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You definitely did the right thing. Disgusting that this idiot is breeding uncontrollably like cockroaches. (Nothing against the kids, just this out of control troglodyte.
He needs to be neutered like yesterday.
But yea, you and your friend may want to find another gym to avoid drama. And then focus on cheering her up. 🙂
Hopefully she will leave him and not let him get away with not paying maximum child support for each kid he's impregnated her with.
Just because she told you she didn't know .... doesn't mean she didn't know. It means, she wants you to believe she didn't know.
In fact, why would she say it, and more than once, even.
It wasn't your place to tell her. It was his place to tell her. You shouldn't have said a word to her ... you should have all kinds of words for him.
It's very bizarre that he would tell the pregnant woman that he didn't know you ... why would he do that? Why would he automatically assume that you'd let that lie stand? Very strange to me that he was caught and then played stupid, when in reality, you could have spilled all the beans.
Why would he be confident in banking on that?
There are a lot of loose ends here that don't make sense. But, people in here have made bad judgment calls on his character even though this doesn't make sense ... and maybe that was your aim?
Just because she told you she didn't know .... doesn't mean she didn't know. It means, she wants you to believe she didn't know.
In fact, why would she say it, and more than once, even.
It wasn't your place to tell her. It was his place to tell her. You shouldn't have said a word to her ... you should have all kinds of words for him.
It's very bizarre that he would tell the pregnant woman that he didn't know you ... why would he do that? Why would he automatically assume that you'd let that lie stand? Very strange to me that he was caught and then played stupid, when in reality, you could have spilled all the beans.
Why would he be confident in banking on that?
There are a lot of loose ends here that don't make sense. But, people in here have made bad judgment calls on his character even though this doesn't make sense ... and maybe that was your aim?
I saw this (loose ends) too...however, and I can't help this, I always think of those who are never selfish and who will suffer the most, and that's the KIDS. They are the ones who will get fucked in this situation, and I guarantee you the two kids prior to the five are being screwed by the father. Hence why, and again why I would confront him with the wife there. I look at it as a condom/birth control in disguise. Stop that dick in it's tracks.
Temporarily anyway...
Something smells really fishy here ........
How could a married guy with 5 kids be able to have a girlfriend, and make a baby without his wife knowing something is up?
There was no suspicion? AT ALL?
Or, was there, and she turned blind eyes?
If a person remains ignorant by choice .... then they aren't a victim.
She must not be paying him enough attention to not notice that he's "out" enough to have girlfriends and babies.
So, how many women are looking from this on the other foot? Or, are they just responding emotionally because that's all they are capable of doing - if you had a boyfriend who could NEVER spend the night with you, who would NEVER let you meet anyone or come to his house, who would NEVER let you call or text his cell after a certain time ... you'd really be that big of a fool?
So, now take that ^^^^^^ in mind while thinking about the encounter at the gym. Here your gym buddy and your bf have an obvious situation, which should have all kinds of flags waving ... but, you just blow it all off?
I don't think so, and neither would anyone else if they actually thought about this, rather than just reacting to destroying his character because you'll are females and so punishing all men is your job in life to make you feel better ....
If you encountered a situation in which your bf (obviously) knew one of your friends - when you didn't know squat about his (other) personal life .... the reality is that you'd be drilling her to no end. You'd be all over her, trying to pry any information you could get at all about him.
This thread is pissing on your shoes and telling you it's raining .... and you believe it.
I also wish that like all of the nationwide pedophile sights/organizations there could be the same for dead beat fathers and mothers. Have their updated mug shots plastered EVERYWHERE. This way any unsuspecting woman/man about to hook up with one at least has a heads up on the piece of shit they are thinking about being with.
My concern is the children also.
To participate in breaking up a family, even if you're just the whistle-blower, is still participating.
The correct thing to do was to confront him, and tell him that he better fess up.
But, I think this is a troll post, tbh .... and in place just to create drama ... because it doesn't make sense.
if you were cheating on your husband and you ran into the god mother of one your children, who has known your spouse since the age of 13 ... are you really going to blow it off and pretend ignorance?
NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're not ... but, yet, we are suppose to believe that.
think !!! If it doesn't make sense, then it's probably not true.
Something smells really fishy here ........
How could a married guy with 5 kids be able to have a girlfriend, and make a baby without his wife knowing something is up?
There was no suspicion? AT ALL?
Or, was there, and she turned blind eyes?
