I Use My Flaws for Battle (Page 2)

Posted by virgoOPPP

i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

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I honestly don’t even know my flaws. Other then not being able to communicate well by text or phone calls, but since I’m person, I do well, I don’t think it’s a flaw.

Maybe I’m just fully accepting of myself cause if someone else doesn’t like me for something, they are free to step to the side and leave me alone and I won’t feel bad about it.

People shouldn’t be so hard on themselves.

Totally agree.

However, people make criticisms. Some out of their own inadequacies most of the time. But, have you received criticisms that you may note as possible flaws?

Sometimes it's just flaws due to current societal definitions.

No I haven’t. I dated a few Virgos too and other then 1 saying I don’t get angry enough 🤷🏽‍♀️

The other Virgo told me to stop asking him lol. I am seriously wanting to know.

I know that I usually do what I want and don’t conform to control or overpowering by someone else. But that’s not a flaw, in my eyes.

So I’m honestly not sure at all what mine are. Maybe I will find out if I continue to date this Virgo I’m seeing. Right now he doesn’t say anything to me. He’s just accepting, which I guess just means he’s just not that into me.

But I am wondering about myself. I’m dying to know. I like working on myself, challenging myself and making myself uncomfortable so that I can adapt, change and grow.

Don't mean to be repitive, and this can be outside of the romantic sphere... but, you are including parents, teachers, co-workers, etc?

You can be blunt. Lol

Yeah. No one has ever told me anything. But I guess since I don’t comment on their behavior, maybe they don’t feel the need to comment on mine.

I just guessing based on that previous judgement thread you posted.

The only thing I get from some co workers is that I’m heartless. But that usually has to do with me not showing emotions and not wanting them to hug me.

Again, not a flaw in my eyes.

Yeah, I don't mean for "flaw" to be taken too literally.

I've been coined heartless for many reason to include the reason you describe and because I'm awfully accepting and non-judemental. But, people will also use being accepting and non-judemental as to criticize about the company I will keep or call me eccentric.

A tiny example would be how I dote on and love the maintenance and housekeeping staff, and they me...Lol.

And, when it came to being a mother with the hug stuff... my self-awareness made me tell my kids upfront that mommy is naturally not affectionate so come TAKE a hug from me.

Damn. I think I have a big ego or something. I’m self aware of everything I do and just think people are supposed to accept it.

😭😭😭😭😪😪

I’m looking at the comments here and I don’t find them bad. It seems like a work around for someone else to do.

I don’t bend like that to someone and I expect them to accept every part of me like I accept them.

You being not so affectionate is actually how I am. I wasn’t raised with affection so I’m warm with words but most time cold with actions once I’ve gotten to know someone.

With family, everyone knows how I am so they don’t bug me about it. Actually the whole lot isn’t really affectionate.

Maybe I need to excuse myself out this thread. Cause I don’t see why someone should work to bend to someone else just cause that person doesn’t like what they see.

I would be unbothered and let them know they can keep it moving ➡️

LOL

I'm not jealous and I've been told it's "hurtful." I understood though.

I've studied managing one's perception.... and, I had too because of the sharks I often work with will do "perception campaigns."

I don’t get the jealousy thing either.

There’s no need for it. Just go out and work hard and go get it.

So what if you have to work harder and it comes easier for others- you still can go get it.

Well you seem to have picked up some Virgo traits on analytics in your time spent with one 😝

I don’t think much about anything when it comes to others. I either attract or avoid. It just makes things simpler for me.

But I’m also passive and just don’t want to deal with most things that are hard. I like easy.

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"Trust" is not in my vocabulary (unless stating as such). I really believe in the unpredictability of human nature... which I believe is based on a lack of self-awareness, denial, etc. and otherwise... just evilness, LOL. I mean, shrugs.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

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i don't think i'd ever be offended when someone calls me a 'narcissist.'

it's a concept that's very little developed and seems to have been some shabby creation of a stressed out university student, desperately trying to come up with a paper for psych class.

dumb 'empaths' just trying to deny how they're just trying to re-create their past child/parental issues in relationships they get into.

