Why do we love bad guys?

Ok, I’m seeing two men at the same time (without sex and all)

Just talk and dating blah blah



The first one is the gemini (yeah the same fking man) lol

He is kind of evil, like he is really aggressive and always do things in his way, it’s so rare for him to think about my feelings, or even his own feelings

Always about ideas and stuff, but when he sometimes open up I see clearly that he have feelings for me

He is dark man and really really sad

Deep and smart

And everyone who knows me know that I love him anyway

But I don’t know how this happened I just start dating sagittarius man, he is really really the opposite

Like wow

He is happy man, he is always nice to me and help (in everything.. he even cook!

The thing is I’m embarrassed about how much they are opposite each other

The sag start to work with me (taurus mars lol)

And he really really help me



I never thought that I will be in a situation like this, even tho I was before in love with two men, but in the past they knew about each other, and asked me to choose between them, and I choose the gemini over the old sag.

But the new sag is more caring and more helpful, and he give me all his time

They define the good guy and the bad guy

And I feel like I know from the start that I will always love the gemini more than anyone /:

I even choose him over my first love

Is that it? We women love bad guys?

Because I see clearly that my heart is always feel warm around that crazy gem

But with the sag I feel it’s fun and happy date, but that’s it

I don’t feel anything else

I asked myself is this because the gemini actually love me more, and change me in a really deep way?



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Bad boy act only good for short term. Long term lead to thing being toxic and heartbreaks. That’s not real love if someone constantly keep hurting you. ( from my experience)

Bad boys bring the excitement and unknown. Crazy challenges you never thought go through.

Good guy long term. He will be dedicated and understanding to your needs. Love you unconditionally. He will uplift and support u to be better and strive for the best.

Because our heart yearns to experience the heartbreak. Everything else is a wishful thinking.

To be more precise, we all want to get to the bottom of our love and other person"s love. But forget that depths are dark and scary.

No, less than smart women like bad guys.

I'm not into bad guys, but they are the ones that always fall for me.

I guess I'll wind up stuck with a bad guy because ultimately, I prefer someone who will sincerely love me.

Without sex? 👀 Seriously?

This is why I can’t juggle 2 boyfriends. I wouldn’t be able to go back a forth with them either.

Even-keeled is where it's at though.

Posted by Lovelyy

Bad boy act only good for short term. Long term lead to thing being toxic and heartbreaks. That’s not real love if someone constantly keep hurting you. ( from my experience)

Bad boys bring the excitement and unknown. Crazy challenges you never thought go through.

Good guy long term. He will be dedicated and understanding to your needs. Love you unconditionally. He will uplift and support u to be better and strive for the best.

Yeah, the gemini is obsessed with me, but we’re not normal couple, like long road without anything in the end



The sag is very bright and sweet, he is one who help me in everything

He will even buy me a new car because I told him that I love new things etc

Posted by FeelingGemini

Because our heart yearns to experience the heartbreak. Everything else is a wishful thinking.

To be more precise, we all want to get to the bottom of our love and other person"s love. But forget that depths are dark and scary.

This is SO deep.

Me and the gemini go through hell, and I know everything about him, but still I really love him and I don’t care.

But the sag is happy man and really sweet also very smart, but he is kind of religious and stuff

Like he will just say:” god with us all the time”

“Don’t forget to pray “ and I will be like 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Posted by Haruuka

Posted by Lovelyy

Bad boy act only good for short term. Long term lead to thing being toxic and heartbreaks. That’s not real love if someone constantly keep hurting you. ( from my experience)

Bad boys bring the excitement and unknown. Crazy challenges you never thought go through.

Good guy long term. He will be dedicated and understanding to your needs. Love you unconditionally. He will uplift and support u to be better and strive for the best.

Yeah, the gemini is obsessed with me, but we’re not normal couple, like long road without anything in the end



The sag is very bright and sweet, he is one who help me in everything

He will even buy me a new car because I told him that I love new things etc

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I think you should give the Sag a chance. Leave things in past with the Gemini. I know u guys have history and everything. But is it worth it ?

Bad guy is a Prince Charming if he is good to you. I hope that’s what OP means.

If you love a guy who is bad to you - you are stupid!

If he is good to you - who cares about anything else? Lol

Posted by Haruuka

Posted by FeelingGemini

Because our heart yearns to experience the heartbreak. Everything else is a wishful thinking.

To be more precise, we all want to get to the bottom of our love and other person"s love. But forget that depths are dark and scary.

This is SO deep.

Me and the gemini go through hell, and I know everything about him, but still I really love him and I don’t care.

But the sag is happy man and really sweet also very smart, but he is kind of religious and stuff

Like he will just say:” god with us all the time”

“Don’t forget to pray “ and I will be like 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sag sounds like fun...lmao

Posted by stope

Posted by Gemitati

Bad guy is a Prince Charming if he is good to you. I hope that’s what OP means.

If you love a guy who is bad to you - you are stupid!

If he is good to you - who cares about anything else? Lol

Words of wisdom.

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I can’t help it. I share freely. Use well...

In the end only a good guy can win your heart.

