

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yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

Because OP said that he'll be moving for New York for a year, that's why ( i think )

But i don't understand the rest of the story, he's moving but they see each other ? They can try a long distance relationship then when he comes back they can date normally ...

Hahaha i don't understand this story really, what a shame

Rofl! Was just editing my previous post xD

And in my case...and with this same person...we decided to start oficialy...2 months before i was going to change to another place xD (an ocean away distance ^^)

So for about 2 years..it was kinda ldr ^^

And we both had absolutly zero expectations...we just went with the flow 🙂

So yeah...people think so much in the long run...when infact they should focus in enjoying what they have at that particular moment ..

There is nothing worse in life then having a heart full of regrets...

Rships are hard...they are not easy at all...

But in the end... *you* will never know what could have happened if *you* never try 🙂

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

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Ha the writing thing it's totaly fine...i am not that great at it also hehe and it was probably me that didn't understood you clearly hehe

Yes that wold be unfair 🙂

It seems that he does like you the same way...but this new adventure thing in NY does complicate things for him...

Maybe he got his own dreams about this trip and things like that that he wants to do on his own...and he probably does have them...he is an Aries after all ^^

So i guess that this is the only reason he doesn't seal the *deal* with you...

I guess it just wasn't the right time...sometimes it's just as simple as that...

Cherrish what you both had, don't complicate things...and hey...i can bet you both will meet again further down the *road* 😉

Take care !

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...the rship *only* started after this 4 years and total break ups btw...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

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...are you retarded?

Dahell are you copying and pasting the same response to multiple posts. We can see everything you respond with, no need to repeat the same thing over and over by copying and pasting.

As Tiz said, you ARE all over the place and it sounds like you have no idea what you want. It also sounds like you're complicating things and building up stuff unnecessarily.

Either tell dude you have feelings and want to pursue something and see what he thinks, or stop fretting over it. The vibe I'm getting is that you want someone to confirm your deep dark need for validation of "he really likes me, right? We could pursue something??" and instead you're getting off on creating some suspenseful drama ish.

Either way, stop it. You're just tormenting yourself. Either fuck around and have fun, knowing there's an expiration date, or drop it and leave it alone. This isn't a stupid romance novel.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you know dude's going to leave, you both tried to end it, but hooked up anyway and you're going to torment yourself?

Do whatever you want. You're going to end up with the same result in the long run.

How do you (both) know he is going to leave?..

My longest rship to date started with fwb..3 total breaks ups in the spawn of 4 years...the rship *only* started after this 4 years and total break ups btw...

She was the one that texted me after the first time we had sex asking if i wanted to go out...i said yes...she replies with.."i thought you wold loose interest in me after sex.."

I replied with.."why should i?..sex was amazing and i enjoy alot talking with you.."...funny, hey ? 🙂

Same way she assumed he forgot about buying that magnet thing...it's the same way you are kinda assuming that this wont work out...

And hey, you are an Aries..you should know better not to assume things 😉

...are you retarded?

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Oh...you are such a *big bad girl*...aren't you ?!...

Was kinda expecting more from you...but then again..not really...

Have fun... ! 😉

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Dahell are you copying and pasting the same response to multiple posts. We can see everything you respond with, no need to repeat the same thing over and over by copying and pasting.

As Tiz said, you ARE all over the place and it sounds like you have no idea what you want. It also sounds like you're complicating things and building up stuff unnecessarily.

Either tell dude you have feelings and want to pursue something and see what he thinks, or stop fretting over it. The vibe I'm getting is that you want someone to confirm your deep dark need for validation of "he really likes me, right? We could pursue something??" and instead you're getting off on creating some suspenseful drama ish.

Either way, stop it. You're just tormenting yourself. Either fuck around and have fun, knowing there's an expiration date, or drop it and leave it alone. This isn't a stupid romance novel.

Like I said, It's my first post on the website. I'm getting the hang of this.

Appreciate your opinion because I did ask for it.

Calling me retarded is kinda harsh ? I wanted to make sure everyone who helped me with their views get my replies. Its called being nice and appreciative of others something you might not understand.

I thought this website was for people who believes in Astrology and its power not giving other people abuses for the sake of it.

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Posted by tiziani
I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

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Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

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I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

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So tell us what he said back— Lol

Been waiting ?

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I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

So tell us what he said back— Lol

Been waiting ?

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His exact response was that He missed me and that He wanted to spend time with me. He just thinks it's highly unfair to me that he can't commit his time to me. He's moving away in 2 months so he feels guilty.

I get where he's coming from, I just wanted to hear him say it because I wasn't sure if he actually likes me or not.

We agreed to see each other as much as we can before he goes away. But It's back to the norms when He'll let me know when he's free and make plans.

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Posted by tiziani
I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

So tell us what he said back— Lol

Been waiting ?