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i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

i don't think i'd ever be offended when someone calls me a 'narcissist.'

it's a concept that's very little developed and seems to have been some shabby creation of a stressed out university student, desperately trying to come up with a paper for psych class.

dumb 'empaths' just trying to deny how they're just trying re-create their child/parental issues in relationships they get into.

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It has had one positive mentioned in that it is a characteristic often found in most CEOs... if that helps. But, I know a person diagnosed by a psychologist, and the official narcissist wouldn't be fucking around online that much, LOL.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

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Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

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Posted by virgoOPPP

i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

i don't think i'd ever be offended when someone calls me a 'narcissist.'

it's a concept that's very little developed and seems to have been some shabby creation of a stressed out university student, desperately trying to come up with a paper for psych class.

dumb 'empaths' just trying to deny how they're just trying re-create their child/parental issues in relationships they get into.

It has had one positive mentioned in that it is a characteristic often found in most CEOs... if that helps. But, I know a person diagnosed by a psychologist, and the official narcissist wouldn't be fucking around online that much, LOL.

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i've heard about that too, along with psychopathy being a favorable trait for leaders historically (helping us move along through evolution). it's a good trait to survive and thrive but.... maybe not always in times of peace.

maybe i should be thankful to have libra mars to keep my 1st house in check.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

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❤️❤️❤️

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

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Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

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i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

i don't think i'd ever be offended when someone calls me a 'narcissist.'

it's a concept that's very little developed and seems to have been some shabby creation of a stressed out university student, desperately trying to come up with a paper for psych class.

dumb 'empaths' just trying to deny how they're just trying re-create their child/parental issues in relationships they get into.

It has had one positive mentioned in that it is a characteristic often found in most CEOs... if that helps. But, I know a person diagnosed by a psychologist, and the official narcissist wouldn't be fucking around online that much, LOL.

i've heard about that too, along with psychopathy being a favorable trait for leaders historically (helping us move along through evolution). it's a good trait to survive and thrive but.... maybe not always in times of peace.

maybe i should be thankful to have libra mars to keep my 1st house in check.

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What’s in your first house, Virgo?

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

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I’m not sure...any suggestions?

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i've a problem with the concept of 'narcissism' in general. i think this is a concept that evolved in order to be used to control people socially, to keep their heads down and to keep them from questioning not only other people but mostly themselves.

There's a big difference in being narcisstic and being a narcissist. Not my opinion but a fact of psychology that people get confused due to the recent popularity of it being a common put-down.

It also became a popluar excuse for some people who wantes to escape from accountability of poor judgement - claiming to be victims of narcissists. There are legit victims. It just became very popular like "ghosting."

i don't think i'd ever be offended when someone calls me a 'narcissist.'

it's a concept that's very little developed and seems to have been some shabby creation of a stressed out university student, desperately trying to come up with a paper for psych class.

dumb 'empaths' just trying to deny how they're just trying re-create their child/parental issues in relationships they get into.

It has had one positive mentioned in that it is a characteristic often found in most CEOs... if that helps. But, I know a person diagnosed by a psychologist, and the official narcissist wouldn't be fucking around online that much, LOL.

i've heard about that too, along with psychopathy being a favorable trait for leaders historically (helping us move along through evolution). it's a good trait to survive and thrive but.... maybe not always in times of peace.

maybe i should be thankful to have libra mars to keep my 1st house in check.

What’s in your first house, Virgo?

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mars, mercury and there's something else i keep forgetting but it's def a major planet. i have a love/hate thing going on with my mars and i feel as if it drives my personality a lot (with mercury and mars both being in my top 3).

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Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

Let's test it out shall we?😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏

#1.

Person says: "I know he secretly loathes her."

Translation: ?

#2.

Person says: "These people seem oblivious to themselves."

