Sex Shaming (Page 2)

Posted by Gobshite

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Posted by LetltB

Posted by Gobshite

In a nutshell, stop throwing stones in glass houses.

That's right...save the stone tossing for the women who choose the slut route and think they have a right to complain about their choices while attempting to blame the men. 😉

why do you refernce it as the slut route? Why are you calling her a slut? A weaker woman hearing that is damaging to her self esteem. I see these mems where woman are supposed to be enpowering each other. Are you enpowering her by tearing her down?

or is it just for fun?

it is sad to see a woman come in here and poster after poster riducle her. It hurts me to the core because ive been targeted on DXP repeatedly and been called names repeatedly. Im a much stronger womam so I can deal, but its shocking.

Let's just face it: unless you've only had one sexual partner all your life, virtually all of us are whores or sluts.

Just fucking deal with it and stop being so self-righteous. Male or female, who fucking cares? As long as no damage is being inflicted onto others, whether it's physically, mentally or emotionally.

Btw, nature is the biggest whore of all...

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Dang Gob....I was still in the freakin "Add message" boxing typing this when u posted....I'm wayyyyy too slow today....LOL! Good day to u! 🙂

Posted by Ssupes
What matters most is what is right in front of your face. What you are being shown presently from the individual.

Dig enough into anyone's past and you will find a fault.

I highly doubt there is a person on this site that has not had a one night stand.......does that make them slutty? NO.

If you think it does and you got married after 30 then prob better not dig into your SO past! Chances are.......they have.

yes. Dont judge me because my skeleton is different from yours.

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by DMV

Posted by LetltB

Posted by Gobshite

In a nutshell, stop throwing stones in glass houses.

That's right...save the stone tossing for the women who choose the slut route and think they have a right to complain about their choices while attempting to blame the men. 😉

why do you refernce it as the slut route? Why are you calling her a slut? A weaker woman hearing that is damaging to her self esteem. I see these mems where woman are supposed to be enpowering each other. Are you enpowering her by tearing her down?

or is it just for fun?

it is sad to see a woman come in here and poster after poster riducle her. It hurts me to the core because ive been targeted on DXP repeatedly and been called names repeatedly. Im a much stronger womam so I can deal, but its shocking.

Let's just face it: unless you've only had one sexual partner all your life, virtually all of us are whores or sluts.

Just fucking deal with it and stop being so self-righteous. Male or female, who fucking cares? As long as no damage is being inflicted onto others, whether it's physically, mentally or emotionally.

Btw, nature is the biggest whore of all...

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+1, mars in virgo catches on quickly lol

Posted by Lovelyisis
Lets just all put everyone on an even keel since we're throwing around these generic offensive names so loosely and trying to once again define what makes a woman a "woman" and not a "slut" in soooooo many different people eyes and then critized for it regardless to the nature of whatever situation she got herself into....geebies dxp sometimes is a mess and should really be just for entertainment purposes ONLY...lol! Let me just throw my 2 cents in the ring in an attempt to put alot of women in the same boat just to see how easy this is done.....so the way I figure it, if u've had more than 1 sex partner...ur a "slut"....now does everyone feel better....lol.... now just maybe us women can find some way to show love to one another w/out the name calling to other women or criticizing each other (wishful thinking).....Lol! Who the hell dictates how many men a woman have to sleep with before she meets that standard anyway & be critized for doing so....Dr Phil—??.....Ssupes— (lol....just joshing)....Bugs Bunny—...Lol!!!!..."Society" at its finest and us women sometimes....lol....Nope...this statement was not based on any logic or rationale...lol!

im envious that you people write so much better than I ever could.

