When a Libra says She's Done with Relationships

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Thats just s bit of drama which we do when we are totally frustrated with things going wrong in life and it being compounded by our relationship going awry too! Lol.
Just hang in there and dont give up! Try to get her spirits up.
If howver, things have been going downhill for quite sometime - its time to hit the panic button! She is rethinking your relationship because of some underlying issue which has gone unresolved for a prolonged period of time!
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I have been MIA. My Libra dumped me. We had an argument and they were playing this game where they would call or text and I would see it 15 minutes later (if I was busy) and then try to call back and their phone was off. So I called them to the carpet on it because I got tired of it. This had happened a few times before and I made it known I didn't appreciate that shit. So in response, the next morning I wake up to a text that they were breaking up with me because they were not going to put up with me "scolding" them. Didn't even have the decency to call and talk about things, work it out, nothing. Nope just sent me a text saying I wish you the best and don't call or text me again. It's been almost two weeks. Still nothing. At first I did try to call because the way I feel is if you are serious about someone, then you ought to be willing to talk things out, but no answer so I stopped. They are playing the immature avoidance game and as a Gemini I WILL NOT play chasing games. If you love me then you love me, end of story. I don't understand it because here as much as I thought I understood Libra, apparently I didn't. Things were so passionate, we were so connected, but the problem where I'm concerned is they think it gives them a license to do what they want and take others for granted and that there should be no consequence because to them, they were always nice and bought nice things for me. It's wrong and at the end of the day, it's really sad. You can't buy people. It's confusing too, when you get told things like "thank you for being who you are, you make my life better" etc ...etc. Makes me believe they never meant any of the things they said. I did say in my last text I hope you are happy because you will spend the rest of your life searching for perfection and never find it. I was the best friend you ever had. That much I do know. I also added "now I know why your past relationships didn't work out if this is how you were." I didn't want to conclude it was really over but the actions are speaking well and even if my Libra came back to me, I don't know if I could trust them to not do it again sometime in the future. So in my conclusion, I'm not saying all Libras are this way, but now I am second guessing and I really had to humble myself for a few weeks before coming back to the boards. Also. I owe Rockyroad and Busyeyes an apology, because guess what, they were right.
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Yeah it was. I'm bi. Sorry I usually don't identify because well, I don't think it really matters. I have been with a Libra lady as well before, she flaked out. @ Sugarfoot I really appreciate your response, but I'm not holding my breath where it's concerned, the facts being what they are and the act of avoidance, that's just childish and stupid. And I do understand yeah it takes two and I already admitted my fault, but again when he isn't willing to talk about it, there's really not much I can do. I don't know how long a libra will usually wait to come around, some may for years, who knows. I can only move forward and do the best I can for myself. I'm not hot skippy to jump right back in to another relationship with someone, rather I think it's best to use the time for self improvement. But I'm also not going to sit around waiting for my phone to ring eating a bucket of ice cream and crying either. Best case scenario they make a come back and are willing to work something out, worse case scenario, I got an awesome car stereo, sunglasses and expensive cologne out of it. Sad, but why would you buy someone expensive shit if you didn't care and then just write them off? Shrugs
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Posted by gemguyaz34
Yeah it was. I'm bi. Sorry I usually don't identify because well, I don't think it really matters. I have been with a Libra lady as well before, she flaked out. @ Sugarfoot I really appreciate your response, but I'm not holding my breath where it's concerned, the facts being what they are and the act of avoidance, that's just childish and stupid. And I do understand yeah it takes two and I already admitted my fault, but again when he isn't willing to talk about it, there's really not much I can do. I don't know how long a libra will usually wait to come around, some may for years, who knows. I can only move forward and do the best I can for myself. I'm not hot skippy to jump right back in to another relationship with someone, rather I think it's best to use the time for self improvement. But I'm also not going to sit around waiting for my phone to ring eating a bucket of ice cream and crying either. Best case scenario they make a come back and are willing to work something out, worse case scenario, I got an awesome car stereo, sunglasses and expensive cologne out of it. Sad, but why would you buy someone expensive shit if you didn't care and then just write them off? Shrugs
would i buy someone expensive shit and then write them off? yeah i would actually. stuff doesn't mean anything to me. in the moment i'll give something because it will make the other person happy but i really don't put a lot of value into it.

