@Accountz
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Why do I keep attracting perverted men?!?!?
It's called the world we live in. You are just more aware of it than other people.
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same... bottom line... society was created some how by the rowmodels of that they grow up around. So the only way it changes people actually have to do a better job raising there kids... watching content that encourage that kinda attitude. Society has made this Behavior exceptable... not only that some guys buy into it because men are successful about it. It is the whole pick up artist thing. It is not cool to have one woman but to try to have as many as you can... women though they seem to be eating it up these days.
I think the world is finally starting to wake up but who knows... no think we are going back to dark ages now.
Piscesmoon
Anyone in your family have a similar problem?
Posted by sierraleoone
what's your rising sign?
Aquarius
Posted by LittleFairy
It's called the world we live in. You are just more aware of it than other people.
Pastors, teachers, coworkers, lovers, family members.
Posted by JustALeo
Posted by LittleFairy
It's called the world we live in. You are just more aware of it than other people.
Agreed! This world is just a messed up place and you get creeps and jerks who ruin it for everyone else.
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Makes me want to be single.
Posted by piscesmoon2
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same... bottom line... society was created some how by the rowmodels of that they grow up around. So the only way it changes people actually have to do a better job raising there kids... watching content that encourage that kinda attitude. Society has made this Behavior exceptable... not only that some guys buy into it because men are successful about it. It is the whole pick up artist thing. It is not cool to have one woman but to try to have as many as you can... women though they seem to be eating it up these days.I think the world is finally starting to wake up but who knows... no think we are going back to dark ages now.
Piscesmoon
I'm just sick of it! I feel the same way. I've been hit on by all of the above in my other post and I try to stay positive and be nice but it makes me want to be so mean and unapproachable to the point I would kill.
Posted by Montgomery
Anyone in your family have a similar problem?
(2) family members has been molested or abused and I don't talk to the rest of my family.
Pervs are attracted to people with smiley face avatars. Use your real picture to deter them.
Posted by JustALeo
Posted by Accountz
Posted by JustALeo
Posted by LittleFairy
It's called the world we live in. You are just more aware of it than other people.
Agreed! This world is just a messed up place and you get creeps and jerks who ruin it for everyone else.
Makes me want to be single.
Nothing wrong with being single, learn to love yourself and realize you never need anyone in your life. You just make it a choice to allow someone in your life
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U & ur cape always saves the day ☺️. Thank u. Makes a lot of sense... I was just thinking that & thinking it allows u to take back ur power in a way. I would come out stronger and now I'm just working on it being too nice because ppl take advantage of that a lot when I'm only trying to be the change that I want to see. I notice that ppl show their colors the most when they feel u are naive. That's why they always say u never show anyone ur whole hand.
Posted by piscesmoon2
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same...
It's never the victims fault. That would be kind of like saying Jews kept choosing genocidal countries to live in.
Posted by piscesmoon2
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same... bottom line... society was created some how by the rowmodels of that they grow up around. So the only way it changes people actually have to do a better job raising there kids... watching content that encourage that kinda attitude. Society has made this Behavior exceptable... not only that some guys buy into it because men are successful about it. It is the whole pick up artist thing. It is not cool to have one woman but to try to have as many as you can... women though they seem to be eating it up these days.I think the world is finally starting to wake up but who knows... no think we are going back to dark ages now.
Piscesmoon
Posted by piscesmoon2
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same...click to expand
Some people are sociopaths. It's never the victims fault. Some women are sociopaths but they just tend to commit different types of crime.
The type of thing you are talking about is social compliance. The mechanism is not the victim telling the predator it's ok. It's the group mentality lessening the guilt. Shared group acts lessen guilt. Also the group is only ever aware of the more minor acts carried out. But being in a collective makes the individual more comfortable with doing bad things.
The real bad things ..are left to true sociopaths. The more Machiavellian ones work their way up the chain of society or groups like nazism or ...whatever.
Creepy men/women or sociopaths represent only a very small % of people..but they are compulsive. They get around.
They are just as much a part of the world as you or I. You have met many as have I.
Posted by bawlikestogomoo
Pervs are attracted to people with smiley face avatars. Use your real picture to deter them.
Why r they attracted to ppl with smiling faces?
Posted by Accountz
Posted by bawlikestogomoo
Pervs are attracted to people with smiley face avatars. Use your real picture to deter them.
Why r they attracted to ppl with smiling faces?
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They will have a go with anyone ....but what they want from women or children is different from what they may want from men ..or from their workplace.
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
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A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
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It runs in families. And in institutions. Once you haveone issue in an institution its best to leave. And religious leaders are notorious.
It's way more common than people think. And way more common than men in particular think.
Posted by Accountz
Posted by piscesmoon2
Of course all I can say is men have learned it is ok because woman keep choosing the same... bottom line... society was created some how by the rowmodels of that they grow up around. So the only way it changes people actually have to do a better job raising there kids... watching content that encourage that kinda attitude. Society has made this Behavior exceptable... not only that some guys buy into it because men are successful about it. It is the whole pick up artist thing. It is not cool to have one woman but to try to have as many as you can... women though they seem to be eating it up these days.I think the world is finally starting to wake up but who knows... no think we are going back to dark ages now.
Piscesmoon
I'm just sick of it! I feel the same way. I've been hit on by all of the above in my other post and I try to stay positive and be nice but it makes me want to be so mean and unapproachable to the point I would kill.
