Eusivesoulll versus Hurricane Sandy.......... (Page 2)

Posted by shellshocker
my ass thanks you Deezie! 🙂 But I do feel the need to pay you... how about $ .41!!! lol

Posted by bubblyaquarius
Deezie, do you have a lot of virgo in you? or is it only the bit you have on your profile? when you said love and service, i thought virgo.

Posted by Nasad
I wanna share my story with this cancer male, as the worst part started after the break up.
We met 4yrs ago and had an on/off sexual relation. Things started to change 2 yrs ago, when we became emotionally connected, as we were 24/7 together. He use to join me u to my field work then to his work, morning coffee, phone calls, etc. the problem with him never wanted to commit not now not ever, however, he never cheated on me during the last 2 yrs and he even refused to hang out with his girls or males friends, just me! However, another thing about this cancer man, he is lost, he had lots of dreams to do, but never got the support from his family. So i always believed in him and pushed him fwd and supported him to wtever idea he wanted. He wad always so safe and secured with me and never wanted to leave. Sometimes, he asked to have naps in my car and relax so he is next to me ( noting that I'm in country that we cant live in together unless we get married).
I dont wanna mention the small details but simply I STOOD FOR HIM. Anyhow, one day in may a girl wanted to e his gf. He asked me if it was fine? And told me that he will break up with her soon,We fought since then and i cried and everything. I kept calling him every now and then once i miss him, till august he was missing me and just trying to keep me in till he breaks up. Anyhow, one led to another until we stopped talking.
I'm a libra and on my birthday he never called, wn i asked him thru business that we made together he was all sad and told me we have to let go. However, days later he contacted me on some social networks and i stopped him. I kept meeting him by coinsidence many times, since we live so close to each other and every time i act like i didnt see him but he always keeps looking at me with these sad eyes. Although wn i contacted hin in these two months he always violent, cant stand me as um his worst nightmares. Mid this month i contacted him for final chance and asked me to leave. So i did. 10 days later he tries to contct me thru social media and voips but i never respond then the nxt day he calls frm unknown num asking to meet me on the spot. So i agreed. He was a total drunk and high, ALTHOUGH HE DOESNT DO EITHER, he told me he misses me nd thinks of me but loves me not. Then again he said he loves me and wanna b with me and asked later for sex. I rejeted. But then who i was kidding I'm in a much...

Posted by Nasad
But then who i was kidding I'm in a much morr total mess so we hit it. Now he wants nothingto do with me and we agreed today to let go. I clearly asked him to let go of me. And i will fo the same. He said ok. And we both left.
I wanna mention that he still with his gf.
More about me; I'm in mess, i love him deeply, i still cry. I have daily nightmares and I'm sick for mnths now and docs said I'm getting sick cz of low ammunity. I didnt share any of this with him as i try to show him that I'm fine. Except wn i get hell weak and call him.

He is cancer sun, leo moon, pisces asc.
I'm libra syn, taurus moon, pisces asc.

I think now i hurt his ego asking to let go of me and he will right?
I'm in total mess and i dont know wt to do!!

Shall i what? Do what? I love him!

Posted by Nasad
Please do kind comments as I'm already hurt and broken!

Posted by Nefer
What I get from that mess is.. he's been fucking you off and on for four years... but got a girlfriend somewhere in the middle of all of that, but wants to keep you also (and you apparently went along with that for awhile).. but then you stop talking, he doesn't even wish you a happy birthday, which hurt and insulted you.. he's been ignoring you totally when you run into each other, or violent and rude when you do talk.. then you call him to beg him for another chance, he refuses.. then he gets ahold of you, meets with you (drunk and high, wtf?) and wants to have sex. It says you refused.. then it says you guys "hit it".. and now he wants nothing to do with you again. And he's still with that girlfriend. And despite the fact that you say you both decided to let go of this TODAY.. you don't really want to. And you LOVE him, even though he treats you like a piece of meat and has been for years.

Have I got that right? Is that what you're saying?

Then I can't help you. He likes fucking you, and wants to continue fucking you (cheating on his girlfriend to do so).. but that girlfriend he's cheating on is STILL more to him than YOU are, cuz he's STILL with her and NOT you.. so that actually shows how very LITTLE he thinks of and respects either of you. Which is none at all, zip, zilch, zero. This is him, the real him.. the using, non-committal, back and forth, cheating, disrespectful, insensitive, selfish, hurtful guy. And you LOVE that? Your self-esteem is well and truly fucked... and that means I can't help you, cuz you won't listen to anyone tell you to leave him alone.. you yourself know the truth about him.. and you won't even listen to your own inner voice telling you he's no good for you. So why would you listen to any of us?

You're choosing to be miserable.. and as P would say.. suffer as you wish.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
all I want to say is that I feel sorry for the gf. You are the lucky one because at least you knew about it.

Anyway, all this is happening to you because you have low self esteem. If you could work on that you will easily let go of him because you will accept that you deserve far better than this situation. You actually invested lots of feelings and you are in denial that this was a poor investment that's why you go back and you invest some more because the idea that all you did was for nothing it is much more hurtful than sacrificing a bit more. It is sort of like the gamblers attitude on a casino. He will bet more even though he loses with the hope that this time he will be lucky. What should someone tell him to actually stop him from gambling all? Well if you know the answer you know what to tell to yourself to stop you from being in this situation.