i'm sorry you've fallen out with your libra, gemguy. that sucks. it sounds like he was a bit immature anyway (what's with that game?!?) but once again i am in total agreement with sugarfoot. i really dislike someone being abrasive with me. i don't like yelling and i don't like someone being angry. i can handle upset, i can sympathise with feelings and i am receptive to "hey, you piss me off" but anger where a person lashes out? uh-uh, no dice. it's too unpredictable. it may have been a case where you've exhibited this before and like a coward, he's not said anything. then at the final straw he pulls the plug.

understandably you were upset but your final message seemed to hit below the belt. this may have been your fighting style with the libra but to me, that's mean talk that wouldn't invite reconciliation.

do move forward and i hope you find someone in the future that brings you happiness.
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@GG24. I am truly sorry about yr breakup . It will take time but you will be ok. Just give yourself time to heal. Libras sometimes come back. One came back two years later as if I would still be waiting around for him after I got rid of him two years previous!! They are venusaian as taurus and look for beauty and perfection share similar things To Taurus but the difference is that Taurus will ACCEPT people as they are but the libra looks for perfection in others and not themselves and feel that they are so 'special' that people have to put with their bs and when you are strong enough to 'call them out on it' their bs silent behaviour starts! Who the fuck needs that?! Out of the air signs gems are the best!! You will be better in time. Be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself .
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lol. A Libra done with relationships.

They'd shrivel up and die without the concept of one in life.

Your response? Lol. ...Cause it's a hilarious statement coming from a Libra.
If you love her don't take the risk of loosing her, once she is "really" done she is done. I have ex boyfriends that want me back they will never see me again ๐Ÿ™‚
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Sweetie, I'm a chick. There is no "you love her" here.

Also, I already know this. But thanks for sharing.
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For the record, my response was only after days of being ignored because eventually I concluded there was nothing left to lose. again actions speak louder than words. I closed it as, "if you have a change of heart & mind, you know where to find me."

You don't ignore someone. You don't tell someone intimate things, things such as like "thank you for being you, you make my life better" and then turn around and do that. There is no excuse for it, I don't care, it's wrong. I put with up crap all the time from others. I am forgiving, especially when it's dumb shit, which this was.
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Posted by gemguyaz34
For the record, my response was only after days of being ignored because eventually I concluded there was nothing left to lose. again actions speak louder than words. I closed it as, "if you have a change of heart & mind, you know where to find me."

You don't ignore someone. You don't tell someone intimate things, things such as like "thank you for being you, you make my life better" and then turn around and do that. There is no excuse for it, I don't care, it's wrong. I put with up crap all the time from others. I am forgiving, especially when it's dumb shit, which this was.
it was wrong. it hurt you and made a mockery of all that was said before but you can't put a match to it because you think there is nothing left to lose. thinking, let's hurt them as much as they have hurt me and then in the same breath turn around and invite them back. it doesn't work. it shows when you are upset, you draw blood.

my taurus and i have fought in the past but honestly, one of the things i love most about him and our relationship is that no matter how bad it gets and how much we feel hurt, we would never say an unkind thing to the other. in the heat of the moment, our intention is not to inflict the same wound on each other. i treasure that more than you could possibly imagine. even when he is angry, he is still a safe place for me.
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Posted by Starry22
MrGreen - it depends on the reason things ended. If its still a sore spot, she may take some time to respond, however Librans rarely hold a grudge. Do not be too casual on the text else the libran will ignore you thinking that you have no depth and no spine.

