Social Pressure/ Marriage/ Dating Rant Of Sorts...

I hate being this age! I didn't even think I'd live this long either lol

Ugh. All people seem to care about is settling down. All my friends lately have been constantly pestering me to " hang " with their flavor of the year/month/ maybe future husbands friends. Aka set me up with someone!

I resent this so much! They also do this when they know I'm kind of seeing someone ( wth!? ) but they decided I'd be better fitted with someone they know. It's like sure I could be better fitted with someone but I DON'T CARE! I'm happy for them and am happy to join in their happiness but it's like people hit this age and all of sudden it has to be through being with a partner.

My family is exactly the same way! They constantly ask about it like I wanna discuss my sex life or personal issue with them wtf NOOOOO



I know it's their way of " caring " but it irritates me so much!!

The worst part is there is someone who I feel I could actually go down this ridiculous road with but they don't wanna be with me! Sooo ya!



I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes. Sounds terrible but it is what it is.

The funny thing is I've only had like 3 serious relationships in my whole life and I could of married those people but I didn't cause I was in my early/mid 20's and I thought it was stupid.

Now I wish I just would of so people would leave me the f alone!!



It just sucks that me and I'm sure others feel like eventually we will just marry someone for convince or money if we stay in society.



I wanna be Dick Proenneke!! #goals



Okay end rant lol

Posted by Sag898

I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes.

do you have Taurus placements?

Posted by Black-Mamba

Your Leo moon is strong

Leo moon's have a hard time building strong relationships.

We're too happy on our own

Relationships never satisfy us cause ppl are takers Anways

JUST YES.

Posted by Dewritos

Dick Proenneke is the Bob Ross of homesteading.

Got that right

Posted by nanobot

Weird. What country do you live in? Maybe you should seek out some new friends with more similar values to you.

We share the same values just not with relationships. I live in America it's very typical here.

Posted by Metatron

Posted by Sag898

I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes.

do you have Taurus placements?

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Haha no sir, why?

Posted by Sag898

Posted by Metatron

Posted by Sag898

I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes.

do you have Taurus placements?

Haha no sir, why?

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bc I'm a bull and am reading your post like:



...you just left out the food indulgence...

Posted by ASCoppVenus

I can relate. Lol i bet we sre the same age hahaha

Everytime I attend a wedding of a friend people will be asking me when my turn is or when im gonna get preggo coz “ovaries have expiration” people said i should just get married and not be too picky. But I cannot help it. I am picky. I dont have ridiculously high standards but I have my standards that i wish the man would have and the other thing is that my partner should want marriage with me too. So I dunno. I dont wanna say my current one is the one because we all know life is full of surprises. But if ever he is, i wanna settle with him not because everybody told me to but more because I want to.

PS

Women like us are good at this stage coz we still have a choice. I have a friend who is engaged and just realized she doesnt love the guy but its more about her fear of being alone. Her wedding is put on hold coz they are having problems. And she was telling me women who arent engaged or married are lucky to still have the chance to choose. Of course she meant that for women who are unhappily married and unhappily engaged.

I just never had any interest in such things. Ever since I was a little girl to teenager I never wanted to be engaged in romance. My first boyfriend was when I was 21. A scorpio he was a good introduction into it and I've found out more as I've gone along. The pressure of society is intense. I will probably fall to it cause I want others to be happy and comfortable in a way but also me. It's confusing and conflicting.

That's great you found someone you want to be with and he feels likewise 🙂



What Kerouac wrote is feels :

"I have lots of things to teach you now, in case we ever meet, concerning the message that was transmitted to me under a pine tree in North Carolina on a cold winter moonlit night. It said that Nothing Ever Happened, so don’t worry. It’s all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever. Close your eyes, let your hands and nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, and you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky ways of cloudy innumerable worlds long ago and not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect.

We were never really born, we will never really die. It has nothing to do with the imaginary idea of a personal self, other selves, many selves everywhere, or one universal self. Self is only an idea, a mortal idea. That which passes through everything, is one thing. It’s a dream already ended. There’s nothing from staring at mountains months on end. They never show any expression, they are like empty space. Do you think the emptiness of space will ever crumble away. Mountains will crumble, but the emptiness of space, which is the one universal essence of mind, the one vast awakenerhood, empty and awake, will never crumble away because it was never born."

