Have you ever cheated on your partner?

Question for EVERYONE!!!!!

Have you ever cheated?

Why do you think you cheated?

Do you belive that once a cheater always a cheater or can a person change his/her ways?

Do you still cheat now?

There's no such thing, gemini_82grl ...


If your wo/man has found love in another, then the partnership is over. If this partner chooses to stay with a person to whom found love in another, then it's not cheating .. it's acceptable and becomes an acceptable part of the terms of relating.

P-angel. So your a Picses—?

I thought you would have a different opinion. I thought you were going to be totally against it. But your opinion is definitly a great one. When one cheats or in your words finds love with someone else then it really is over.

Great one thank you for being open.

Very true outcast. That is the biggest reason why I have only had one long lasting relationship.

Im not speaking on behalf of all gemini's just for myself because everyone is different. But I usually stray cause I know that the person is not the right one for me..

What I don't understand about geminis is that if they think the person is not the right one, why cheat, why not just leave them and then move on...I knew a gemini girl..used to hang out with her...she was very persistent..we had some real good times together..but I just could not stand the fact that everytime I met her she was with someone new.....she kept going back to the one that had money when all else failed and everytime "this was the one". I barely got to know her boyfriends before she cheated or dumped them....The best one had to be Taurus...but she didn't like him cos he wouldn't let her have the upperhand and he was better looking than her (her own words). Hmmm..worrying...

But no, have never cheated on any of the partners...well only had 2 serious relationships..lasting 9 years in total..blimey!

"What I don't understand about geminis is that if they think the person is not the right one, why cheat, why not just leave them and then move on...I knew a gemini girl."

Air signs aren't like us. They go with the flow, and the flow may lead them back to their previous partner. Weird, I know. But that probably explains it. They perspective is completely different.

They lack gravitas, and will do whatever feels right at the time. And they'll do whatever feels right tomorrow.

MM, you've abandoned us.

I think you're trying to become an honorary Fishy. Why, goddammit, why?!!

No in all honesty, there seems to be piece over here...I would never abandon the scorpio board but its full of trash right this minute..I haven't the time for rubbish...no offence

piece = peace

lol

yeah.

i know. plus, you're in lurve with a male Fish. Forgiven.

Lol....yeah there is that too...and the more I find out about him the better, he's a good boy for the time being...and damn shexshy!...lol

But Scorpio board used to be great once upon a time..now everyone just bitches and and all sorts...topics are rubbish, nothing interesting or stimulating..not that theres much stimulation going on here but ya know...loyal to my fish and all that....

How are you? What be happening in your neck of the woods?

I'm fine.

Some people are leaving the Scorp board for personal reasons. Ultimately, it's becoming the same topic.

Scorp man/woman has a spell on non-Scorpio "victim." Victim rushes to Scorp board to get some insight. I don't know why they even bother since they won't listen to us anyway. They just end up pursuing their lust and false hope.

Oh well. No harm done, but it gets so old that I'll only reply if I'm available online AND if the person evokes any pity from me. A triple Cancer motivated me to do so today.

LOL!..maybe cancers are your not victim? lol..muaahahahha....
I just can't be arsed to even reply anymore....everyone leaves..makes a grand exit then comes back....why make such a fuss in the first place...if you do go, do so quietly....the scorpio way...without a trace...

Okay I am going to go out on a lim her but I know at this point I am going to get attacted but thats okay I will still fill you in anyway.

Yes I am a gem and yes I am an air sign. I have had alot (too many) bad relationships cause of my kind heart and the obility to see the better side of people when it doent really exist.

I have a very bad guilty conchance and I don't lie either so I have never made a good cheater and I have never gotten away with it either.

I feel that my cheating could be alot different then most because I do have a heart. But anyways. I have never had sex with anyone else when I was in a relationship but I have had people kiss me that I consider cheating. I have never cheated (sex) wise just cheated by kissing. I was young and stupid what can I say. I have never done it twice to the same person either I know that doesnt make it any better.

I have NOT cheated on anyone I have dated since I was probably around 17 I cant remember though. All I know is that I wouldnt so it again. Even if it was just a kiss I would definitly avoid it.
But now I think smarter I dont put myself in those positions anymore where they can be infedelity. Not happening.

Not all signs are alike.

Gem82 ... Pisces people don't comprehend the term "cheating".

Perhaps on the other boards you might get a response from someone who can relate to this inconcievable act.

To get in our pants, you have to be in our heart .... if you're in our heart, then it's love. And love doesn't cheat us of anything .. it's a gift.

Well said....Cheating starts in the mind...If you can allow someone else to exchange bodily fluid..(saliva) thats cheating..lol...If I am in a committed relationship, for sure I will talk to members of the opposite sex, have fun and games etc...but what it boils down to is I have someone waiting for me at home, someone waiting for me somewhere..I just could not think of the lewd act let alone do it...Everyone ceases to exist around me..Even if someone touches my knee, that warrants a slap...

LOL...

