Toxic Trademarks 101....

There are certain common traits of toxic people no matter where they live in the world, what their careers are, or what they are currently doing. I think it’s highly important to share the obvious signs so that those of you who do not want to waste time and energy on people who lack balance and structure. So, another gift for DXPers, 3 toxic common trademarks that warns you initially concerning a person you’ve just met…

#1 Multiple Addresses-

This is one commonality between toxic people which displays the inconsistency that bubbles beneath the surface. If a person has 10 different addresses in 10 years, their lives display no consistency or balance where it matters. How does a person grow if they haven’t placed any roots for standing— Now the exception to this is when a person has to move for their career. There are many people who must travel for their occupations and are required to stay within other countries and other states for months on end, however most of these people do maintain one primary address. There’s a huge difference between “my job requires me to travel” and “I’ve lived a lot of places throughout the years” (most of them being localized within a 100-mile region). Multiple addresses throughout a span of years display a lack of steadiness. If a person’s home life and living situation has been so inconsistent, how inconsistent do you think their romantic life has been or is currently—

#2 Cougar/Cradle Robber and Sugar Baby Simultaneously-

If a person dates people much older and much younger than themselves, it shows that there is a dramatic disconnect with people their own age. I’m not saying that to date someone older than you or to date someone younger than you is bad. What I am saying is that a disconnect with those your own age displays that this person is unacceptable to their age group. The standards maintained by people their age is not met by this person, so they often avoid people their age because it’s a reminder of their shortcomings and failures. Some people prefer older more mature partners. That in itself is fine. Some people prefer younger more virile partners. That also is perfectly fine within modern society. However, if this same person avoids dating people their own age, yet is completely open to these other two, it’s because people within their age group of the opposite sex provide a mirror reflection of what this person is or is not accomplishing. It’s similar to taking the red pill in the Matrix, and many toxic people avoid this pill for as long as possible.

#3 I… I…. I… Me.. Me… Me….

There’s an old saying that goes, “Ignorant people talk about themselves, average people talk about other people, and intelligent people talk about ideas”. This is the truest statement you will ever hear about the mindset of people. Think about the conversations that you have enjoyed throughout your life. I can guarantee the best were discussing concepts and ideas in reality; travel destinations, cultures, politics, historical patterns, philosophies, potential outcomes, etc. Likewise, the worse conversations were completely listening to someone blather about themselves. If a man is dating an airhead, she talks about herself nonstop. Ask around. Likewise, if a woman is dating a bobble head of the brotherhood, he’s talking nonstop about himself. The primary commonality is that this person is self-consumed. Trust me when I say, it doesn’t matter how attractive this person is, it’s best that this type of person be with themselves. They will not compromise on what’s beneficial to them. Love and growing together is often not an idea that would enter the mind of this type of person because their interests are primarily what’s best for themselves. They are selfish. Plain and simple so let them have what they adore most. Themselves. Pay attention to the amount of times within a conversation a person says I or me. It will help you weed out dead weight.

There is more to this list but I will end this here because these are the most easily visible external toxic trademarks. If you can avoid people that display any of the traits above, the quality of your dating life will improve dramatically. Guaranteed... BTW... I expect that this will be met with some hostility by certain types of people, however a person can research these facts on their own. It is what it is. I’m just saving time for those who don’t feel like wasting time. Comments and opinions are welcome below and any lessons learned from dealing with people with the traits above will also be accepted gladly… Later DXP…

4. Had numerous photos of random people from the internet saved on their phone for no real purpose.

5. Is single but has two night stands.

Ironically... its a bit toxic to call someone toxic because they move often.

Some of us don't have the luxury of having a stable home. When you rent there is much outside your control.

Pretty toxic to judge other peoples relationships based on age gap. What makes someone happy and works for them, may not work for you and thats OK. At the end of the day the relationship is between them only, not outside opinion.

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4. Had numerous photos of random people from the internet saved on their phone for no real purpose.

Had, so you no longer do?