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Posted by Sag898

I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes.

do you have Taurus placements?

Haha no sir, why?

bc I'm a bull and am reading your post like:



...you just left out the food indulgence...

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Right 😄 *high five*

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Posted by Sag898

Posted by Dewritos

Dick Proenneke is the Bob Ross of homesteading.

Got that right

Becoming a pornstar is easier than keeping vermin away from your tomatoes.

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Mars scorpio too possessive for that bro

I have a male friend who was gay for pay.

They make better coin than the chicks.

Posted by RooSagicorn

Well... I got married at 24 & divorced at 27. No kids. It was a huge mistake. I think it’s better to wait til you’re older. Just ignore them!!

Roo ❤️ ❤️ I trust your judgement

Posted by Ariqua

Me and aqua got together when I was 28. Now I’m 32. I don’t really feel pressure. His mom bugs us to have kids but I just laugh it off and tell her to enjoy her granddog. I’m content. We’ll get married and have kids when we’re ready. I guess it’s easy for Aries and aqua because we are both somewhat unconventional so it’s just accepted that we will do things on our own terms.

I like that. I'm currently seeing an Aries. You guys are something else 😄 I can't tell if I like you not or yet.

How do you post pictures in a thread though? I wanna show you my doggo! What's yours?

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Posted by Sag898

I hate being this age! I didn't even think I'd live this long either lol

Ugh. All people seem to care about is settling down. All my friends lately have been constantly pestering me to " hang " with their flavor of the year/month/ maybe future husbands friends. Aka set me up with someone!

I resent this so much! They also do this when they know I'm kind of seeing someone ( wth!? ) but they decided I'd be better fitted with someone they know. It's like sure I could be better fitted with someone but I DON'T CARE! I'm happy for them and am happy to join in their happiness but it's like people hit this age and all of sudden it has to be through being with a partner.

My family is exactly the same way! They constantly ask about it like I wanna discuss my sex life or personal issue with them wtf NOOOOO



I know it's their way of " caring " but it irritates me so much!!

The worst part is there is someone who I feel I could actually go down this ridiculous road with but they don't wanna be with me! Sooo ya!



I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes. Sounds terrible but it is what it is.

The funny thing is I've only had like 3 serious relationships in my whole life and I could of married those people but I didn't cause I was in my early/mid 20's and I thought it was stupid.

Now I wish I just would of so people would leave me the f alone!!



It just sucks that me and I'm sure others feel like eventually we will just marry someone for convince or money if we stay in society.



I wanna be Dick Proenneke!! #goals



Okay end rant lol

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Posted by RooSagicorn

Posted by Sag898

Posted by RooSagicorn

Well... I got married at 24 & divorced at 27. No kids. It was a huge mistake. I think it’s better to wait til you’re older. Just ignore them!!

Roo ❤️ ❤️ I trust your judgement

❤️❤️ so 2nd marriage at 31, 2 kids in my 30’s & a 20 year relationship. Much, much better. I think older = more mature and more ready for kids & marriage if that’s what you want in life.

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Dearly noted! ❤️

Posted by ASCoppVenus

Posted by Sag898

Posted by ASCoppVenus

I can relate. Lol i bet we sre the same age hahaha

Everytime I attend a wedding of a friend people will be asking me when my turn is or when im gonna get preggo coz “ovaries have expiration” people said i should just get married and not be too picky. But I cannot help it. I am picky. I dont have ridiculously high standards but I have my standards that i wish the man would have and the other thing is that my partner should want marriage with me too. So I dunno. I dont wanna say my current one is the one because we all know life is full of surprises. But if ever he is, i wanna settle with him not because everybody told me to but more because I want to.

PS

Women like us are good at this stage coz we still have a choice. I have a friend who is engaged and just realized she doesnt love the guy but its more about her fear of being alone. Her wedding is put on hold coz they are having problems. And she was telling me women who arent engaged or married are lucky to still have the chance to choose. Of course she meant that for women who are unhappily married and unhappily engaged.

I just never had any interest in such things. Ever since I was a little girl to teenager I never wanted to be engaged in romance. My first boyfriend was when I was 21. A scorpio he was a good introduction into it and I've found out more as I've gone along. The pressure of society is intense. I will probably fall to it cause I want others to be happy and comfortable in a way but also me. It's confusing and conflicting.