His exact response was that He missed me and that He wanted to spend time with me. He just thinks it's highly unfair to me that he can't commit his time to me. He's moving away in 2 months so he feels guilty.

I get where he's coming from, I just wanted to hear him say it because I wasn't sure if he actually likes me or not.

We agreed to see each other as much as we can before he goes away. But It's back to the norms when He'll let me know when he's free and make plans.

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Ok well us Aries don't mess around. So I'm guessing he has hope that you will stop saying "you don't expect anything" and maybe be open to moving. That's just my thoughts.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by LibraJackson

Posted by tiziani
I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

So tell us what he said back— Lol

Been waiting ?

His exact response was that He missed me and that He wanted to spend time with me. He just thinks it's highly unfair to me that he can't commit his time to me. He's moving away in 2 months so he feels guilty.

I get where he's coming from, I just wanted to hear him say it because I wasn't sure if he actually likes me or not.

We agreed to see each other as much as we can before he goes away. But It's back to the norms when He'll let me know when he's free and make plans.

Ok well us Aries don't mess around. So I'm guessing he has hope that you will stop saying "you don't expect anything" and maybe be open to moving. That's just my thoughts.

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Yeah, also agree with you.

He kinda *wants her to stop* with the feelings talk and get a grip of herself...he already made his mind in all of this situation.

He already told her what he wants...was honest..so it's up to you OP to know what you want.

If what you also want is a good time only OP...let me give you an advice...no feelings talk at all...the moment you do...he will back off again...we. kinda don't like that type of talk at all hehe

And tbh...you don't need to...he is an Aries...he will be the one telling you if he feels something else for you without you even asking him...

With an Aries that's kinda of a *sacred rule* thing ? Haha Allways (!!) let him come to you...and untill then...just have fun with him 😉

Yeah I'm not going to say anything. I agreed with you.

I'll wait now 😄

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I agree with "do what you want", especially since you haven't actually said what you want. So be clear on that, and that's half the job done already.

Thank you do much everyone

I'm sorry it was my first post and I have terrible writing skills as you can guess.

Basically on our first date he told me he's moving away at the end of the year.

I know silly me. I shouldn't have expect anything more. I ended up liking him a lot.

he made it clear he doesn't want anyone and if he did it would be me, but yet he came over after a month. so I guess I'm confused. I want to tell him I really feel but I live in Ireland and he's going to be in NY so I don't think he wants anything.

It would be unfair to him as well, I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together now and then when he's still here but he never texted me so I don't think I should chase after him.

I don't think you should chase, either.

"I guess I just want to us to keep in touch and spend time together"

That's reasonable but I get the gut feeling this all sounds a little too half-hearted from both sides. Which often happens with long distance. I get why you feel it would be unfair to aim for any more at this time.

yeah I don't so either but this is what I said to him



'I wasn’t sure If I should be texting you or not but I think it’s best being said then keeping it in for me.

Just to be clear, I don’t want anything or expect anything from you. I’m fully aware you ended this.

You know I like you and I like spending time with you. I don’t text people first and It was a big deal for me that I texted you first and asked you to come over I guess ! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything. I’m glad you did.

I’m sure you have an idea what I’m like by now. I don’t know why I’m telling you this because I know it’s not going anywhere.

I think my questions are why did you agree to come over ? Was it just for sex ?

You said the spark was gone when you ended this but yet you came over ?

I don’t want us to go back to the way we were but I’m just a little disappointed you didn’t say anything after and trust me I know you’re moving out and it must be hectic.

I want to be the cool one and not text you ever and leave you alone but I’m a little bit confused.

Ideally I would like us to keep in-touch as friends, I don’t want you to completely ghost me. That’s all. '

Thing is, if it were me on the end of that text, I would think you were a little all over the place right now.

You contradict yourself by saying you don't want anything, then end it off by hinting at what you want - which more than anything sounds like you want emotional reassurance.

It's that needling, annoying feeling you get when you can sense someone is beating around the bush with you, that's what I get from the way you express yourself.

So that's why we said "do what you want" with no shame. Whatever it takes to get your confidence. Make mistakes. It doesn't matter.

Also I am not him, so ultimately his view and yours are the only two that matter.

Thank you Tiz. It worked out well somehow. He knew I was beating around the bush. I wished I've said things sooner. You are right I need to be more straight forward and say what I want.

So tell us what he said back— Lol

Been waiting ?

His exact response was that He missed me and that He wanted to spend time with me. He just thinks it's highly unfair to me that he can't commit his time to me. He's moving away in 2 months so he feels guilty.

I get where he's coming from, I just wanted to hear him say it because I wasn't sure if he actually likes me or not.

We agreed to see each other as much as we can before he goes away. But It's back to the norms when He'll let me know when he's free and make plans.

Ok well us Aries don't mess around. So I'm guessing he has hope that you will stop saying "you don't expect anything" and maybe be open to moving. That's just my thoughts.

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I hope so too, I'm just going to him the space