Age and fatherhood

I am curious to learn what you think is a reasonable age still to become a father.

Lately I've been spending much time with the little one of my brother who seems to love me for reasons unknown, and I'm quite fond of that little one myself.

I don't have kids of my own, but it's not that I dislike being a father. It's more about the child than about me. I don't want someone having to grow up without a father. Maybe I'm thinking too much here, but I was thinking about at what age you're too old for it if you're not a Hollywood millionaire. When you father a child being in your thirties that child will be eighteen when you hit the fifties, being in your forties you'll be in your sixties already, and so on.

What do you think is a reasonable age for this?

Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

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Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

No I'm not trolling you. Didn't know you had a topic like that. I guess it's just being in a certain chapter of life and me just having moved. It's like starting a new life, but I'm older already than your dad was. I'm not tongue in cheek about this topic as I often am, it's a serious question.

Maybe I'm too much in my head but I'm at a point in my life where I'm thinking about many things. Also I lost my own dad early.

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Posted by borednbeautiful

Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

No I'm not trolling you. Didn't know you had a topic like that. I guess it's just being in a certain chapter of life and me just having moved. It's like starting a new life, but I'm older already than your dad was. I'm not tongue in cheek about this topic as I often am, it's a serious question.

Maybe I'm too much in my head but I'm at a point in my life where I'm thinking about many things. Also I lost my own dad early.

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We are at similar points, having just moved and starting a new life. So I completely understand you. As soon as my stuff arrives, I am going to the mountains to burn some stuff that doesn’t serve me anymore. I am gonna make a little fire like Bjorn-Bull Anderson (or was it Hansen?).

Yes, I brought a lot of baggage with me. But no matter where I go, I bring myself too.

Take your time. Don’t rush into any decisions. Make sure you want a child for the right reasons.

My dad was actually 35 when he was a father for the first time, because he had my brother first. I am the youngest in my family. But keep in mind how far the world has come since then.

Your age is not the problem. It’s finding that special person to have a child with, that might be the problem. Please don’t get offended. This is just my opinion.

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Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

Yeah my Dad was 29, will still go and do all these hunting trips together me and my sister he's 59 now. It'd be cool to be able to do that or something similar with my kids. I should find a wife...

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This might be a great creative project to work on.

Lot of fun too!

I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

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Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

No I'm not trolling you. Didn't know you had a topic like that. I guess it's just being in a certain chapter of life and me just having moved. It's like starting a new life, but I'm older already than your dad was. I'm not tongue in cheek about this topic as I often am, it's a serious question.

Maybe I'm too much in my head but I'm at a point in my life where I'm thinking about many things. Also I lost my own dad early.

We are at similar points, having just moved and starting a new life. So I completely understand you. As soon as my stuff arrives, I am going to the mountains to burn some stuff that doesn’t serve me anymore. I am gonna make a little fire like Bjorn-Bull Anderson (or was it Hansen?).

Yes, I brought a lot of baggage with me. But no matter where I go, I bring myself too.

Take your time. Don’t rush into any decisions. Make sure you want a child for the right reasons.

My dad was actually 35 when he was a father for the first time, because he had my brother first. I am the youngest in my family. But keep in mind how far the world has come since then.

Your age is not the problem. It’s finding that special person to have a child with, that might be the problem. Please don’t get offended. This is just my opinion.

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It's Hansen, you wrote me about him some time back.

I hear you regarding finding that special person. I have been with someone who was over a decade younger than me, but I feel it's just too young. It always comes down to the maturity of the person though.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

Family rumor has it my dad had a child out of wedlock really young. I might have a brother or a sister somewhere out there.

That explains why my Scorpio mom was always mean to my Aries dad.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

It's a difficult world we live in for sure. But even during the world wars people had kids.

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Reasonable age is 28 I think. That way when kid is 18, their dad is 46 so he can become a grandfather at that age. Wouldn’t that just be amazing?

But seriously, stop being in your head so much Libra and stop stealing all my ideas! 😆

My book

My wife

My husband

My perfume

My garden

And now my baby



Are you trolling me? Lol 🙈

Anyway. If becoming a father is what you want, by all means become one. As long as your wife/gf is younger, she can help you take care of it.

But if this purely a philosophical/hypothetical question, I think men could have children as late as whatever. My dad was older when he had me. He was 38. I turned out just fine. Or did I?

No I'm not trolling you. Didn't know you had a topic like that. I guess it's just being in a certain chapter of life and me just having moved. It's like starting a new life, but I'm older already than your dad was. I'm not tongue in cheek about this topic as I often am, it's a serious question.

