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I like male attention. validation please
The majority of women like & want our attention to some degree thou..only the fat,ugly & butch dykes will disagree
What woman doesn't like attention? Going out and seeking validation...you're only 31 you'll grow out of it and then you'll KNOW you have it going on no matter who says so...
I'm sorry.
I dont like male attention unless I'm attracted to the person, which is very hard to come by since I view the majority of men as breastless women with facial hair & things between their legs.
Posted by DAMEN VI
The majority of women like & want our attention to some degree thou..only the fat,ugly & butch dykes will disagree
I completely agree. I dress and act to attract a man not another women. Women r too catty. A women will know that u look good but tell u the opposite.
Men and how they view something as attractive is primal and isnt clouded. I like that.
A lot of women will say they hate it when men cat call, etc but when it cease and desists, that should tell u something.
Posted by GemStar05
What woman doesn't like attention? Going out and seeking validation...you're only 31 you'll grow out of it and then you'll KNOW you have it going on no matter who says so...
I dont wanna grow out of it. I dont think theres ne thing wrong with using men as a guage. The mirror doesnt always work.
Posted by CluelessCancer
I get attention sometimes, it's alright, but the attention i want from the one man i want, isn't happening, so no matter how much attention i get, it means nothing.
I know exactly what u mean. Exactly
At the end of the day, everyone feeds off (to some extent) positive affirmation. Regardless of what it is pertaining to. I like when men pay me compliments! Why wouldn't I !?!? Lol.
I was at the mall with Pisces yesterday and guys were breaking their necks. I had on a cute tightly fitted maxi dress. The boys were coming to the yard. LOL. I think it was bitter sweet for him though. LOL.
I was at the mall with Pisces yesterday and guys were breaking their necks. I had on a cute tightly fitted maxi dress. The boys were coming to the yard. LOL. I think it was bitter sweet for him though. LOL.
Posted by xygeneration
I must be fat and ugly bc I normally don't care about what men would want me to look like so I can feel good. Those men are nothing compared to my toughest critic who I twerk for every morning.
My looks has nothing to do with my feelings.
Feelings- I want someone to pet it
Looks- I have a mirror
I don't understand the competition between women. All that hateration. Sure I can be insecure but not up to the point where im putting the other chick down. If anything I can be blunt and compliment a woman, but some chicks don't like that bc they think im hitting on them. Lol
Competition for male attention. Women r territorial.
Posted by natural25
At the end of the day, everyone feeds off (to some extent) positive affirmation. Regardless of what it is pertaining to. I like when men pay me compliments! Why wouldn't I !?!? Lol.
I was at the mall with Pisces yesterday and guys were breaking their necks. I had on a cute tightly fitted maxi dress. The boys were coming to the yard. LOL. I think it was bitter sweet for him though. LOL.
This is so real. Things like that make your partner aware that other people still find u desirable and he should never get too comfortable. How u got me is how u keep me.
Nice to hear things r going well.
Posted by xygeneration
Im suspicious with compliments unless its a genuine one, where the person will compliment me with the not so obvious.
What do u mean?
Posted by DMVPosted by xygeneration
I must be fat and ugly bc I normally don't care about what men would want me to look like so I can feel good. Those men are nothing compared to my toughest critic who I twerk for every morning.
My looks has nothing to do with my feelings.
Feelings- I want someone to pet it
Looks- I have a mirror
I don't understand the competition between women. All that hateration. Sure I can be insecure but not up to the point where im putting the other chick down. If anything I can be blunt and compliment a woman, but some chicks don't like that bc they think im hitting on them. Lol
Competition for male attention. Women r territorial.click to expand
This is not about NEEDING validation from men or making decisions based on what a man approves of. However, it IS nice to be desired. Period.
As long as it is not disrespectful. After all, thats what heterosexual males do, right? LOL. They look at women. If they like what they see, they might look a little harder than normal. They may even go as far as to compliment the women by saying, "you look nice today." BOOOOOOOOO..... CREEEEEEEEPY........
Lol.
I really don't see it as a big deal. I just smile, thank them, and keep it moving. I'm still me and they are still them. No one has been hurt. There is nothing to be suspicious of. Life did not stop. Lol. Idk... I guess it's just something I have become accustomed to and I don't see the conspiracy behind it.
