
StoicGoat
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Posted by justagirl
I'm not even playing, but that was very confusing how you explained it....
Or maybe my pom pom's have too much air in them 😛

Posted by StoicGoatPosted by justagirl
I'm not even playing, but that was very confusing how you explained it....
Or maybe my pom pom's have too much air in them 😛
Which is precisely why I'm taking questions. We do have a team called the Air Heads, you know. 😛click to expand

Posted by DamnataPosted by StoicGoat
please extend a warm welcome to your newest team member, Stillwater. 🙂
No.click to expand







Posted by GetMistedPosted by aquariuslove14
Bullying is absolutely unacceptable!!! Intervening not only helps the bullied but it also helps the bully (himself/herself) and also witnesses (bystanders) of bullying. Interventions like counseling and anger management for example are necessary because they help identify the source (the root) of what is causing the bullying to happen which starts with the bullier. Interventions occur to cut of any escalation of an already bad situation.Taking measures to minimize bullying does more good because it affects all individuals not just one. Not intervening opens up more opportunity for bullying to continue and reproduce itself in others.
Can I have some pudding with this opinion, please?click to expand

Posted by GetMisted
How do I keep getting stuck arguing for the side of the debate I don't support?

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Bullying should be resolved between the bullies and the one being bullied. The one being bullied needs to stand up for themselves and stop hiding behind harsh words that hurt their feelings. That is the only way it will be stopped. The bully can usually sense the weakness and be will do their best to keep at it until the one being bullied stops being the victim and stands up for themselves. Ultimately that is what the bully would want. It's not unusual for the one being bullied and the bully to become "friends" at some point after the bullied one has shown strength.
Bullying is unavoidable. Who hasn't been bullied as children? When parents intervene quickly and start to use the label "bully", that's when the danger happens. Calling the police or getting the law involved. It gets worse when the bully feels the child is having their parent(s) fight their petty battles. This is where the kids who are being bullied "die a little inside" of embarrassment, rendering their child fragile and vulnerable.
Teaching your kids to stand up for themselves is the key to this problem.

Posted by SteveW
Teaching your children to stand up for themselves is an intervention by parents to stop bullying. Teaching your children "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is another intervention. Parents interventions to protect their child's emotional well being, growth, and emotional security from bullies is proactive parenting and these types of interventions do not prevent their children from fighting their own battles. One of my relatives has a 17 year old daughter who has not ever been on Facebook.
Bullying isn't something that can always be resolved between the bully and the target of bullying. The target may find the acts of bullying unforgivable and may choose to not ever befriend their bully. On the other hand, the bully may never want any sort of friendship out of it but to continually pick on a target for perceived weaknesses. A show of strength is not something a bully always respects or acknowledges. Bullying may not be just one bully but may include a group or team of bullies on one target as well. Jonathan Martin is an example of a group or team of bullies that targeted him.
Why is bullying needed to teach a child to stand up for themselves? Isn't team sports a more healthy avenue for children to learn to stand up for themselves? Why must anyone even give attention to a bully?
Bullying is not needed to teach children to stand up for themselves. Bullying is inevitable. You can't prevent another to find weakness in someone and try to bring him down. We use these tactics in everything today, tearing someone up to make themselves feel better. From elementary schools to the workplace, to electoral campaigns to dxp. It's everywhere. The ones who survive are the ones who stand up to it.

Posted by SteveW
Teaching your children to stand up for themselves is an intervention by parents to stop bullying. Teaching your children "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is another intervention. Parents interventions to protect their child's emotional well being, growth, and emotional security from bullies is proactive parenting and these types of interventions do not prevent their children from fighting their own battles. One of my relatives has a 17 year old daughter who has not ever been on Facebook.
Bullying isn't something that can always be resolved between the bully and the target of bullying. The target may find the acts of bullying unforgivable and may choose to not ever befriend their bully. On the other hand, the bully may never want any sort of friendship out of it but to continually pick on a target for perceived weaknesses. A show of strength is not something a bully always respects or acknowledges. Bullying may not be just one bully but may include a group or team of bullies on one target as well. Jonathan Martin is an example of a group or team of bullies that targeted him.
Why is bullying needed to teach a child to stand up for themselves? Isn't team sports a more healthy avenue for children to learn to stand up for themselves? Why must anyone even give attention to a bully?
Here is a kid who beat his bully up (parent's advice):


Posted by SteveW
If intervention is not a solution to bullying, what is? I am interested in your thoughts on that.
When schools intervene such as college boards stepping in and putting a stop to hazing: it promotes the idea that we are not lost as a society and we have not subjucated ourselves to a pack of dogs, wolves, or some other herd of animals.
Should labels be feared? Your argument suggest that we should give into what we are labelled as and not use our free will. A bully is a bully. Allowing bullying (a form of abuse) to permeate our social culture as a norm and ignoring the social problem also gives a condoning to other forms of abuse such as domestic violence.
Psychology Today on where we have gone wrong on Bullying Intervention Programs:
Mistake #5: Not actively involving students and other school community members in intervention programs. Many schools train only their teachers in any kind of response protocol or policy renewal, however students are central in making any transformation in school culture, as are key educational support personnel including: cafeteria workers, bus drivers, front office staff, and teachers?? aides. Although community consultation is time-consuming, it is an essential first step to creating long term and sustainable change.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/gender-and-schooling/201204/bullying-intervention-programs-where-have-we-gone-wrong

Posted by StillWater
In your post above, that is prevention.
Intervention is to intervene when the situation is already occurring which is what are debating about.




