I Use My Flaws for Battle

Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

i'm a first houser and always thought i hate libra anything (except mars)

but now i'm seeing a libra moon like wtf is life

and tbh pisces tends to rub me wrong more often than not (which is funny coz that's mostly what i attract with 7th house pisces)

i'm trying very hard to hate this combination coz eww

Posted by virgoOPPP

i'm a first houser and always thought i hate libra anything (except mars)

but now i'm seeing a libra moon like wtf is life

and tbh pisces tends to rub me wrong more often than not (which is funny coz that's mostly what i attract with 7th house pisces)

i'm trying very hard to hate this combination coz eww

You do see the irony of being okay with a Libra Mars when loathing Libra anything? It is the 2nd worst placement for Libra, besides the sun, Lol. Mars and Sun in Libra are in detriment/fall.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

So, you're using "self-reflection" to point out how you're better than everyone else. Again. Not very self-aware in my view.

I'm not sorry you feel that way and I totally understand why you do. Go reflect on it.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

i'm a first houser and always thought i hate libra anything (except mars)

but now i'm seeing a libra moon like wtf is life

and tbh pisces tends to rub me wrong more often than not (which is funny coz that's mostly what i attract with 7th house pisces)

i'm trying very hard to hate this combination coz eww

You do see the irony of being okay with a Libra Mars when loathing Libra anything? It is the 2nd worst placement for Libra, besides the sun, Lol. Mars and Sun in Libra are in detriment/fall.
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yeah but mine is in the 1st house

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Posted by virgoOPPP

i'm a first houser and always thought i hate libra anything (except mars)

but now i'm seeing a libra moon like wtf is life

and tbh pisces tends to rub me wrong more often than not (which is funny coz that's mostly what i attract with 7th house pisces)

i'm trying very hard to hate this combination coz eww

You do see the irony of being okay with a Libra Mars when loathing Libra anything? It is the 2nd worst placement for Libra, besides the sun, Lol. Mars and Sun in Libra are in detriment/fall.

yeah but mine is in the 1st house
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Oh? Not ironic at all then. Didn't think it was because it was your Mars. Totally understand with you being a 1st houser.

So you see the natural opposition to it all.

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

So, you're using "self-reflection" to point out how you're better than everyone else. Again. Not very self-aware in my view.

I'm not sorry you feel that way and I totally understand why you do. Go reflect on it.

I feel this way because I've never seen you talk about anyone on this site or in your life positively. You only talk about yourself and how great you think you are. It's really annoying.
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You may want to reflect on why that's the thing that catches your attention.

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

So, you're using "self-reflection" to point out how you're better than everyone else. Again. Not very self-aware in my view.

I'm not sorry you feel that way and I totally understand why you do. Go reflect on it.

I feel this way because I've never seen you talk about anyone on this site or in your life positively. You only talk about yourself and how great you think you are. It's really annoying.

You may want to reflect on why that's the thing that catches your attention.

Why? I don't think this about anyone else here. You're the only one who does it.
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And, unfortunately for you... I don't care how you feel. So, don't waste your time.

@LadyNeptune

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I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since In person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

So, you're using "self-reflection" to point out how you're better than everyone else. Again. Not very self-aware in my view.

I'm not sorry you feel that way and I totally understand why you do. Go reflect on it.

I feel this way because I've never seen you talk about anyone on this site or in your life positively. You only talk about yourself and how great you think you are. It's really annoying.
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don't really see anything wrong with that

we should be more careful of those who 'actively seek out to make friends'

IJS

Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

Perfect example of being oblivious to one's flaws laid out right here.

Just like my thread on Judgement. It is often all about feeling or being the opposite of another.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.
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No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Posted by but_didyoudie

the pee pee ex. is a terrible example... im not even sure what you're trying to say here... is it about the Libra a t work... and you becoming aware of your flaws and that's why you hate his guts? your post is all over the place... what made you write this post? the Libra you hate? how is this related to your Aries - Libra axis?