Posted by xygeneration
I dont like competition. Its either the guy likes me and what im serving (some at his requests) or I dip. Its too much time and energy and my standards is different from the other woman. My style is different, in every way. No one can wear my style better than me.
No disrepect, but your post is competing. Youve already assessed the competition and determined that they dont even come close to your level.
Youve sized them gals up and your different.
Posted by DMVPosted by natural25
At the end of the day, everyone feeds off (to some extent) positive affirmation. Regardless of what it is pertaining to. I like when men pay me compliments! Why wouldn't I !?!? Lol.
I was at the mall with Pisces yesterday and guys were breaking their necks. I had on a cute tightly fitted maxi dress. The boys were coming to the yard. LOL. I think it was bitter sweet for him though. LOL.
This is so real. Things like that make your partner aware that other people still find u desirable and he should never get too comfortable. How u got me is how u keep me.
Nice to hear things r going well.click to expand
Right! He even made a comment about "mallgate" when we were eating dinner. Lol. I just laughed it off, and said "well.... can you blame them!?!?"
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Things are actually going well. Lol.
Posted by natural25Posted by DMVPosted by xygeneration
I must be fat and ugly bc I normally don't care about what men would want me to look like so I can feel good. Those men are nothing compared to my toughest critic who I twerk for every morning.
My looks has nothing to do with my feelings.
Feelings- I want someone to pet it
Looks- I have a mirror
I don't understand the competition between women. All that hateration. Sure I can be insecure but not up to the point where im putting the other chick down. If anything I can be blunt and compliment a woman, but some chicks don't like that bc they think im hitting on them. Lol
+1. If I could rewrite my OP, I would include this.
Competition for male attention. Women r territorial.
This is not about NEEDING validation from men or making decisions based on what a man approves of. However, it IS nice to be desired. Period.
As long as it is not disrespectful. After all, thats what heterosexual males do, right? LOL. They look at women. If they like what they see, they might look a little harder than normal. They may even go as far as to compliment the women by saying, "you look nice today." BOOOOOOOOO..... CREEEEEEEEPY........
Lol.
I really don't see it as a big deal. I just smile, thank them, and keep it moving. I'm still me and they are still them. No one has been hurt. There is nothing to be suspicious of. Life did not stop. Lol. Idk... I guess it's just something I have become accustomed to and I don't see the conspiracy behind it.click to expand
Posted by xygenerationPosted by DMVPosted by xygeneration
Im suspicious with compliments unless its a genuine one, where the person will compliment me with the not so obvious.
What do u mean?
I feel like when someone compliments me for something obvious, say wearing nice dress, they want the cookie and will dip in the jar. If the person compliments how I carry myself with the dress, thats a real compliments.click to expand
Ic
Compliments minus the sexual demands are sexy, I think. Unless I'm having sex with the guy, of course.
What im trying to say is, u dont have to have the same style as another girl to be competing with her. Ur style is ur own and it helps u set yourself apart from other girls.
Posted by Wynter
Compliments minus the sexual demands are sexy, I think. Unless I'm having sex with the guy, of course.
+1
Posted by Wynter
Compliments minus the sexual demands are sexy, I think. Unless I'm having sex with the guy, of course.
Right!
I was more so referring to comments about being suspicious of compliments.
I guess I just feel life is way too short and there are way more pressing things to be suspicious of than a man telling a woman she looks nice, especially considering the fact that men DO look at women and assess if they are attractive. Kinda like human nature.... LOL.
Idk.
**Shrugs**
I guess I just feel life is way too short and there are way more pressing things to be suspicious of than a man telling a woman she looks nice, especially considering the fact that men DO look at women and assess if they are attractive. Kinda like human nature.... LOL.
Idk.
**Shrugs**
Posted by natural25
I was more so referring to comments about being suspicious of compliments.
I guess I just feel life is way too short and there are way more pressing things to be suspicious of than a man telling a woman she looks nice, especially considering the fact that men DO look at women and assess if they are attractive. Kinda like human nature.... LOL.
Idk.
**Shrugs**
Girl if a man just holds the door for me and greets me with a smile and kisses my hand, im done. Ive got my fix for the day. It makes me feel so womanly. I know he doesnt know shit about my personality and it is in fact superficial, but men are primal.