Personally I'd rather be with someone who moves every year when their lease is up then be with someone still living at home and sucking that parental teat. And I'm not just saying that because I've moved myself 6xs in the last 5years lol.

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4. Had numerous photos of random people from the internet saved on their phone for no real purpose.

Had, so you no longer do?

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They have a purpose now.

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4. Had numerous photos of random people from the internet saved on their phone for no real purpose.

Had, so you no longer do?

They have a purpose now.

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I dont want to know😁😂😂

Hey

im toxic

and am OK with it

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Ironically... its a bit toxic to call someone toxic because they move often.

Some of us don't have the luxury of having a stable home. When you rent there is much outside your control.

Pretty toxic to judge other peoples relationships based on age gap. What makes someone happy and works for them, may not work for you and thats OK. At the end of the day the relationship is between them only, not outside opinion.

Growing up the way I did I don’t have a ton in common with people my own age. All my close friends are at least several years older.

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My mom is mid 60s and her bf is 39. They have a wonderful relationship, her best she says including her marriage that lasted 2 decades. And I see how he treats her and all he does for her, he thinks the world of her. Going on 7 or 8 years now? Can't remember but its been awhile.

Unless your grown going after teenagers age gap really shouldn't matter to people on the outside of the relationship.

I've literally been paid money to move 2xs.

One was he was showing the main house and I was renting the guest house for barely a month and someone wanted to rent both.

This last rental similar thing. Lease was up in October and I was planning to stay indefinitely month to month until we bought a place. He listed it out of curiosity to see what the market was looking like with the pandemic. Someone contacted him right away willing to pay several $ 100 more per month than what we were paying. So he asked us to break the lease early and wrote a check for incentive + moving expenses.

I guess this makes me inconsistent and unstable and toxic??

Although anyone who knows me irl knows that's the opposite. Lol I'm not triggered by this I swear (ok a little maybe)

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Ironically... its a bit toxic to call someone toxic because they move often.

Some of us don't have the luxury of having a stable home. When you rent there is much outside your control.

Pretty toxic to judge other peoples relationships based on age gap. What makes someone happy and works for them, may not work for you and thats OK. At the end of the day the relationship is between them only, not outside opinion.

Growing up the way I did I don’t have a ton in common with people my own age. All my close friends are at least several years older.

My mom is mid 60s and her bf is 39. They have a wonderful relationship, her best she says including her marriage that lasted 2 decades. And I see how he treats her and all he does for her, he thinks the world of her. Going on 7 or 8 years now? Can't remember but its been awhile.

Unless your grown going after teenagers age gap really shouldn't matter to people on the outside of the relationship.

Idk. I probably will stick a little closer to my own age next time or shoot a little younger now that I’m in my 30s and everyone has caught up to me.

I don’t want a daddy and I don’t want to feel like I’m with someone that has been there done that.

I guess it’s possibly for people to be like that at any age though.

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Yeah people can act like infants or old souls irregardless of age.

Biggest issue for the age gap is if one wants kids... otherwise its smooth sailing.

tbh i'd rather talk about myself than about other people

unless they annoy 𝗺𝗲

but that's also another way to talk about 𝗺𝗲

Why do u guys keep getting triggered into defensive mode by the same people

It's a virgo writing criteria for ideal partners... cmon guys...

I listen to Reid Hoffman's podcast and think the episode on company culture fits into this. He focuses on the positives and what to look for when working with people. This depends on what you, or in his case the company, need in a professional/personal relationship. That's why people of all types exist.