Posted by DMV

Posted by Lovelyisis
Lets just all put everyone on an even keel since we're throwing around these generic offensive names so loosely and trying to once again define what makes a woman a "woman" and not a "slut" in soooooo many different people eyes and then critized for it regardless to the nature of whatever situation she got herself into....geebies dxp sometimes is a mess and should really be just for entertainment purposes ONLY...lol! Let me just throw my 2 cents in the ring in an attempt to put alot of women in the same boat just to see how easy this is done.....so the way I figure it, if u've had more than 1 sex partner...ur a "slut"....now does everyone feel better....lol.... now just maybe us women can find some way to show love to one another w/out the name calling to other women or criticizing each other (wishful thinking).....Lol! Who the hell dictates how many men a woman have to sleep with before she meets that standard anyway & be critized for doing so....Dr Phil—??.....Ssupes— (lol....just joshing)....Bugs Bunny—...Lol!!!!..."Society" at its finest and us women sometimes....lol....Nope...this statement was not based on any logic or rationale...lol!

im envious that you people write so much better than I ever could.

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Awwww....thanks DMV dear! Just FYI.....I secretly admire ur tenacity on the boards...u rock lady! 🙂 😉

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Posted by LetltB

Posted by DMV why do you refernce it as the slut route? Why are you calling her a slut? A weaker woman hearing that is damaging to her self esteem. I see these mems where woman are supposed to be enpowering each other. Are you enpowering her by tearing her down?

or is it just for fun?

it is sad to see a woman come in here and poster after poster riducle her. It hurts me to the core because ive been targeted on DXP repeatedly and been called names repeatedly. Im a much stronger womam so I can deal, but its shocking.

Where did "sex shaming" come from? Is that the new socially acceptable term for slut? FYI definition of "Slut" from 3 different online dictionaries..


slut
/sl??t/ noun
a woman who has many casual sexual partners.


TOP DEFINITION slut
a woman with the morals of a man

slut A person considered to be sexually promiscuous

So to answer your second question "Why are you calling her a slut" ....it's what a slut is or the the "slut route" as you put it.
Regarding a woman's self esteem, if she's proud to be a slut, please tell me how it's damaging? ...and HOW is that tearing her down? I'm not ridiculing anyone...I stated and have stated TO EACH HER OWN. Am I suppose to wave a flag or march in a parade or something?

Do you feel like the word slut is derogatory or demeaning?

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If I fucked multiple men all within a short period without getting to know them, proud enough to brag about it, the answer would be no. I wouldn't give a rats ass.

Posted by DMV
Further the word is only in the dictionary because it has become apart of our communication. But does that make the word good? Was the origination of the word slut used for positivity?

there are alot of words in the dictionary, doesnt mean you have to use it.

for the posters who come here not waving a flag, why are they met with such harsh criticism from women.

It wouldn't be taken as harsh criticism if they are proud of it. If that's their choice, own the lifestyle proudly. What part of that don't you understand? I truly don't know what you are trying to get at here. The only one that's bringing in words of shame, harsh criticism etc... is you. There's one poster here who was very confident in what she is. Did you miss that?

Posted by Gobshite

Let's just face it: unless you've only had one sexual partner all your life, virtually all of us are whores or sluts.

Just fucking deal with it and stop being so self-righteous. Male or female, who fucking cares? As long as no damage is being inflicted onto others, whether it's physically, mentally or emotionally.

Btw, nature is the biggest whore of all...

That's ^^^^ not what this topic is about at all. This is about the clip from the op of a woman who fucked a guy after meeting him, and will more than likely fuck a few more guys before next week.

If I didn't feel "TO EACH HER OWN", I'd be self-righteous. However, I'm all about TO EACH HER OWN.

I'm guessing, an expectation of a response to this thread should have had rules posted with the OP explaining to anyone who wanted to answer how we were suppose to respond. Until I see that, I'm going on exactly as I personally see it. I'll look for a slut flag smiley to post, maybe everyone's panties won't be so tightly wadded up their asses and ease the tension some. Damn.

Posted by Lovelyisis
Lets just all put everyone on an even keel since we're throwing around these generic offensive names so loosely and trying to once again define what makes a woman a "woman" and not a "slut" in soooooo many different people eyes and then critized for it regardless to the nature of whatever situation she got herself into....geebies dxp sometimes is a mess and should really be just for entertainment purposes ONLY...lol! Let me just throw my 2 cents in the ring in an attempt to put alot of women in the same boat just to see how easy this is done.....so the way I figure it, if u've had more than 1 sex partner...ur a "slut"....now does everyone feel better....lol.... now just maybe us women can find some way to show love to one another w/out the name calling to other women or criticizing each other (wishful thinking).....Lol! Who the hell dictates how many men a woman have to sleep with before she meets that standard anyway & be critized for doing so....Dr Phil—??.....Ssupes— (lol....just joshing)....Bugs Bunny—...Lol!!!!..."Society" at its finest and us women sometimes....lol....Nope...this statement was not based on any logic or rationale...lol!