If a person remains ignorant by choice .... then they aren't a victim.
Nope stupid women aren't victims, but I'm speaking for the kids. They are the ones who ultimately get fucked. ALWAYS. The real clue for this woman....five kids and he works @ Target. I'd venture to say taxpayers are paying for the rest...which after it goes through the beaureaucratic offices filled with bullshit, the kids again end up with NOTHING.
My concern is the children also.
To participate in breaking up a family, even if you're just the whistle-blower, is still participating.
The correct thing to do was to confront him, and tell him that he better fess up.
But, I think this is a troll post, tbh .... and in place just to create drama ... because it doesn't make sense.
if you were cheating on your husband and you ran into the god mother of one your children, who has known your spouse since the age of 13 ... are you really going to blow it off and pretend ignorance?
NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're not ... but, yet, we are suppose to believe that.
think !!! If it doesn't make sense, then it's probably not true.
Well, if it's a troll post...so be it. If it's not...and the sperm donor did blow it off..it's probably a result of arrogance, or who knows P..maybe he fucked the Godmother too. In this fucked up society, you just never know. You'd be amazed what I see. It's fucking disgusting.
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....
That's all I was thinking about reading this! ^
And then :: If there's any truth to this story, I would say mind your own business.
The first thing that comes out of my mouth is "WTF". His mouth drops and she looking at me strange.
So, here we have a woman who can't stop talking about her wonderful man, to the point that you have to zone her out. But, obviously, she can know nothing about his (other) personal life because he can't let her in on it, now can he?
So, here's an encounter where you mouthing wtf and his mouth drops open .... and just looks at you strange? She only has one brain cell? And so can only look at you strange?
There's nothing in here that suggests you two know each other? really?
I dont' think so ... I think something is bullshit.
In reality, if this were true ... she's be all over that shit, all over you. Because she's been having a relationship with a guy that isn't including her in his (other) personal life, and here you are, someone who knows his secrets he's been keeping from her.
Life doesnt' work that way ... but, I see there are all kinds of females in here with angst against men in their own life so they emotionally react to what you've said, rather than think.
I dont know enough about their marriage to know if something is wrong.
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If you don't know enough .... then you're not close to her.
It means that she doesn't confide in you.
You said at the end of the OP that you want to because YOUR guilt, you said nothing about the care of her.
or who knows P..maybe he fucked the Godmother too.
That's probably closer to the truth.
She's admitted that she doesn't really know about their marriage, which means she's not really the close friend she alluded to when she said she's known her since 13.
And then when you add on top of it that she's perfectly fine with him telling the gf that he doesn't know her? after a wtf, and a jaw dropping?
Actually had a woman hire us, and I sensed shit immediately. Anytime a woman/wife sits down with me, it's common to see that fear and hesitation in their face that. a.) maybe the guy isn't cheating and they feel like they are being an ass or b.) she has a very strong inclination he is cheating and very sad to confirm. Pretty black and white.
This twit comes in..I ask the key questions, and no emotion. I'm thinking...either she's on pain killers or anti-depressants. Nope...turns out she wanted twice daily contact on his whereabouts from us. Not because he was cheating it turned out, in fact this guy must've been a Virgo and was very predictable with a consistent routine...it's because she was. After two weeks wathcing this guy we put a tail on her, because this guy was completely on the up and up and I felt she was wasting money. That was one of the original cases..
It came down to an ethical decision. She's a client, take her money, and assist her cheating on her husband. OR...dumping her. I don't have to tell any of you which one took place.
or who knows P..maybe he fucked the Godmother too.
That's probably closer to the truth.
She's admitted that she doesn't really know about their marriage, which means she's not really the close friend she alluded to when she said she's known her since 13.
And then when you add on top of it that she's perfectly fine with him telling the gf that he doesn't know her? after a wtf, and a jaw dropping?
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I wish I had a dollar for every time I said WTF?...lol I'd be retired.
There's a lot of pieces of shits out there. Those same pieces of shits are closer than most think. It's truly disheartening. Selfishness & Greed are the two biggest culprits.
I hear ya, VGM .... and this thread smells just as rank when I read between the lines.
People (behave) certain ways, in certain situations ....
The likely situation is that the OP has some involvement with the man .... because there would be no other reason to embellish human behavorial interactions otherwise.
Alls you have to do is think about how people actually react in these situations to realize that what was told in here doesn't hold water.
SMH.
