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What do you think?
Disregard.
A dash of entitlement.
This actually happened to me! I was thinking is she testing me or something? She was a Cancer.
I ended up lending her the money and then she paid part of it back and borrowed some more. I was not feeling really comfortable about it.
She finally got tired of our friendship apparently and by some miracle I got my money back and never saw her again. Maybe she just saw me as her bank?
I would never do this again. It’s not right and not really friendship.
I ended up lending her the money and then she paid part of it back and borrowed some more. I was not feeling really comfortable about it.
She finally got tired of our friendship apparently and by some miracle I got my money back and never saw her again. Maybe she just saw me as her bank?
I would never do this again. It’s not right and not really friendship.
Posted by geminiflyby
This actually happened to me! I was thinking is she testing me or something? She was a Cancer.
I ended up lending her the money and then she paid part of it back and borrowed some more. I was not feeling really comfortable about it.
She finally got tired of our friendship apparently and by some miracle I got my money back and never saw her again. Maybe she just saw me as her bank?
I would never do this again. It’s not right and not really friendship.
my venus is in the 11th so maybe that's why i always felt like friendship is like above any other connections, purer in intent. so i guess i've always suspected correctly, these people might not even really dislike you but just feel like they can easily throw out the relationship which is even worse coz they're indifferent? like you don't really do anything for them mentally or emotionally?
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by jazzykid
Disregard.
But why? 😭😭click to expand
Because they didn’t have to do anything to earn it.
Yes, I felt used and discarded. I’m amazed she paid it back.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
U did this same thread one month ago
i still don't get it i didn't do anything wrong
I vote to delete this thread. Triggered!
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaro
Sounds like a cultural thing. It seems like you're from a rich family and surrounded by poor people. Which is fine, that's just the vibe you give off
If that actually is the case, how could you get mad at people wanting and asking for money? Srsly
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just i feel if people attempt to do this, doesn't matter if you have money or not. this means they don't like you, they're not into you, not attracted or you don't offer anything of value to them mentally or emotionally. they don't really see you sticking around their life long-term. it's so hard to explain completely but is it this or do they feel they don't have much to offer and so you won't stick around? or they just plain not into you?
my capricorn ex was very focused on our future together (by that, i mean he was so fixated on finances) but then when we broke up, he met someone who doesn't really have much by way of resources, got her pregnant in 3 months and he seems to be even drunker and more miserable than ever. 5th month and he's already cheating on her. with me, he at least waited an entire year to hoe but he had very different expectations from us. know what i mean? he didn't expect materially from her but what does that mean for me? but i gave more freedom, than she ever did whatwith the circumstances of her pregnancy too.
i had one capricorn fitness instructor one time too who was beng inappropriate with me but i politely listened to him and he told me how women that he's been with often used him financially (and with the way he was being with me), i suspect that it's all he's got to offer. which made me wonder about things in general 🤔🤔 is it coz one is unattractive, don't have anything to offer someone mentally or emotionally? hope this more understandable now.
i have airy venus and mars so this important to me.
just i feel if people attempt to do this, doesn't matter if you have money or not. this means they don't like you, they're not into you, not attracted or you don't offer anything of value to them mentally or emotionally. they don't really see you sticking around their life long-term. it's so hard to explain completely but is it this or do they feel they don't have much to offer and so you won't stick around? or they just plain not into you?
my capricorn ex was very focused on our future together (by that, i mean he was so fixated on finances) but then when we broke up, he met someone who doesn't really have much by way of resources, got her pregnant in 3 months and he seems to be even drunker and more miserable than ever. 5th month and he's already cheating on her. with me, he at least waited an entire year to hoe but he had very different expectations from us. know what i mean? he didn't expect materially from her but what does that mean for me? but i gave more freedom, than she ever did whatwith the circumstances of her pregnancy too.
i had one capricorn fitness instructor one time too who was beng inappropriate with me but i politely listened to him and he told me how women that he's been with often used him financially (and with the way he was being with me), i suspect that it's all he's got to offer. which made me wonder about things in general 🤔🤔 is it coz one is unattractive, don't have anything to offer someone mentally or emotionally? hope this more understandable now.
i have airy venus and mars so this important to me.