Again...that is not what this thread is about unfortunately, and I posted the definition of slut. But hey, carry on, looks like you are enjoying the shit out of yourself. 🙂

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Who cares. I think she should have fucked all of them LOL!

It's a choice, and maybe she will. 🙂

Posted by DMV

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by DMV

Posted by LetltB

Posted by Gobshite

In a nutshell, stop throwing stones in glass houses.

That's right...save the stone tossing for the women who choose the slut route and think they have a right to complain about their choices while attempting to blame the men. 😉

why do you refernce it as the slut route? Why are you calling her a slut? A weaker woman hearing that is damaging to her self esteem. I see these mems where woman are supposed to be enpowering each other. Are you enpowering her by tearing her down?

or is it just for fun?

it is sad to see a woman come in here and poster after poster riducle her. It hurts me to the core because ive been targeted on DXP repeatedly and been called names repeatedly. Im a much stronger womam so I can deal, but its shocking.

Let's just face it: unless you've only had one sexual partner all your life, virtually all of us are whores or sluts.

Just fucking deal with it and stop being so self-righteous. Male or female, who fucking cares? As long as no damage is being inflicted onto others, whether it's physically, mentally or emotionally.

Btw, nature is the biggest whore of all...

+1, mars in virgo catches on quickly lol

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So DMV...you are changing the topic? I missed that I guess. It's not what the original intent of the topic. Is this about a woman whose only had one sexual partner now? smh

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by DMV

Posted by Ssupes
What matters most is what is right in front of your face. What you are being shown presently from the individual.

Dig enough into anyone's past and you will find a fault.

I highly doubt there is a person on this site that has not had a one night stand.......does that make them slutty? NO.

If you think it does and you got married after 30 then prob better not dig into your SO past! Chances are.......they have.

yes. Dont judge me because my skeleton is different from yours.

One or a hundred. A skeleton is a skeleton

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I guess everyone is changing the topic for some reason.

Carry on...

Posted by Lovelyisis

Posted by DMV

Posted by Lovelyisis
Lets just all put everyone on an even keel since we're throwing around these generic offensive names so loosely and trying to once again define what makes a woman a "woman" and not a "slut" in soooooo many different people eyes and then critized for it regardless to the nature of whatever situation she got herself into....geebies dxp sometimes is a mess and should really be just for entertainment purposes ONLY...lol! Let me just throw my 2 cents in the ring in an attempt to put alot of women in the same boat just to see how easy this is done.....so the way I figure it, if u've had more than 1 sex partner...ur a "slut"....now does everyone feel better....lol.... now just maybe us women can find some way to show love to one another w/out the name calling to other women or criticizing each other (wishful thinking).....Lol! Who the hell dictates how many men a woman have to sleep with before she meets that standard anyway & be critized for doing so....Dr Phil—??.....Ssupes— (lol....just joshing)....Bugs Bunny—...Lol!!!!..."Society" at its finest and us women sometimes....lol....Nope...this statement was not based on any logic or rationale...lol!

im envious that you people write so much better than I ever could.

Awwww....thanks DMV dear! Just FYI.....I secretly admire ur tenacity on the boards...u rock lady! 🙂 😉

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🙂

Posted by LetltB

Posted by DMV
Further the word is only in the dictionary because it has become apart of our communication. But does that make the word good? Was the origination of the word slut used for positivity?

there are alot of words in the dictionary, doesnt mean you have to use it.

for the posters who come here not waving a flag, why are they met with such harsh criticism from women.

It wouldn't be taken as harsh criticism if they are proud of it. If that's their choice, own the lifestyle proudly. What part of that don't you understand? I truly don't know what you are trying to get at here. The only one that's bringing in words of shame, harsh criticism etc... is you. There's one poster here who was very confident in what she is. Did you miss that?