Translation: ?

#3.

Person says: "People need more self-awareness."

Translation: ?

#4.

Person says: " I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee."

Translation: ?

You will see in the other thread that there are others like you who confuse judgements/criticisms as well.... for facts, situations, etc.

Go back and look.

facts. hmmmm. well this was your perfect opportunity to practice what you preach... and you failed to* adhere to your own rules. what would you call that? a fact or a judgement?

You are having an emotional response. It can sometimes... well, let me just show you. (You gotta try harder next time.)

"I know he secretly loathes her."

You took that qoute out of context. I stated that in that post I knew because he let's it slip.

Additionally and for example, he calls her names or makes references to the behaviors she has that he doesn't like.

But, you missed the point. I don't think you were trying to get the point really. It is that it's the Aries/Libra axis in opposition and he is disliking characteristics that are opposite from his sign.

there wasn't anything emotional of what i said. you cannot see any sort of hypocrisy with your statements now*? are you trying to mirror you insecurities? why not analyze your very own judgemental* statements? but most importantly how could i have possibly take your statement out of context if i didn't use nothing else other than your own words... and the example formats in your link?

you can sit back and point the finger all you want... because i truly do not care.

i was just testing your genuineness.

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You took them out of context because you left off the part where I said he lets it slip. The two sentences where next to each other. That is a fact not a judgment.

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I use other people's flaws in battle, and you'd be surprised how easy it is for me to strike where it hurts the most.

But I'm trying to fight my way into heaven, so I'm a good boy now - but don't test me. 😇

I do too. I'm quite manipulative that way. Most times it's to teach... like a learning tool and not malicious. It's like you have to show them who they are in real-time in order to bring forth their self-awareness.

Sometimes, it is for adversity. Like defensive offense. I'm not petty so it has to be a serious situation. In adversity, most times the ego is so thick, they just dig a bigger whole to fall in.

Mine is just defense. The only time I feel the need to attack is using this website for people who are asking for it.

What?

LOL

It's true. I know myself well enough to know how I'm coming across so that I get results instead of bad looks.

I don't really have issues with people around me in real life. 😊

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That is THE supreme goal.

But, when you do have issues?

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

I’m not sure...any suggestions?

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I would have to know your problem well enough or at all. I have a very general understanding.

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I use other people's flaws in battle, and you'd be surprised how easy it is for me to strike where it hurts the most.

But I'm trying to fight my way into heaven, so I'm a good boy now - but don't test me. 😇

I do too. I'm quite manipulative that way. Most times it's to teach... like a learning tool and not malicious. It's like you have to show them who they are in real-time in order to bring forth their self-awareness.

Sometimes, it is for adversity. Like defensive offense. I'm not petty so it has to be a serious situation. In adversity, most times the ego is so thick, they just dig a bigger whole to fall in.

Mine is just defense. The only time I feel the need to attack is using this website for people who are asking for it.

What?

LOL

It's true. I know myself well enough to know how I'm coming across so that I get results instead of bad looks.

I don't really have issues with people around me in real life. 😊

That is THE supreme goal.

But, when you do have issues?

Only new people that enter my life and we haven't had enough time to figure out how each other operates.

Once that happens though, everything's hunky-dory.

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I know you are a short responder... and that's basically storming and norming... but, can you describe one instance? Is there a power dynamic that you benefit from?

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This resonates with me.

Flaws can be used to your advantage.

I'm shit at doing administrative stuff and chasing after clients for monies kills my creativity. I hired an office manager 2ish years ago who stays saving my life, literally. She just fielded a few calls talking about, she's out in the field, meanwhile I'm standing 3 feet away lol.

Glenda to the rescue.

Just got her a raise. She's worth her weight in gold tho.

Edit: And she's a libra 😂😂

Pisces actually do this VERY WELL

most Pisces I know delegate tasks extremely well and they always find ways of getting things done, especially if it’s something they don’t want to do or don’t have time to do.