Its funny how you ALWAYS, come days later and attact my post.
but thats you P always has been.
But do continue to insult me. I couldnt careless. and obviously you have nothing else to do.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....
I know, pregnancy can do that to you. I'm not trying to loose, just trying to stay healthy.
or who knows P..maybe he fucked the Godmother too.
That's probably closer to the truth.
She's admitted that she doesn't really know about their marriage, which means she's not really the close friend she alluded to when she said she's known her since 13.
And then when you add on top of it that she's perfectly fine with him telling the gf that he doesn't know her? after a wtf, and a jaw dropping?
I wish I had a dollar for every time I said WTF?...lol I'd be retired.
There's a lot of pieces of shits out there. Those same pieces of shits are closer than most think. It's truly disheartening. Selfishness & Greed are the two biggest culprits.click to expand
LMAO, not both of you are talking out of your ass.
I hear ya, VGM .... and this thread smells just as rank when I read between the lines.
how can you read between the lines—? you are not here, you dont know me either. wow you still need some help.
Why wont you get it?
Posted by Arielle83
Some people here are hell paranoid. Take the post for what it's worth if it's real or hypothetical who cares. We are still trying to come to a conclusion on what would be the best way about it.
Yes. why would I talk to that dirtbag about cheating on my friend— all he is going to do it lie to my face. Its obvious to anyone, he is a LIAR.
Yes. why would I talk to that dirtbag about cheating on my friend— all he is going to do it lie to my face. Its obvious to anyone, he is a LIAR.
But....
how can he lie when HE KNOWS YOU SAW HIM?
Specifically:
Posted by chemengin I walk out and see my friend's husband kissing her and rubbing on this woman's belly.
The first thing that comes out of my mouth is "WTF". His mouth drops and she looking at me strange.
Well gee...I guess the wife could linger on and wait for a dna test to sum things up then eh?
Cause..let's face it the one whose knocked up is gonna need him around so she'd be more than willing I'm sure..especially if he bolts.
If I were the wife...at this point and time in the thread...I'd have the OP tested too.
Yes. why would I talk to that dirtbag about cheating on my friend— all he is going to do it lie to my face. Its obvious to anyone, he is a LIAR.
But....
how can he lie when HE KNOWS YOU SAW HIM?
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yea he knew i saw him, so he lied to my gym buddy I've only known her for 5 months. His WIFE is my friend and he has been lying to her all of these years. i was NEVER his 'friend'. I NEVER liked him and he knows that. That is why he can tell a boldface lie like that. But he is 'my friend's' husband, i respected the marriage and mind my business until now.
Posted by LetltB
If I were the wife...at this point and time in the thread...I'd have the OP tested too.
the OP tested for what— Oh right you think I fucked him. Um Hell NO.
Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I can't believe they concluded you had something going on with the husband.LOL
I think they should team up and write soap operas. 😛
I know right. WTF is wrong with them. This is crazy!
Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I can't believe they concluded you had something going on with the husband.LOL
I think they should team up and write soap operas. 😛
Or episodes of Blue's Clues.
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LOL
Yes. why would I talk to that dirtbag about cheating on my friend— all he is going to do it lie to my face. Its obvious to anyone, he is a LIAR.
But....
how can he lie when HE KNOWS YOU SAW HIM?
The OP is pregnant. She is not friends with the husband. She owes him no conversation whatsoever.
There is no way I would confront the man by myself being pregnant, or not being pregnant, for that matter.
That is hardly safe.
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Thank you!
The reality here, should people decide to think, rather than continue to react from emotional subjectivity ... if this were true, he'd be working his angles.
Every fucking he could think of, to protect himself from being busted .. he's not doing that. In fact, according to you, he's chosen ignorance to the threat you actually are to him.
lol ... you can fool all these women (and apparently you are), but, not me.
He'd be working frantically to cover his tracts, not act like you're invisible.
It amazes me at how stupid people really are. Not just you trying to pull the story off ... the people who are so easily sucked in.
The reality here, should people decide to think, rather than continue to react from emotional subjectivity ... if this were true, he'd be working his angles.
Every fucking he could think of, to protect himself from being busted .. he's not doing that. In fact, according to you, he's chosen ignorance to the threat you actually are to him.
lol ... you can fool all these women (and apparently you are), but, not me.
He'd be working frantically to cover his tracts, not act like you're invisible.
