Are you usually jealous/possessive of your close friends?

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Rainbow87
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I decided to post about this topic because I rarely have close friends anymore.

I used to be besties with this girl. Let’s call her Cindy. So Cindy and I used to hang out all the time, talk about our problems, joke around and do stuff together. I considered her a close friend.

Then I met this other girl named Natalie who I talked to ocasionally but I wouldn’t consider her a close friend. I had a better connection with Cindy. One day I was with Natalie and I had to introduce her to Cindy because she happened to be at a friend’s house and we were meeting with other people as a group. I don’t know how it happened but Cindy and Natalie slowly started becoming friends and now they are like besties.

Cindy talks to Natalie a lot more than she talks to me 😟 and I hate it for some reason. I have both of them on social media and I haven’t talk to them in ages but I see how they always interract while I am pretty much pushed to the side. And it’s not the first time it happens. Back in middle school I remember a girl who always had to hang out with different people, otherwise she would get bored. So she went from being a cool friend to totally distancing herself once she found a more interesting person.

I do know I had a really good friend who was an Aquarius. She had TONS of friends but never “ditched” me to hang out with someone else. They say Aquas make good friends and maybe it’s true. But she went to different schools and we didn’t see each other again.

Do you have similar experiences? Are you jealous of your friends or hate it when they prefer to hang out with others rather than with you?
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LadyNeptune
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Maybe ages ago when I was a teenager. Not now tho.

I'm actually more and more concerned about one of my friends. Since we both moved further away from each other we haven't seen each other as much + global pandemic so of course that makes sense.

But I also see he's surrounding himself with people that appear to only mooch off of him. It worries me because he's very giving and sharing personality and financially (with his partners money who pays for everything). But I question whether these are just fair weather friends. If his relationship ends he will not have all the stuff that this group seems to flock to him for. So yeah, I worry about his choice of friends. Especially as people can be very superficial here and while he has that aspect to his personality (loves designer shit, plastic surgery, sm flex, etc) he's also a really genuine character underneath all that fluff. I know he's getting emotionally involved and I worry where he will be at when it inevitably will come crashing down.

But also he is an adult and his own person... so I keep my mouth closed cause it ain't my business.

For example, he was thinking of going back to work to gain some financial independence because his partner pays for everything. And one of these new friends was like, no don't do that cause then we can't go for fun lunches and adventures (that he pays for!).

Ughhhh it annoys me. Obviously I gave him the opposite advice. Yes get a job! Even part time. Build your credit, save your money. All your bills are being paid by your partner atm... but that could change. Don't feel stuck in the relationship... plan for the future.
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No, but I attract possessive friends because I'm a loner who gives any close friend lots of attention and priority.

That's your Leo Moon, I think.

I have to keep my friend groups separate and hang out with them one at a time, because I spotlight them so much when we are together.

My friends will notice and think I'm doing exactly what you said and it makes me feel like I'm not being loyal to them.

It's just easier to hang out separately.