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by virgoOPPP
@SnowsofKilimanjaro
just i feel if people attempt to do this, doesn't matter if you have money or not. this means they don't like you, they're not into you, not attracted or you don't offer anything of value to them mentally or emotionally. they don't really see you sticking around their life long-term. it's so hard to explain completely but is it this or do they feel they don't have much to offer and so you won't stick around? or they just plain not into you?
my capricorn ex was very focused on our future together (by that, i mean he was so fixated on finances) but then when we broke up, he met someone who doesn't really have much by way of resources, got her pregnant in 3 months and he seems to be even drunker and more miserable than ever. 5th month and he's already cheating on her. with me, he at least waited an entire year to hoe but he had very different expectations from us. know what i mean? he didn't expect materially from her but what does that mean for me? but i gave more freedom, than she ever did whatwith the circumstances of her pregnancy too.
i had one capricorn fitness instructor one time too who was beng inappropriate with me but i politely listened to him and he told me how women that he's been with often used him financially (and with the way he was being with me), i suspect that it's all he's got to offer. which made me wonder about things in general 🤔🤔 is it coz one is unattractive, don't have anything to offer someone mentally or emotionally? hope this more understandable now.
i have airy venus and mars so this important to me.
What are your Venus and Mars signs?click to expand
cancer 11th and libra 1st.
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by virgoOPPP
@SnowsofKilimanjaro
just i feel if people attempt to do this, doesn't matter if you have money or not. this means they don't like you, they're not into you, not attracted or you don't offer anything of value to them mentally or emotionally. they don't really see you sticking around their life long-term. it's so hard to explain completely but is it this or do they feel they don't have much to offer and so you won't stick around? or they just plain not into you?
my capricorn ex was very focused on our future together (by that, i mean he was so fixated on finances) but then when we broke up, he met someone who doesn't really have much by way of resources, got her pregnant in 3 months and he seems to be even drunker and more miserable than ever. 5th month and he's already cheating on her. with me, he at least waited an entire year to hoe but he had very different expectations from us. know what i mean? he didn't expect materially from her but what does that mean for me? but i gave more freedom, than she ever did whatwith the circumstances of her pregnancy too.
i had one capricorn fitness instructor one time too who was beng inappropriate with me but i politely listened to him and he told me how women that he's been with often used him financially (and with the way he was being with me), i suspect that it's all he's got to offer. which made me wonder about things in general 🤔🤔 is it coz one is unattractive, don't have anything to offer someone mentally or emotionally? hope this more understandable now.
i have airy venus and mars so this important to me.
What are your Venus and Mars signs?
cancer 11th and libra 1st.
It's really funny how opposite my signs are from yours so tbh my advice on the matter probably isn't the best. My Mars is in the 11th and moon is in first. But hey....best of luck to you, I really hope it all works out somehow. If not, it's ok because I'll just marry youclick to expand
😲😲 mirror energies weird
funny i just went on a date with a virgo stellium like me and we have the same libra mars but zero chemistry. also even tho i get with pisces a lot, things don't always pan out so well. better than virgo men tho.
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I'm too aloof I suppose since this never happened to me. I can count on one hand the number of people who borrowed from me and they all paid me back. The amount would also be really small like $ 80 to pay some bills until they get their paycheck.
I do have a friend who was conned $ 10k by an old friend. She was told the guy's daughter was hospitalized and then died blah blah blah.
I think those type of people target folks who they think are naturally sympathetic and would buy their sob story.
I do have a friend who was conned $ 10k by an old friend. She was told the guy's daughter was hospitalized and then died blah blah blah.
I think those type of people target folks who they think are naturally sympathetic and would buy their sob story.
