Can you cry in public or you do it in private?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Rainbow87 on Friday, October 18, 2019 and has 10 replies.

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@Rainbow87
7 Years

Are you strong enough to hold your tears? I'm a Cancer and I'm pretty strong but when I'm by myself I can cry like a baby!!!

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@SeaLion
7 Years1,000+ Posts

I have cried in public a few times, but for the most part I'd rather do it in private.

I've cried at work a lot after getting yelled at by a boss. But I usually go onto the bathroom until I calm down if I can make it.

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@nikkistar
9 Years10,000+ Posts

I think the only time I cry in public is when I watch those stupid ass SPCA commercials with Sarah Mc:Lachlan singing "In the Arms of an Angel".

Fuck those commercials.

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@PuzzlePieces
7 Years1,000+ Posts

Private.. ok fine sometimes public.. reading my dad’s eulogy I choked up but made it through.. movies sometimes tears.. but full on crying and sobbing definitely private or on a beach when no one’s watching ( kinda private).

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@Rainbow87
7 Years

I don't know if it's normal but I'm strong when it comes to crying. When people die, such as my grandma I did not cry. I don't think I'm heartless but there are other situations that make me cry. Like, something unfair happening, seeing someone suffer or something like that. And for some reason I'm embarassed to cry in front of others. A few tears are ok, but not snobbing. That's just me.

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@Soul
11 Years10,000+ Posts

I somewhat do in private, and it's always random. Either I was watching something that sparked my emotions, or was listening to music and it made me feel/ think a specific way which sparked my emotions.

This gets really hard in public like when watching something. My cousins wedding was kind of tough, but manageable. Funerals are even harder, but I try to be a rock from everyone else. I feel like me forcing myself to be strong somewhat takes the strain off of everyone else.

Sometimes I still try to hold it back in private too. It's like I'm afraid to let the feeling completley control me. Normally in private it goes from tears swelling, then rolling, me holding back and making weird noises to keep it contained, then me forcing myself to pull it together. Normally that is during depressed moments from digging too deep within myself. Then I'm afraid to look at myself in a mirror. Other times i let it somewhat control me, and dont hide from it at all. I'll replay the thing that made me cry over and over just to feel it again because its so different to me. Tears of joy from a deeper understanding of people and life are the best. Yet if I feel that in public or around people I'm the type to completely walk away before anyone notices. Its really strange, and really pisses of women my age lol.