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take a chil pill. No need to get nasty. Youre free to leave this thread if you dont like my style of debate.

you can simply....

letitbe

Posted by beautifuldiaster
It is shameful to degrade anyone.

You never look down on another unless it's to help them up.


It may be someones prerogative to label a human into a small box but by doing so, it only further proves their narrow mindedness.

Live and let live yo

Very narrow mindedness. Especially when said shamer wants themselves to be accepted and not ridiculed for something that they did which the status quo deems wrong.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
I just had a discussion about this with a male.


He said a bunch of stuff that is his opinion bit ultimately states,"man is made to spread seed, woman is not. Therefore a woman who has multiple partners is a bad thing."


I think it's none of my business what other people do but I have to say that it's freedom of speech.

Whats the diff between racial prejudice and slut shaming?

We either accept it all as it is or we band the freedom to talk openly about our views.

lol. Multiple as in more than one?

Freedom of speech, no problem. I get with that.

I cant get with degrading another women cause she chose her own path through life.

I agree with a poster who said that life is way to short to follow the rules. Better make the best of this life.

its not just with sex either, women shame each other for fixing or not fixing there mans plate. Its gettin real out there.

I remember my last year of college making acquaintance of a young white female from the north, I think Pennsylvania. She was really clean cut, simple, pretty, sweet. One day my husband and I were driving and I saw her prostituting herself. I saw her once or twice more in about a month. She had no family in town being far from home, away at college. So, no one would ever know she spent a month of her life tricking.... not her future boyfriends, husband, children, no one.

Could you imagine me yelling out the window, "you slut," "you whore?" The idea seems ridiculous. I have never have called any woman a slut or whore. Why?

Just like no one knows when a guy experimented with homosexuality just that one time.

So, what's the point of judgment really? I'm about the bottom line. What's the goal of it all?

I've been fascinated about the whole "running a train thing" too. I've heard stories from males about. A guy friend of mine told me that they had "ran a train" on a female we were all hanging out with. She was pretty, sweet, friendly, tee shirt and jeans type girl. Her husband, children, will never know.

I had male friends in the military tell me of the same thing. I ask one million questions. But, I'm focused mainly why a group of guys would want to do this? Who goes first, who goes last? How does she indicate that this is what she wants?

Shaming never comes to mind. I'm just fascinated.

I remember that girl like yesterday. Her name was Sophia. She used to bring us all free pizza from her job or at the job. She was really cool. None of the guys who were involved that night cared. Two of them argued over her and one wound up casually dating her.

Then, I recall my experience with my husband's cousins virgin girlfriend. I had the annoyance of hearing her deflowering in the next room. I asked my husband, WTF? And, he told me she was a virgin and that was all the ruckus. She stole my shoes and threatened me on the phone to the point it was about to become a physical altercation. I wondered WTF and thought she might have been jealous that I was with the good looking one... IDK.

I mean, sexual behavior has never been a measure of character in my life experience.

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Posted by VenusAquarius
I've been fascinated about the whole "running a train thing" too. I've heard stories from males about. A guy friend of mine told me that they had "ran a train" on a female we were all hanging out with. She was pretty, sweet, friendly, tee shirt and jeans type girl. Her husband, children, will never know.

I had male friends in the military tell me of the same thing. I ask one million questions. But, I'm focused mainly why a group of guys would want to do this? Who goes first, who goes last? How does she indicate that this is what she wants?

Shaming never comes to mind. I'm just fascinated.

Exactly. I'm curious more than anything.

Human nature is fascinating. For better or worse. All the same.

The motivation behind it would be my main question as well.

The lady you mentioned who cheated and had this whole secret life, there are people who do this everyday and the behavior warrants a question.

We set up rules and laws for human behavior but it is unpredictable and cannot always be boxed into a little box with a ribbon.

Instead of fearing or hating anything, we should all instead be curious, to learn if nothing else.

Right there with you.

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She didn't cheat. We were all young college students. I was just imagining that her husband, children, etc. will never know. And put the obvious out there... married, shaming, shaking or whatever, you will never know.

So what's the point?