No P-Angel talks very philosophical...but seeing as thats lost on me...and as the quote on my profile page says "not to care about philosophy is to be a true philosopher"....I think what she means is that pisces don't understand cheating. On some other boards you might hear of stories of people who have been cheated on by a pisces but then you get bad apples in every sign..and if you are in the heart of a pisces then there is no need for them to cheat...or something to that effect...

Garfield..where did you get that cool avatar from..its really pretty

I wouldn't waste time trying to figure them out...let them be....its only consuming if you put too much time trying to figure them out....nothing excuses cheating, whether they have the 11 other signs in them...if they step out of line...whip them back in line again..if they stray again..bah bye....

So what is bothering you? the fact that he doesn't pay you as much attention as he did at the start? that can be annoying but don't worry about it...you can't always keep up that much intensity (words of my own pisces)....Once the chase is done..you have that person..so its like Hmm..ok..now what..and people tend to usualy fall into a comfortable position...don't need to do as much anymore..I am like that too...

Are you a softie?

Apologies for my responses...they can be very regimental and military like..lol...

And how long have you been with him?

Ha - cheating smeading 😛

I am trying to figure out if cheating is right or wrong - not up to a conclussion yet!

There are just way too many factors and variables to take into account when trying figure out why a person has betrayed another. and yes I still do see cheating as a betrayal of the worst kind! But I have myself done it - Me!!! how can someone who hates such a vile act be guilty of it??!? its the duality of the Fishy - one half of the brain see its reasons & the over half sees the other POV so each is equal unto itself and both correct.

I mean, if you really love someone, and they cheated on you, there is bound to be a reason for it - even if the reason is not what you want to hear - like the one I heard "its always been what I have done, I go out & get drunk & pick up chicks, I cant help it, I like the adventure & secrecy, Its a habbit & I like to look cool in front of the boys." Yup that acctually was said to me. Now although it wasnt what I wanted to hear it was reality Sometimes its a habbit & gives people a kick - is it there fault for having a bad habbit? who knows - most people are a product of there environment - half the people who cheat etc have been cheated on - this of course still does not make it right but in a trustless world whos to say how one chooses to defend themself from pain?
Then theres the instance where the hubby (no matter how much councelling) still isnt getting laid by his wife. He gets gets blotto & shags some chick who has been waiting all night for him to be drunk enough to take advantage of & the dude feels like shit the next day ... he loves his wife but hey needs are needs right— wrong??
Then theres the straight out slut - loves it fvcks it! why? who knows.

lol!

No, why bother if it's over, it's over, move on. Otherwise don't get into a relationship, keep your options open.

Picses, You have a very large mind. That is something that no one can give to you. Your very smart and you see the different types of situations. I the same cheated out of pain or confusion. But I havent done it since. People do things for different reasons doesnt make it right but in the end there the ones that have to live with their own decitions. Right.
For eg.

You made your bed now you have to sleep in it.

What I find really curious about cheating is what it really means, and how the punishment system is self-inflicting most times.

What I mean is this .... say for instance, a woman cheats on her man because she feels as though she isn't getting what she needs from her man, and so she goes out to sleep with another person.

Ok, so the reason behind this is because he is neglecting her in some way, and so this is a punishment to him.

When in reality .. he doesn't even know about the cheating act, so this punishment hasn't even been inflicted upon him.

Later, the woman will feel guilty .. so the punishment is really inflicted upon herself.


So, though, I can understand the reasons behind a person might want to do this as they express their feelings about it .... I can't see how doing it for reasons of "getting even" is any kind of balancer within deeds.

If you cant beat um join um - Thats what did it to me. I wanted to know what it was like lying to someone having a secret & the excitment - I wanted to ounderstand why people did it to me.

A few reasons why people cheat like that P-Angel:

* Feeling trapped
* Low self esteam
& for the Main one .... FEAR! Peaple are scared of being alone - or giving up there man/woman because they may not find better, afraid of loss, afraid of being dissliked by there once friend & partner, Scared of hurting someone they love with the truth, or if they have a family then that would really mess the fvck out of your life, even having joint bills & furniture makes it harder to leave!! The easy way? Screw someone else, get the feeling of being wanted back & then its also empowering - some people really do feel like king shiv from screwing soemone else.

"You made your bed now you have to sleep in it."

I really like that one gemini_82grl!!! 😉 spot on! take some blame you assholes

Garfield, I'm sorry your heart is hurting 😢

Pisces people can have bad reactions when we think someone is trying to control us, even if it's just in our head .. such as the drinking. I know you were just trying to help him, but, he saw it differently.

We're really bad about that 😢 .. I'm sorry on behalf of our kind.

Yepper.. I learnt that the hard way myself so Im not a hipacret when I say it.

I made my bed now i have to sleep in it.. Has much truth behind it.

Im glad you like it though.. 🙂

Garfield always remember its his loss. If he has that kind of problem whether you love him or not. Do you really want to be subject to that behavour forever.

In reality he is definitly the one losing out. Not you...

Bug hug to you. Be strong..... Your a wonderful person inside and out......