Just sad tonight

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Missing my ex. We were back in contact again for awhile, then he disappeared again. I haven't heard from him since early December. I sent one email with no reply and left it alone. He posted a "Merry Christmas. I wish you the best" on my Facebook wall on 12/24 and I replied with a "thank you".

I am trying to move on but there is that connection that I can't seem to break. I was missing him today and sent an email. He read it but hasn't replied.

I know that it's pathetic of me to be pining over him. Maybe it's his depression or maybe he's simply done with me. It's just hard for me to accept that all of our good years meant nothing. They were all a lie.
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Your Libra ex?
Yeah. I know, I talk about him constantly. I annoy myself, I can only imagine how others feel.


You're not annoying. You're coping. Mention him as much as you want. That's how most of us found this site anyway. To vent.

As a Libra who's gone through depression.. I do disappear from loved ones. I know you're already aware that his disappearance has nothing to do with you at all. I've pushed people away from me before. He will continuously push people away until he realizes the only person who can save him is himself.
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The fact that he wished me Merry Christmas tells me that he wants me in his life but isn't ready yet. Thats what made me reach out only to be ignored. I'm hurt, I miss him and I'm worried about his health and state of mind. I want to rewind and go back to when everything was good. I'm afraid that it's gone forever.

He doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and he doesn't use Facebook. I'm his only friend and I'm the only one that can see his posts. He set it up so we could communicate when I was out of the country. So it did take a little bit of thought and effort for him to post a message for me.

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I keep saying that I will start dating to help me forget him but then I can't go through with it.

I had a three month long flirtation going on with a Sag. It was a lot of in person and text flirting but nothing physical. When he finally asked me where it was going I had to tell him "nowhere". We are still friends. He lives with his new girlfriend and they are a terrible match. He and I would've been a great couple but the timing was all wrong.

Then I gave in and went to lunch with a Scorpio who was relentless pursuing me. I said no a thousand times but finally gave in. It was nice. I gave him a handshake goodbye but then he just got too pushy so I had to tell him to back off.

They say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Maybe that should be my New Year's resolution.
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Your Libra ex?
Yeah. I know, I talk about him constantly. I annoy myself, I can only imagine how others feel.


You're not annoying. You're coping. Mention him as much as you want. That's how most of us found this site anyway. To vent.

As a Libra who's gone through depression.. I do disappear from loved ones. I know you're already aware that his disappearance has nothing to do with you at all. I've pushed people away from me before. He will continuously push people away until he realizes the only person who can save him is himself.

The fact that he wished me Merry Christmas tells me that he wants me in his life but isn't ready yet. Thats what made me reach out only to be ignored. I'm hurt, I miss him and I'm worried about his health and state of mind. I want to rewind and go back to when everything was good. I'm afraid that it's gone forever.

He doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and he doesn't use Facebook. I'm his only friend and I'm the only one that can see his posts. He set it up so we could communicate when I was out of the country. So it did take a little bit of thought and effort for him to post a message for me.


He is just being polite and acknowledging you. It does not mean he wants you back. Don't read into every little thing.

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I know...well, my mind knows but my heart doesn't always believe it. A few weeks ago he was telling me how much he loved and missed me. We had plans to get married and move away. He gave me a bracelet with our wedding date engraved in it. We were really good together until depression consumed him. Now, he is not the same person. It's like his entire life stopped, not just his part with me. He stopped living entirely and it's sad.

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Your Libra ex?
Yeah. I know, I talk about him constantly. I annoy myself, I can only imagine how others feel.


You're not annoying. You're coping. Mention him as much as you want. That's how most of us found this site anyway. To vent.

As a Libra who's gone through depression.. I do disappear from loved ones. I know you're already aware that his disappearance has nothing to do with you at all. I've pushed people away from me before. He will continuously push people away until he realizes the only person who can save him is himself.

The fact that he wished me Merry Christmas tells me that he wants me in his life but isn't ready yet. Thats what made me reach out only to be ignored. I'm hurt, I miss him and I'm worried about his health and state of mind. I want to rewind and go back to when everything was good. I'm afraid that it's gone forever.

He doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and he doesn't use Facebook. I'm his only friend and I'm the only one that can see his posts. He set it up so we could communicate when I was out of the country. So it did take a little bit of thought and effort for him to post a message for me.