Maybe I'm too much in my head but I'm at a point in my life where I'm thinking about many things. Also I lost my own dad early.

We are at similar points, having just moved and starting a new life. So I completely understand you. As soon as my stuff arrives, I am going to the mountains to burn some stuff that doesn’t serve me anymore. I am gonna make a little fire like Bjorn-Bull Anderson (or was it Hansen?).

Yes, I brought a lot of baggage with me. But no matter where I go, I bring myself too.

Take your time. Don’t rush into any decisions. Make sure you want a child for the right reasons.

My dad was actually 35 when he was a father for the first time, because he had my brother first. I am the youngest in my family. But keep in mind how far the world has come since then.

Your age is not the problem. It’s finding that special person to have a child with, that might be the problem. Please don’t get offended. This is just my opinion.

It's Hansen, you wrote me about him some time back.

I hear you regarding finding that special person. I have been with someone who was over a decade younger than me, but I feel it's just too young. It always comes down to the maturity of the person though.

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Yeah. If it wasn’t me for me, you’d never know about Hansen and all my crazy ideas! Lol

It does come down to maturity of the person. For example, I know women who are 10-15 years younger than me and way more mature. Way more responsible.

Keep looking and don’t get discouraged. It might be also down to divine timing. When it’s time, it’s time.

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

It's a difficult world we live in for sure. But even during the world wars people had kids.

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The world must go on. It will never go out of style .

My grandparents had 5 children on each side (mom and dad), so my mom and dad have 4 siblings each.

Was it easy growing up with so many brothers and sisters? No. But they are great, strong people.

The only one I don’t get along with is my cancer aunt. She must have a lot of gemini in her chart. She always provokes me and blends into my life way too much.

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

It's a difficult world we live in for sure. But even during the world wars people had kids.

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True. My stepdad uncle who even I used to address him as uncle as if he was my uncle too was born during the 1918 pandemic. And who else knows what other disaster happened in 1918. Come to think of it he was the neighborhood's uncle. Everybody on the block used to call him uncle followed by his first name.

Waited til I was 29. Basically 30 because he was born a month before my bday.



Im so glad too because I would have been a good father regardless as far as time goes but I was far from who I am today. I couldnt imagaine having him in my 20s because life was definitely a roller coaster.



To me, any age after 25. A man is a hard thing to change. But also whenever YOU feel youre ready.

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

Family rumor has it my dad had a child out of wedlock really young. I might have a brother or a sister somewhere out there.

That explains why my Scorpio mom was always mean to my Aries dad.

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I heard rumors that who I thought were my cousins all this time may or may not be my brothers instead. They on my father's side and it's even been said their my daddy sons. It can't be so cus for one their now in their mid to late 60s. So that mean my dad would've had them when he was around 10-12 years old or so. So that's a family mix up thing for me. I don't know who they are to me anymore. I had my first child at 19, the same exact age my dad became a dad. I find that a coincident.

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

Family rumor has it my dad had a child out of wedlock really young. I might have a brother or a sister somewhere out there.

That explains why my Scorpio mom was always mean to my Aries dad.

I heard rumors that who I thought were my cousins all this time may or may not be my brothers instead. They on my father's side and it's even been said their my daddy sons. It can't be so cus for one their now in their mid to late 60s. So that mean my dad would've had them when he was around 10-12 years old or so. So that's a family mix up thing for me. I don't know who they are to me anymore. I had my first child at 19, the same exact age my dad became a dad. I find that a coincident.

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You never know with family rumors. My dad was married briefly twice before my mom though. But no children. He was an Aries, it’s to be expected I guess.

What’s your parents sign?

It’s not as much your age as your willingness to dedicate your time to a curious, full of energy and eager to learn little being.

My grandparents (Gem and most likely a fire sign) had 7 children over a 20 years period. The youngest girl, the one with “old” parents, lol, was as full of love and had similarly wonderful memories about her father as the oldest girl. Although much shorter….unfortunately their father died in his 50es.

I had very young parents, and that was a mixed bag, I would say. Firstly, they were not ready for a child and wanted an abortion, but the law made it impossible. Then, they left me with my Gem grandma for my first 5 years and summer holidays afterwards. Growing up with an elderly person was the best part of my life. She had the time, the wisdom and the patience, plus the Gemini awesomeness as a bonus. I couldn’t have asked for a better upbringing.