I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS😱

No, the topic is about flaws and recognizing them in yourself and others... subtopic of how astrology can be an aid in self-awareness.

The topic is like an expansion on another thread I posted. Maybe reading this one first will help.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

Posted by VenusAquarius

Perfect example of being oblivious to one's flaws laid out right here.

Just like my thread on Judgement. It is often all about feeling or being the opposite of another.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

I just clicked on the thread.

I never complain like this. I accept everyone for who they are and just work around them or with them.

Maybe this is my problem then.

I would never think to tell someone else about how they act. That is their personality. Who do I think I am to even comment on it.

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.
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Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?
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You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Posted by FuckItWhatever

“Bitch Pudding” lmao

I have an opposition aspect between sun (Pisces) and moon (Virgo) with moon in the 1st house and sun in the 7th, so it pokes, probes, prods, and “slips out like peepee” all the time lol. That’s its weakness but it’s also its natural outlet and also how it ultimately learns. Especially with them being in the 1st and 7th house. That’s how these energy’s get sorted out and ultimately how I become more self aware and aware of the world around me. And with the moon in Virgo, it’s very self aware and self-critical, even when others don’t see it. But yeah, these things need to be channeled correctly

It’s definitely good to self-reflect though. Especially if there’s trauma that hasn’t been processed yet in a person’s life causing pain to themselves and the people around them. If you guys think I’m bad now you should’ve seen me like 6 or 7 years ago before I made a concerted effort to take inventory of my life and figure out what the fuck was really going on lol. Which was weird because it was like “Ok...so how do I do this?” I guess you just quiet your mind and analyze the events that have taken place and try to understand why, and what part you yourself played in it. It was a painful process but ultimately led to growth like you said. It includes taking responsibility for your own actions (even if ultimately you aren’t the one at fault for a specific thing, we all still play our role and could’ve done things better, if we’re being honest with ourself), and also forgiving others and yourself imo

One point I want to make though, just because someone might be behaving in a way that seems detrimental to their image or whatever, doesn’t necessarily they aren’t self-aware. Sometimes things just need to be said or done and let the chips fall where they may. People may even have to push through their own self-awareness to accomplish those things

Somehow dear Pisces (the sign I make the most friends with), in that last paragraph, you got to my core issue. Thank you.

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.
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Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

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I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.
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Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

😭😭😭😭😪😪

I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️

Posted by saggurl88
Posted by VenusAquarius

Perfect example of being oblivious to one's flaws laid out right here.

Just like my thread on Judgement. It is often all about feeling or being the opposite of another.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

I just clicked on the thread.

I never complain like this. I accept everyone for who they are and just work around them or with them.

Maybe this is my problem then.

I would never think to tell someone else about how they act. That is their personality. Who do I think I am to even comment on it.
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Yes, and that is what supposed to make natural leaders.

Do you think you are humble because of not criticizing others? I've been told sometimes that I am too humble.

Posted by but_didyoudie
Posted by VenusAquarius

Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

Let's test it out shall we?😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏

#1.

Person says: "I know he secretly loathes her."

Translation: ?

#2.

Person says: "These people seem oblivious to themselves."

Translation: ?

#3.

Person says: "People need more self-awareness."

Translation: ?

#4.

Person says: " I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee."

Translation: ?
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I’m number 2 so I’m gonna wait for the answer on this! 🤣🤣🤣

I think this will be my flaw! Leave it to a Virgo to help me out in all this! Thank you 🙏🏽

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Perfect example of being oblivious to one's flaws laid out right here.

Just like my thread on Judgement. It is often all about feeling or being the opposite of another.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

I just clicked on the thread.

I never complain like this. I accept everyone for who they are and just work around them or with them.

Maybe this is my problem then.

I would never think to tell someone else about how they act. That is their personality. Who do I think I am to even comment on it.

Yes, and that is what supposed to make natural leaders.

