@bittersweetLemon
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Aaand for women: The red carpet look ( high heel, designer dress)doesn't do it for me. Black leather, too.
I found a girl in a ripped jeans, tight t-shirt can be quite sexy. Also this innocent look, polka dot or lolita dress.
I have a thing for voices. Deep, ringing, husky.
Confidence
Humour
Calvin Klein's Escape
Posted by Theatrum
I have a thing for voices. Deep, ringing, husky.Yes! Especially when they keep a low controlled tone when speaking.
I just imagine them saying something slow and calmly like "Take your panties off." And I'd be like "ok"
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"ok" LMFAO
Posted by duchessedenemours
For me, the sexiest is when a man is working hard. Doesn't have to be physical labor, but when they know what they are doing and are focusing, it's really attractive to me.Sex Appeal? I don't really know. I think it's just an energy people have. It's not a uniform thing for me. There isn't one specific thing or feature, but it's mostly when I look at someone and there is that "zing" feeling and can't take my eyes off of them.
"I think it's just an energy people have. It's not a uniform thing for me. There isn't one specific thing or feature, but it's mostly when I look at someone and there is that "zing" feeling and can't take my eyes off of them." YEP, I totally agree on this.
Posted by Theatrum
I have a thing for voices. Deep, ringing, husky.Yes! Especially when they keep a low controlled tone when speaking.
I just imagine them saying something slow and calmly like "Take your panties off." And I'd be like "ok"
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lol what? you don't want him to start hyperventilating and giggling and stuff while trying to be bashful and shy and asking you permission if it's OK to take them off? and how you would like it to be taken off?
😄
anyway, the last part sounds like a scary psychopath too.
*smh* some women need to be controlled and love being controlled, yet scream, i'm a freebird!! stop controlling my ass!! and yet still melt when a psychopath says, "Shut the fuck up and take it off"
then they shiver with delight. *smh again*
@Tiz and the dirty, it reminds me of Christina Aguilera:
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆
Posted by lisabethur8
*smh* some women need to be controlled and love being controlled, yet scream, i'm a freebird!! stop controlling my ass!! and yet still melt when a psychopath says, "Shut the fuck up and take it off"then they shiver with delight. *smh again*
@Tiz and the dirty, it reminds me of Christina Aguilera:
You're overthinking just a wee bit. You can have dominance without abuse.
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uh it was in reference to Duchesse's post on "SPANKING" ....
and it was a joke, but there's alot of TRUTH in it.
Posted by Theatrum
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆
Not many women want a WEAK ASS man. *shrug*
lol ^^^.
I knew I'm going to be the only one who mentioned Scissorhand on this topic.
Posted by Theatrum
I have a thing for voices. Deep, ringing, husky.anyway, the last part sounds like a scary psychopath too.
That explains my exes then!!
click to expandlol i was joking but ....are you? you actually dated a psychopath? 😛
i don't like either sociopath or psychopath.
Posted by Theatrum
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆Not many women want a WEAK ASS man. *shrug*
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You mean no power games = weak man? I don't really get the connection.
Posted by Theatrum
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆Not many women want a WEAK ASS man. *shrug*
You mean no power games = weak man? I don't really get the connection.
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i dont like power games either. You figure it out. If you have to DEFINE what it is on YOUR terms then it's your definition. Not every woman likes the same things.
Some feel some men are weak ass and other women find them adorable. Everyone has different TYPES. No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other. If the men are good to you, that's all that matters right??
but actions always speak louder than words. You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science.
Posted by Theatrum
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆Not many women want a WEAK ASS man. *shrug*
You mean no power games = weak man? I don't really get the connection.
i dont like power games either. You figure it out. If you have to DEFINE what it is on YOUR terms then it's your definition. Not every woman likes the same things.
Some feel some men are weak ass and other women find them adorable. Everyone has different TYPES. No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other. If the men are good to you, that's all that matters right??
but actions always speak louder than words. You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science.
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OKAY.
Posted by Theatrum
Suprisingly enough, for a fixed dominant I never had control fantasies. Can't we just love each other without the power games dammit!? 😆Not many women want a WEAK ASS man. *shrug*
You mean no power games = weak man? I don't really get the connection.
i dont like power games either. You figure it out. If you have to DEFINE what it is on YOUR terms then it's your definition. Not every woman likes the same things.
Some feel some men are weak ass and other women find them adorable. Everyone has different TYPES. No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other. If the men are good to you, that's all that matters right??
but actions always speak louder than words. You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science.
OKAY.
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I'm being serious this time. Why is it when a woman says it's weak ass men, other women PRESUME it's got to do with POWER games?