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Posted by FrostAndBite
Jealousy really, would be my thought as to why. I mean shit, look at all the women in the U.S. who's panties got wet over dumbass 50 Shades of Gray. Which is terrible as a novel, terrible as a sexual fantasy and even terrible as cheap erotica. If something that empty and ill formed can make so many women feel alive and desire passion, how do you think they feel towards women who actually live their life according to what they want?

Same reason Twilight became so popular with moms. People who have had no lust, no passion, no little bit of twisted or wild fun in their life even though they really wanted to have to find some way to justify their choices and make themselves feel better.

A woman who goes for what she wants, proudly and doesn't give a fuck is a powerful thing. Like a femme fatal. And most women hate a femme fatal, she's the ultimate competition, because she makes an insecure woman see all her own insecurities.

Wow. I never saw 50 shades like that. You're right. There was a major shit storm around that. I didnt see what the issue was. Homegirl wanted to get her freak on but some women said omg, no, think about the children.

Maybe we are progressing as a society.

Posted by VenusAquarius
I remember my last year of college making acquaintance of a young white female from the north, I think Pennsylvania. She was really clean cut, simple, pretty, sweet. One day my husband and I were driving and I saw her prostituting herself. I saw her once or twice more in about a month. She had no family in town being far from home, away at college. So, no one would ever know she spent a month of her life tricking.... not her future boyfriends, husband, children, no one.

Could you imagine me yelling out the window, "you slut," "you whore?" The idea seems ridiculous. I have never have called any woman a slut or whore. Why?

Just like no one knows when a guy experimented with homosexuality just that one time.

So, what's the point of judgment really? I'm about the bottom line. What's the goal of it all?

+1

Other women, it rolls quickly off the tongue. Then they smirk to themselves.

Posted by BlackNova
There's also another aspect to this, IMHO.

The Bachelor/Bachelorette are tv shows, just like survivor and big brother.
Aren't these participants extensively interviewed and screened for personality and psychological aspects?

The producers/creators of these shows purposefully create situations which allow for tension and drama.
In other words, the participants are manipulated.
On top of this, it's competitive, some women want to win the prize and some are just looking for their fifteen minutes of fame.

It's labelled as reality tv but really, most of it is scripted and manipulated to induce drama for ratings (high ratings = lots of advertising revenue).
The producers love this shit because it gives the show more free media coverage.

I got BB on record. As soon as i get back from vacation, im on it.

Truth. Those shows are created for drama. They hit on specific social taboos in order to trend lol

Posted by tiziani
Being honest, I think in 10-20 years time you'll probably far more likely be thinking about what LIB is bringing up than anything else.

Most of what else has been posted here looks like empty rhetoric. It sounds nice for the moment but it doesn't really say much in terms of what really affects us on a deep level.

What LIB is talking about is actually relevant in the long term. When someone really is about the life they're living, they're not going to look to change the attitude or perception of others first. They will just BE the example they believe in. And I fully support that kind of character who takes 100 percent responsibility for their own life because i admire them. Whether they are a slut, or prude or whatever... as long as they're owning it then that's pretty much the closest thing to freedom that anyone of any lifestyle is going to taste.

I think i am the example.

Along time ago i was that girl who came to dxp with a taboo story and i still posted my life despite the ridicule.

Just trying to make it easier for those who may have a taboo story. Not everyones journey through life is the same.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Venusaquarius, there is no goal. Its abscent thinking IMO. People just talking to talk. Does nothing to enrich their own soul. Mute point.

Like I said, slut shaming, racial prejudices, homophobic name calling, etc etc etc it's all just people talking about a person different than them self... perhaps it is because they are insecure and someone different poses a threat to what they think they stand for?

I'm all for learning and I could be way off here so I'm shooting in the dark honestly.

I just find zero benefit from belittling another human.

Dammit yes. Just because its different doesn't make it bad.nor should some be the subject of an attack.

Beautiful Disaster, i agee. What is the benefit of belittling someone

Posted by aurora
of course it's jealousy. lack of sex make women nervous, mad all the time and jealous, if the lack comes from wrong reasons. seriously, she is trying so hard to prevent herself from having sex and then there's this other woman who doesn't really care, so if no one is going to make her feel bad about it she will. that way she gives herself a justification for her choices. when in reality she is just horny most of the time.

i honestly think man are in general more chill cause this issue is non existent in their lives.

