In love with a Pisces woman

I'm in love with the most wonderful woman I??ve ever known and she's a Pisces. Problem is that we??re both married to different people. We work in the same place and we give each other a really warm smile every time our eyes meet at different times of the day. We flirt with each other by tickling each other??s sides and shooting rubber bands when nobody else is looking. When we visit each other??s cubicle, a 5 minute visit turns into a 20 minute chat. She's told me some very personal things about herself and in the 3 years I??ve known her, I??ve come to find out that she is a nurturing, kind, dedicated, selfless person. I love the sound of her soft voice and the way she pronounces words. I love the sound of her laugh and the way her hair moves. When I look into her beautiful eyes I feel like we??re somehow connected and understand each other. She gives me advice without me having to ask. She answers my questions before my thoughts turn into words. I really feel that she's my soul mate. How do I find out?

I'm in love with the most wonderful woman I??ve ever known and she's a Pisces. Problem is that we??re both married to different people. We work in the same place and we give each other a really warm smile every time our eyes meet at different times of the day. We flirt with each other by tickling each other??s sides and shooting rubber bands when nobody else is looking. When we visit each other??s cubicle, a 5 minute visit turns into a 20 minute chat. She's told me some very personal things about herself and in the 3 years I??ve known her, I??ve come to find out that she is a nurturing, kind, dedicated, selfless person. I love the sound of her soft voice and the way she pronounces words. I love the sound of her laugh and the way her hair moves. When I look into her beautiful eyes I feel like we??re somehow connected and understand each other. She gives me advice without me having to ask. She answers my questions before my thoughts turn into words. I really feel that she's my soul mate. How do I find out?

ok, listen im not trying to change your train of thought because u seem to have come to a serious conclusion already. But in the "real world" you are married. Thats the problem. You've said "i do" to someone else already and that in itself is real. Pisces women are very addicting. Once you get hooked its hard to find a limit on how much you want. They are dreamers and every word that comes thru those beautiful lips is an escape from reality, which is what you seem to admire since your "real world" is something you don't want anymore. They are extremely intuitive which is another lovely quality that keeps you there. But be forewarned they do not even understand themselves sometimes. They are enigmas within enigmas. I know....i am one.

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Ah SagitariusforPisces, you sound exactly like me when I first came here, for even I have fallen under the spell of a Pisces.

I don't know if she is your soul-mate because Pisces women have a tendency of stirring up those emotions in guys and make us all mushy. There is something timeless about a Pisces woman. One thing is for sure, she will be the cause of many headaches! Pisces women are super-nice to most people and altough you're getting a lot of attention from her you might find out soon enough that you're not as special as you may think.

See you're gonna have to share your Pisces with the rest of the world because she's "kind and personal" with most people that she interacts with (unless they give her a valid reason not to like them), which will of course make you question whether or not you have a special place in her heart or not.

Most people go "I don't like you till you give me a good reason to" while a Pisces is more like "I like you till you give me a reason NOT to". So naturally she is on good foot with everyone which is fine but can get really annoying when another Casanova moves up on your turf and tries to get a bite of her. She will of course make him feel special because she thinks he's a nice guy and you will be standing in the background tearing the hair off your head wanting to shout WHY DO YOU HAVE TO MAKE A SLEAZEBALL FEEL SPECIAL— Whether or not she's a shameless flirt or just oblibious to the feelings she stirs up in other men, this behaviour of hers will surely get to you if you're the jealous type.

There you have it, that's what I wish someone would have told me when I asked for advice. It would have spared me many sleepless nights. Anyway, what's the relationship with your wife like? I wish I could tell you to stay put like most people in here would (the Christian moral in here is really high, YAWN), but even I have strayed for a Pisces (only emotionally though) and if you two really share something special then maybe she is the one you should be married to. You say you've known this Pisces for three years...and your feelings for her are still the same? That sounds like quite a bond you two share.

Have you ever had conversations about her husband? Is she aware of your feelings? Have you ever talked about the two of you? etc...