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

There are certain common traits of toxic people no matter where they live in the world, what their careers are, or what they are currently doing. I think it’s highly important to share the obvious signs so that those of you who do not want to waste time and energy on people who lack balance and structure. So, another gift for DXPers, 3 toxic common trademarks that warns you initially concerning a person you’ve just met…

#1 Multiple Addresses-

This is one commonality between toxic people which displays the inconsistency that bubbles beneath the surface. If a person has 10 different addresses in 10 years, their lives display no consistency or balance where it matters. How does a person grow if they haven’t placed any roots for standing— Now the exception to this is when a person has to move for their career. There are many people who must travel for their occupations and are required to stay within other countries and other states for months on end, however most of these people do maintain one primary address. There’s a huge difference between “my job requires me to travel” and “I’ve lived a lot of places throughout the years” (most of them being localized within a 100-mile region). Multiple addresses throughout a span of years display a lack of steadiness. If a person’s home life and living situation has been so inconsistent, how inconsistent do you think their romantic life has been or is currently—

#2 Cougar/Cradle Robber and Sugar Baby Simultaneously-

If a person dates people much older and much younger than themselves, it shows that there is a dramatic disconnect with people their own age. I’m not saying that to date someone older than you or to date someone younger than you is bad. What I am saying is that a disconnect with those your own age displays that this person is unacceptable to their age group. The standards maintained by people their age is not met by this person, so they often avoid people their age because it’s a reminder of their shortcomings and failures. Some people prefer older more mature partners. That in itself is fine. Some people prefer younger more virile partners. That also is perfectly fine within modern society. However, if this same person avoids dating people their own age, yet is completely open to these other two, it’s because people within their age group of the opposite sex provide a mirror reflection of what this person is or is not accomplishing. It’s similar to taking the red pill in the Matrix, and many toxic people avoid this pill for as long as possible.

#3 I… I…. I… Me.. Me… Me….

There’s an old saying that goes, “Ignorant people talk about themselves, average people talk about other people, and intelligent people talk about ideas”. This is the truest statement you will ever hear about the mindset of people. Think about the conversations that you have enjoyed throughout your life. I can guarantee the best were discussing concepts and ideas in reality; travel destinations, cultures, politics, historical patterns, philosophies, potential outcomes, etc. Likewise, the worse conversations were completely listening to someone blather about themselves. If a man is dating an airhead, she talks about herself nonstop. Ask around. Likewise, if a woman is dating a bobble head of the brotherhood, he’s talking nonstop about himself. The primary commonality is that this person is self-consumed. Trust me when I say, it doesn’t matter how attractive this person is, it’s best that this type of person be with themselves. They will not compromise on what’s beneficial to them. Love and growing together is often not an idea that would enter the mind of this type of person because their interests are primarily what’s best for themselves. They are selfish. Plain and simple so let them have what they adore most. Themselves. Pay attention to the amount of times within a conversation a person says I or me. It will help you weed out dead weight.

There is more to this list but I will end this here because these are the most easily visible external toxic trademarks. If you can avoid people that display any of the traits above, the quality of your dating life will improve dramatically. Guaranteed... BTW... I expect that this will be met with some hostility by certain types of people, however a person can research these facts on their own. It is what it is. I’m just saving time for those who don’t feel like wasting time. Comments and opinions are welcome below and any lessons learned from dealing with people with the traits above will also be accepted gladly… Later DXP…

I've started to respect you lately after reading your posts on this forum. You talk with sense, are in tune with logic and reality or in other words "common sense" which is so uncommon in people today, and it shows.

Good. 👍🏻 Now don't be dumbed down by dumbfucks on this forum or in your social circle please.

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My social circle is small and as I said, I'm only posting on here to assist people who will recognize the usefulness of the information. Thank you also..

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

There are certain common traits of toxic people no matter where they live in the world, what their careers are, or what they are currently doing. I think it’s highly important to share the obvious signs so that those of you who do not want to waste time and energy on people who lack balance and structure. So, another gift for DXPers, 3 toxic common trademarks that warns you initially concerning a person you’ve just met…

#1 Multiple Addresses-

This is one commonality between toxic people which displays the inconsistency that bubbles beneath the surface. If a person has 10 different addresses in 10 years, their lives display no consistency or balance where it matters. How does a person grow if they haven’t placed any roots for standing— Now the exception to this is when a person has to move for their career. There are many people who must travel for their occupations and are required to stay within other countries and other states for months on end, however most of these people do maintain one primary address. There’s a huge difference between “my job requires me to travel” and “I’ve lived a lot of places throughout the years” (most of them being localized within a 100-mile region). Multiple addresses throughout a span of years display a lack of steadiness. If a person’s home life and living situation has been so inconsistent, how inconsistent do you think their romantic life has been or is currently—