I sent her a link to something that reminded me other & that she would enjoy learning about, & said I hoped she was doing well. I know she probably is at work so I'm giving it at least a day....
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That was nice! Librans are suckers for sentimentality. However it now depends on the reason for the breakup and the time that has passed since. Guess we would need more details.
You have got her thinking about you. It will bring her to tears and her emotions will run riot. DO NOT rush in! Give her sometime to think this through. After a week send her a friendly note - and that should hopefully trigger the emotion that she feels. At that point listen because she will be expressive! Dont know which way it will go!
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That was nice! Librans are suckers for sentimentality. However it now depends on the reason for the breakup and the time that has passed since. Guess we would need more details.
You have got her thinking about you. It will bring her to tears and her emotions will run riot. DO NOT rush in! Give her sometime to think this through. After a week send her a friendly note - and that should hopefully trigger the emotion that she feels. At that point listen because she will be expressive! Dont know which way it will go!
WHY are you stupidly encouraging him to chase after his ex wife when you don't know any of the details as to why they split?

For all you know, he could be mentally unstable and she wanted to end things.

Or she screwed things up and they had to split and he wants to come running back. The fact that he suddenly wants her back implies that it may not be genuine. He could be going through something right now and is seeking solace in past relationships.

You're being a dick by feeding into something you know nothing about. Grow up dear, life isn't a fairy tale. Get the whole story first before encouraging something like chasing after a dead relationship.
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How long do you think I should wait for her response? Unfortunately I'm at a job not doing much and I've been putting a lot of mental weight on a reconnection, as we haven't spoken in some time.

My heart tells me I'll hear from her, & other times it says she'll never come around.
What is your sign?

If I received that message, I might wonder why you were sending it, it sounds very vague. I probably wouldn't respond...u say you are on a job. Are you in another country? State? If you are serious and you want to get through to her I would suggest calling her on the phone, so she can hear your voice. Since it has been sometime. Ask her how she has been, be genuine, truly care..tell her she sounds great and it is so nice to hear her voice, again be sincere. then after you get off the phone send her a nice message that it was nice talking to her, leave it alone for a bit then try texting her...

There is nothing wrong with calling an old friend, this is coming from someone that has an exhusband that calls me his best friend, good luck.
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Actually like the Op I am a cancer

Thank you for your advice I will try calling. The divorce was over common issues, no cheating or anything. I became quite needy immediately following and she cut me off....
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Posted by mrGreen
All I hear rocky road saying is how she wants all things to be as miserable as she is.


Thank you for the advice starry and others please go on, I'm sure OP appreciates it as well
"I can't listen to logic."

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Actually like the Op I am a cancer

Thank you for your advice I will try calling. The divorce was over common issues, no cheating or anything. I became quite needy immediately following and she cut me off....
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There it is, right there.

Leave her alone dude. You overwhelmed her and she took off. You can't become an emotional drain on a Libra. They tend to float away under all the pressure.
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Libra Sun & Rising/ Pisces Moon- When I say "I'm done," it's over....sorry to say.
Other Libra have said if she love u she will always love you, & will be very receptive to change... Why do u say otherwise?
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that wouldn't be the case for me. if it is gone, it is gone. i wouldn't hate the other person or hold a grudge (unless they did something particularly brutal) but they feelings just cease to exist.

you can't go back. it will never be the same again. especially if considerable time has passed.
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I agree with Jeane on this. As a Libra i will give my all when i together with someone important; but depending on the situation and the amount of time tbat went by since the 'break', i will not hold any grudge but the love will no longer be there. I may continue to care for you and wish you the best... But our fear and our memories do not permit us to walk the old road again. โ€
I hope thats not the case with you though. All the best, it will be a long hard road!
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i think also we give so much in a relationship. we take the knocks and keep coming back for more. over time there is a sort of erosion of feelings. so we stay even if we aren't feeling it 100% and we give more. we want it to work so we keep hanging in there and take the hits until one day the account runs empty. once the relationship is bankrupt of feelings it is practically impossible to get it back to where it was.