I appreciate men who open their mouths. To the men reading, there are women who apprciate your compliments and chilvary.
Posted by xygenerationPosted by DMV
What im trying to say is, u dont have to have the same style as another girl to be competing with her. Ur style is ur own and it helps u set yourself apart from other girls.
I cant be you and you cant be me.
Competition only starts if there is a desired prize for grabs.
Are we competing for the same thing? And what is that were competing for?
If I start feeling competitive or be competitive, I already lost. I cannot be another woman who has sucha vuluptous body bc my body isnt made that way. It has its limits. My face is shaped different from another woman, so her eyebrows may not suit me. I don't have the same walk as you
. There's only one person I can compete with and its myself.
Now...however, I am sexually competitive.click to expand
It is not my intention to make you defensive. I like people who stand out from a crowd, uranus in the 5th.
We each have a pool of men we want to attract. Some of us have larger or smaller pools than the other girl. For example, a lot of men dont like weaves, ive thus decreased my pool of men because I wear a weave.
But I just think tht whoever ur trying to attract, theres another girl trying to attract that same guy. You may not be competing with her but she is sure as hell competing with you.
I mean its human nature.
I didn't like my hair but now I will tolerate it because men seem to dig it.
This thread makes me laugh again at the polar differences between Gems and Sags.
Sags compete because they want the guy.
Gems compete because they want victory over the other girl.
lol
Sags compete because they want the guy.
Gems compete because they want victory over the other girl.
lol
Posted by DMVPosted by GemStar05
What woman doesn't like attention? Going out and seeking validation...you're only 31 you'll grow out of it and then you'll KNOW you have it going on no matter who says so...
I dont wanna grow out of it. I dont think theres ne thing wrong with using men as a guage. The mirror doesnt always work.click to expand
Hmm.
If you're trying to gauge *how* good, that's one thing-- and perfectly acceptable, as far as I'm concerned.
But you're a Sag-- you already know whether or not you look good. 😉
I cant lie... I have gotten dressed to go out, looked in the mirror, and said to myself "I am going to be the baddest bitch in there tonight!"
BWAHAHAHAHAHA!
Truth.
By the time I get in the club or where ever I am going, it becomes the furthest thing from my mind. Once I reach my destination, enjoying myself supersedes anything else.
I do agree with XY that men choose women for varying reasons, that are sometimes not easily understood by women. I think it has to do with the man's mentality at the time he dates certain women. Most of the time when a man makes the decision to settle and do right by a woman, it has more to do with his mind set than the actual woman, herself.
BWAHAHAHAHAHA!
Truth.
By the time I get in the club or where ever I am going, it becomes the furthest thing from my mind. Once I reach my destination, enjoying myself supersedes anything else.
I do agree with XY that men choose women for varying reasons, that are sometimes not easily understood by women. I think it has to do with the man's mentality at the time he dates certain women. Most of the time when a man makes the decision to settle and do right by a woman, it has more to do with his mind set than the actual woman, herself.
—If you live off a man??s compliments, you??ll die from his criticism.??
— Cornelius Lindsey
I truly believe Mr. Lindsey was onto something. I'm always cautious about giving
a male compliment or gaze too much weight. I prefer to start from within by working
on my own self confidence. I think all women are guilty of seeking male approval
at some point. As long as it's not you know controlling all of your life decisions
or anything..
— Cornelius Lindsey
I truly believe Mr. Lindsey was onto something. I'm always cautious about giving
a male compliment or gaze too much weight. I prefer to start from within by working
on my own self confidence. I think all women are guilty of seeking male approval
at some point. As long as it's not you know controlling all of your life decisions
or anything..
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by DMVPosted by GemStar05
What woman doesn't like attention? Going out and seeking validation...you're only 31 you'll grow out of it and then you'll KNOW you have it going on no matter who says so...
I dont wanna grow out of it. I dont think theres ne thing wrong with using men as a guage. The mirror doesnt always work.
Hmm.
If you're trying to gauge *how* good, that's one thing-- and perfectly acceptable, as far as I'm concerned.
But you're a Sag-- you already know whether or not you look good. 😉click to expand
Your right sister gurl
Posted by ninjutsu
Omg Don yes!! Does vedic make you a gem with aqua moon?
Yanno, he never did seem very Cancerous.