#2 Cougar/Cradle Robber and Sugar Baby Simultaneously-

If a person dates people much older and much younger than themselves, it shows that there is a dramatic disconnect with people their own age. I’m not saying that to date someone older than you or to date someone younger than you is bad. What I am saying is that a disconnect with those your own age displays that this person is unacceptable to their age group. The standards maintained by people their age is not met by this person, so they often avoid people their age because it’s a reminder of their shortcomings and failures. Some people prefer older more mature partners. That in itself is fine. Some people prefer younger more virile partners. That also is perfectly fine within modern society. However, if this same person avoids dating people their own age, yet is completely open to these other two, it’s because people within their age group of the opposite sex provide a mirror reflection of what this person is or is not accomplishing. It’s similar to taking the red pill in the Matrix, and many toxic people avoid this pill for as long as possible.

#3 I… I…. I… Me.. Me… Me….

There’s an old saying that goes, “Ignorant people talk about themselves, average people talk about other people, and intelligent people talk about ideas”. This is the truest statement you will ever hear about the mindset of people. Think about the conversations that you have enjoyed throughout your life. I can guarantee the best were discussing concepts and ideas in reality; travel destinations, cultures, politics, historical patterns, philosophies, potential outcomes, etc. Likewise, the worse conversations were completely listening to someone blather about themselves. If a man is dating an airhead, she talks about herself nonstop. Ask around. Likewise, if a woman is dating a bobble head of the brotherhood, he’s talking nonstop about himself. The primary commonality is that this person is self-consumed. Trust me when I say, it doesn’t matter how attractive this person is, it’s best that this type of person be with themselves. They will not compromise on what’s beneficial to them. Love and growing together is often not an idea that would enter the mind of this type of person because their interests are primarily what’s best for themselves. They are selfish. Plain and simple so let them have what they adore most. Themselves. Pay attention to the amount of times within a conversation a person says I or me. It will help you weed out dead weight.

There is more to this list but I will end this here because these are the most easily visible external toxic trademarks. If you can avoid people that display any of the traits above, the quality of your dating life will improve dramatically. Guaranteed... BTW... I expect that this will be met with some hostility by certain types of people, however a person can research these facts on their own. It is what it is. I’m just saving time for those who don’t feel like wasting time. Comments and opinions are welcome below and any lessons learned from dealing with people with the traits above will also be accepted gladly… Later DXP…

I've started to respect you lately after reading your posts on this forum. You talk with sense, are in tune with logic and reality or in other words "common sense" which is so uncommon in people today, and it shows.

Good. 👍🏻 Now don't be dumbed down by dumbfucks on this forum or in your social circle please.

Do you feel like people aren’t taking you seriously here?

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It doesn't matter. There's a group of old timers that just haunt this place and pep rally each other up. I'm not creating or sharing any energy with the pigeons on the buildings. I'm providing anonymous assistance to individuals like myself who are fully aware that they can always learn and that knowledge not shared is useless. I previously had met many outstanding people here worldwide who just needed a second opinion. There are many people here who silently read and utilize what they find useful. The comedians that live here will remain. However on a side note, I find it hilarious that it's been 2 years and most of these people are in the exact same spots they were in when I left. Bitter as ever..

I’m on my 14th home (gypsy blood) 💃

and have been in 3 age gap rships 🔥

I’m not self obsessed though (7th house dom)

Does that mean I’m more toxic than Fred and Rosemary West and Dennis Nilsen who moved house rarely but chose to stay put and to rape, murder, dismember and bury the body parts of their victims under the floorboards (imagine the toxic smell) and in their gardens? Dennis also watched tv with his dead “friends”

Snowflake version of toxicity

The world has gone soft

🙄