Do you think you are humble because of not criticizing others? I've been told sometimes that I am too humble.
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Yeah. I know I’m humble. But I’m also very confident. So it’s a weird combination.

For the most part I just think people don’t know me so they can’t comment on me or my actions, but I still take in what they have to say and listen to them and see if they’ve made the proper assessment and if I need to change.

Most times I won’t though. Usually I just get comments on me not doing what the other person wants me to do.

And that just isn’t my problem. They would have the control issues then.

Posted by Silverado

I use other people's flaws in battle, and you'd be surprised how easy it is for me to strike where it hurts the most.

But I'm trying to fight my way into heaven, so I'm a good boy now - but don't test me. 😇

I do too. I'm quite manipulative that way. Most times it's to teach... like a learning tool and not malicious. It's like you have to show them who they are in real-time in order to bring forth their self-awareness.

Sometimes, it is for adversity. Like defensive offense. I'm not petty so it has to be a serious situation. In adversity, most times the ego is so thick, they just dig a bigger whole to fall in.

Posted by saggurl88
Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by VenusAquarius

Perfect example of being oblivious to one's flaws laid out right here.

Just like my thread on Judgement. It is often all about feeling or being the opposite of another.

Judgement, Criticism and What It Actually Might Say About You

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/judgement-criticism-and-what-it-actually-might-say-about-you-11435387/?checkpg=1

I just clicked on the thread.

I never complain like this. I accept everyone for who they are and just work around them or with them.

Maybe this is my problem then.

I would never think to tell someone else about how they act. That is their personality. Who do I think I am to even comment on it.

Yes, and that is what supposed to make natural leaders.

Do you think you are humble because of not criticizing others? I've been told sometimes that I am too humble.

Yeah. I know I’m humble. But I’m also very confident. So it’s a weird combination.

For the most part I just think people don’t know me so they can’t comment on me or my actions, but I still take in what they have to say and listen to them and see if they’ve made the proper assessment and if I need to change.

Most times I won’t though. Usually I just get comments on me not doing what the other person wants me to do.

And that just isn’t my problem. They would have the control issues then.
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The bad part about it for me is when they mistake it for weakness and I have to really use my "flaws," LOL

Posted by but_didyoudie
Posted by VenusAquarius

Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

Let's test it out shall we?😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏

#1.

Person says: "I know he secretly loathes her."

Translation: ?

#2.

Person says: "These people seem oblivious to themselves."

Translation: ?

#3.

Person says: "People need more self-awareness."

Translation: ?

#4.

Person says: " I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee."

Translation: ?
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You will see in the other thread that there are others like you who confuse judgements/criticisms as well.... for facts, situations, etc.

Go back and look.

@LadyNeptune

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This resonates with me.

Flaws can be used to your advantage.

I'm shit at doing administrative stuff and chasing after clients for monies kills my creativity. I hired an office manager 2ish years ago who stays saving my life, literally. She just fielded a few calls talking about, she's out in the field, meanwhile I'm standing 3 feet away lol.

Glenda to the rescue.

Just got her a raise. She's worth her weight in gold tho.

Edit: And she's a libra 😂😂

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Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.
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there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Posted by LadyNeptune

This resonates with me.

Flaws can be used to your advantage.

I'm shit at doing administrative stuff and chasing after clients for monies kills my creativity. I hired an office manager 2ish years ago who stays saving my life, literally. She just fielded a few calls talking about, she's out in the field, meanwhile I'm standing 3 feet away lol.

Glenda to the rescue.

Just got her a raise. She's worth her weight in gold tho.

Edit: And she's a libra 😂😂

That's a really good point. Nowing your limits and appreciating it in others.... helps you give credit where it's due.

I've seem some casea where bosses become threatened (mostly on a subconscious level) at various skills others have that they don't and fail to give appreciation.

@MyStarsShine

9 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.
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Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

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Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.
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Yes!