He is just being polite and acknowledging you. It does not mean he wants you back. Don't read into every little thing.



I know...well, my mind knows but my heart doesn't always believe it. A few weeks ago he was telling me how much he loved and missed me. We had plans to get married and move away. He gave me a bracelet with our wedding date engraved in it. We were really good together until depression consumed him. Now, he is not the same person. It's like his entire life stopped, not just his part with me. He stopped living entirely and it's sad.

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Oh that's another story, maybe you should be more proactive and try to help him, show him you care and insist

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Your Libra ex?
Yeah. I know, I talk about him constantly. I annoy myself, I can only imagine how others feel.


You're not annoying. You're coping. Mention him as much as you want. That's how most of us found this site anyway. To vent.

As a Libra who's gone through depression.. I do disappear from loved ones. I know you're already aware that his disappearance has nothing to do with you at all. I've pushed people away from me before. He will continuously push people away until he realizes the only person who can save him is himself.

The fact that he wished me Merry Christmas tells me that he wants me in his life but isn't ready yet. Thats what made me reach out only to be ignored. I'm hurt, I miss him and I'm worried about his health and state of mind. I want to rewind and go back to when everything was good. I'm afraid that it's gone forever.

He doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and he doesn't use Facebook. I'm his only friend and I'm the only one that can see his posts. He set it up so we could communicate when I was out of the country. So it did take a little bit of thought and effort for him to post a message for me.


He is just being polite and acknowledging you. It does not mean he wants you back. Don't read into every little thing.



I know...well, my mind knows but my heart doesn't always believe it. A few weeks ago he was telling me how much he loved and missed me. We had plans to get married and move away. He gave me a bracelet with our wedding date engraved in it. We were really good together until depression consumed him. Now, he is not the same person. It's like his entire life stopped, not just his part with me. He stopped living entirely and it's sad.



Oh that's another story, maybe you should be more proactive and try to help him, show him you care and insist

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I have. There is nothing more that I can do or say to help him. It's up to him now.

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Your Libra ex?
Yeah. I know, I talk about him constantly. I annoy myself, I can only imagine how others feel.


You're not annoying. You're coping. Mention him as much as you want. That's how most of us found this site anyway. To vent.

As a Libra who's gone through depression.. I do disappear from loved ones. I know you're already aware that his disappearance has nothing to do with you at all. I've pushed people away from me before. He will continuously push people away until he realizes the only person who can save him is himself.

The fact that he wished me Merry Christmas tells me that he wants me in his life but isn't ready yet. Thats what made me reach out only to be ignored. I'm hurt, I miss him and I'm worried about his health and state of mind. I want to rewind and go back to when everything was good. I'm afraid that it's gone forever.

He doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and he doesn't use Facebook. I'm his only friend and I'm the only one that can see his posts. He set it up so we could communicate when I was out of the country. So it did take a little bit of thought and effort for him to post a message for me.


He is just being polite and acknowledging you. It does not mean he wants you back. Don't read into every little thing.



I know...well, my mind knows but my heart doesn't always believe it. A few weeks ago he was telling me how much he loved and missed me. We had plans to get married and move away. He gave me a bracelet with our wedding date engraved in it. We were really good together until depression consumed him. Now, he is not the same person. It's like his entire life stopped, not just his part with me. He stopped living entirely and it's sad.



Oh that's another story, maybe you should be more proactive and try to help him, show him you care and insist



I have. There is nothing more that I can do or say to help him. It's up to him now.

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keep being there

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Is he the one you poured water on in bed or you almost burned the house down? Was that you?
No that was not him.

That was my Cap ex husband. I didn't almost burn the house down. I couldn't work my child proof Scorp lighter.

Cap ex and I divorced a long time ago but we have kids so he's always lurking around. This Libra ex came after him. We were together 5 years but now apart for 1.

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I'm sorry you feel that way, I know how it is.

The years spent with him weren't a lie. As you said, he changed, and he's a different person now, but that doesn't mean he lied before. Life is full of unlucky turns, but also lucky ones. I hope he'll be better soon and you will manage to build a nice relationship.with him, friendly or intimate. I also wish you not to get stuck if it doesn't happen, life has its reasons for everything.

You seem a nice and sensible person, I wish you all the best ๐Ÿ™‚