A brutal, cruel man to me is WEAK. weak because he is uncontrollable.
Posted by duchessedenemours
We all want abusive men. End of Lisabethur's story.Congrats Ladies!
what the fuck is your problem? You obviously aren't clueing into what i'm saying and joking around.
I did say it's a joke, and you can't seem to find humour/DARK humour in it. Plus i said that i don't like those psychopaths and find brutish and cruel men disgusting and weak.
You only seem to read into what you want to read.
Posted by bittersweetLemon
lol ^^^.I knew I'm going to be the only one who mentioned Scissorhand on this topic.
do you find him hot even if u didn't know he was johnny depp under all that? what if it was john c. reily under all that makeup or william h. macy?
tom cruise was offered that role but he wanted to show his face in the end. leo moons lol!
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ok, I've seen Johnny Depp characters in other movies, but scissorhand was the most attractive one to me. 🙂
Aand can you post a pic what did you mean by "whore"? lol, I guess your image of a whore in your mind is different from mine. When you said that I was imagining how Britney looked like in her earlier days . Did I get you right?
@lisabethur8 I think that we're seriously misunderstanding each other here.
My first comment was nothing more than a lighthearted remark concerning my preferences, I wasn't trying to say anything by it as you seem to think I was...
You somehow connected wekness with what I said about disliking power games and I didn't understad how you got to that connection, so I asked (now somehow you're accusing me for connecting, presuming or whatever, these two things, which I don't get at all).
"No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other."
Over what? When did I say that one is worse than the other? I don't know where you even got that stuff. If you read something between the lines, you read it wrong.
"You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science."
I don't even get what you're trying to tell me here. I'm lost. I think that you found more meaning in my original comment than it contained. Our Mercs must be square or something because WTF indeed. I really wasn't trying to say anything about one being better than the other or whatever you concluded.
Posted by duchessedenemours
We all want abusive men. End of Lisabethur's story.Congrats Ladies!
what the fuck is your problem? You obviously aren't clueing into what i'm saying and joking around.
I did say it's a joke, and you can't seem to find humour/DARK humour in it. Plus i said that i don't like those psychopaths and find brutish and cruel men disgusting and weak.
You only seem to read into what you want to read.
How did we even get to the subject of sociopaths?
Ari mentioned she liked guys that spoke calmly with a deep voice and you are like "Oh! That's sociopathic!".
The leaps in your thought process are simply fascinating.
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what can i say? I'm light years ahead/sarcasm.
plus, get it right. It's psychopathic.
Posted by Theatrum
@lisabethur8 I think that we're seriously misunderstanding each other here.My first comment was nothing more than a lighthearted remark concerning my preferences, I wasn't trying to say anything by it as you seem to think I was...
You somehow connected wekness with what I said about disliking power games and I didn't understad how you got to that connection, so I asked (now somehow you're accusing me for connecting, presuming or whatever, these two things, which I don't get at all).
"No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other."
Over what? When did I say that one is worse than the other? I don't know where you even got that stuff. If you read something between the lines, you read it wrong.
"You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science."
I don't even get what you're trying to tell me here. I'm lost. I think that you found more meaning in my original comment than it contained. Our Mercs must be square or something because WTF indeed. I really wasn't trying to say anything about one being better than the other or whatever you concluded.
it's the way it felt intoned in the message, when power games = not weak ass. I mean, is that supposed to mean that one has to have power games to be strong?
I hate brute, abusive, psychopathic men but i do realize out there, there are plenty of women who do like them. (i don't know if they REALLY do like them, but plenty of women write letters to cons in prisons who are very much murderers and rapists and fantasize wanting marriage with them and some actually do)
but ok, never mind then.
Posted by duchessedenemours
We all want abusive men. End of Lisabethur's story.Congrats Ladies!
what the fuck is your problem? You obviously aren't clueing into what i'm saying and joking around.
I did say it's a joke, and you can't seem to find humour/DARK humour in it. Plus i said that i don't like those psychopaths and find brutish and cruel men disgusting and weak.
You only seem to read into what you want to read.
How did we even get to the subject of sociopaths?
Ari mentioned she liked guys that spoke calmly with a deep voice and you are like "Oh! That's sociopathic!".
The leaps in your thought process are simply fascinating.
what can i say? I'm light years ahead/sarcasm.
plus, get it right. It's psychopathic.
i don't like either sociopath or psychopath.
Your words, not mine.
I didn't know speaking with a calm low voice was in the DSM for personality disorders.
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you give me a headache.
i said psychopath in the first reply to ariette. You overanalzye like crazy. Just leave it be, because i really was just being darkly humourous.
my husband does. and that is all that matters.