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Chances are all the good men won't hit on you. They will give the impression they want little to do with you, but will still speak to you in a genuine way.
Keep this in mind. When you find the right man he will be the one not trying to get in your pants. Good men hold back the urge till the right signal.
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Im going to get a lot of heat for this but idgaf.
How is it that every single person on your life does this.
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No heat..but some people are born into dangerous environments. Bad families bad parents with bad friends who choose bad schools....life will get better as she gets older ..
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Montgomery
Anyone in your family have a similar problem?
(2) family members has been molested or abused and I don't talk to the rest of my family.
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That's worse for sure.
Just venturing a guess here, but I know I've
learned plenty of behaviors, both good and bad,
from my immediate family.. perhaps you are
kind to people who give off that vibe without
realizing it?
Not wanting to be rude?
Some say there's a spiritual element to things
like this, as well... but it could just be that they
see something in you that makes them target
you, specifically, and unfortunately, it's often
naivete or the appearance of naivete.
But you're picking up on it somehow, so that's
good... esp if you've got kids . :/
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
What part of it is a blessing though!!?
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Im going to get a lot of heat for this but idgaf.
How is it that every single person on your life does this. Could it be you are misinterpreting things? You say "indirectly" a lot.
Bit if you arent misinterpreting it would you consider therapy? You need to find out why you are always a victim.
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I've actually had the encounters the only one that did it indirectly was a family member but when I say indirectly I mean secretly trying to feel me out and see how I would react to it. I didn't describe everything because it's very personal to me and even when I said what I said above I felt like that was too much. Some of those things my closest family or best friend knows nothing about. I was just expressing myself
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
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Don't leave your kid alone. Family member or not. It's the people closest to you that will hurt your babies.
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Im going to get a lot of heat for this but idgaf.
How is it that every single person on your life does this. Could it be you are misinterpreting things? You say "indirectly" a lot.
Bit if you arent misinterpreting it would you consider therapy? You need to find out why you are always a victim.
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People feel that I am too nice
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Montgomery
Anyone in your family have a similar problem?
(2) family members has been molested or abused and I don't talk to the rest of my family.
That's worse for sure.
Just venturing a guess here, but I know I've
learned plenty of behaviors, both good and bad,
from my immediate family.. perhaps you are
kind to people who give off that vibe without
realizing it?
Not wanting to be rude?
Some say there's a spiritual element to things
like this, as well... but it could just be that they
see something in you that makes them target
you, specifically, and unfortunately, it's often
naivete or the appearance of naivete.
But you're picking up on it somehow, so that's
good... esp if you've got kids . :/
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Some say it's my Venus in Aries
A lamb and the wolves... you have to say enough, not easy if alone in this society.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
What part of it is a blessing though!!?
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That I can recognize it especially since I have a child. My family didn't see it but I did and I made them aware of it and when I described it to them on the outside looking in things didn't add up for them either. They have never known the person to be that way but ppl change and especially if they indulged in drugs heavily as far as cocaine or even worst crack. He has barely even been around my family and kept pressing the issue of taking my child even hinting to the ppl at the bank that he was going out of town with me like I'm some young hoe which he had me fucked up. We were only at the bank to help him to make sure he didn't get screwed because he never wanted to go along and was also physically disabled. He came into some money and it got to his head just like the pastor I described that over stepped his boundaries. From those experiences life has taught me that money can bring the worst out of ppl and a lot see it & use it as a source for control. It also taught me that ppl r ppl no matter what their title is. The pastor knew me since I was 12
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Don't leave your kid alone. Family member or not. It's the people closest to you that will hurt your babies.
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That's exactly why I don't now. I don't trust anyone even children of both sexes or older kids around my child. I feel like bubble boy smh. And on a side note is ur name Daniella? Ur profile pic looks like a lady I've seen before
Posted by LostPisces
A lamb and the wolves... you have to say enough, not easy if alone in this society.
Wym
Posted by LostPisces
A lamb and the wolves... you have to say enough, not easy if alone in this society.
I think I understand...when someone oversteps say enough and if alone in society u will want to belong so u will go along with it to fit in?
Posted by Accountz
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Accountz
Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Posted by Accountz
I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!
Please elaborate
A cousin in law came on to me and even his uncle. In middle school my bf tried to rape me. Multiple teachers coming on to me from middle school to college. A married pastor over stepped his boundaries etc. I'm thankful that I can sense it but I hate the fact that they tried to get over on me and to even think those thoughts towards me or the thought to cause me harm makes me want to kill. Family member (blood relative) tried to come on to me in an indirect manner and also tried to take my child somewhere and requested that no other family members could come and he would use an uber etc.
Don't leave your kid alone. Family member or not. It's the people closest to you that will hurt your babies.
That's exactly why I don't now. I don't trust anyone even children of both sexes or older kids around my child. I feel like bubble boy smh. And on a side note is ur name Daniella? Ur profile pic looks like a lady I've seen before
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Nope, I'm not the one.
Posted by Accountz
Posted by LostPisces
A lamb and the wolves... you have to say enough, not easy if alone in this society.
I think I understand...when someone oversteps say enough and if alone in society u will want to belong so u will go along with it to fit in?
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If you find a person with principles, not easy once more, get help outside, dont know.
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I hate this so much it's like a bless and a curse because I can be aware but it's sickening to me. Even perverted ppl trying to be around my child! Like wtf is it?!?!? It has been this way my whole life even when I was in middle school I encountered a rapist & a pedophile!!!