Your Age and Your Biggest Regret

So, what’s yours?

Maybe this post will light a fire under someone.

Not marrying rich man 🤦‍♀️

Age I started to feel regret?

About 35.

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

Traveling more but I'm working on correcting that!

Posted by saggurl88

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

Oh dear! If anybody ever knew what is going g to happen to real estate…to me it’s like a lottery or casino.

Unless you having more than one house - it’s all the same. If you having more and renting out - headache is never ending.

But here on East Ciast we have NO idea how do you live in CA. It’s insanely expensive isn’t it?

Posted by saggurl88

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

You & have the reverse regret effect! 😅

Although, no matter how you slice it, I do not regret buying my house when I did.

As for you, you did the best you knew how with what you were given in life & good for you in doing so!

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Posted by saggurl88

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

Oh dear! If anybody ever knew what is going g to happen to real estate…to me it’s like a lottery or casino.

Unless you having more than one house - it’s all the same. If you having more and renting out - headache is never ending.

But here on East Ciast we have NO idea how do you live in CA. It’s insanely expensive isn’t it?

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It is expensive, but the pay is high too, if you're in the right industry. I could move and buy a house and take a pay cut, but I'm too lazy. I can afford to live here decently and still travel, so I'm not worried about it too much. I just wish I would've been wiser.

3 bedroom houses were $ 200,000 in good areas and now they are estimated at about $ 1.2 million for that same house. I don't think any area has jumped that high over the last 15 years like California has. Just crazy.

East coast has too much snow. I don't feel like shoveling it.

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Posted by saggurl88

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

You & have the reverse regret effect! 😅

Although, no matter how you slice it, I do not regret buying my house when I did.

As for you, you did the best you knew how with what you were given in life & good for you in doing so!

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Thank you! So you have a house and want to travel and all I do is travel without one lol Too funny.

Lots of, but the fact that I will never have my own apartments is the biggest one. I cannot afford it.

I'm with @saggurl88 on this one. I do regret not buying a home a few years ago.

I was sold the lie that you need 20% down and have to have savings before you purchase. The reality is waiting to save that 20% down and properties raising more than double that percentage meant your down payment doesn't go as far and you are back to square one. You may have more $ $ to throw down, but the dollar gets you less because you waited.

And I do kinda regret paying for a higher education. In my field its not what you know but who you know. If I had just started working for the right people I may have reached the point I'm at now sooner.

I am 34

but also

because every decision has led me to where I am today and I'm pretty content with where I'm at.

Non, je ne regrette rien

Posted by Jan12girl

My greatest regret is not meeting my best friend’s family when she passed. I was in my own state of shock and grief and had no courage to see them. I realised it too late that meeting them would have been the only thing that could give me some peace . They adored me and I know what they would have thought of me , that I didn’t care. Can’t blame them . She also wanted to come to my home first before going to her parents for vacation (during which she fell sick )but I was selfishly busy with my own things . May be things would have been different if she had come first to my place. I also regret the most that my ph was not reachable for a week because I was travelling. During which she fell sick . Her dad told my dad that she was talking about me when she she fell so terribly ill. I was not reachable. I couldn’t even talk to her because I was so careless. She was not just any friend , she was family .I wish I had heard her voice just once. I couldn’t even say good bye. Losing her scared me for life . I am always so scared of losing people .That thought never leaves me.

I have some other regrets but after talking about it , rest all feels so lame.

Sorry about your friend 😔

I can only imagine what that felt/ must feel like, and the guilt associated with it.

I’m not close to many people, but my bestie ( I have 2), but feel this love for the Virgo that I can’t shake, even when I want to. I didn’t speak to her for a little over a yr (due to a falling out) and I had so many dreams about her in that time, that something bad happened to her that it gave me anxiety.

I prayed every night for god to protect her and keep her safe.

It was my biggest fear, when we didn’t talk, and knew if anything did happen to her that it’d be my biggest regret (not putting my stubbornness aside and rectifying things).