Enfant brings up some really valid points about Pisces women. I think most of us are like that. We also like attention, nice attention, and if she isn't getting it at home from her husband then she is enjoying it from you. But it doesn't necessarily mean she will leave her husband for you. I know I was a VERY faithful wife and just b/c I was nice to other men/people all the time I didn't think of it as anything except being nice. I share personal things with people whether male or female if I feel comfortable with them. I can be an open book a lot of time so that may not mean as much as you think in that she has shared some personal things with you. She may look at you like a special friend. I know I don't have all the information so if you want to share more to clarify then you can do so. I tried every which way to make my marriage work although I was unhappy for years. She may not be ready to leave him for you and that is what you have to know. So you need to have this kind of conversation with her if you haven't already. Like the questions Enfant brought up...'Have you ever had conversations about her husband? Is she aware of your feelings? Have you ever talked about the two of you? etc...'

Posted by KingPeri
Sag males are always chasing my Sirens...I know this 'cause my brother is one and it sickens me 'cause he always goes for the ones that already have a bf or are out of his reach...And he secretly hopes to sneak his way in and weasel through...Pathetic...

Listen, the girl is being nice to you, that's all. Piscean women are playful in nature but are extremely loyal to their significant others...They would rather die miserable and faithful than commit adultery. Use your little brain for a second...You're married and she's married...Do you think she's going to go off limits like that? How about stop being a lazy fag and focus on your God damn work, which is what you're supposed to be doing as opposed to playing footsie with the Pisces like you were in Middle School...

Instead of posting here, perhaps you should tell your spouse of the situation...Stop trying to disrupt someone else's household. Where's your respect and sense of dignity?

Sag males are pathetic I swear...Spineless bastards...

I, Poseidon gives you a big FUCK YOU and I hope you choke on a cock.

Oh and merry xmas.

Word.
What's with some people chasing married/committed gals? I understand the part about connection and maybe you DO share a deep bond bla bla but seriously...get real! Is it the challenge of the 'impossible'? The 'dream' Vs the dull reality?

If you truly care, be a friend, enjoy the good times together and leave it at that.
I guess she hasn't said/done anything that shows any romantic interest in you...so she must probably just be her Piscean self and just enjoy the good vibes.

Concentrate on your work. You might get in trouble either by neglecting it while daydreaming/spending too much time around her or end up the laughing stock of your workplace if you go further (and worse if she doesn't reciprocate - which is the most probable AND DECENT thing to do)and you d be the workmate that chases around married co-workers.

All this good-naturedly and for your own sake.

Hope you get over it soon.

Sags are wonderful, it's not about sun-sign, as this type topic has been on most every sign's message board..

Think (seriously) with your intellect on this one, not your emotions. Challenge yourself to do what's right, not what's wanted. Life is alot about timing & karma, i believe.. For whatever reason/s, and for now, this isn't your time.. g/luck.

KingPeri

I had to smile while you were talking about your brother. I have two sisters, several years younger, still at school...
Pisces and Saggie...
The saggie one is the one that's thrifty though, albeit no one is really extravagant with spending in the family.
I am having images fast forward some years with the sag and pisces sisters...cuteness 🙂
They re so different but we are all so close to each other.

PS. Nice pic

Posted by curlygirl30190
ok, listen im not trying to change your train of thought because u seem to have come to a serious conclusion already. But in the "real world" you are married. Thats the problem. You've said "i do" to someone else already and that in itself is real.

I don't understand why people take it so seriousely that he's married. So what if he is? People fall in love, people fall out of love. People change. I know many couples who are married for all the wrong reasons. Marriage is just signing a bunch of stupid papers! Some will say marriage takes hard work, well I say you're doing it wrong...the sooner you realize that the better.

The only true obligation we all have in life is to make sure we are happy - that is the only way we can make others happy. He isn't doing anyone a favor by playing the good husband if he feels that his heart belongs to this Pisces chick. I'm not saying that's the case, he could just be in love. And that's not the same thing as loving someone. Like his wife, perhaps?