Friggin men. I knew i chose the wrong sex in the womb.

Some people view someone (man OR woman) that has had many, many partners (say 250 as mentioned earlier) as a person who has poor discretionary skills in which is an indication of their character and that makes people question their decision making ability. Not as a judgement but as a question.

One question I always had is when is enough enough? How many experiences does it take? Such as do they have the ability to be faithful or are they so used to variety they would not be able to be monogomous? Would make someone reconsider taking them seriously in a relationship.

Another question I have is at what point does it affect a someone's attitude toward the opposite sex? At what point do they become hardened toward love and relationships?

Just some things to ponder...

My Daddy always said a woman that is promiscuous has a lot of fun, gets to go to lots of places and has lots of dates, but they don't get many marriage proposals....
(Of course Daddy grew up in the 1950s)

It all comes down to morals and how you were raised. Did your parents talk to you about sex? Did your mother say how a woman is suppose to conduct herself? Did your father tell you what most men think about women that have sex randomly? If your parents found out through someone that their daughter is spreading herself around town, how would they feel?

"If men can have sex with everyone, then why can't women do it, too." I get it that most women want to be the complete equal of a man, but come on. Women are suppose to carry themselves differently than men do. Women aren't the only ones shaming other women for sleeping around, men do it too. They call women sluts, too. It's all about respecting yourself and earning respect. For example, a man is participating in a basketball game against the best team in the city and his team wins. The reward is a championship trophy. Next week, he partipates in another game, but he doesn't have to do anything but show up. He gets a trophy for coming out anyway. Which trophy would he admire most. The one that he WORKED for or the one that was given to him for FREE? You're VALUED more with you make him EARN it. Bottom line. A man Is going to TREAT you, the way that YOU TREAT yourself.

As far as shaming goes, it's LIFE. Everyone is judged for the things that the do. Look at dxpnet! If you have a problem with people calling you a slut, then maybe you feel that it's something wrong with the shit that you do. People feel ashamed when they know that what they're doing is wrong. They worry about it. But at the end of the day, who cares. You're going to do what you want anyway. If you're going to be sexually free, own it. Be the best slut that you can be, but don't get mad at someone for frowning upon it. Everyone has opinions. Just live your life, but don't make excuses for the things that you do.

valued more when*
That they do*

Posted by truecap
Some people view someone (man OR woman) that has had many, many partners (say 250 as mentioned earlier) as a person who has poor discretionary skills in which is an indication of their character and that makes people question their decision making ability. Not as a judgement but as a question.

One question I always had is when is enough enough? How many experiences does it take? Such as do they have the ability to be faithful or are they so used to variety they would not be able to be monogomous? Would make someone reconsider taking them seriously in a relationship.

Another question I have is at what point does it affect a someone's attitude toward the opposite sex? At what point do they become hardened toward love and relationships?

Just some things to ponder...

My Daddy always said a woman that is promiscuous has a lot of fun, gets to go to lots of places and has lots of dates, but they don't get many marriage proposals....
(Of course Daddy grew up in the 1950s)

its not that its an experience, I see guy that im attracted to and I have sex. Its fun and feels amazing. Its kinda like asking me how many times do I have to scuba dive b4 enough is enough?

I had one boyfriend and I was faithful. When I decide to enter into a relationship, i have tunnel vision. I sex him up a few times a day. Then you could ask, how many times coukd you possibly have sex with your man b4 enough is enough? We screwed the same day we met and parted ways 3 years later.

I love men, especially my black king. I don't hate men. I think I have a good attitude towards the lesser sex. Id love to be in a relationship, but it had to be with right person; bad sex can and will disqualify you. Im highly selective in entering a relationship. Id rather have a couple quality ones.

I have been a successful financial analyst/accountant for 10 + years. I have 3 degress and a certificate. I also have my own successful clothing line and im starting an acting career. Im a respected business woman and a stand up mofo.