i certainly haven't been able to do it. i've just had a good friendship fall apart. nothing catastrophic happened but i was taken for granted. i would do everything in my power to make this person's life better and then in one night, she threw it all back in my face. i pulled her up on it. she apologised and made some half arsed attempt at making light of it and now? the friendship is lost. she tries to buy me things, she attempts to be friendly and i am friendly but i am no longer interested. i wish her the best and will do her no harm but i won't be there to be the confidant. protector and mentor as i once was. she is on her own.
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Posted by mrGreen
I'm hearing two extremes, and assuming the negativity comes from very bitter people.

More Libras please chime in.
"I only want to listen to the advice that enables me. Anything else is "negative" therefore invalid."

Logic isn't your strong suit. But Cancers don't work off of logic, so whatever. Have fun stalking your Libra ex.
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Posted by merrylibra
Libra Sun & Rising/ Pisces Moon- When I say "I'm done," it's over....sorry to say.
Other Libra have said if she love u she will always love you, & will be very receptive to change... Why do u say otherwise?
that wouldn't be the case for me. if it is gone, it is gone. i wouldn't hate the other person or hold a grudge (unless they did something particularly brutal) but they feelings just cease to exist.

you can't go back. it will never be the same again. especially if considerable time has passed.
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Exactly. If a Libra decides THEY'RE the one who is done, they're done. There's no going back.

In any situation, regardless of signs, if a break up or trust or whatever basic foundation of the relationship is ruined or permanently changed, it will not be the same again. It's not unusual for people to pine over a relationship just lost, hoping for it to rekindle, but to realistically think it'll happen beyond that point... It's merely wishful thinking. The dynamics will totally be different and that relationship that you pine for won't be the same one you remember.

This dude can try, but I don't think he needs to get his hopes up that he'll end up back with her and live happily ever after, which is why I'm so annoyed at the irresponsible advice of telling him to for it. This guy is grasping at tiny, invisible straws to reassure him that this is a sure thing. It isn't, and it's a dickhead move to tell him otherwise. Realistically, I doubt she'll come around and want to be left alone. Again, he can reach out like he has, but if she hasn't bothered answering, he needs to take the hint and drop it.
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Rocky - there is no reason that he should not be trying to win her back. If everyone was worried about rejection, no single individual would attempt to woo another. Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches! If he wants to proceed well and good and if he doesnt, that too is his choice. It is between the two of them how they continue, but what he did was not wrong, it was a sweet move, lets give him credit where its due. None of us are encouraging him to stalk her or do anything wrong โ˜บรฏยธ
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bitches. Let's spell it out since nobody is picking up on the obvious.

Posted by goligold
if he truly wants her back he has to step it up...

Obviously no one has ever tried winning you back rockyroad....โ€”
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Rocky - there is no reason that he should not be trying to win her back. If everyone was worried about rejection, no single individual would attempt to woo another. Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches! If he wants to proceed well and good and if he doesnt, that too is his choice. It is between the two of them how they continue, but what he did was not wrong, it was a sweet move, lets give him credit where its due. None of us are encouraging him to stalk her or do anything wrong โ˜บรฏยธ
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Actually like the Op I am a cancer