It amazes me at how stupid people really are. Not just you trying to pull the story off ... the people who are so easily sucked in.
Why the fuck would I care what angle he is working. I dont give a fuck about him! And vice versa! if you read anything, you would have 'read between the lines' and realized that me and this man never got along. We have a lot of bad blood between us. But i didnt have to tell you that in this post because this was not about him. Its about my friend and not the chic at the gym.
Also, he knew he was busted and this thing he is running is Over because I saw him. So of course he lied to the girl he impregnated because he is going to need somewhere to live. He know damn well I'm going to tell his wife. because i cant stand him.
if you were so objective you would have put those pieces together too, P
Posted by CluelessCancer
Chem i wouldn't engage the paranoid individuals.
Thank you for reminding me. Appreciate it.
Posted by chemengin
Also, he knew he was busted and this thing he is running is Over because I saw him. So of course he lied to the girl he impregnated because he is going to need somewhere to live. He know damn well I'm going to tell his wife. because i cant stand him.if you were so objective you would have put those pieces together too, P
also this broke my heart because I knew hers would be broken. I was going to tell her if i liked him or not. It was just something I was not expecting.
Posted by chemengin
Also, he knew he was busted and this thing he is running is Over because I saw him. So of course he lied to the girl he impregnated because he is going to need somewhere to live. He know damn well I'm going to tell his wife. because i cant stand him.if you were so objective you would have put those pieces together too, P
It doesn't look to me as though you even comprehended what I said.
He know damn well I'm going to tell his wife. because i cant stand him.
exactly .. now see if you can wrap this around the other fact that he is trying to keep secrets to realize that people are going to react like people
He would be working any angle he could find to protect himself from being caught.
I fully realize, though, you want to keep this about your story .... so you will keep to perpetuating human ignorance for your audience to keep indulging in.
.... .... this post because this was not about him. Its about my friend and not the chic at the gym.
No, it's about you making yourself feel better by releasing that in which would make you feel guilty if you held it in.
In fact, I haven't really read anything in here that was centered around her friend's feelings. I didn't read anything that left me with an impression that you had concern for her emotional well being.
This thread is here for you. It's a tale you made for yourself .... because it's obvious to anyone with even a smidgeon of sense that a guy who's been cheating on the side, while able to keep his wife, wouldn't ignore that he'd been seen by someone who would rat him out, would have worked his wife immediately.
It's obvious this is a story.
AND ..... you admit to bad blood
You've insinuated in here that you and him are barely acquaintances ... when in reality, you know each other enough to have created bad blood.
Again, I'm not fooled for a second. You have an agenda and it's written all between the lines of this thread.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....
She's pregnant. It sorta doesn't matter.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....That's all I was thinking about reading this! ^
And then :: If there's any truth to this story, I would say mind your own business.
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Yet you feel you're entitled to judge her about her work out and diet. Mind your own business, ya fucking hypocrite.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....That's all I was thinking about reading this! ^
And then :: If there's any truth to this story, I would say mind your own business.
Yet you feel you're entitled to judge her about her work out and diet. Mind your own business, ya fucking hypocrite.
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Uhm yeah, pretty much, what's it to you?
So tough aren't ya? Loser.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....She's pregnant. It sorta doesn't matter.
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It doesn't matter?
Retard. Sure it matters.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ice cream after you get done workinng out?
That is counterproductive if you're trying to get into shape....That's all I was thinking about reading this!
I would say mind your own business.click to expand
The stupidity in this thread is thick. All as if being caught is enough to make someone tell the truth. Anyone arrogant enough to pull such a stunt is arrogant enough to keep the lie going. Anyone dumb enough to think a man wouldn't continue to BS even getting caught in this way is an idiot.
He was going to jump up and say, yeah, I know her! She's my woman's friend!
No. He's going to pretend he doesn't know the OP and fill her head with lies. And no the gym buddy isn't going to confront the OP about it.
With his job, he could claim any excuse for not being around, allowing time to cheat.
Bottom line, women will believe lies, overlook BS, for the sake of themselves and their babies.
And who gives a fuck if she ate ice cream after a workout. She's trying to keep her body moving while pregnant, not get bikini ready.
Being a long time friend isn't a pass to know about marital problems. You don't discuss your marriage/relationships with your inner circle regardless of how long you've known the people. We learned that in high school.
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Funny how that fact is getting clearer & clearer as one gets older. They are not worth even being used for sex. Disgusting most of them are.