@SassyKiwi
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The neighbor with multiple wives
Utah is that you?
Sister Wives series in this very country. Been going on forever. Idk if it had ended but you can still see all of it. 🙄
Posted by LadyNeptuneUtah is that you?
Idk if multiple wives are legally seen in Utah but not in Texas thankfully
Posted by GemiMaySister Wives series in this very country. Been going on forever. Idk if it had ended but you can still see all of it. 🙄
I haven’t seen it but my parents have yet to witness a huge party with all the wives. Would totally want to crash it if my parents were ever invited to something like that… not that my mom would go tho.
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by LadyNeptuneUtah is that you?
Idk if multiple wives are legally seen in Utah but not in Texas thankfully
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Its not legal anywhere in the states. But calling someone your wife doesn't mean they legally are.
Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by SassyKiwiPosted by LadyNeptuneUtah is that you?
Idk if multiple wives are legally seen in Utah but not in Texas thankfully
Its not legal anywhere in the states. But calling someone your wife doesn't mean they legally are.
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No. His first one is but all 3 or 4 others agreed and I think made some papers. I am sure he has will for children. They seemed pretty fucked up after few years to the show. And of course they had each new house afyer show money started to come.
I am wondering IF they weren’t on the show - how would that go then?
Posted by saggurl88Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Do you know his zodiac sign? I like my men finding one woman as a headache enough.
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Do you know his zodiac sign? I like my men finding one woman as a headache enough.
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I should ask him lol I don't know, he treats them fairly, IMO Instead of just cheating and having a side piece.
Posted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
Because it'll bring a whole nother level of 'keeping up with the jonesess' if op's dad decides to emulate him. Can't let your neighbor one up you, its unamerican.
Posted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
Basically^^
I'd add being happy within the set up too. Not treated like dirt is a low bar lol
Kids are involved though. So long as they are successfully raised to be personally successful adults.... fuck it.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Do you know his zodiac sign? I like my men finding one woman as a headache enough.
I should ask him lol I don't know, he treats them fairly, IMO Instead of just cheating and having a side piece.
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Yeah maybe start with a joke like your face looks like a Gemini or something… just don’t get him getting the wrong impression you’re interested cause I don’t think you want a proposal to be his third :p
Posted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
It affects me because hearing about its existence is like collateral damage as it gives me and my mother migraines.
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
Basically^^
I'd add being happy within the set up too. Not treated like dirt is a low bar lol
Kids are involved though. So long as they are successfully raised to be personally successful adults.... fuck it.
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Unfortunately I’ve seen the kids in such situations end up more fucked up than successful adults. What’s your sign?
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Do you know his zodiac sign? I like my men finding one woman as a headache enough.
I should ask him lol I don't know, he treats them fairly, IMO Instead of just cheating and having a side piece.
Yeah maybe start with a joke like your face looks like a Gemini or something… just don’t get him getting the wrong impression you’re interested cause I don’t think you want a proposal to be his third :p
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LOL he's busy enough as it is.
What's funny is that he looks like a complete nerd, but he takes care of his women, so at least he's doing it right.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
Because it'll bring a whole nother level of 'keeping up with the jonesess' if op's dad decides to emulate him. Can't let your neighbor one up you, its unamerican.
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One of my dad’s brothers had gotten a second wife and let’s just say many suspect she murdered him in his sleep. If that didn’t scare him, nothing will.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by saggurl88Our tech guy has multiple wives. He has 2, he vacations separately with them.
One takes care of his kids, the other has no kids with him, but takes care of his elderly dad. He rotates holidays and pays all the household bills. They are kept woman who don't have much to worry about and choose this life.
Do you know his zodiac sign? I like my men finding one woman as a headache enough.
I should ask him lol I don't know, he treats them fairly, IMO Instead of just cheating and having a side piece.
Yeah maybe start with a joke like your face looks like a Gemini or something… just don’t get him getting the wrong impression you’re interested cause I don’t think you want a proposal to be his third :p
LOL he's busy enough as it is.
What's funny is that he looks like a complete nerd, but he takes care of his women, so at least he's doing it right.
