I'm pretty sure this Pisces is fucking with me!?

Posted by gyps
Here's the short version:

I met Pisces at a summer camp in 2012 where we became really great friends. He's really supportive, really kind really genuine, funny, nerdy, all that jazz. OBVIOUSLY I had a crush on him. I was 18 he was 21, which isn't weird but it is at a Christian camp. So he saw me as a kid sister, which was painfully clear.
Fast forward, mm..6 years later. We stayed in contact here and there, he's a missionary so he's been all over the world in those six years and just moved back, I also just moved back.
I don't really hangout with people and especially not spur of the moment but since I've been on meds, ive been "taking risks"; so one day I put up a status saying "anybody wanna hang" he messages and I was like fuck it. Pisces is my homie. It'll be so good to see him yada yada. And it fucking was. He is so charming and sweet, smooth, sexy, funny as he'll. So smart, so 100% true to himself, confident, aggressive like basically everything I been searching for. BUT I JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP AND I'M REALLY NOT LOOKING FOR THAT.
ANYWAYS, sorry getting excited, that night we met up at a coffee shop, ended up really enjoying each other's company and catching up, got a couple beers, got taco bell to sober up, etc. THEN he just went for it. He kissed me whole we were talking and I'm talking a couple years of pent up sexual tension, plus a little glow up on my end. It was magical. By the end of our night I was smitten asf but keeping my cool because cherish and value our friendship so much. That happened a couple more times that week. But it never felt like a fling. He'd look at me with so much love in his eyes and kiss me like he never wanted to lose me. (I'm being a little dramatic) sending kissy face good mornings, saying how a perfect morning would be waking up with me in his arms....
SO my smitten ass messages him on some real shit like, "I truly value our friendship and I don't want to do anything that will endanger that's, first and foremost, but with everything happening in the past few days I'm finding it hard to distinguish those lines, all I can think about is how bad I want you. I'm trying to find balance, lol I just want to be as open as possible with this" And he asked if he could call me but honestly I hate talking in the phone so having a serious conversation with someone I haven't talked to on the phone before, freaked me. And I was like well, maybe we can just talk when you get home?
No reply.
For like a week.
I post some cute pics and he says hey
That like recent. And then today he got back to me and this is kinda what I'm stuck on, thanks for sticking with me, and he asked me how I was you know the usual, and I was actually kinda going through it since yesterday was father's day and mine passed so I kinda just said that and he asked if I wanted to talk about it and I sent him this whole long message about being upset about never knowing my dad and yada yada and he left me on read.
So, I tried something. I posted cute pics while I was at the pool and low and behold he hit me up. Something about he is bad at replying to long messages, doesn't know what to say, and if he wasn't with friends he would've at least tried. But then it's like why ask?

It's kinda dawned on me he might jus t be toying with me. I'm not upset because I want to be with him, I'm upset because I thought we were friends, you know?

This was supposed to be short
And be a question I think but I just ended up ranting, sorry. Advice?

Posted by EvatheDiva52

Posted by gyps
Here's the short version:

I met Pisces at a summer camp in 2012 where we became really great friends. He's really supportive, really kind really genuine, funny, nerdy, all that jazz. OBVIOUSLY I had a crush on him. I was 18 he was 21, which isn't weird but it is at a Christian camp. So he saw me as a kid sister, which was painfully clear.
Fast forward, mm..6 years later. We stayed in contact here and there, he's a missionary so he's been all over the world in those six years and just moved back, I also just moved back.
I don't really hangout with people and especially not spur of the moment but since I've been on meds, ive been "taking risks"; so one day I put up a status saying "anybody wanna hang" he messages and I was like treetrunk it. Pisces is my homie. It'll be so good to see him yada yada. And it treetrunking was. He is so charming and sweet, smooth, sexy, funny as he'll. So smart, so 100% true to himself, confident, aggressive like basically everything I been searching for. BUT I JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP AND I'M REALLY NOT LOOKING FOR THAT.
ANYWAYS, sorry getting excited, that night we met up at a coffee shop, ended up really enjoying each other's company and catching up, got a couple beers, got taco bell to sober up, etc. THEN he just went for it. He kissed me whole we were talking and I'm talking a couple years of pent up sexual tension, plus a little glow up on my end. It was magical. By the end of our night I was smitten asf but keeping my cool because cherish and value our friendship so much. That happened a couple more times that week. But it never felt like a fling. He'd look at me with so much love in his eyes and kiss me like he never wanted to lose me. (I'm being a little dramatic) sending kissy face good mornings, saying how a perfect morning would be waking up with me in his arms....
SO my smitten ass messages him on some real butter like, "I truly value our friendship and I don't want to do anything that will endanger that's, first and foremost, but with everything happening in the past few days I'm finding it hard to distinguish those lines, all I can think about is how bad I want you. I'm trying to find balance, lol I just want to be as open as possible with this" And he asked if he could call me but honestly I hate talking in the phone so having a serious conversation with someone I haven't talked to on the phone before, freaked me. And I was like well, maybe we can just talk when you get home?
No reply.
For like a week.
I post some cute pics and he says hey
That like recent. And then today he got back to me and this is kinda what I'm stuck on, thanks for sticking with me, and he asked me how I was you know the usual, and I was actually kinda going through it since yesterday was father's day and mine passed so I kinda just said that and he asked if I wanted to talk about it and I sent him this whole long message about being upset about never knowing my dad and yada yada and he left me on read.
So, I tried something. I posted cute pics while I was at the pool and low and behold he hit me up. Something about he is bad at replying to long messages, doesn't know what to say, and if he wasn't with friends he would've at least tried. But then it's like why ask?

It's kinda dawned on me he might jus t be toying with me. I'm not upset because I want to be with him, I'm upset because I thought we were friends, you know?

This was supposed to be short
And be a question I think but I just ended up ranting, sorry. Advice?

Hi. Long story (novel); this is what this Pisces guy read when you sent him a text (novel). "We" Pisceans don't want to hear the "play by play". You're Saggy; meaning you do things that are FAST! Fast at texting long messages because, well, your brain goes 100 miles at 2.4 seconds. Give the dude a break. He was honest to tell you he doesn't know how to respond to long text messages. Dang girl! I can just visualize him looking at his phone after hearing it say, "Text message from Saggy girl" (or whatever he has your name saved on his phone). He's exited to read the text and then BAM!!! It's a novel. Dang! (his SAME reaction). He's not your guidance counselor, he's not your therapist, he's your friend; a friend with no advice to give you after hearing of the loss of your dad. SOME men (Taureans) would have said, "Sorry for the loss of your dad", but he being Piscean (I'm pretty sure he's a Feb Pisces), he just didn't know what to say other than feel as stated above.

No apologies for right now. No use in crying over spilled milk. Best thing is to wait for him to come back. He will. When he does just brush off the long text you sent him. Next time you want to get things off your chest, go to your mom, or BFF; not him. He's obviously not the empathy/sympathy type as well, you called him a "Geek". He must have Cancer in his chart as he crawled back into his shell and didn't know what to respond other than, "I am bad at replying to long messages" I would have IMMEDIATELY have said, "It's okay, thanks for allowing me to vent". Enough said. And no, he's not "toying with you". Pisceans don't do that. He told you the truth.

Moral of the story: Go to your mom or BFF to vent. Wait for him to contact you. He will.

cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by gyps

Posted by EvatheDiva52

Posted by gyps
Here's the short version:

I met Pisces at a summer camp in 2012 where we became really great friends. He's really supportive, really kind really genuine, funny, nerdy, all that jazz. OBVIOUSLY I had a crush on him. I was 18 he was 21, which isn't weird but it is at a Christian camp. So he saw me as a kid sister, which was painfully clear.
Fast forward, mm..6 years later. We stayed in contact here and there, he's a missionary so he's been all over the world in those six years and just moved back, I also just moved back.
I don't really hangout with people and especially not spur of the moment but since I've been on meds, ive been "taking risks"; so one day I put up a status saying "anybody wanna hang" he messages and I was like treetrunk it. Pisces is my homie. It'll be so good to see him yada yada. And it treetrunking was. He is so charming and sweet, smooth, sexy, funny as he'll. So smart, so 100% true to himself, confident, aggressive like basically everything I been searching for. BUT I JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP AND I'M REALLY NOT LOOKING FOR THAT.
ANYWAYS, sorry getting excited, that night we met up at a coffee shop, ended up really enjoying each other's company and catching up, got a couple beers, got taco bell to sober up, etc. THEN he just went for it. He kissed me whole we were talking and I'm talking a couple years of pent up sexual tension, plus a little glow up on my end. It was magical. By the end of our night I was smitten asf but keeping my cool because cherish and value our friendship so much. That happened a couple more times that week. But it never felt like a fling. He'd look at me with so much love in his eyes and kiss me like he never wanted to lose me. (I'm being a little dramatic) sending kissy face good mornings, saying how a perfect morning would be waking up with me in his arms....
SO my smitten ass messages him on some real butter like, "I truly value our friendship and I don't want to do anything that will endanger that's, first and foremost, but with everything happening in the past few days I'm finding it hard to distinguish those lines, all I can think about is how bad I want you. I'm trying to find balance, lol I just want to be as open as possible with this" And he asked if he could call me but honestly I hate talking in the phone so having a serious conversation with someone I haven't talked to on the phone before, freaked me. And I was like well, maybe we can just talk when you get home?
No reply.
For like a week.
I post some cute pics and he says hey
That like recent. And then today he got back to me and this is kinda what I'm stuck on, thanks for sticking with me, and he asked me how I was you know the usual, and I was actually kinda going through it since yesterday was father's day and mine passed so I kinda just said that and he asked if I wanted to talk about it and I sent him this whole long message about being upset about never knowing my dad and yada yada and he left me on read.
So, I tried something. I posted cute pics while I was at the pool and low and behold he hit me up. Something about he is bad at replying to long messages, doesn't know what to say, and if he wasn't with friends he would've at least tried. But then it's like why ask?

It's kinda dawned on me he might jus t be toying with me. I'm not upset because I want to be with him, I'm upset because I thought we were friends, you know?

This was supposed to be short
And be a question I think but I just ended up ranting, sorry. Advice?

Hi. Long story (novel); this is what this Pisces guy read when you sent him a text (novel). "We" Pisceans don't want to hear the "play by play". You're Saggy; meaning you do things that are FAST! Fast at texting long messages because, well, your brain goes 100 miles at 2.4 seconds. Give the dude a break. He was honest to tell you he doesn't know how to respond to long text messages. Dang girl! I can just visualize him looking at his phone after hearing it say, "Text message from Saggy girl" (or whatever he has your name saved on his phone). He's exited to read the text and then BAM!!! It's a novel. Dang! (his SAME reaction). He's not your guidance counselor, he's not your therapist, he's your friend; a friend with no advice to give you after hearing of the loss of your dad. SOME men (Taureans) would have said, "Sorry for the loss of your dad", but he being Piscean (I'm pretty sure he's a Feb Pisces), he just didn't know what to say other than feel as stated above.

No apologies for right now. No use in crying over spilled milk. Best thing is to wait for him to come back. He will. When he does just brush off the long text you sent him. Next time you want to get things off your chest, go to your mom, or BFF; not him. He's obviously not the empathy/sympathy type as well, you called him a "Geek". He must have Cancer in his chart as he crawled back into his shell and didn't know what to respond other than, "I am bad at replying to long messages" I would have IMMEDIATELY have said, "It's okay, thanks for allowing me to vent". Enough said. And no, he's not "toying with you". Pisceans don't do that. He told you the truth.

Moral of the story: Go to your mom or BFF to vent. Wait for him to contact you. He will.

cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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gyps

Eva, I actually really appreciate your comment. 
I didn't make him feel bad or anything and definitely did just leave it at "I really appreciate you letting me vent to you" because I do totally get it and you are TOTALLY right in that "100 miles in 2.5 seconds" or whatever, haha and that what others may see as a play by play is just me quickly going through the details of what happened. I promise I'm mostly venting on here because I don't have many friends (2 close friends who honestly have their own lives), my mom and dad are dead, butters rough. So I can see how I'm sorta projecting that on him and how it could be a little overwhelming, but he asked if I wanted to talk about it, ya know lol. 
I really appreciate the reality check, honestly all I needed!! 

Thanks

YW. Anytime you want to "vent" we are here for you. I too, have few friends as I am VERY careful who I let in my "inner circle". I've learned from the past "who" I allow to stab me in the back...takes only one time.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: He'd rather talk to you face-to-face as he is a one on one communicator 😉