It’s like you all can find the smallest crack and get it filled with barely lifting a finger and having someone else take care of it.

I wish I had this style of doing things.

Instead I need everything done right and to my specifications and it takes me too much time. But I can’t trust anyone to do it right 😩😩😭😭

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I have control issues too. I blame all my cap placements.

But getting better at letting go and delegating. Especially for clients I know won't follow the plans, they just want to pass with the city and then do what they want.

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Astrology really aids in self-awareness. There is a new hire in leadership that naturally, instinctly irritates me. It's a raw... animal instinct. As you my may know. I'm an Aries female. I thought about it for a while... cause it's so instinctual. And, voila... his birthday was yesterday. I have instinctual adverse responses to Libra men.

It's so disgusting to have raw adverse response like this. It's not even originated in astrology. Astrology just helped solve the already natural repulsive pattern. If I didn't know anything astrology related, I'd be oblivious to this pattern. There's acceptable rhyme or reason to this.

I understand the Aries Libra axis quite well. I use this knowledge actively with my Libra mom. My Aries boss (who I call Bitch Pudding) hired him. I know he secretly loathes her. He leakes it every know and then by mistake. I loathe watching this dynamic. Two people of my axis wallowing around oblivious to there flaws...

Got a few more days before starting my new job. So, I don't care. Just too fucking observant. These people seem oblivious to themselves.People need more self-awareness... it's the beginning of evolving. I know my flaws. I do not deny they exist. I do not randomly subject people to them by accident.

I use my flaws in battle. I've made them strengths. They have a certain shock n" awe quality not meant for everyday use. I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee, Lol.

So, have you mastered your flaws? Or, is it still other people's fault? Or, are they used for attention-seeking?

I've found that understanding your axis really helps.

Let's test it out shall we?😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏 😏

#1.

Person says: "I know he secretly loathes her."

Translation: ?

#2.

Person says: "These people seem oblivious to themselves."

Translation: ?

#3.

Person says: "People need more self-awareness."

Translation: ?

#4.

Person says: " I don't go around litting them slip out like pee-pee."

Translation: ?

You will see in the other thread that there are others like you who confuse judgements/criticisms as well.... for facts, situations, etc.

Go back and look.

facts. hmmmm. well this was your perfect opportunity to practice what you preach... and you failed to* adhere to your own rules. what would you call that? a fact or a judgement?

You are having an emotional response. It can sometimes... well, let me just show you. (You gotta try harder next time.)

"I know he secretly loathes her."

You took that qoute out of context. I stated that in that post I knew because he let's it slip.

Additionally and for example, he calls her names or makes references to the behaviors she has that he doesn't like.

But, you missed the point. I don't think you were trying to get the point really. It is that it's the Aries/Libra axis in opposition and he is disliking characteristics that are opposite from his sign.

there wasn't anything emotional of what i said. you cannot see any sort of hypocrisy with your statements now*? are you trying to mirror you insecurities? why not analyze your very own judgemental* statements? but most importantly how could i have possibly take your statement out of context if i didn't use nothing else other than your own words... and the example formats in your link?

you can sit back and point the finger all you want... because i truly do not care.

i was just testing your genuineness.

You took them out of context because you left off the part where I said he lets it slip. The two sentences where next to each other. That is a fact not a judgment.

in your mind. how do you think this comes across to perfect strangers? the judgement is still there regardless of how you want to arrange it. i tried really hard to understand your point, i looked through your bs links and ive made my conclusion.

meow ima skedaddle.

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The sentences are right next to each other. It is a fact. The simplest, smallest, example is he called he Nene and the whole office laughed. He did it by mistake.

It is a factual occurrence.

I expressed the pain of watching my axis live both the Libra side and the Aries side.... and two people 15 years older than me no less.

And yes, you do not understand. Just like the other thread on "judgement."

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I use other people's flaws in battle, and you'd be surprised how easy it is for me to strike where it hurts the most.