When I was returned to my father, he was in his late 20es. It was quite a cultural shock, to be now raised by young people. I found them irresponsible, loud and scary. Especially my mother, who had NPD.

I felt protective of my father from a very young age. I was even giving him advice, lol, as if I was his older and more responsible sister. This was good in some ways, but has probably affected how I developed as a woman, since I have no clue how it feels to have a more traditional, protective male figure watching over me.

Posted by Maxian

Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

Family rumor has it my dad had a child out of wedlock really young. I might have a brother or a sister somewhere out there.

That explains why my Scorpio mom was always mean to my Aries dad.

I heard rumors that who I thought were my cousins all this time may or may not be my brothers instead. They on my father's side and it's even been said their my daddy sons. It can't be so cus for one their now in their mid to late 60s. So that mean my dad would've had them when he was around 10-12 years old or so. So that's a family mix up thing for me. I don't know who they are to me anymore. I had my first child at 19, the same exact age my dad became a dad. I find that a coincident.

You never know with family rumors. My dad was married briefly twice before my mom though. But no children. He was an Aries, it’s to be expected I guess.

What’s your parents sign?

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Mom Virgo

Dad Capricorn (biological)

Step dad Virgo

As you can see I was brought up by earth folks. Earth people makes strict parents. Some of the things we went thru with our parents would send all yall scurring away from home. Yall couldn't put up with it specially yall fiery ones. And for this reason is why I never told my stories I made my kids endure with me being a strict dad myself. I got that strictness from my dad. And since all my kids but one has a fiery moon sign I had hell with them.

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It’s not as much your age as your willingness to dedicate your time to a curious, full of energy and eager to learn little being.

My grandparents (Gem and most likely a fire sign) had 7 children over a 20 years period. The youngest girl, the one with “old” parents, lol, was as full of love and had similarly wonderful memories about her father as the oldest girl. Although much shorter….unfortunately their father died in his 50es.

I had very young parents, and that was a mixed bag, I would say. Firstly, they were not ready for a child and wanted an abortion, but the law made it impossible. Then, they left me with my Gem grandma for my first 5 years and summer holidays afterwards. Growing up with an elderly person was the best part of my life. She had the time, the wisdom and the patience, plus the Gemini awesomeness as a bonus. I couldn’t have asked for a better upbringing.

When I was returned to my father, he was in his late 20es. It was quite a cultural shock, to be now raised by young people. I found them irresponsible, loud and scary. Especially my mother, who had NPD.

I felt protective of my father from a very young age. I was even giving him advice, lol, as if I was his older and more responsible sister. This was good in some ways, but has probably affected how I developed as a woman, since I have no clue how it feels to have a more traditional, protective male figure watching over me.

Would you ever consider children? Don’t let your past and family define you. This was sad to read 😔

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

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I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

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It’s not as much your age as your willingness to dedicate your time to a curious, full of energy and eager to learn little being.

My grandparents (Gem and most likely a fire sign) had 7 children over a 20 years period. The youngest girl, the one with “old” parents, lol, was as full of love and had similarly wonderful memories about her father as the oldest girl. Although much shorter….unfortunately their father died in his 50es.

I had very young parents, and that was a mixed bag, I would say. Firstly, they were not ready for a child and wanted an abortion, but the law made it impossible. Then, they left me with my Gem grandma for my first 5 years and summer holidays afterwards. Growing up with an elderly person was the best part of my life. She had the time, the wisdom and the patience, plus the Gemini awesomeness as a bonus. I couldn’t have asked for a better upbringing.

When I was returned to my father, he was in his late 20es. It was quite a cultural shock, to be now raised by young people. I found them irresponsible, loud and scary. Especially my mother, who had NPD.

I felt protective of my father from a very young age. I was even giving him advice, lol, as if I was his older and more responsible sister. This was good in some ways, but has probably affected how I developed as a woman, since I have no clue how it feels to have a more traditional, protective male figure watching over me.

Would you ever consider children? Don’t let your past and family define you. This was sad to read 😔

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Why sad? I was probably luckier than many others, who didn’t even have a father. Dad was perfect for me in many way. He was a Cap/Aqua cusper, and I even like these energies in a partner, very much so!

Personally, I don’t think I have a maternal instinct. My parents wanted me to play nanny to my younger sister, but I wasn’t up for it. Never had “baby fever”, although children and young people seem to like me for some reason, like I’m one of them.