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaro
Sounds like a cultural thing. It seems like you're from a rich family and surrounded by poor people. Which is fine, that's just the vibe you give off
If that actually is the case, how could you get mad at people wanting and asking for money? Srsly
I’ve seen it happen with an Aqua friend who is far from rich. She was involved with a married man who was separated from his wife and let him borrow thousands of dollars just to run off to some other state! I was so concerned for her as that was her first experience of what she thought was love.. ugh. She deserves so much better but does not see it. This other wealthy friend of mine would let her low value boyfriends leech money off of her because she had lots of self-esteem and insecurity issues. Both are from similar cultural backgrounds as OP. Personally no one has ever dared to ask to borrow money from me. But I also don’t surround myself with those type of people that would need to. You just have to have strict boundaries in order to not be taken advantage of because these people don’t just target one area usually. Also I have high standards of being treated more than treating others. A person only allows what they believe deserve 🤷♀️
@virgoOPPP your threads are starting to really infuriate me. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP DATING POOR PEOPLE. Serious question, have you ever dated anyone wealthier than you?
Posted by SassyKiwi
@virgoOPPP your threads are starting to really infuriate me. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP DATING POOR PEOPLE. Serious question, have you ever dated anyone wealthier than you?
uhh maybe sometimes but what's the point in telling that when i have nothing to complain about?
this not even always about dating but people you might get acquainted with in general. and i don't even think they're always necessarily 'poor' but somehow they're just opportunistic 🤷♀️🤷♀️i think the truth is everyone perpetuates division. even those who are viewed as the oppressed side would constantly punctuate prejudices in socio-economic levels. whatever compassion you might've had, will be drained once you experience the reality that people no matter where they are in life, are just plain aholes.
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by SnowsofKilimanjaro
Sounds like a cultural thing. It seems like you're from a rich family and surrounded by poor people. Which is fine, that's just the vibe you give off
If that actually is the case, how could you get mad at people wanting and asking for money? Srsly
I’ve seen it happen with an Aqua friend who is far from rich. She was involved with a married man who was separated from his wife and let him borrow thousands of dollars just to run off to some other state! I was so concerned for her as that was her first experience of what she thought was love.. ugh. She deserves so much better but does not see it. This other wealthy friend of mine would let her low value boyfriends leech money off of her because she had lots of self-esteem and insecurity issues. Both are from similar cultural backgrounds as OP. Personally no one has ever dared to ask to borrow money from me. But I also don’t surround myself with those type of people that would need to. You just have to have strict boundaries in order to not be taken advantage of because these people don’t just target one area usually. Also I have high standards of being treated more than treating others. A person only allows what they believe deserve 🤷♀️click to expand
seems people take advantage of independence much as they do codependence.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by SassyKiwi
@virgoOPPP your threads are starting to really infuriate me. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP DATING POOR PEOPLE. Serious question, have you ever dated anyone wealthier than you?
uhh maybe sometimes but what's the point in telling that when i have nothing to complain about?
this not even always about dating but people you might get acquainted with in general. and i don't even think they're always necessarily 'poor' but somehow they're just opportunistic 🤷♀️🤷♀️i think the truth is everyone perpetuates division. even those who are viewed as the oppressed side would constantly punctuate prejudices in socio-economic levels. whatever compassion you might've had, will be drained once you experience the reality that people no matter where they are in life, are just plain aholes.click to expand
Do a social experiment. Instead of giving into giving them money, just bluntly tell them to fuck off. If you can’t do that then usually the policy is never loan money unless you can handle never getting it back.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by SnowsofKilimanjaro
Sounds like a cultural thing. It seems like you're from a rich family and surrounded by poor people. Which is fine, that's just the vibe you give off
If that actually is the case, how could you get mad at people wanting and asking for money? Srsly
I’ve seen it happen with an Aqua friend who is far from rich. She was involved with a married man who was separated from his wife and let him borrow thousands of dollars just to run off to some other state! I was so concerned for her as that was her first experience of what she thought was love.. ugh. She deserves so much better but does not see it. This other wealthy friend of mine would let her low value boyfriends leech money off of her because she had lots of self-esteem and insecurity issues. Both are from similar cultural backgrounds as OP. Personally no one has ever dared to ask to borrow money from me. But I also don’t surround myself with those type of people that would need to. You just have to have strict boundaries in order to not be taken advantage of because these people don’t just target one area usually. Also I have high standards of being treated more than treating others. A person only allows what they believe deserve 🤷♀️
seems people take advantage of independence much as they do codependence.click to expand
They only take advantage when *you* allow them to. They are not the problem here. The sooner you realize that, the better for you.
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