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The nerdy looking ones are ALWAYS full of surprises. Yeah I do think it’s more respectable than men who go around knocking up women with lots of child support cases hung over their heads. I work in a law firm and we be getting so many surprise child support payment letters that need to be paid from the client’s cut of settlements. I love how none of them ever let us know in advance (:
Posted by StonyPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
Basically^^
I'd add being happy within the set up too. Not treated like dirt is a low bar lol
Kids are involved though. So long as they are successfully raised to be personally successful adults.... fuck it.
LOL obviously they should all be happy with the arrangement, that's what I mean. Everything should be on the level.
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I have come across poly / open relationships where it turns out 1 member wasn't actually "happy" but not mistreated.
It really depends on what everyone's basic needs in a relationship are.
Posted by HypnotoadHow many of the kids are really his though
Ikr, at least one of the wives has got to be rouge and has a side piece of their own on the side to feel better about the whole setup whenever the reality of it hits them.
Posted by _elle_I wish to one day see a thread titled "The Neighbor with multiple Husbands".
That would be so fascinating. lol
ME TOO. But alas, clearly multiple wives in general are easier to satisfy and keep content than multiple husbands…?!
Posted by poppyflower
Geez, I saw an episode of a show once where there was this super rich guy who had multiple "wives". Shock to hear this stuff happening for real.
Very real. I just want my dad to have better influences as friends 😐
Posted by 51R60Are the houses his wives live in even nice?
From the few neighborhoods of the homes I’ve heard of, they’re all in upper middle class areas. This guy is like in his 50s at the least, I don’t know his exact job but he’s in the home building business, he knows his stuff very well from what I hear. He’s managed building million dollar homes but I don’t think he has his own million dollar home for any of the wives. He tries to keep it fair in that department I think… lol
I'm trying to put myself into this type of situation mentally to understand it better. I feel I'm too controlling to share a woman with another man. Then again, if I liked him enough and felt a deep level of trust it could possibly work. I would also be into multiple women, but again there would have to be a deep level of trust and respect between everyone. The second there was jealousy or envy I wouldn't absolutely hate it. This is why I stay alone tbh. It's hard enough to have a good relationship with one person, let alone multiple lmao!
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by StonyWhy does it matter if he has more than one wife as long as everyone is on the same page and no one's being treated like dirt?
It affects me because hearing about its existence is like collateral damage as it gives me and my mother migraines.
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Yeah i can see how some women get insecure around men like that lol
The younger me would never go along with this scenario and most of me still wouldn’t.
But as I get older, fuck it. I suppose I could try being one of the wives if he treats everyone “the same”. In theory, that’s possible but how could it ever be verified? Especially when it comes to sex. It’s also gross…
But considering how expensive everything is and how difficult it is to be a single woman 👩🏼 fighting for herself, perhaps it would not be so bad to be claimed by a good provider.
Men with multiple wives make it their only personality trait. I am absolutely triggered and disgusted by it. 🤢
Posted by ImperfectStormIt wouldn’t be so bad if there weren’t kids involved. The women are old enough to make their own choices, and some women like to have their space.. but kids are a different story. It makes me sad that all those kids won’t have a consistent father in the home.
Then again… that’s the case in a lot of single parent homes anyway. But I agree, I couldn’t do it. I don’t like to share my man. 😆
It's merely sexual for most of those men, they don't give a damn about their children.
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My dad befriended this one neighbor during his daily walks... They’ve become pretty good neighbor pals. He likes giving my dad home cooked dishes. My mom doesn’t like that because she feels obligated to do the same when she doesn’t want any involvement cause of what my dad found out later. This guy has multiple “wives” who he each gave a separate house to live in (cause he’s all about that familial peace huh *snorts*). They’re all over the city. He makes his rounds in each every so months. He claims to be religious. From his stories, it’s definitely more than 4 wives… each with their own sets of children. I personally haven’t seen this guy myself. Sure this stuff works back in certain countries but here you can legally have 1 wife…. The others are like girlfriends technically. He constantly has a new kid on the way with one of the wives… just ugh. Can you imagine the legal mess the wives and children will be dealing with if this guy passes away. But yeah, my mom and I don’t like him and how my dad’s befriended him but he’s a grown ass adult so…