That's great you found someone you want to be with and he feels likewise 🙂



What Kerouac wrote is feels :

"I have lots of things to teach you now, in case we ever meet, concerning the message that was transmitted to me under a pine tree in North Carolina on a cold winter moonlit night. It said that Nothing Ever Happened, so don’t worry. It’s all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever. Close your eyes, let your hands and nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, and you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky ways of cloudy innumerable worlds long ago and not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect.

We were never really born, we will never really die. It has nothing to do with the imaginary idea of a personal self, other selves, many selves everywhere, or one universal self. Self is only an idea, a mortal idea. That which passes through everything, is one thing. It’s a dream already ended. There’s nothing from staring at mountains months on end. They never show any expression, they are like empty space. Do you think the emptiness of space will ever crumble away. Mountains will crumble, but the emptiness of space, which is the one universal essence of mind, the one vast awakenerhood, empty and awake, will never crumble away because it was never born."

Hey that was beautiful!

And I agree with you about the pressure from the society. I guess despite the modernization of almost everything, some things never change. We arent considered a woman completely until we become wives and mothers. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18, a gemini guy. Lol. I personally did not feel the need to do relationships that much before because i was focused on myself. And when I find someone interesting then i get in a relationship but not thinking about marriage til a year or so ago when everyone I know technically are engaged, married or with kids. It does make you feel out of place sometimes coz friends started talking about houses and babies and diapers and baby food and there you are. Single. There is a documentary about this that i once watched. 2 types. The asian women who are considered “leftover women” coz they are unmarried at 30+ and there’s another one which is European and shes just not feeling the need to marry even if her family had been setting up dates for her and she eventually got in a relationship she cant see herself being in. I do think we all have our timing with things and as for me, I refuse to settle when I’m not ready. Its too much of an obbligation.

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Right! Interesting about those documentaries I'll have to take a look. That's great you don't settle. I'm trying really hard to not fall into that. I would be perfectly fine with a " life partner " if need be. Wife and mother uhhhh I could do it if I had to but I just don't want too lol

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Posted by Sag898

I hate being this age! I didn't even think I'd live this long either lol

Ugh. All people seem to care about is settling down. All my friends lately have been constantly pestering me to " hang " with their flavor of the year/month/ maybe future husbands friends. Aka set me up with someone!

I resent this so much! They also do this when they know I'm kind of seeing someone ( wth!? ) but they decided I'd be better fitted with someone they know. It's like sure I could be better fitted with someone but I DON'T CARE! I'm happy for them and am happy to join in their happiness but it's like people hit this age and all of sudden it has to be through being with a partner.

My family is exactly the same way! They constantly ask about it like I wanna discuss my sex life or personal issue with them wtf NOOOOO



I know it's their way of " caring " but it irritates me so much!!

The worst part is there is someone who I feel I could actually go down this ridiculous road with but they don't wanna be with me! Sooo ya!



I don't even really feel lonely though because I have so many open ended things with people and I'm completely content with that. And even if I didn't, all I care about is having a lot of money and my dog and good sex sometimes. Sounds terrible but it is what it is.

The funny thing is I've only had like 3 serious relationships in my whole life and I could of married those people but I didn't cause I was in my early/mid 20's and I thought it was stupid.

Now I wish I just would of so people would leave me the f alone!!



It just sucks that me and I'm sure others feel like eventually we will just marry someone for convince or money if we stay in society.



I wanna be Dick Proenneke!! #goals



Okay end rant lol

Only one emoji to tell you what I'm thinking.

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Posted by -sierra-

girl i feel ya

i'm a few years younger than you

and errbody getting married

they're all looking at me with expectations

what does it even matter?

i'm almost married in ways that matter anyway

And you are younger??!! Ah! that sucks!! It just keeps going back and back damn

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I can relate. Lol i bet we sre the same age hahaha

Everytime I attend a wedding of a friend people will be asking me when my turn is or when im gonna get preggo coz “ovaries have expiration” people said i should just get married and not be too picky. But I cannot help it. I am picky. I dont have ridiculously high standards but I have my standards that i wish the man would have and the other thing is that my partner should want marriage with me too. So I dunno. I dont wanna say my current one is the one because we all know life is full of surprises. But if ever he is, i wanna settle with him not because everybody told me to but more because I want to.