Usually they just say the words that we always want to hear and try to relate to us in a spiritual and emotional level.

We are more focused on the situation of "sparks" but not really focusing on the logical sense that this guy might be just saying shit just temporarily

Because we confuse mean and bad with masculine and manly.. and we confuse sweet and good with feminine, that's why we tend to get attracted to "bad" boys

Posted by Haruuka

Posted by FeelingGemini

Because our heart yearns to experience the heartbreak. Everything else is a wishful thinking.

To be more precise, we all want to get to the bottom of our love and other person"s love. But forget that depths are dark and scary.

This is SO deep.

Me and the gemini go through hell, and I know everything about him, but still I really love him and I don’t care.

But the sag is happy man and really sweet also very smart, but he is kind of religious and stuff

Like he will just say:” god with us all the time”

“Don’t forget to pray “ and I will be like 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

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I'd like to say Im not commenting your situation, I don't like dealing with two people at the same time, but that's your choice and im not God to tell you whats right or wrong for you. You'll find that in time yourself.

I was solely answering the original question, not taking in consideration your situation.

I wanted to add that the intuitive need to go to the depths of love is the process that has to do with opening the core of ourselves, our multilayered selves. We like to think that we know all about bad sides, but thats rarely the truth.

Like giving the birth, it's painful and uneasy, but it has to happen if you want to learn about some other world (life).

Other reason why people are drawn to bad people, especially if they themselves are nice and transparent, is because they naturally seek for something in themselves which would help them not to experience sadness again, and instinctively get drawn to people who behave completely different from them. Passive learning. Like trying to learn from them how to become a biatch.

Again, it has all to do with learning the power, as someone here cleverly pointed out. Power over ourselves, that teach us the power over how other treat us.

It's opening the core of life, layer by layer.

So, there are myriads of reasons why people in general show more interest or are more "moved" by bad (complicated) examples of the opposite sex.

It would be great if the answer was simply, because people are stupid, but it is not so.

Good  and transparent people are easier and more fluid, but once we finish swimming in the shallow water, and our hands reach for the further sea, that's where the things start to get complicated. It"s simply our nature. And this is just my opinion.

All this not to be confused with bullying and molesting, or acquiring the victim role, that's something totally different.

It's just your trauma bonding talking.

Posted by Gobby

Posted by FeelingGemini

Because our heart yearns to experience the heartbreak.

In addition to all the drama that comes along with it...

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I think they are mutually inclusive. And I wouldnt necessarily call it a drama in pejorative sense (drama for the sake of drama), but turbulences out of which we learn something and grow or we don't.

Because its all chemicals in the brain that tell you to. We like bad boys because they're interesting and we think we can change them but they never do. For long term good guys are the best from experience.

Ladies, let me explain to you a few things that not even Miss Clinton knows about. I have written countless of scientific articles on this topic in the New York Times, which have never been published, so pay attention.

Women hate monognonmony! They think they want mognomony but they don't, especially when they are young. That's why more women file for divorce than men do because they realize they married for the wrong reasons. A bad boy is the same, he doesn't care for mongomgny either but unlike you, he can afford staying single because he doesn't get judget by our society. Society is bad and forces women to settle for guys who are into astrology. And bad boys are bad too because they don't want to settle even when they get fat, bald and old. It's the nice guys that suffer the most, we...I mean they want to settle for real. 😢

Because approval is sweeter when it comes from someone who doesn't give it away easily.

Bad guys are for secretly bad women.

Seems to me, you're only going to hurt the Sag. Why be with the Sag if your love is for the Gemini you keep holding onto? Not fair at all.

Either heighten your standards and be all in with the Sag or keep 'em where they're at and be with the Gem.

Poor Sag ❤️

But honestly there must be just something about that special bad boy, because I just got with the same type of guy, I usually get feelings for: sweet and funny, but very different from me and not looking for something serious. And I did not feel a thing for him. I just wanted to get mine and then he could leave. He stayed and chatted and wants to see me again, but I don't feel it.

He is the exact same type, but some guys just get under your skin. I still can't let go of some sort of feelings for a cap guy, nd I can't be normal towards him, and I think he's the worst while simultanously I just really like him and want to get with him. I don't know what it is, some people just... You just feel something special for them I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you, all of you

I wish that I have time like before, to reply to everyone 😔💔

Love you guys so much, I didn’t know really what was gonna to happen to me, if I didn’t have this place to vent in



Maybe I will be crazy or something:/



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Tbh most intelligent women don't want a bad guy. He is a dick, and wants nothing from you. Also will do little for you. Only weak women want a true bad guy. Those type of women likely play the victim, while also having a huge ego. Thats why weak less intelligent women attract shitty men. How many likes and support comments does one person need to get to stop being trash and actually change? I'm not fooled one bit.. No sane minded women would want a shitty unstable lover. Normal women want good men or women in their lives. At the least a balanced lover.

Imo it‘s the everlasting desire of a woman to change a man and proof to herself that she can change a man no matter how „bad & cold“ he was because that proofs how „good and worthy“ she is. That‘s delusional! Its more an ego thing mixed with being a little desperate. Been there done that and learned from it.

Good luck!