I honestly think I’d go crazy if she dies before me.

I say this to say, I can empathize with what you must feel. The thought alone, makes me anxious.

I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.

38

My only regrets are not learning and understanding my mistakes.

Putting peoples words and my own fears ahead of my intuition. It locks me into a state of indecisiveness.

Lost a lot of time and opportunities that kept me in a state of mediocrity. Which is stupid I know I have great luck, I always get by and find a way.

I don't know if this counts because this is a regret that is in the wanted category and not needed. I hereby regret not getting a few jazz cds a very long time ago that are now and sadly out of print 😢.

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I should have learned a trade at 17. I think everything would have fallen in place if I did. Still not too late just a lot harder.

What would you have learned?

Old enough to know better and have

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Old enough to know better and have

Rugrats? The show? Yeah…no more. Cancelled. 🙄

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I should have learned a trade at 17. I think everything would have fallen in place if I did. Still not too late just a lot harder.

What would you have learned?

Plumbing, joinery or sparks.

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Such needed and useful trades

You’re still young enough to pursue

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Old enough to know better and have

Rugrats? The show? Yeah…no more. Cancelled. 🙄

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No ragrets

Not Rugrats

🥴

My biggest and only regret is making VERY bad investment decisions last year that’s set me back pretty badly on becoming a millionaire some day asap ☹️ Other than that I’m grateful for everything else.

I am 12.

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Posted by SassyKiwi

I am 12.

Plenty of time to make up for it then 😁

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You right, compound interest should greatly be in my favor

I've had so many bad things happening to me, but I can't say I regret anything because it made me who I am now. I'd say I'd always wished that I am somebody else, that I was made differently from the start, but somehow I always had to be true to myself because what's the point of not living through your experience.

Maybe the reckless spending and not being able to save money. That's something I wish I never did. Now I'd be in a better position.

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Monogamy. Huge wastes of time.

If I could have a do over, I'd have my two sons and never get into a ltr ever again in my lifetime.

I'd keep it simple with six months max and then move the hell on. lol

But doesn’t the idea of constantly having to start over with a new person so often drain you?

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Old enough to know better and have

Rugrats? The show? Yeah…no more. Cancelled. 🙄

No ragrets

Not Rugrats

🥴

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Ar we spoking different langwich?

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Posted by Jan12girl

My greatest regret is not meeting my best friend’s family when she passed. I was in my own state of shock and grief and had no courage to see them. I realised it too late that meeting them would have been the only thing that could give me some peace . They adored me and I know what they would have thought of me , that I didn’t care. Can’t blame them . She also wanted to come to my home first before going to her parents for vacation (during which she fell sick )but I was selfishly busy with my own things . May be things would have been different if she had come first to my place. I also regret the most that my ph was not reachable for a week because I was travelling. During which she fell sick . Her dad told my dad that she was talking about me when she she fell so terribly ill. I was not reachable. I couldn’t even talk to her because I was so careless. She was not just any friend , she was family .I wish I had heard her voice just once. I couldn’t even say good bye. Losing her scared me for life . I am always so scared of losing people .That thought never leaves me.

I have some other regrets but after talking about it , rest all feels so lame.

Sorry about your friend 😔

I can only imagine what that felt/ must feel like, and the guilt associated with it.

I’m not close to many people, but my bestie ( I have 2), but feel this love for the Virgo that I can’t shake, even when I want to. I didn’t speak to her for a little over a yr (due to a falling out) and I had so many dreams about her in that time, that something bad happened to her that it gave me anxiety.

I prayed every night for god to protect her and keep her safe.

It was my biggest fear, when we didn’t talk, and knew if anything did happen to her that it’d be my biggest regret (not putting my stubbornness aside and rectifying things).

I honestly think I’d go crazy if she dies before me.

I say this to say, I can empathize with what you must feel. The thought alone, makes me anxious.

I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.

Thank you .