But I'm trying to fight my way into heaven, so I'm a good boy now - but don't test me. 😇

I do too. I'm quite manipulative that way. Most times it's to teach... like a learning tool and not malicious. It's like you have to show them who they are in real-time in order to bring forth their self-awareness.

Sometimes, it is for adversity. Like defensive offense. I'm not petty so it has to be a serious situation. In adversity, most times the ego is so thick, they just dig a bigger whole to fall in.

Mine is just defense. The only time I feel the need to attack is using this website for people who are asking for it.

What?

LOL

It's true. I know myself well enough to know how I'm coming across so that I get results instead of bad looks.

I don't really have issues with people around me in real life. 😊

That is THE supreme goal.

But, when you do have issues?

Only new people that enter my life and we haven't had enough time to figure out how each other operates.

Once that happens though, everything's hunky-dory.

I know you are a short responder... and that's basically storming and norming... but, can you describe one instance? Is there a power dynamic that you benefit from?

I don't write long responses because what I have to say is pretty succinct. Unlike some people, I can make my point without all the damn fluff.

I want to surround myself with people who challenge me and aren't afraid to call me an asshole if I truly am being an asshole. That's what makes you an effective leader, knowing that your subordinates can talk to you without fear of repercussion but still following your lead without question.

That's it.

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Got it - textbook. Wasn't criticizing your brevity.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

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i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

I’m not sure...any suggestions?

I would have to know your problem well enough or at all. I have a very general understanding.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

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i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

I’m not sure...any suggestions?

I would have to know your problem well enough or at all. I have a very general understanding.

Putting others first before myself

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For most, "self" is the beginning to dealing with adversity... being self-protective. Detach. Step out of yourself as though you are your own parent protecting the little girl that is you.

In this way, you are the "other" that you are putting before self.

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as for flaws, i'm very self-absorbed and i'm secretly very bad-tempered but you'll never really see this immediately about me. but good thing about that is that i usually won't bother you if you leave me alone. extremely petty and childish too if i really think about it. sometimes i overthink yet sometimes i'm very impulsive. my mood is a swinging pendulum. extremes.

i never really set out to make friends nor do i set out to make enemies. though it's 'easier' to make enemies, it's much more 'convenient' to make friends. just that i don't 'require' either one.

i've learned to embrace these flaws as virtues tbh.

Thank you.

I am also bad tempered... I have an aweful temper. But, I heard something very helpful one of my favorite murder mysteries "Poirot." They thought the murder had a bad temper, and Poirot corrected them by saying having a bad-temper is a check within itself. I was like woah, he's right. Our self-awareness keeps us in check.

there's a self-absorption in people with bad tempers. and that usually clues you in to the fact that these people tend to think about themselves and their motivations more than most.

Interesting....I'm not bad tempered and am always about other people (busy 7th house)

Narcissistic people are often bad tempered due to self obsession? It's about how they feel and think?

narcissistic people are often bad tempered coz they wanna get things done. it angers them when something hinders them from their blazing paths.

i'm going through life, keeping to myself and trying to achieve my goals but some bitches who have a LOT of time on their hands are trying to get in my business.

it's always that libra/7th house energy who can't keep their noses out. and that is a very annoying energy when you think of it that way.

Right so I’ll remember to remind my 7th house to be aware of sticking its 🤥 in

😀

i'm sure there's something to learn in every house/energy.

Oh totally...it’s not my nose I’m worried about but my ❤️.... I’ve given far too much

Learning ..... slowly 👍

Can you see that you might be using this previous "flaw" in adversity?

I’m not sure...any suggestions?

I would have to know your problem well enough or at all. I have a very general understanding.

Putting others first before myself

For most, "self" is the beginning to dealing with adversity... being self-protective. Detach. Step out of yourself as though you are your own parent protecting the little girl that is you.

In this way, you are the "other" that you are putting before self.

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Thank you for this Venus....great advice ❤️