Posted by natural25
I cant lie... I have gotten dressed to go out, looked in the mirror, and said to myself "I am going to be the baddest bitch in there tonight!"
BWAHAHAHAHAHA!
Truth.
By the time I get in the club or where ever I am going, it becomes the furthest thing from my mind. Once I reach my destination, enjoying myself supersedes anything else.
I do agree with XY that men choose women for varying reasons, that are sometimes not easily understood by women. I think it has to do with the man's mentality at the time he dates certain women. Most of the time when a man makes the decision to settle and do right by a woman, it has more to do with his mind set than the actual woman, herself.
I agree that once a man gets past the psyhical, its all personality from there.
So in vedic, I have a scorp sun, moon, and merc. Leo rising. Im not too surprised of the first 3, the rest is greek to me. Is vedic and sidereal the same thing?
Posted by natural25
I cant lie... I have gotten dressed to go out, looked in the mirror, and said to myself "I am going to be the baddest bitch in there tonight!"
BWAHAHAHAHAHA!
+342567189.
"The rest of yall bitches just save yourselves and stay home. I gots this".
Although if I dont pregame and the club is unfamilar, my cancer rising kicks in and I hide n my shell till im well liqoured up.
Posted by DonJohnson
i honestly think saggitarius are the scorpio's. the horniest girls i know on my list are saggs. some of the raunchiest convos i've ever had with females on sexuality are with saggs. They are just so straight up with it and want to get piped.
No offense to the scorps, but ive always believed that saggis are everthing scorps want to be. Were just as devious, obnoxious, and sexual only we dont have the cover of darkness. We do all our deeds in the light.
No need to hide.
@PHV, imo, the moral if that hilarious video was she shoulda used her husband as a guage and not media takeout or instsgram lol.
Posted by DonJohnsonPosted by DMVPosted by DonJohnson
i honestly think saggitarius are the scorpio's. the horniest girls i know on my list are saggs. some of the raunchiest convos i've ever had with females on sexuality are with saggs. They are just so straight up with it and want to get piped.
No offense to the scorps, but ive always believed that saggis are everthing scorps want to be. Were just as devious, obnoxious, and sexual only we dont have the cover of darkness. We do all our deeds in the light.
No need to hide.
scorpio's are hesitant, stuck in the corner and indecisive about what to do....... that's cus, they fucking libra's.click to expand
Hmm, some truth to that
I only like it if it's from someone I find attractive. I get hit on by older men a lot. That doesn't really boost my ego.
I am my own worst critic. If I don't like my hair, my outfit and I don't feel comfortable in it....I don't care if 100 drop-dead gorgeous men hit on me. I will change my look based on my own opinion.
I am my own worst critic. If I don't like my hair, my outfit and I don't feel comfortable in it....I don't care if 100 drop-dead gorgeous men hit on me. I will change my look based on my own opinion.
lol@ that badbitch video 😛
Posted by CluelessCancer
In fact it can be sometimes annoying, like why are these men attracted to me, they're not him. Why are they even bothering.
thats how ive always felt
Must admit, the attention I have been receiving lately gives me a big head...a couple of guys hinting at going out for drinks however wrong situation to be dropping those hints...while working!
This guy that I have know since I moved here (owns the local Petrol station) casually said he should take me out for a drink....I'm thinking ask me that directly and I in!!!
This guy that I have know since I moved here (owns the local Petrol station) casually said he should take me out for a drink....I'm thinking ask me that directly and I in!!!
I never get hit on in public. You must be really pretty dmv! Usually girls who do are, have a certain air about them that men want
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The next day I look at it again and I still hated it. I needed a guy to tell me or give me some inclination that it looked ok. But I didn't want to go out n public. But I had to go to the gym. So I get to the gym and walk straight to the bathrrom to check myself. There were tons of good looking dudes n there. I was getting nervous but I had to make my way to the treadmill. As I walk down the runway or path to the treadmill im getting some long stares. My confidence level is increasing. By the time I left the gym, im feeling so much better. Men are smiling at me, admiring me while I wipe the sweat off. The staring eyes are making me feel sexier.
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So I get dressed and go to the store. Im getting hit on left and right. Pulled a number in 15 minutes and the smiling confidence filled DMV is back and in full effect.
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