If I ever had desires or thoughts to have a child, they became much lower with age, to the point of being “silly ideas”. I can’t exclude emulating my own grandma and getting myself a toddler in my 60es, since I’m a triple mutable and so, unpredictable. However, I very much doubt it!

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I don't know but with the way things going on in this crazy f'd up world we living in (with baby formula shortage being amongst one of them) its probably best to start fatherhooding at 40. My dad first became a father at 19 having my oldest sister. It was good to be a father young then. The 60s I heard was the joint.

Family rumor has it my dad had a child out of wedlock really young. I might have a brother or a sister somewhere out there.

That explains why my Scorpio mom was always mean to my Aries dad.

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And also to respond to that you might have another brother or sister out there. I might have more kids out there that I never know about. A Gemini dude who I know very well once told me he saw a young man that look just like me working at a fast food chain. He asked if that's my son I told him not to my knowledge. Who knows, he could be my son. And if he is my son, I got one hellava back child support going on for me if I took a DNA.

when you feel ready i guess 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

i think every kid is different anyway after the toddlerhood stage. that's when i feel you should really focus on their individuality and get a better sense of who they are so they don't feel neglected. but my own parents were very distant in every aspect which made me grow up also to be very distant lol. but being a virgo, i feel like i was always naturally predisposed to be a little distant. which is also why i've seen my childhood as pretty ideal. plus my parents always seemed so mysterious to me 😅😅 i've always found it odd when people seem so hurt by how little interest their parents have for them. as if parents could not have a life of their own or be their own people. i've rarely seen my parents but i never took it against them. they left us with great nannies.

since i've always found this to be the 'normal state,' it became very hard for me to see when a relationship is going down the drain. being a parent looks like hard work beyond the physical/material in that you need to strike a balance between too much and not enough so you don't give your kids 'handicaps' in their future relationships.

i'd probably suck at it. might give my kids too much freedom and come off cold when i don't intend to. it's not that i don't care but i wouldn't want to smother anyone 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Posted by Mission2Venus

35+ is hard. Just think you’ll be pushing 60 and still have a kid or 2 in college.

What does it even mean, lol?

That you still have some sort of obligations and may not be able to follow your midlife crisis wish of starting again with some single mother young enough to be your daughter….?! 🤭

In my humble opinion, the main hurdle for a 40+ man to become a first time father, is to find a single woman, 35+, still willing to pop up a child.

Posted by DK

I am curious to learn what you think is a reasonable age still to become a father.

Lately I've been spending much time with the little one of my brother who seems to love me for reasons unknown, and I'm quite fond of that little one myself.

I don't have kids of my own, but it's not that I dislike being a father. It's more about the child than about me. I don't want someone having to grow up without a father. Maybe I'm thinking too much here, but I was thinking about at what age you're too old for it if you're not a Hollywood millionaire. When you father a child being in your thirties that child will be eighteen when you hit the fifties, being in your forties you'll be in your sixties already, and so on.

What do you think is a reasonable age for this?

I feel as though a good time is after your Saturn return (33+)



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There is never a right time. When you young, you don't get to experience life the way someone who did not have kids would, when you're older, time is against you. It happens when you are prepared and it happens when you are not prepared.

The only plus on your side is you don't have an actual clock that is counting down. So either focus on your first objective and find a wife. Or, be brave and adopt a child and be a single dad until you may find a wife.

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You just want to die having no time to make mistakes so your child (which is probably not even yours) have no shit to remember.

Only good stuff. Like your dad…died when you were young. But he loved you very much. Meet your real father…🕺

The right time for a man to become a father when woman you impregnated SAYS it’s a wrong time to have an abortion. 🙅‍♀️

Posted by SignificantlyChallenged

The hurdle is your woman.

I am in my very early 30's and am considering a child now.

Are you casting women for the role?

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The hurdle is your woman.

I am in my very early 30's and am considering a child now.

Are you casting women for the role?

My wife is 10 years older.

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I am sorry…

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

Yes, I'm a very airy Cancer with some Leo bits. You have Leo Moon right? Which house?

I have quite the bohemian mindset/life style , so I think we would get along just fine 😎

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Moon in Leo, in 3rd house of Gemini. What about yours?

I think I should just join your colony of fun 😛

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

There is never a right time. When you young, you don't get to experience life the way someone who did not have kids would, when you're older, time is against you. It happens when you are prepared and it happens when you are not prepared.

The only plus on your side is you don't have an actual clock that is counting down. So either focus on your first objective and find a wife. Or, be brave and adopt a child and be a single dad until you may find a wife.