I get really happy when people understand what I'm saying. It's kinda rare for me. Thank you.

Posted by Silverado
Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by Silverado

I use other people's flaws in battle, and you'd be surprised how easy it is for me to strike where it hurts the most.

But I'm trying to fight my way into heaven, so I'm a good boy now - but don't test me. 😇

I do too. I'm quite manipulative that way. Most times it's to teach... like a learning tool and not malicious. It's like you have to show them who they are in real-time in order to bring forth their self-awareness.

Sometimes, it is for adversity. Like defensive offense. I'm not petty so it has to be a serious situation. In adversity, most times the ego is so thick, they just dig a bigger whole to fall in.

Mine is just defense. The only time I feel the need to attack is using this website for people who are asking for it.
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What?

LOL

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I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

😭😭😭😭😪😪

I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️
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LOL

I'm not jealous and I've been told it's "hurtful." I understood though.

I've studied managing one's perception.... and, I had too because of the sharks I often work with will do "perception campaigns."

@LadyNeptune

10 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by LadyNeptune

This resonates with me.

Flaws can be used to your advantage.

I'm shit at doing administrative stuff and chasing after clients for monies kills my creativity. I hired an office manager 2ish years ago who stays saving my life, literally. She just fielded a few calls talking about, she's out in the field, meanwhile I'm standing 3 feet away lol.

Glenda to the rescue.

Just got her a raise. She's worth her weight in gold tho.

Edit: And she's a libra 😂😂

That's a really good point. Nowing your limits and appreciating it in others.... helps you give credit where it's due.

I've seem some casea where bosses become threatened (mostly on a subconscious level) at various skills others have that they don't and fail to give appreciation.
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I aim to be the least knowledgeable person at the table. I'm trying to surround myself with talented individuals. Your only as strong as your weakest link and all that.

My strengths are the personal relationships and trust and rapport built with my repeat clients.

The young guys I have are geniuses with the programs and speedy af. I learn new things from them every day.

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

😭😭😭😭😪😪

I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️

LOL

I'm not jealous and I've been told it's "hurtful." I understood though.

I've studied managing one's perception.... and, I had too because of the sharks I often work with will do "perception campaigns."
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I don’t get the jealousy thing either.

There’s no need for it. Just go out and work hard and go get it.

So what if you have to work harder and it comes easier for others- you still can go get it.

Well you seem to have picked up some Virgo traits on analytics in your time spent with one 😝

I don’t think much about anything when it comes to others. I either attract or avoid. It just makes things simpler for me.

But I’m also passive and just don’t want to deal with most things that are hard. I like easy.

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Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?
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Bad-tempered does not automatically equate to narcissist and vice versa. The post was to another point.

For example, and in my murder mystery example, it was the "nice person" who was the killer, who snapped l, cause of having feelings supposedly unfamiliar or in denial. Sometimes people who deny their darkside (which we all have) and are thus, self-unaware, snap.

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Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?
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narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Posted by LadyNeptune

This resonates with me.

Flaws can be used to your advantage.

I'm shit at doing administrative stuff and chasing after clients for monies kills my creativity. I hired an office manager 2ish years ago who stays saving my life, literally. She just fielded a few calls talking about, she's out in the field, meanwhile I'm standing 3 feet away lol.

Glenda to the rescue.

Just got her a raise. She's worth her weight in gold tho.

Edit: And she's a libra 😂😂

Pisces actually do this VERY WELL

most Pisces I know delegate tasks extremely well and they always find ways of getting things done, especially if it’s something they don’t want to do or don’t have time to do.

It’s like you all can find the smallest crack and get it filled with barely lifting a finger and having someone else take care of it.

I wish I had this style of doing things.

Instead I need everything done right and to my specifications and it takes me too much time. But I can’t trust anyone to do it right 😩😩😭😭

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Posted by saggurl88

I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

😭😭😭😭😪😪

I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️

LOL

I'm not jealous and I've been told it's "hurtful." I understood though.