Btw, why are there two threads on this subject. I gave my piece of mind in this thread--
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=2337511

Posted by kstarks2
Its a binding agreement/contract that is willingly entered, which is honored in the court of law and by GOD [...] Before we give you advice on how to get another women, you need to fix what's broken at home

Well exactly. Which is why marriage is just a bunch of paperwork. What's the difference between being married and being in a long-term relationship. Money and paperwork, that's all. And I don't believe in God, so there goes that.
And how do you fix falling out of love with someone, growing apart from them etc. etc. The only way to fix that is to face facts and move on. Marriage counseling is for people who shouldn't have married eachother in the first place.

Posted by kstarks2

Yes, it is OUR responsibility to make ourselves happy however it is also the responsibility for partners to let the other partner know when they are NOT happy and perhaps want out [...]If you no longer want to be held to an agreement then get a divorce.

Uhh, well exactly. What have I been saying?? You just summorized my whole lecture.

Posted by kstarks2

he needs to be a MAN and stop chasing after unavailable women. Sags are the bachelors of the zodiac, so they are always on the prowl even when married. They love the chase. So I don't think this has anything to do with true love and happiness. so please spare me.

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I'm not saying it does. I'm not even talking about this guy, I'm talking about marriage in general and that people shouldn't feel they have to stay put just because they are married. That's why pens have erasers. There's a lot of talk about "being a man", but sometimes being a man means making hard decisions rather than being a whimp for life just because it's more comfortable.

Posted by kstarks2

You're a Leo, which means i don't expect YOU to comprehend the institution of marriage either since you all just LOVE to jump into any arena with no thought of consequences to your actions too. Except your reasons are different. You cheat because someone isn't giving you the attention you desperately need

Oh yeah touch?, I'm a Leo...very original. Let me tell you, the one girl that I almost cheated on gave me all the attention in the world. So there goes your little Leo theory.

Wow, talk about narrow-minded. I believe in love but I'm not all head-in-clouds about it. I guess for you God is the answer to everything but my world-view is a little bit more nuanced and complicated.

Evo malo zajebavam, haha. Jesmo svi neki englezi, nisam ni znao da si domaca riba!

Sretan bozic to you too!! 😄

Posted by enfant_terrible

I don't understand why people take it so seriousely that he's married. So what if he is? People fall in love, people fall out of love. People change. I know many couples who are married for all the wrong reasons. Marriage is just signing a bunch of stupid papers! Some will say marriage takes hard work, well I say you're doing it wrong...the sooner you realize that the better.

I agree with you, Lion ... you are right - people who are unhappy should be free to be able to find love with another, and marriage is a contract.

However, the key here is that this has been going on for 3 years, if I read the OP correctly .. and that clearly gives the suggestion that these two people carry on with each other without ever addressing the marriage issue .... so, it is logical to assume that the spouses aren't aware of their unhappiness, which = emotional cheating.

Yes, they SHOULD dissolve the ties/contracts they have with their spouses .. but, they aren't, obviously, since it's been three years .. so, they obviously have no intention on being concerned about the people they are emotionally harming.

For that reason, yes ... it is very serious.

pisces and saggis...

run away now!

Posted by KingPeri
Oh hey kstarks, sorry about the delayed response. I'll hit you up by tonight. Cappy Moon has been busy making the moneys...And yeah, what's up with Sags and idiot spending?

My brother just blew through $ 2.5K this month...WHAT THE FUCK?!?! I spent $ 300 xmas shopping and I feel guilty as fuck.

saggis love spending money...its one of the things we do best

saggis make money to spend money. we have to make a lot of money to do the things that we love to do.

we are ruled by Juipter...we are all about excess...excess in everything.

pisces will never understand saggis

pisces will always think that saggis are superficial and have no depth and have nothing to offer the world.

saggis love sex..emotions are not tied to sex. the more sex the better! the more of most things the better!