No wife needed. It can be a girlfriend only or just a mutual child.

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According to astrology, your dad dying at a young enough age you don't remember him makes you powerful as Pluto is likely to be conjunct your Sun. Be that good or bad.

Either way, Sun in contact with Pluto means the father was most likely weak, narcissistic or dead. The Sun in a chart represents the father.

Saturn - Sun aspects can indicate a strong father or a weak one, the squares, conjunctions and oppositions are weak fathers.

Regardless of aspect, the father has a profoundly larger impact than usual. Good or bad.

Most likely a distant, cold, narcissistic dad. Pluto conjunction sun is the worst.

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

Yes, I'm a very airy Cancer with some Leo bits. You have Leo Moon right? Which house?

I have quite the bohemian mindset/life style , so I think we would get along just fine 😎

Moon in Leo, in 3rd house of Gemini. What about yours?

I think I should just join your colony of fun 😛

Aqua Mooner 11th house.

Yeah i think you should, i like your vibe! Anyone can apply for asylum in our colony of fun and pleasure. When do you arrive? 😁

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I like your vibe too!

So which one of your boyfriends will be with me or how does it work again? 😛

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

Yes, I'm a very airy Cancer with some Leo bits. You have Leo Moon right? Which house?

I have quite the bohemian mindset/life style , so I think we would get along just fine 😎

Moon in Leo, in 3rd house of Gemini. What about yours?

I think I should just join your colony of fun 😛

Aqua Mooner 11th house.

Yeah i think you should, i like your vibe! Anyone can apply for asylum in our colony of fun and pleasure. When do you arrive? 😁

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I like your vibe too!

So which one of your boyfriends will be with me or how does it work again? 😛

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Don't bother, because there's a 75% chance (at least) that your relationship with the mother will turn sour and you'll dearly pay the price for the next couple of decades.

If society was the way it used to be, say 50 years ago, my answer would have been very different. Sadly, women's attitudes have changed a lot since then and the mechanisations of modern society benefits women at the man's expense.

Oh dear, are the women tired of getting fucked over? treated like shit? or accepting bread crumbs?

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35+ is hard. Just think you’ll be pushing 60 and still have a kid or 2 in college.

How many babies do you have by now?

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

Yes, I'm a very airy Cancer with some Leo bits. You have Leo Moon right? Which house?

I have quite the bohemian mindset/life style , so I think we would get along just fine 😎

Moon in Leo, in 3rd house of Gemini. What about yours?

I think I should just join your colony of fun 😛

Aqua Mooner 11th house.

Yeah i think you should, i like your vibe! Anyone can apply for asylum in our colony of fun and pleasure. When do you arrive? 😁

I like your vibe too!

So which one of your boyfriends will be with me or how does it work again? 😛

You can try out all of them of you vibe with them, you got my consent.

I've got a Scorp and a new Leeb. Leo is abroad for work atm so he's not really IN it now. He might be cool for you. He's a feisty and funny romantic. Or are you done with Leo's? Haha

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Hmmm that’s all you’ve got? Lol

Definitely no Scorpio, Libra maybe and Leo only if he is a cool Leo and not a douchebag. I mean I still like Leos, not gonna lie…but sometimes I just want to strangle them.

Are you ready for the drama I’d bring to your house? 😆

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35+ is hard. Just think you’ll be pushing 60 and still have a kid or 2 in college.

How many babies do you have by now?

Lol that’s not me that’s my pop’s life

Remarried at 35 even if he didn’t have to

I forget what age he had my half bro and half sis but he’s in his 60s now and still working

Didn’t even remarry to a young single mom

He married a Rottweiler 😅

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Your dad sounds cool. What’s his sign?

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35+ is hard. Just think you’ll be pushing 60 and still have a kid or 2 in college.

How many babies do you have by now?

Lol that’s not me that’s my pop’s life

Remarried at 35 even if he didn’t have to

I forget what age he had my half bro and half sis but he’s in his 60s now and still working

Didn’t even remarry to a young single mom

He married a Rottweiler 😅

Your dad sounds cool. What’s his sign?

Sag

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And you? Still pretending to be in Clooney years? 😅

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

There is never a right time. When you young, you don't get to experience life the way someone who did not have kids would, when you're older, time is against you. It happens when you are prepared and it happens when you are not prepared.

The only plus on your side is you don't have an actual clock that is counting down. So either focus on your first objective and find a wife. Or, be brave and adopt a child and be a single dad until you may find a wife.

