Push pull pisces

So I guess I have the same old issue with this pisces guy..Ive been seeing this guy for about 8 months now and hes always playing this push pull game with me. Its a continuous cycle of him going from prince charming then suddenly he starts to distance himself to just acting like a complete jerk. So I just end up backing off and try to move on and he comes back out of nowhere a few days later like a sad little lost puppy. I don't like to play games and I take his signs of losing interest and acting like a jerk at face value and leave him alone. I am a cancer and yes very sensitive but I also have high self esteem and I know I can replace a jerk in a heart beat and don't derserve such treatment.

It may seem to him that I let go a lot easier than it actually is but us cancers know how to hide our feelings and It actually hurts a lot more than he knows. I know his ex's in the past have been the "psycho" types and my pride and self respect just wont let me be that way. Whats his deal? If he cares about me as much as he shows during our good times why does he end up pushing me away only to end up coming back after me?? And the more this happens the more it drives me to lose interest as I go out and meet new people. I keep trying to tell him that these games may have brought his exes closer to him but its pushing me away. How can I make him understand this and why does he keep doing it?

"I also have high self esteem and I know I can replace a jerk in a heart beat and don't derserve such treatment"

"I keep trying to tell him that these games may have brought his exes closer to him but its pushing me away. How can I make him understand this and why does he keep doing it?"




Apparantly you think real is what you """""say""""""" in dxp, that words of self-esteem, replacing jerks, games push away, yada yada yada ...... are who you are and what he should be understanding about your character ... meanwhile ......


..... 8 months later ........ your action of still being there, while """saying""" nothing to him proves you actually like it.


"It may seem to him that I let go a lot easier than it actually is but us cancers know how to hide our feelings and It actually hurts a lot more than he knows."




Right, sure, ok .... tick, tock, tick, tock, tick, tock .... you're still there?

I thought you said it pushes you away?

I guess those words were in place to guilt trip him, and not really because you were being pushed away .... because it's been 8 months and you're still there.



Self esteem? It must be in slo-mo

Thanks for all your input but I think i should give a little more detail...

First couple months we had just met and still getting to know each other and it was too new to be anything serious.
then the next few months he was prince charming and I was his princess..My night in shining armor.

This push pull thing has just come up in the past month. It needs to happen more than once before u see the pattern begin. I did say hes always doing this so the misunderstanding is my fault. When I noticed his change in attitude I never fought or argued with him I just kept a mental note of it and after a couple times i decided that I have to move on. We do a lot of business together and we work very well together so hes not someone that I can just change my number and tell to eff off.

Although I am saying nothing to him, I am meeting new people and dating others. I don't need to tell him because it's not his business. I won't fight with him about it because it is what it is and not much to argue about. I haven't talked to him in a couple days and don't plan on responding to his calls the next time he attempts to contact me business or not. I know I need to cancel him completely to send the message but there's nothing wrong with giving chances. But rest assured his chances have run out.

I guess what I really was asking was why does someone who cares so much for someone try to push them away only to come crawling back like a lost puppy?? Does he like the attention his psycho exe's gave him? Is it his own insecurity that tells him that he needs to play these games to keep me interested? Is he testing me??

I can list proof of the things hes done that a guy who didn't care would never do. Most husbands don't cater to there wives they way he does for me so I'm not delusional about his feelings for me.

No Gem gal... I'm not playing with him.. I'm just letting go emotionally. I care about him as a person and as a friend but I know I cannot count on him as a stable partner in a love relationship so therefore I'm moving on. I'm not looking for advice on how to handle the situation or what I should do. I just asked whats the point of all this push pull drama that doesn't really accomplish anything but pain and heartache for both people involved.

Love relationships are about mutual respect and If one party isn't playing fair then the other party should not be expected to either. Just because I didn't have a long and ugly emotional bout of tears and arguments doesn't mean I'm playing with him. Yes I did voice my concerns a couple of times and he chose to ignore so now I have to stop talking about it and start being about it.

It seems like with most men the more you ignore them, be mean to them and act like you don't care the more they are up your ass...in my experience...

makes me wonder too...