I've studied managing one's perception.... and, I had too because of the sharks I often work with will do "perception campaigns."

I don’t get the jealousy thing either.

There’s no need for it. Just go out and work hard and go get it.

So what if you have to work harder and it comes easier for others- you still can go get it.

Well you seem to have picked up some Virgo traits on analytics in your time spent with one 😝

I don’t think much about anything when it comes to others. I either attract or avoid. It just makes things simpler for me.

But I’m also passive and just don’t want to deal with most things that are hard. I like easy.
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It was the romantic type jealousy not the material type one.

Aries rules self... Libra rules others so, I'm on that axis.... which is reflected in this thread... which you just pointed out.

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Posted by VenusAquarius
Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.
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LOL

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Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

Bad-tempered does not automatically equate to narcissist and vice versa. The post was to another point.

For example, and in my murder mystery example, it was the "nice person" who was the killer, who snapped l, cause of having feelings supposedly unfamiliar or in denial. Sometimes people who deny their darkside (which we all have) and are thus, self-unaware snap.
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'perceived narcissism' at least

@MyStarsShine

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Posted by virgoOPPP

as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

Bad-tempered does not automatically equate to narcissist and vice versa. The post was to another point.

For example, and in my murder mystery example, it was the "nice person" who was the killer, who snapped l, cause of having feelings supposedly unfamiliar or in denial. Sometimes people who deny their darkside (which we all have) and are thus, self-unaware snap.
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Right...I was just questioning it. So agree with the dark side. Wished more parents would teach their kids how to channel this....it could save a lot of problems later in life. So important to work with it and recognize it and embrace it of course

I still think a lot of bad tempered people can be self involved though and slow to let go of issues and grow up...

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I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

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I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️

LOL

I'm not jealous and I've been told it's "hurtful." I understood though.

I've studied managing one's perception.... and, I had too because of the sharks I often work with will do "perception campaigns."

I don’t get the jealousy thing either.

There’s no need for it. Just go out and work hard and go get it.

So what if you have to work harder and it comes easier for others- you still can go get it.

Well you seem to have picked up some Virgo traits on analytics in your time spent with one 😝

I don’t think much about anything when it comes to others. I either attract or avoid. It just makes things simpler for me.

But I’m also passive and just don’t want to deal with most things that are hard. I like easy.

It was the romantic type jealousy not the material type one.

Aries rules self... Libra rules others so, I'm on that axis.... which is reflected in this thread... which you just pointed out.
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I’m very literal as you can see lol

I’m not jealous romantically either once I have the person. I trust my spouse/ partner too much to be. They should know what not to do and they should have as much respect for me as I do for them.

Cross a line and they will get a slice of humble pie, one foot in their ass, and one out the door.

Usually I only have to say things once, but I am very demanding when it comes to respect. I don’t tolerate being disrespected.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.
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Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

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Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

Let's test it out shall we?😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏

#1.

Person says: "I know he secretly loathes her."

Translation: ?

#2.

Person says: "These people seem oblivious to themselves."

Translation: ?

#3.

Person says: "People need more self-awareness."

Translation: ?

#4.

Person says: " I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee."

Translation: ?

You will see in the other thread that there are others like you who confuse judgements/criticisms as well.... for facts, situations, etc.

Go back and look.

facts. hmmmm. well this was your perfect opportunity to practice what you preach... and you failed to* adhere to your own rules. what would you call that? a fact or a judgement?
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You are having an emotional response. It can sometimes... well, let me just show you. (You gotta try harder next time.)

"I know he secretly loathes her."

You took that qoute out of context. I stated that in that post I knew because he let's it slip.

Additionally and for example, he calls her names or makes references to the behaviors she has that he doesn't like.

But, you missed the point. I don't think you were trying to get the point really. It is that it's the Aries/Libra axis in opposition and he is disliking characteristics that are opposite from his sign.

i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.