PS

Women like us are good at this stage coz we still have a choice. I have a friend who is engaged and just realized she doesnt love the guy but its more about her fear of being alone. Her wedding is put on hold coz they are having problems. And she was telling me women who arent engaged or married are lucky to still have the chance to choose. Of course she meant that for women who are unhappily married and unhappily engaged.

I just never had any interest in such things. Ever since I was a little girl to teenager I never wanted to be engaged in romance. My first boyfriend was when I was 21. A scorpio he was a good introduction into it and I've found out more as I've gone along. The pressure of society is intense. I will probably fall to it cause I want others to be happy and comfortable in a way but also me. It's confusing and conflicting.

That's great you found someone you want to be with and he feels likewise 🙂



What Kerouac wrote is feels :

"I have lots of things to teach you now, in case we ever meet, concerning the message that was transmitted to me under a pine tree in North Carolina on a cold winter moonlit night. It said that Nothing Ever Happened, so don’t worry. It’s all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever. Close your eyes, let your hands and nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, and you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky ways of cloudy innumerable worlds long ago and not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect.

We were never really born, we will never really die. It has nothing to do with the imaginary idea of a personal self, other selves, many selves everywhere, or one universal self. Self is only an idea, a mortal idea. That which passes through everything, is one thing. It’s a dream already ended. There’s nothing from staring at mountains months on end. They never show any expression, they are like empty space. Do you think the emptiness of space will ever crumble away. Mountains will crumble, but the emptiness of space, which is the one universal essence of mind, the one vast awakenerhood, empty and awake, will never crumble away because it was never born."

Hey that was beautiful!

And I agree with you about the pressure from the society. I guess despite the modernization of almost everything, some things never change. We arent considered a woman completely until we become wives and mothers. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18, a gemini guy. Lol. I personally did not feel the need to do relationships that much before because i was focused on myself. And when I find someone interesting then i get in a relationship but not thinking about marriage til a year or so ago when everyone I know technically are engaged, married or with kids. It does make you feel out of place sometimes coz friends started talking about houses and babies and diapers and baby food and there you are. Single. There is a documentary about this that i once watched. 2 types. The asian women who are considered “leftover women” coz they are unmarried at 30+ and there’s another one which is European and shes just not feeling the need to marry even if her family had been setting up dates for her and she eventually got in a relationship she cant see herself being in. I do think we all have our timing with things and as for me, I refuse to settle when I’m not ready. Its too much of an obbligation.

Right! Interesting about those documentaries I'll have to take a look. That's great you don't settle. I'm trying really hard to not fall into that. I would be perfectly fine with a " life partner " if need be. Wife and mother uhhhh I could do it if I had to but I just don't want too lol

Yes! I am not sure about the titles but i will get back to you when i remember them lol i wanna be a wife and mother because of my bloody 7th house venus. Makes me all mushy about this kind of thing. But at the same time, im being bery careful about it because its a huge responsibility to even settledown and be responsible for other people for the rest of your life. But yes, dont do it if you dont want to. I do think if you find a good, stable relationship thats worth staying in for the rest of your life, do it even without marriage.

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If it's something you want I think you will be a good parent. It's when you don't and you do it well, it's an obvious out come most of the time.

There is only one man who's made me consider it. I'd feel proud to carry his genes around lol but it didn't happen and most likely won't.

I can't imagine feeling that way again but who knows.

I need to figure out my houses! How does one again??

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I can relate. Lol i bet we sre the same age hahaha

Everytime I attend a wedding of a friend people will be asking me when my turn is or when im gonna get preggo coz “ovaries have expiration” people said i should just get married and not be too picky. But I cannot help it. I am picky. I dont have ridiculously high standards but I have my standards that i wish the man would have and the other thing is that my partner should want marriage with me too. So I dunno. I dont wanna say my current one is the one because we all know life is full of surprises. But if ever he is, i wanna settle with him not because everybody told me to but more because I want to.

PS

Women like us are good at this stage coz we still have a choice. I have a friend who is engaged and just realized she doesnt love the guy but its more about her fear of being alone. Her wedding is put on hold coz they are having problems. And she was telling me women who arent engaged or married are lucky to still have the chance to choose. Of course she meant that for women who are unhappily married and unhappily engaged.