First start forgiving yourself... it is ok that you did a mistake. There is no need for you to beat yourself that much.

P.s. he will not let go of you. He will never let go off you because you help him have his cake and eat it too. You can get out of this only if you take that decision and make him take it too. It is only your inner strength that can help you.

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Wow..... sorry but I have to agree with Nefer, lunar, biker

Nefer summed it up perfectly .....

This is a clear example of making bad choices .... she is choosing him and this life style .

I think for her to be "single " is a temporary fix not a long term solution.
Technically she is "single" but look at how she is "living "....

She clearly needs to build up her self-esteem and set some morals and standards

This is exactly the type of "single behavior " I will never brag or boast about that is
plaguing society today ....

This FWB mentality ...... look at the damage it does.... this site is full of it!!!!
How would you recommend this to anyone—?

:o

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
FYI, the "cancer man" didn't break you...

Your precious "single life" did.....

You have too much freedom and not enough boundaries ..... no structure

This is what people don't mention ..... they leave this important part out and point at you
and laugh....

Yet they are the same people that said how important "being single is..." .....smh
And you were foolish enough to trust "them".

Find the true "light" and stop being misled .....

Posted by Silvermermaid

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
That's cool... my ex wife spoke fluent Spanish as well but I think her English might have been a little better... I was just curious. So what brings you to the land of dxp?
Most of the time its something directly or indirectly involving a relationship .....

Hmmmm....

Ok spill the beans.... what did he/you do? Lol! No need to lie, your secret is safe... we are all strangers. 🙂

To be honest, I think I have learned more about myself, my personality and stuff in these past few months (that I??ve been reading about astrology and following this message board) than I have in my 34 years.
Relationship, I was pretty young when I married my husband, I was 23 years old when I married him and dated him for almost 3 years (I was 21 y/o). Before we got married I learned that he had been cheating for 18 months, I married him anyway (I was very much in love with him or so I thought and apparently the affair had ended) but many years later I started thinking I'm not so in love with him anymore.
It's hasn't been a happy marriage, we almost got divorced two years ago but then decided to try and make it work.
It wasn't really a relationship issue what brought me to the —land of dxp??, it was more of a ME issue. I just wanted to know more about myself, why do I feel so sad sometimes, why I seek solitude, things like that??_
WOW, I feel like Msr. P-A is going to come out now??_😢

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Posted by Silvermermaid
Thank you 3d, Jack and Eusive. I felt comfortable enough with you guys to share my story.
In order for my marriage to work I knew I had to be honest with myself. I knew what it was and what it was not. I don't know how things will turn out but at least I know I'm trying.

Quick question though, have you guys had any experience with Scorpios, are they a bit controlling and possessive?

Thanks.

Posted by deezie
phewf...! because I'll be shocked if anyone even TRIES to comprehend your point here...

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Lmao ok I'm done.... whew...

Wow and silver is her lmao.... did not know she was on here now lmao

Posted by 0sense

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Lmao I'm so shocked .... I can't type

OMG silvermermaid is here and on this very thread as as speak .....

Reality threading at it best..... lol did not stage any of this. 100% real!

You just never know he is reading this.....

Posted by Silvermermaid

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Lmao I'm so shocked .... I can't type

OMG silvermermaid is here and on this very thread as as speak .....

Reality threading at it best..... lol did not stage any of this. 100% real!

You just never know he is reading this.....

I guess this is exactly what you get when you're "honest and genuine"!!

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Hahahah. Good one.

Posted by bubblyaquarius

Posted by deezie
You judged them both. Nasad or whatever the name was, and then Silver.
When you said that if you had a daughter, you'd rather her take action B, than A.
That's not an observation. That's a judgement on the route each of these women took.
Preference towards which is a better path, is a judgement. It doesn't require a punishment.
It's not a court of law....

And without permission. Hmph, rude. Not courteous at all. And yes, judging. Who does he think he is?

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Posted by deezie
You judged them both. Nasad or whatever the name was, and then Silver.
When you said that if you had a daughter, you'd rather her take action B, than A.
That's not an observation. That's a judgement on the route each of these women took.
Preference towards which is a better path, is a judgement. It doesn't require a punishment.
It's not a court of law....

And without permission. Hmph, rude. Not courteous at all. And yes, judging. Who does he think he is?

The keeper of balance, isn't that what he said?

Yeah, he's so balanced and just.
I think this guy forgot to take his meds. Always calling himself the "messenger".
And if he's so into balance, he should be examining his own character not others, who came here seeking advice and help. Anyone who is here asking for help or advice is good in my book. At least they are trying to improve, learn, do better. At least they have a reason for being here. He wants to act like these people are beneath him or dumb or whatever point he's trying to make, but self examination and self help actually are signs of 'healthiness'. He's just here to talk about how great he is and put everyone else down.

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Posted by deezie
hahah with a few irritating spelling and grammatical errors. 😢