The friend that I spoke about was also a Virgo. In fact I also had 2 besties, both Virgos . The other one is my best friend for 25 years now.

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My other bestie is cancer ♋️…funny bc I’m Aqua, but guess it’s my cap Venus

You definitely can’t blame yourself though, I’m sure your Virgo knew you loved her 💞

How did you cope with her loss? What did you do when you were sad? If it’s too many questions or you’d rather not talk about it, you don’t have to answer

34 and my relationship choices. Man they were awful. Especially the last one. But it taught me that I had s false sense of self and never relied on my strength. Just my pride. I lived by the mask I wore.

Man....I love my son to death. Thats my world thats mt world thats my mf world man. He changed me so mucb and I wish he knew the man I became the day he was born. But his mother is the worst woman I have ever met. In every sense of the word. I never tell him that cuz she is a good mother but the 4 years we have been seperated, her attitude has not changed. Stillcas hateful and disrespectful as ever. I finally learned to just ignore. I only gotta deal with her when we exchange him. I learned to not let her vent cuz it always came with insults. I also learned that she never loved me and all the signs were there. And yes, the worst happened the entire time we were together. While I was at home with my son and hers. Smh

BUT I left. She woke up to all my shit gone. Happiest day of both our lives but it is hard to co parent with her. But I also wouldnt be this strong and self assured without having going thru what I went thru with her even thru the separation. Im so much wiser and spiritual and I accepted that what will happen....will.

My biggest regret is being unmarried woman at my age.

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Posted by borednbeautiful

My biggest regret is being unmarried woman at my age.

Keep looking for your husband.

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Yeah. If I had any worth, I’d have found him by now. Luckily, I still have some money to afford my own food, lol.

I can’t say I’ll never have one but by the age of 55 I had never had an orgy.

I think it’ll be so stupid if I’ll never have one. But I still have time. I can’t imagine being 80 and still NOT had an real Roman style orgy!

38 and my biggest regret is not finding my way with grief earlier. For letting drugs cloud my mind and letting my priorities get out of whack. I lost the love of my life so far bc I couldn’t get my shit together quicker. I kick myself every day for fucking up that relationship.

Mostly it’s not taking the time to get to know myself early on and instead hopping from relationship to relationship further losing myself with every one. I didn’t listen when people told me to take time for myself, I didn’t do the therapy. I just didn’t try to be better until it was too late, for that at least.

And to go deeper and earlier, I regret listening to anyone who said I couldn’t do something. I regret letting everyone around me bring me down. I regret not being more resolute in myself. I regret taking anything personally.

Posted by Hypnotoad

Not going all in on my sport when I was younger, letting self doubt stop me. Not realizing how little time you have in your youth and wasting it. Not doing everything I could to go to university when I was younger. Not being a massive ho in my early 20s...

Youth is truly wasted on the young.

Posted by Lostthoughts

38

My only regrets are not learning and understanding my mistakes.

Putting peoples words and my own fears ahead of my intuition. It locks me into a state of indecisiveness.

Lost a lot of time and opportunities that kept me in a state of mediocrity. Which is stupid I know I have great luck, I always get by and find a way.

I feel you 💜

Posted by Libraandgenerous

Posted by borednbeautiful

My biggest regret is being unmarried woman at my age.

Honestly another regret is wasting my twenties to find a husband and I'm glad I didn't, should have just enjoyed dating and working on myself, funny how society can dictate what you need to do with your life most of my friends got married for the wrong reasons and they just lost who they were, finding the right person takes time, and believe it or not most married people are stuck with the wrong person and they can do nth about it cause there r kids involved.

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I am just tired of anywhere I go, I get asked where is your HUSBAND??!!!!!!

Even on freaking dxp. Give me a break already, lol.

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Posted by borednbeautiful

My biggest regret is being unmarried woman at my age.