Posted by GetMisted
Sorry to SW and APC for not being here. I did what I could but I needed rest. At least I participated unlike some people.


Posted by GetMistedPosted by Damnata
I was stuck in traffic beluga, right behind a big wreck. You should remember it because I asked you to tell our teammates this.
😉
I don't remember you saying anything.click to expand



Posted by GetMistedPosted by Damnata
"Virgo Sun, Aries Moon"
^^^Right below my avatar. You'd think you'd know how to read by now.
What's the issue, did you just move from picking on NYAA and I'm next in line?
Your life must be really boring.
Why do you have to add in personal attacks?click to expand

Posted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMisted
Sorry to SW and APC for not being here. I did what I could but I needed rest. At least I participated unlike some people.
Oh look, a coward.
Oh look, a backstabber.click to expand

Posted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMistedPosted by Damnata
"Virgo Sun, Aries Moon"
^^^Right below my avatar. You'd think you'd know how to read by now.
What's the issue, did you just move from picking on NYAA and I'm next in line?
Your life must be really boring.
Why do you have to add in personal attacks?
Seriously? Who brought me into this?
I never said your name. You assumed I was talking about you.click to expand

Posted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMisted
Sorry to SW and APC for not being here. I did what I could but I needed rest. At least I participated unlike some people.
Oh look, a coward.
Oh look, a backstabber.
Care to explain?
Because my comment about cowardice was obvious since you call me out on something after I told you I couldn't be up for this debate.
So..the second comment with backstabbing must pertain to you also. If so, don't bother explaining.
Again, I never said it was you who didn't participateclick to expand

Posted by GetMisted
What does Romanian women have to do with this? Have you lost your mind? I never said your name!

Posted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMistedPosted by DamnataPosted by GetMisted
Sorry to SW and APC for not being here. I did what I could but I needed rest. At least I participated unlike some people.
Oh look, a coward.
Oh look, a backstabber.
Care to explain?
Because my comment about cowardice was obvious since you call me out on something after I told you I couldn't be up for this debate.
So..the second comment with backstabbing must pertain to you also. If so, don't bother explaining.
Again, I never said it was you who didn't participate
Can you get more passive aggressive?
Are there any other names you'd like to call me?click to expand



Posted by GetMisted
Aries moon*




Posted by StoicGoat
Congratulations to the Downy Dryer Sheets for their first team win. Airheads, it's challenge time for you. Can you be here at 9PM EST tonight? If not, what works?


Posted by StoicGoat
Congratulations to the Downy Dryer Sheets for their first team win. Airheads, it's challenge time for you. Can you be here at 9PM EST tonight? If not, what works?

Posted by aquariuslove14Posted by StoicGoat
Congratulations to the Downy Dryer Sheets for their first team win. Airheads, it's challenge time for you. Can you be here at 9PM EST tonight? If not, what works?
Judge,I am about to go into straight (Getmisted, crybaby mode)...WTF?
I am going to suck this loss up..but....
Judge how on earth did you make this decision?
this does not add up..
Who put you up to this foolishness? I am positive someone put you up to this decison.....click to expand

Posted by StillWaterPosted by aquariuslove14Posted by StoicGoat
Congratulations to the Downy Dryer Sheets for their first team win. Airheads, it's challenge time for you. Can you be here at 9PM EST tonight? If not, what works?
Judge,I am about to go into straight (Getmisted, crybaby mode)...WTF?
I am going to suck this loss up..but....
Judge how on earth did you make this decision?
this does not add up..
Who put you up to this foolishness? I am positive someone put you up to this decison.....
It makes me sad that you don't think we deserve this win because I think me and APC tried very hard.
😢click to expand


Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by aquariuslove14Posted by StoicGoat
Congratulations to the Downy Dryer Sheets for their first team win. Airheads, it's challenge time for you. Can you be here at 9PM EST tonight? If not, what works?
Judge,I am about to go into straight (Getmisted, crybaby mode)...WTF?
I am going to suck this loss up..but....
Judge how on earth did you make this decision?
this does not add up..
Who put you up to this foolishness? I am positive someone put you up to this decison.....
Why doesn't it add up?click to expand


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