I just never had any interest in such things. Ever since I was a little girl to teenager I never wanted to be engaged in romance. My first boyfriend was when I was 21. A scorpio he was a good introduction into it and I've found out more as I've gone along. The pressure of society is intense. I will probably fall to it cause I want others to be happy and comfortable in a way but also me. It's confusing and conflicting.

That's great you found someone you want to be with and he feels likewise 🙂



What Kerouac wrote is feels :

"I have lots of things to teach you now, in case we ever meet, concerning the message that was transmitted to me under a pine tree in North Carolina on a cold winter moonlit night. It said that Nothing Ever Happened, so don’t worry. It’s all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever. Close your eyes, let your hands and nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, and you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky ways of cloudy innumerable worlds long ago and not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect.

We were never really born, we will never really die. It has nothing to do with the imaginary idea of a personal self, other selves, many selves everywhere, or one universal self. Self is only an idea, a mortal idea. That which passes through everything, is one thing. It’s a dream already ended. There’s nothing from staring at mountains months on end. They never show any expression, they are like empty space. Do you think the emptiness of space will ever crumble away. Mountains will crumble, but the emptiness of space, which is the one universal essence of mind, the one vast awakenerhood, empty and awake, will never crumble away because it was never born."

Hey that was beautiful!

And I agree with you about the pressure from the society. I guess despite the modernization of almost everything, some things never change. We arent considered a woman completely until we become wives and mothers. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18, a gemini guy. Lol. I personally did not feel the need to do relationships that much before because i was focused on myself. And when I find someone interesting then i get in a relationship but not thinking about marriage til a year or so ago when everyone I know technically are engaged, married or with kids. It does make you feel out of place sometimes coz friends started talking about houses and babies and diapers and baby food and there you are. Single. There is a documentary about this that i once watched. 2 types. The asian women who are considered “leftover women” coz they are unmarried at 30+ and there’s another one which is European and shes just not feeling the need to marry even if her family had been setting up dates for her and she eventually got in a relationship she cant see herself being in. I do think we all have our timing with things and as for me, I refuse to settle when I’m not ready. Its too much of an obbligation.

Right! Interesting about those documentaries I'll have to take a look. That's great you don't settle. I'm trying really hard to not fall into that. I would be perfectly fine with a " life partner " if need be. Wife and mother uhhhh I could do it if I had to but I just don't want too lol

Yes! I am not sure about the titles but i will get back to you when i remember them lol i wanna be a wife and mother because of my bloody 7th house venus. Makes me all mushy about this kind of thing. But at the same time, im being bery careful about it because its a huge responsibility to even settledown and be responsible for other people for the rest of your life. But yes, dont do it if you dont want to. I do think if you find a good, stable relationship thats worth staying in for the rest of your life, do it even without marriage.

If it's something you want I think you will be a good parent. It's when you don't and you do it well, it's an obvious out come most of the time.

There is only one man who's made me consider it. I'd feel proud to carry his genes around lol but it didn't happen and most likely won't.

I can't imagine feeling that way again but who knows.

I need to figure out my houses! How does one again??

Awwwww.... what happened with the guy? Why didnt you end up with him? As for the houses go to astro-seek.com 🙂

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Thanks!

He's a Leo lol

I guess timing really overall. I think if this, that and the next thing would of been different if we were at higher maturity levels and states in life at the time. We are still really good friends and I love him dearly. I'm very protective of him too. I want him to be happy in life if it's with or without me but I'll be a little somber if it's without.

But I think if you really care for someone you let them go and them in I suppose

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Me and aqua got together when I was 28. Now I’m 32. I don’t really feel pressure. His mom bugs us to have kids but I just laugh it off and tell her to enjoy her granddog. I’m content. We’ll get married and have kids when we’re ready. I guess it’s easy for Aries and aqua because we are both somewhat unconventional so it’s just accepted that we will do things on our own terms.

I like that. I'm currently seeing an Aries. You guys are something else 😄 I can't tell if I like you not or yet.

How do you post pictures in a thread though? I wanna show you my doggo! What's yours?

Yes, I admit we are.

She’s a wheaten but she’s def not a show dog 🤣 her name is Mia Luna. My moon. show me yours. Use tiny pic to upload and copy and paste the message board link.

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Omg.....that dog is SO cute. I wanna pet her cute face! Awww. How old is she??

I have a girl too 🙂 Her name is Pearl!