Honestly another regret is wasting my twenties to find a husband and I'm glad I didn't, should have just enjoyed dating and working on myself, funny how society can dictate what you need to do with your life most of my friends got married for the wrong reasons and they just lost who they were, finding the right person takes time, and believe it or not most married people are stuck with the wrong person and they can do nth about it cause there r kids involved.

I am just tired of anywhere I go, I get asked where is your HUSBAND??!!!!!!

Even on freaking dxp. Give me a break already, lol.

Then when you find your husband they're gonna start asking " where are the kids?"

It's just never ends with people

Don't let that pressure you into anything

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I just want a Leo boy-toy, right now, honestly.

While I “wait” for this “my husband” thingie, why not have some fun?

@MoesMoneys

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Posted by Jan12girl

My greatest regret is not meeting my best friend’s family when she passed. I was in my own state of shock and grief and had no courage to see them. I realised it too late that meeting them would have been the only thing that could give me some peace . They adored me and I know what they would have thought of me , that I didn’t care. Can’t blame them . She also wanted to come to my home first before going to her parents for vacation (during which she fell sick )but I was selfishly busy with my own things . May be things would have been different if she had come first to my place. I also regret the most that my ph was not reachable for a week because I was travelling. During which she fell sick . Her dad told my dad that she was talking about me when she she fell so terribly ill. I was not reachable. I couldn’t even talk to her because I was so careless. She was not just any friend , she was family .I wish I had heard her voice just once. I couldn’t even say good bye. Losing her scared me for life . I am always so scared of losing people .That thought never leaves me.

I have some other regrets but after talking about it , rest all feels so lame.

Sorry about your friend 😔

I can only imagine what that felt/ must feel like, and the guilt associated with it.

I’m not close to many people, but my bestie ( I have 2), but feel this love for the Virgo that I can’t shake, even when I want to. I didn’t speak to her for a little over a yr (due to a falling out) and I had so many dreams about her in that time, that something bad happened to her that it gave me anxiety.

I prayed every night for god to protect her and keep her safe.

It was my biggest fear, when we didn’t talk, and knew if anything did happen to her that it’d be my biggest regret (not putting my stubbornness aside and rectifying things).

I honestly think I’d go crazy if she dies before me.

I say this to say, I can empathize with what you must feel. The thought alone, makes me anxious.

I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.

Thank you .

The friend that I spoke about was also a Virgo. In fact I also had 2 besties, both Virgos . The other one is my best friend for 25 years now.

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Virgos can be some of the best lifelong companions. They are true buddy types and just like companionship. And some can be truly fierce friends!

Posted by saggurl88

My biggest regret is not buying a house in my late 20's.

I spent tons on vacations instead. I don't mind it now, cause the housing market in California is ridiculous, but had I bought in my late 20's, my mortgage would've been a third of the cost of my current rent and I would've had even more money saved.

I never had any adult examples to look up to, so I really just didn't know how inflation and costs of living worked. I can always move to a more affordable place and buy, but I like living in California.

Ditto.

Posted by AbbyNormal

38 and my biggest regret is not finding my way with grief earlier. For letting drugs cloud my mind and letting my priorities get out of whack. I lost the love of my life so far bc I couldn’t get my shit together quicker. I kick myself every day for fucking up that relationship.

Mostly it’s not taking the time to get to know myself early on and instead hopping from relationship to relationship further losing myself with every one. I didn’t listen when people told me to take time for myself, I didn’t do the therapy. I just didn’t try to be better until it was too late, for that at least.

And to go deeper and earlier, I regret listening to anyone who said I couldn’t do something. I regret letting everyone around me bring me down. I regret not being more resolute in myself. I regret taking anything personally.

Don’t regret, Abbey. Re-invent!

It’s never too late to create the future we want 💖

Posted by LadyNeptune

I'm with @saggurl88 on this one. I do regret not buying a home a few years ago.

I was sold the lie that you need 20% down and have to have savings before you purchase. The reality is waiting to save that 20% down and properties raising more than double that percentage meant your down payment doesn't go as far and you are back to square one. You may have more $ $ to throw down, but the dollar gets you less because you waited.