And i can still joke darkly if i want. You seem to NOT get it. Which is weird to me, but oh well, that's how it is.
Posted by Theatrum
@lisabethur8 I think that we're seriously misunderstanding each other here.My first comment was nothing more than a lighthearted remark concerning my preferences, I wasn't trying to say anything by it as you seem to think I was...
You somehow connected wekness with what I said about disliking power games and I didn't understad how you got to that connection, so I asked (now somehow you're accusing me for connecting, presuming or whatever, these two things, which I don't get at all).
"No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other."
Over what? When did I say that one is worse than the other? I don't know where you even got that stuff. If you read something between the lines, you read it wrong.
"You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science."
I don't even get what you're trying to tell me here. I'm lost. I think that you found more meaning in my original comment than it contained. Our Mercs must be square or something because WTF indeed. I really wasn't trying to say anything about one being better than the other or whatever you concluded.
it's the way it felt intoned in the message, when power games = not weak ass. I mean, is that supposed to mean that one has to have power games to be strong?
I hate brute, abusive, psychopathic men but i do realize out there, there are plenty of women who do like them. (i don't know if they REALLY do like them, but plenty of women write letters to cons in prisons who are very much murderers and rapists and fantasize wanting marriage with them and some actually do)
but ok, never mind then.
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Nah, my comment wasn't about strengths or weaknesses at all. It wasn't about anything more but my personal preference, if even. It wasn't an opinion. Hah, I believe that we just misunderstood each other severely.
Posted by strudel
ahh...lol you said it wasn't about looks! my focus was actually on being down to earth. that's what i find sexy.
I thought you said "women who look like whores and down to earth about it", in this sense, down to earth is their attitude. So I guess you said women who are comfortable in their own skin?
Posted by Theatrum
@lisabethur8 I think that we're seriously misunderstanding each other here.
My first comment was nothing more than a lighthearted remark concerning my preferences, I wasn't trying to say anything by it as you seem to think I was...
You somehow connected wekness with what I said about disliking power games and I didn't understad how you got to that connection, so I asked (now somehow you're accusing me for connecting, presuming or whatever, these two things, which I don't get at all)."No need to get all up in arms over it and trying to say one is worse than the other."
Over what? When did I say that one is worse than the other? I don't know where you even got that stuff. If you read something between the lines, you read it wrong.
"You all can say whatever it is you want but who you end up with and date, and want/need shows something different. It's not rocket science."
I don't even get what you're trying to tell me here. I'm lost. I think that you found more meaning in my original comment than it contained. Our Mercs must be square or something because WTF indeed. I really wasn't trying to say anything about one being better than the other or whatever you concluded.
it's the way it felt intoned in the message, when power games = not weak ass. I mean, is that supposed to mean that one has to have power games to be strong?
I hate brute, abusive, psychopathic men but i do realize out there, there are plenty of women who do like them. (i don't know if they REALLY do like them, but plenty of women write letters to cons in prisons who are very much murderers and rapists and fantasize wanting marriage with them and some actually do)
but ok, never mind then.Nah, my comment wasn't about strengths or weaknesses at all. It wasn't about anything more but my personal preference, if even. It wasn't an opinion. Hah, I believe that we just misunderstood each other severely.
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ah alright. No problems.
Posted by lisabethur8
my husband does. and that is all that matters.And i can still joke darkly if i want. You seem to NOT get it. Which is weird to me, but oh well, that's how it is.
For your sake I hope that husband isn't imaginary.
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lol he isn't. and that is the TRUTH.
you just don't get dark humour. And trust me, my husband has even darker humour and I get him very well.
I never could tell what sex appeal is in women or men. I just know when I see it.
For you folks addicted to voices (looking at ari 😛 ) :
"I've heard of a man who says words so beautifully that if only he speaks their name, women give themselves to him. If I am dumb beside your body while silence blossoms like tumors on our lips, it is because I hear a man climb the stairs and clear his throat outside our door."
i honestly don't find edward scissorhands or brad pitt attractive at all.
we did watch edward scissorhands but meh. i cannot for the life of me understand why women go cray over johnny depp, even my mother in law at one time did. She still likes George Clooney though.
lol@ the sociopath/psychopath debate..
Keep it classy lady, it's a turn off for men. Then again who the fuck gives a fuck about men? lol
I can get down with a sociopath. I have a close male friend who thinks I am one and it's hilarious to me. So if I am one, then maybe like will attract like 😄
For my Sag Man,
His confidence and the way he bosses me around. The way he stares at me. His adonis body. His laughter. His intelligence. His ability to lead me without me thinking hes leading me.