I fuck bout 5 days a week and smoke weed every damn day. Im just sexing up the sag right now, but I was on, at one point, 3 guys in week. What a buffet!

I just happen to be a sex kitten who enjoys the feel of a limp sausage getting hard in my mouth

Also my goals are different. My goals arent to have kids and get married. If it happens it happens. Im leaving my mark in a different way.

I also have a great relationship with my father. Hes a great example of what man should be. Any man who steps to me, has big shoes to fill.

Posted by Noreallynow
valued more when*
That they do*

you know some men will wait you out and say all fhe right things for months. Here you go thinking you have some prize to be won, but after you finally give it up, hes gone. Youve been thinking for months that he sees value in you, youre better because you made him wait.

then what?

you also dont have to go along with the status quo. You are your own person. Pave your own way. But whatever way you choose, I would never berate you over it.

just because dxp has been operating like this for years doesnt make it right. Spread love not war.

Posted by Katana
^^^This is an old school social construct engrained in a lot of people's minds from past generations. I get that some people still live by it but, it's not only outdated but also completely misogynistic which is to be expected since it was adapted during an era in which women had very few rights in society and they were expected to be "pure" and men could be as depraved as they wanted to be. It was just used to control women much like many other ideologies past societies put into place such as "women were made to be housewives and men were suppose to be the hunter gatherers who financially provided for their families". Men just wanted women to stay home and be uneducated housewives who would wait on them hand and foot while they lied about staying at the office late so they could have affairs with their secretaries and be out all night basking in their debauchery. The times have obviously changed and so should that bullshit perception that so many people grew up believing in that no longer suits modern society.

It's also just plain old bullshit. Women don't have to be anything they don't want to be and the same goes for men. If men sleep around and conduct themselves in "less than appropriate ways" they should be seen as the equivalent of whatever women are seen as when they conduct themselves in similar ways or no judgment should be passed at all. Women aren't these divine virginal creatures who dropped down from a heavenly abyss who need to conduct themselves as angels while men could be as impure and unholy as they please. Fuck that. Some people may go on believing that if they choose to let society limit their life experiences but, life is too damn short to give even a half of a flying fuck what anyone thinks of you or your life choices.

yas bish yas

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Posted by Noreallynow
valued more when*
That they do*

you know some men will wait you out and say all fhe right things for months. Here you go thinking you have some prize to be won, but after you finally give it up, hes gone. Youve been thinking for months that he sees value in you, youre better because you made him wait.

then what?

you also dont have to go along with the status quo. You are your own person. Pave your own way. But whatever way you choose, I would never berate you over it.

just because dxp has been operating like this for years doesnt make it right. Spread love not war.

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Pave your own way... I said that. I said people are going to have opinions. Live your life. Exactly what I said. I agree. But people are going to judge you no matter what. You basically repeated what I said...

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Posted by Noreallynow
valued more when*
That they do*

you know some men will wait you out and say all fhe right things for months. Here you go thinking you have some prize to be won, but after you finally give it up, hes gone. Youve been thinking for months that he sees value in you, youre better because you made him wait.

then what?

you also dont have to go along with the status quo. You are your own person. Pave your own way. But whatever way you choose, I would never berate you over it.

just because dxp has been operating like this for years doesnt make it right. Spread love not war.

Pave your own way... I said that. I said people are going to have opinions. Live your life. Exactly what I said. I agree. But people are going to judge you no matter what. You basically repeated what I said...

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what about the first part of my response?

Posted by Katana
^^^This is an old school social construct engrained in a lot of people's minds from past generations. I get that some people still live by it but, it's not only outdated but also completely misogynistic which is to be expected since it was adapted during an era in which women had very few rights in society and they were expected to be "pure" and men could be as depraved as they wanted to be. It was just used to control women much like many other ideologies past societies put into place such as "women were made to be housewives and men were suppose to be the hunter gatherers who financially provided for their families". Men just wanted women to stay home and be uneducated housewives who would wait on them hand and foot while they lied about staying at the office late so they could have affairs with their secretaries and be out all night basking in their debauchery. The times have obviously changed and so should that bullshit perception that so many people grew up believing in that no longer suits modern society.