Thank you for your advice I will try calling. The divorce was over common issues, no cheating or anything. I became quite needy immediately following and she cut me off....
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I'll just leave this here so it can sink in a bit for the dense and naive.
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Any pointers for a Libra/Aquarius Moon/Venus in Scorpio & Mars in Leo woman?
What happened between you two?
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We broke up about two months ago. Pretty bad break up... but her reasons were wishy washy, we were both going through shit. We haven't spoken since. I've gotten myself together rather quickly and know she would be impressed, and I'm fairly positive she still has strong feelings for me because they wouldn't just disappear... we were talking about starting a life together, and I think things got too real, plus as a Libra she had pressure from a lot of places, plenty of guys waiting in the wings... but not too toot my own horn, it would be hard for any of them to compare to 1) my path in life & successes I've made, 2) our sexual connection.
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Any pointers for a Libra/Aquarius Moon/Venus in Scorpio & Mars in Leo woman?
What happened between you two?
We broke up about two months ago. Pretty bad break up... but her reasons were wishy washy, we were both going through shit. We haven't spoken since. I've gotten myself together rather quickly and know she would be impressed, and I'm fairly positive she still has strong feelings for me because they wouldn't just disappear... we were talking about starting a life together, and I think things got too real, plus as a Libra she had pressure from a lot of places, plenty of guys waiting in the wings... but not too toot my own horn, it would be hard for any of them to compare to 1) my path in life & successes I've made, 2) our sexual connection.
What were her wishy washy reasons
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Every weak excuse in the book, it's me not you, etc...

but our life goals were too different (something I think that make us do well together, being opposites-- i work in entertainment, she's a farmgirl), and that she was too young (when we got together she'd say the opposite). When we broke up we were both very clustered and overwhelmed so she just wanted simplicity at the time and to escape from something...
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Posted by Sugarfoot
Oh. Hmmm. Usually my partner is someone I want to escape to, not away from. If your relationship was a constant point of stress then that makes sense that she'd want to get away from it and regain her peace of mind. You haven't been broken up for too long. Maybe just let the dust settle. Give her time too see how she really feels.

Just know that Libra doesn't do well with topsy turvy up and down. We need a calm surface to sit our scales on to be at our best. Sometimes water isn't the best platform for that. Whatever is causing the scales to dip and dive, we will cut out to regain that balance.
yeah, i was in a very cancery place and dealing with years of life troubles culminating, but the break up has done a lot for me... realizing my air and fire placements and how they can help me overcome the water... i'm much more stable and have put away major vices.

though time apart hasn't made me miss her any less. i just feel like i lost something very important and real. my desire to reunite isn't pure desperation... i know we have a lot of potential as a couple, and should i find success we would be able to do a lot with it. a lot of really neat work opportunities have opened up for me and I can feel the door opening there for me... i want her to come!

we're only 4years apart in age, but she taught me so much, too. i taught her a lot. i'm a believer in that opposites are better for each other, and that reason.
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Any pointers for a Libra/Aquarius Moon/Venus in Scorpio & Mars in Leo woman?
What happened between you two?
We broke up about two months ago. Pretty bad break up... but her reasons were wishy washy, we were both going through shit. We haven't spoken since. I've gotten myself together rather quickly and know she would be impressed, and I'm fairly positive she still has strong feelings for me because they wouldn't just disappear... we were talking about starting a life together, and I think things got too real, plus as a Libra she had pressure from a lot of places, plenty of guys waiting in the wings... but not too toot my own horn, it would be hard for any of them to compare to 1) my path in life & successes I've made, 2) our sexual connection.
Btw these are the things that impress YOU. Your Libra girlfriend might be impressed by different things. I'm speaking for myself here but my ex has sooo much ambition and follow thru, I know he'll be a millionaire one day. The sex was sooooo on point like damn! It wasn't enough for me. Libra is looking for a true partner in all aspects of life. Reciprocation in all aspects will get you there.

Venus in scorp needs to merge with their partner. That just intensifies all the Libra stuff. Aqua moon says if it's still not working, what's the point?, I need to break free. Leo mars seeks attention and passion from their partner and if that's there in quantity, they'll stick it out.

I feel like you're leaving out an important part of the story.
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The break up was bad, but nothing TOO crazy... we both over reacted, but haven't spoken in two months, so in my opinion we should both be at a cooled off phase where we can figure things out like adults. I'm also now finding out it was Venus retrograde? I don't know much about that, but it certainly had effects on both of us, since Venus RX was in Libra & Cancer and another sign....
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