saggis are loud, obnoxious, in your face and this makes pisces very uncomfortable

aww, what a match made in heaven

the one-night stand was invented by a SAG

Why was the exact same thread started again? Well, here was my input...
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=2337511<BR>
I have to agree with P-Angel about the time that has gone by and that being emotional cheating. Especially if they haven't been trying to work out issues with their own spouses or just getting a divorce a lot sooner than this. I don't know if the OP has even really found out if the Pisces is really so into him or if she is even considering divorcing her husband for him. She may not even feel the same. I may be a nice person to people but like I said in the other post I am a very faithful person to the man I am with and wouldn't cheat. I would definitely break it off with my husband before I would pursue anything with someone else. I know people fall out of love b/c I have had it happen in my life and I don't believe people should live their lives so unhappy rather than moving on but I would still not pursue someone that is taken either. Just my own opinion. I really wouldn't think well of a man pursuing me that was married either b/c if he can cheat on her than that means he could cheat on me too. 😢

Posted by KingPeri

Posted by DMV
saggis make money to spend money. we have to make a lot of money to do the things that we love to do.

we are ruled by Juipter...we are all about excess...excess in everything.

pisces will never understand saggis

pisces will always think that saggis are superficial and have no depth and have nothing to offer the world.

saggis love sex..emotions are not tied to sex. the more sex the better! the more of most things the better!

saggis are loud, obnoxious, in your face and this makes pisces very uncomfortable

aww, what a match made in heaven

Well that's sad and pathetic because money is nothing but a materialistic form given meaning by man. What God giveth, He'll taketh away. Do you think the Sun, the planets and the stars revolve around because of money? Do you think the Universe cares or freezes when the stock market collapses or do you think death won't take you away because you drive a fancy car? Do you think you can buy love? Please...Wake up and realize what you're saying. I'm a Pisces and I'm realist. You need money to get your way around and reach goals, but money is not what makes my goals. It's only a tool of creation, but it's not a substitute.

Pisces is about the abstract. We thrive for the search of that which lasts forever. The part that belong to the soul, which is outside of the physical realm. What do Sags do when they are babies? They use their money to buy the best mothers along with some affection?

No wonder the best matches for Fire Signs are Air Signs...Freaks belong with freaks...

The only vastness my brother needs is a serious ass beating...

PFFFTTTTTTT...

I will admit though, Sag humor is awesome 😄 That little sucker does crack me up at times...Silly hamster. The only Fire Sign I don't like is Leo though, they're total fags. Sags and Aries are cool though 🙂

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yes pisces is into the abstract....

we LOVE money...money helps us to do the things that we LOVE to do...

Posted by KingPeri

Posted by DMV
the one-night stand was invented by a SAG

How about STDs?

I'm guessing Sags too 'cause most of them burn.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL 😉

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naw, i think that was a scorpio

im glad we can give you a good chuckle...

if we take anything from each other....

just because we have one night stands...doesnt imply that we dont use protection...

deep down, behind the superficialty...there is a person capable of love

no problemo...i enjoy fishy banter...

i was also only in ONE LTR with a leo for 3 LONG years...the rest were flings..

blame it on my scorpio moon

Needs to investigate his own too.

enfant:
Thank you for your input and thanks for not ripping me up for being open with my feelings. You hit
it right on the nose- I'm under her spell. It's funny you mention sharing Pisces with the rest of the
world. I've been married for 26years and never had an affair. In my 20's I used to be very jealous and possesive of my wife. Now that I'm older, I understand that love is not jealous,it's giving. I now realize how Pisces are and I accept that. It's a wonderful trait. I know very little about astrology although I've developed an interest in it. Judging from some of the posts here, I don't exactly fit into my sign. For example, I don't try and get every good looking woman I see into bed, I'm very reserved. Also, I don't spend all the money when it comes my way. I'm a good money manager, my house is paid off. Funny though; i grew up with this kid whose a Sag and he's the most arrogent and conceited person. I wanted to answer some questions you asked in your 12/26 post. 1) She talkes about her husband that he doesn't do enough to help. She actually does everything. Even building her son's bookcase for cryin out loud!
She really doesn't say anything positive about him. I think that if she wanted to set a boundary for me, she would have mentioned something nice about him- but no. 2) The relationship with my wife has been rocky for most of our married years - sometimes my fault and sometimes hers. She almost cheated on me and we almost split up several times. 3) Yes, I feel the same about my friend after knowing her for 3yrs. After the first 4months she started shooting me with rubber bands and purposefully bumping into me. I started returning the playful behavior, then we started talking more to each other. By the end of the first year I got to know her personally and that's when I fell into her gravitational pull. 4) I think she must be aware of my feelings, not by spoken word but by my actions. 5) We've never specifically talked about the two of us. I guess we haven't gotten to that point yet. She gave me some awesome advice before she went on vacation. When she gets back I'm going to kiss her for the first time and thank her for her help. I forgot to mention that earlier this year I wished her a happy birthday and rubbed her shoulder. She smiled at me and tilted her head slightly. It didn't dawn on me till I thought about it later that she was most likely waiting for a kiss!