And I do kinda regret paying for a higher education. In my field its not what you know but who you know. If I had just started working for the right people I may have reached the point I'm at now sooner.

I am 34

Agreed. Idk if my MBA has really gotten me somewhere

Posted by GenericUsername

I've had so many bad things happening to me, but I can't say I regret anything because it made me who I am now. I'd say I'd always wished that I am somebody else, that I was made differently from the start, but somehow I always had to be true to myself because what's the point of not living through your experience.

Maybe the reckless spending and not being able to save money. That's something I wish I never did. Now I'd be in a better position.

I think everyone should blow at least one paycheck

I regret marrying my first husband. Luckily, it didn’t last long. I also regret moving to Oregon from Southern California & selling my Socal house. Not sure I’m ever getting out of here..

I do think I’d still be married if we hadn’t moved. But, then I wouldn’t have gone through the personal growth I needed to. So good things happen out of the regrets too. So it’s cool 🙂

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31.

My biggest regret is not having any regrets. I know that sounds stupid on the surface, but I truly regret nothing. Maybe when my parents die I'll truly feel regret. Maybe I will regret not hugging my mother more, or mending things with my dad, or telling my step dad how much I truly appreciate everything he did to help me in life. Maybe I will regret not being able to open up more, or able to express how much I deeply appreciate the people I love. Maybe I will regret living my life as a truly cold rock that just exists. Or maybe I will forever feel nothing, and forever live in a somewhat numb state of mind till I die.

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Monogamy. Huge wastes of time.

If I could have a do over, I'd have my two sons and never get into a ltr ever again in my lifetime.

I'd keep it simple with six months max and then move the hell on. lol

But doesn’t the idea of constantly having to start over with a new person so often drain you?

Starting over with someone new is draining.

But would I rather do that after six months or ten years?

If the end result is going to be the same, why should I bother?

I'd rather have a dozen six month relationships with a bunch of single time in between.....then one decade long relationship that ends up the exact same way.

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I still like to believe there’s such a thing as happily ever after in this world :c

I regret having head steers

They've ruined my life, even though technically, I'm still the richest woman in the world(though, my wealth is unlisted).

Nothing else.

Quitting med school.

I'm 27.

not dating that astronomist guy in uni who used to bring me cheesy sushi just coz he's much older than me. i always wonder about that 🤔🤔

i'm 28.

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not dating that astronomist guy in uni who used to bring me cheesy sushi just coz he's much older than me. i always wonder about that 🤔🤔

i'm 28.

Raw deal.

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i really should've dated more in uni. that's a place you're compatible with people. was always studying tho i partied sometimes. but every time someone tried anything, i always walked away.

people with similar backgrounds, interests, socio-economic status, education, etc. that's where it's at. it really doesn't help that i'm so non-judgy about status. lately, i've realized that it pisses me off more to be conned by a public schooler than the alternative.

but maybe i'm just bitter 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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31.

My biggest regret is not having any regrets. I know that sounds stupid on the surface, but I truly regret nothing. Maybe when my parents die I'll truly feel regret. Maybe I will regret not hugging my mother more, or mending things with my dad, or telling my step dad how much I truly appreciate everything he did to help me in life. Maybe I will regret not being able to open up more, or able to express how much I deeply appreciate the people I love. Maybe I will regret living my life as a truly cold rock that just exists. Or maybe I will forever feel nothing, and forever live in a somewhat numb state of mind till I die.

I can feel the angst of your Scorpio moon

😔

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Quitting med school.

I'm 27.

There's still time if you want to do that. Probably about 40 years left to work.

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I got a degree in something else but I still yearn for trying and studying it again. It'll cost a fortune though so I gave it up. 😂

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I regret not living in a foreign country

I regret meeting a certain Scorpio

I regret not leaving bad jobs sooner