No wife needed. It can be a girlfriend only or just a mutual child.

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💯

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Posted by SignificantlyChallenged

According to astrology, your dad dying at a young enough age you don't remember him makes you powerful as Pluto is likely to be conjunct your Sun. Be that good or bad.

Either way, Sun in contact with Pluto means the father was most likely weak, narcissistic or dead. The Sun in a chart represents the father.

Saturn - Sun aspects can indicate a strong father or a weak one, the squares, conjunctions and oppositions are weak fathers.

Regardless of aspect, the father has a profoundly larger impact than usual. Good or bad.

Most likely a distant, cold, narcissistic dad. Pluto conjunction sun is the worst.

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I am sun conjuct pluto

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Whenever you feel ready is the right age. Age is such a weird concept to me. You should be mentally, emotionally, financially ready, and that can be as young as 25, but also until you're 40.

A friend is 41 and just had his first child because he didn't think he wanted one with his previous partner. Now he has developed and ready.

My grandfather had a bunch of kids and was 42 with his last child. My aunt was 14 when I was born. He did still so much with the kids and us grandkids, travels, taking care of us during school time. Yadda yadda. He was the best! 👌

What if you are 50 and still a flighty, free-spirit gemini moving from place to place? 🦋🥰😎

Planning children is so weird to me. I think it’s more fun unplanned and I wouldn’t wanna know the gender of the baby either. None of these gender reveal parties. Major cringe 😬

Still age doesn't apply. If you're OK and feel fine doing it at whatever age unplanned without knowing the gender of baby and want to wing it, you KNOW you want to wing it.

Personally I like both the 'surprise baby' and the romantic 'let's make a baby' lol.

I guess there are no rules, we are all fucked 😂

I have a feeling you and I would be good friends!

You are a cancer? I think what you described is like an ultimate cancer fantasy lol

I have a venus in cancer and this sounds about right ☺️

Yes, I'm a very airy Cancer with some Leo bits. You have Leo Moon right? Which house?

I have quite the bohemian mindset/life style , so I think we would get along just fine 😎

Moon in Leo, in 3rd house of Gemini. What about yours?

I think I should just join your colony of fun 😛

Aqua Mooner 11th house.

Yeah i think you should, i like your vibe! Anyone can apply for asylum in our colony of fun and pleasure. When do you arrive? 😁

I like your vibe too!

So which one of your boyfriends will be with me or how does it work again? 😛

You can try out all of them of you vibe with them, you got my consent.

I've got a Scorp and a new Leeb. Leo is abroad for work atm so he's not really IN it now. He might be cool for you. He's a feisty and funny romantic. Or are you done with Leo's? Haha

Hmmm that’s all you’ve got? Lol

Definitely no Scorpio, Libra maybe and Leo only if he is a cool Leo and not a douchebag. I mean I still like Leos, not gonna lie…but sometimes I just want to strangle them.

Are you ready for the drama I’d bring to your house? 😆

Was really on the fence about the Leeb too. But he is not what I expected. Told before on first date that I thought he was an arrogant dandy. He proved me SO wrong. What a gem.

This Leo is no douchebag. Very passionate in work and outside. And he could use a Gem like you!!!!!

Drama? I'll just ignore and eye-roll and use the Leo as my shield. Come on in 😂

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Tell that Leo to sign up for dxp. Let’s talk, lol! 🙈

Age has nothing to do with it! If your a shit father your gonna be a shitty ass father at 20 and at 60.

Ask kids raised by their grandparents.

Thing that matters most is time and resources. Something that is in short supply in our 20s and 30s for most normies.

And I'm with you op, I love being Auntie to my nephew. He is adorable and lovely and all the nice things. But the best part is when I get to hand him back to my sister and sleep in on the weekends lol

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As long as there's lead in the pencil. ✏️

As long as I am breathing, I’ll be able to become a mom. Until my last breath lol 😝

I think men are waiting longer and longer now, just like women. But women have time limits.

I know a guy who had his first kid at 45

Its funny to me the reasons people put on having kids at a certain age or how they imagine parenthood. The universe will always take a shit on your expectations.

Dude wants to have his kids young so he can teach his son to play the sport he loves. Son ends up liking dance and cheer 💅 zero interest in sports.

My poor mother had this vision that my sister or I would wear her wedding dress when we walk down the isle. Even if we were marriage inclined and wanted to wear that poufy monstrosity we are 5'8" and 5'9" and she is a tiny petite woman at 5'. RIP her dream of generational wedding dress lol.