A Sag female broke my heart. She played with my emotions so much i blew up on her and from then on, as far as relationship goes, i hate Sags.
So the comments by the fellow Pisces made me feel so much better.

Posted by SagitariusforPisces
We flirt with each other by shooting rubber bands when nobody else is looking.

Am I the only person who finds this funny? 😛

Posted by SagitariusforPisces
enfant:
Thank you for your input and thanks for not ripping me up for being open with my feelings.

1) She talkes about her husband that he doesn't do enough to help. She actually does everything. Even building her son's bookcase for cryin out loud! She really doesn't say anything positive about him.

2) The relationship with my wife has been rocky for most of our married years - sometimes my fault and sometimes hers. She almost cheated on me and we almost split up several times [...]

I forgot to mention that earlier this year I wished her a happy birthday and rubbed her shoulder. She smiled at me and tilted her head slightly. It didn't dawn on me till I thought about it later that she was most likely waiting for a kiss!

Well, it's not my place to be judgemental. Some people clinge to the word "marriage" harder than they clinge real feelings. People who reason "you are married so stay put" are usually the ones to take their partners for granted because hey we're married!

Hm, I think your Pisces has gone beyond what's considered "just being nice", even for a Pisces. You say your wife almost cheated on you and that you two were close to splitting up several times -- sounds to me like a typical contemporary relationship where two people are struggling to stay together. But why? If two people have fundemental differences between eachother then why stay together? Because you shared some good times back in the old days? The whole Dr Phil-routine "marriage is a struggle" reeks of masocistic Catholicism to me! Marriage shouldn't be a struggle. Hell, it's easy to find someone to marry and then struggle through life with them. Most people either stay together because of religious reasons or because they are getting older and afraid to end up all alone.

Anyway the question is, do you and the Pisces share more common ground than you and your wife? To me that's fundamental for a relationship to work.

I've gotten in trouble for being "too nice" too. People think you're into them, when we're only being ourselves.

Just because she complains about her husband, doesn't mean she will leave him for you. Some men leave their stuff on the floor, are sport fanatics, messy, aren't that helpful, etc. We complain about it, but it doesn't mean we will leave them. Nobody's perfect and that's okay, we understand.

Marriage (or any relationship) shouldn't necessarily be a struggle, but it is hard work. It takes committment, dedication, and different types of love. It seems to me like you want to have your cake and eat it too by trying to justify a relationship with the Pisces. Rocky relationship, almost cheated, almost split up with the wife. Why not work on your marriage or not. Dissolve it. Then see if she is still wants to proceed with a relationship with you.

The thing that gets me is that you don't even know how she feels.

Attraction, love, sex etc are something that are given to us by nature. Marriage is a man made artificial institution, just like slavery, which was finally abolished. Thus, marraige is just an institunalised contract.

You must do what you naturally feel you should do, without the artificial walls of a man made institution hampering your desire that is god sent or given to us by nature.

Maybe she is your soul mate, but you should do things in the right order or any future relationship you might have with her will be tainted. End both your marriages first, then pursue a relationship.
It is not fair to have your spouse on a string while you figure out whether or not Ms Pisces is the one for you.
If she's not willing to end her marriage ... well, I guess you have your answer then.
At least now you know that your wife is not really The One. If she were, this situation would never have come up. So there's that.

wow this thread is chock full of drama.