It's also just plain old bullshit. Women don't have to be anything they don't want to be and the same goes for men. If men sleep around and conduct themselves in "less than appropriate ways" they should be seen as the equivalent of whatever women are seen as when they conduct themselves in similar ways or no judgment should be passed at all. Women aren't these divine virginal creatures who dropped down from a heavenly abyss who need to conduct themselves as angels while men could be as impure and unholy as they please. Fuck that. Some people may go on believing that if they choose to let society limit their life experiences but, life is too damn short to give even a half of a flying fuck what anyone thinks of you or your life choices.

And again you closed it out like I just said.... Who cares... So if that's the case, why wasn't even brought up? Like I said if that's what you choose, so be it. Everyone is different.

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Posted by Noreallynow

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Posted by Noreallynow
valued more when*
That they do*

you know some men will wait you out and say all fhe right things for months. Here you go thinking you have some prize to be won, but after you finally give it up, hes gone. Youve been thinking for months that he sees value in you, youre better because you made him wait.

then what?

you also dont have to go along with the status quo. You are your own person. Pave your own way. But whatever way you choose, I would never berate you over it.

just because dxp has been operating like this for years doesnt make it right. Spread love not war.

Pave your own way... I said that. I said people are going to have opinions. Live your life. Exactly what I said. I agree. But people are going to judge you no matter what. You basically repeated what I said...

what about the first part of my response?

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What you choose to believe or deal with is all on you. It's your decision. Some men lie all the time. Don't just go by words. Go by actions, also. You can make your mouth say anything.

When want advice, I go to various people. Mostly men. They give me their opinions about the situation. They all give the same response, but its worded differently. When I give advice, it from experience or what I've been taught, not just something I say because I'm being a smartass. When I need help, I ask for it... If I can't figure it out... If I need guy advice, I go to my brothers, dad, uncles, friends, even ex boyfriends. Why? Not because I don't value what women say, but because their men.

Posted by Noreallynow
When want advice, I go to various people. Mostly men. They give me their opinions about the situation. They all give the same response, but its worded differently. When I give advice, it from experience or what I've been taught, not just something I say because I'm being a smartass. When I need help, I ask for it... If I can't figure it out... If I need guy advice, I go to my brothers, dad, uncles, friends, even ex boyfriends. Why? Not because I don't value what women say, but because their men.

Does your mercury aspect Neptune?

I think I gave an example, but it didn't have anything to do with being an object. I guessed the point was missed.... This is getting interesting, though...but I stated how felt like everyone else has... So yeah...

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Posted by Noreallynow
valued more when*
That they do*

you know some men will wait you out and say all fhe right things for months. Here you go thinking you have some prize to be won, but after you finally give it up, hes gone. Youve been thinking for months that he sees value in you, youre better because you made him wait.

then what?

Was trying to explain this in another thread. People objectifying themselves for free then get discarded like objects.

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Un huh

Posted by BlackNova
It's labelled as reality tv but really, most of it is scripted and manipulated to induce drama for ratings (high ratings = lots of advertising revenue).
The producers love this shit because it gives the show more free media coverage.

Troof.

I had friends who were on a reality show, and was even there for one of the tapings. Heard and saw first hand all the crap that was going on. When the episode aired, SO much made sense with the weird, stupid requests that had been made last minute. They were trying to set up one of my friends to make him look like he was going to sabotage everything.

That said, producers of reality shows are assholes.

While I don't understand the need to be with many people I don't see the sense in shaming an act that is so natural to being human but it's understandable that people are judged and labeled by the amount partners they've been with because society has simply been conditioned this way though I see it shifting ever so slowly.

...So if I am to understand this correctly people want to fuck around without being called a slut? I don't think it works like that. You can't just demand that people stop judging others because without judgment in the world, harsh or otherwise, we may never realize what we need to change. Heck, even if we aren't sexually "immoral" we call each other sluts for any reason anyway.

So if you're labeled as a slut despite knowing that you're not an immoral person you have the right to not give those people any fucks because at the end of the day you're getting all the dick or pussy or both that you could ever want, making yourself and the people you fuck with happy.