I also like the ladies every now and then. For women, a nice ass, decent tits, and a killer smile or frown. long flowing hair, slightly curly.
Posted by Damnata
lol@ the sociopath/psychopath debate..Keep it classy lady, it's a turn off for men. Then again who the fuck gives a fuck about men? lol
I can get down with a sociopath. I have a close male friend who thinks I am one and it's hilarious to me. So if I am one, then maybe like will attract like 😄
i'm MARRIED, so i don't give a fuck how all these OTHER men on here under different signs think of you all. 😆
they could be drooling or shaking their heads, or running the other way or fixated.
Posted by Damnata
lol@ the sociopath/psychopath debate..Keep it classy lady, it's a turn off for men. Then again who the fuck gives a fuck about men? lol
I can get down with a sociopath. I have a close male friend who thinks I am one and it's hilarious to me. So if I am one, then maybe like will attract like 😄
Posted by Damnata
lol@ the sociopath/psychopath debate..Keep it classy lady, it's a turn off for men. Then again who the fuck gives a fuck about men? lol
I can get down with a sociopath. I have a close male friend who thinks I am one and it's hilarious to me. So if I am one, then maybe like will attract like 😄
i'm MARRIED, so i don't give a fuck how all these OTHER men on here under different signs think of you all. 😆
they could be drooling or shaking their heads, or running the other way or fixated.
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:sigh: I want to get married lol
I guess I have a mentality of an old man when it comes to attractiveness of a woman lol JK.
but seriously...far more attractive than that whore-ish looking chicks. 😛
Posted by Damnata
lol@ the sociopath/psychopath debate..Keep it classy lady, it's a turn off for men. Then again who the fuck gives a fuck about men? lol
I can get down with a sociopath. I have a close male friend who thinks I am one and it's hilarious to me. So if I am one, then maybe like will attract like 😄
i'm MARRIED, so i don't give a fuck how all these OTHER men on here under different signs think of you all. 😆
they could be drooling or shaking their heads, or running the other way or fixated.
:sigh: I want to get married lol
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it's awesome. You don't have to concern yourself and you can FART, belch unladylike and tell it how it is, and tell them to FUCK off. No need for pretentiousness so you can look good kind of deal. Just be whatever you want to be..... because you have someone at home to love.
Posted by cakereshkigal
Steady eyes and a warm smile
Posted by bittersweetLemon
I guess I have a mentality of an old man when it comes to attractiveness of a woman lol JK.Your mentality strikes me very much as modern. Not old at all.
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says the virgo venus/ mars man who looks at LOLEEETA -- the tip of your tongue down those steps and singing --- LOLA...
Posted by bittersweetLemon
I guess I have a mentality of an old man when it comes to attractiveness of a woman lol JK.Your mentality strikes me very much as modern. Not old at all.
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Oh reallyyyy? It's nice that you found my mentality modern. 🙂 I thought I had kinda old fashioned mentality/taste.
Posted by tiziani
Lol I was never much into the younger girl look. I actually think that's a large part of why I ended it with Aries. Too much little girl dressing. It's awkward.
little girl? How old is "little"?
What is sex appeal to me...
*ponders*
I have absolutely no clue. There's no real rhyme or logical reason to it. It just is.
Or sometimes, if a person can make me wonder what they're thinking... *attention captured*.
Posted by TMV
What is sex appeal to me...*ponders*
I have absolutely no clue. There's no real rhyme or logical reason to it. It just is.
Or sometimes, if a person can make me wonder what they're thinking... *attention captured*.
Exactly my point.
Virgos unite!
Posted by TMV
What is sex appeal to me...*ponders*
I have absolutely no clue. There's no real rhyme or logical reason to it. It just is.
Or sometimes, if a person can make me wonder what they're thinking... *attention captured*.
yep, it is really hard to describe. And it seems it is way more subjective than I thought.
Posted by DonAmanMarat
You people wouldn't know sexual appeal even if it hit you in the face!
Lauren Hanley can feel free to hit me in the face all she wants. 😈
TMV has sex appeal to me... shit did I just type that out loud...
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For both genders.
What makes a man sexy and what makes a woman sexy. Let us not discuss some obvious stuff here, such as boobs, ass or muscle etc. Sex appeal is beyond looks, imo. Sometimes I feel that some people have this natural sex appeal while others don't. Well I guess I'm bit weird.
For example: I have never found Brad Pitt sexy. Yet I thought Edward Scissorhands was quite sexy. I guess it is a very subjective thing and curios to see all of dxper's opinion here.
🙂