@cap23
9 Years
Insight on a Pisces true feelings?
Posted by cap23
So my first attempt to take a break from my long distance Pisces crush didn't exactly work. He texted me the next day and me being unable to resist him replied back right away. Everything has been fine until yesterday when a friend from my undergrad program moved to town and asked me out for a date. I was considering it but then suddenly I felt guilty and realized I didn't want to hurt my Pisces guy. I felt like it was only right to talk to him about it and be honest about how I was feeling. He seemed fine maybe a little taken aback but nothing that made me think he was upset. We are supposed to be no strings attached but I can't help but have these very strong feelings for him and I told him that I was worried that I was starting to like him too much. So I tried to go away again but he wouldn't let me, he said he thought we should just cut the romance out of our relationship and just be friends instead. For some reason this devastated me even though I agreed that it would probably be best for us. But today I couldn't help myself I tried to be romantic with him and he rejected me and I just turned into tears. I told him that I really needed some time to get over my feelings for him and wanted to delete the app we talk on for a little while. He really didn't like that, but I got him to agree to a four day break with no communication after I told him how bad his rejection hurt me. We've never gone 24 hours without communication. We also already had romantic plans for him to come spend time with me November. He says I'm his best friend, and he just wants me to be happy and doesn't want me to be hurt. But now I'm hurting more than before? When we were romantic it was very very romantic so I'm confused about his feelings. He says he really still wants to spend that time in November with me, and that he still wants me around as a friend and that I'll never loose him as a friend. Does he really just not have any romantic feelings for me anymore just like that? Did he ever? I never tried to pin him down or make him be in a relationship with me. Did I do something wrong? Can anyone here give me some insight on how he may really feel? Should I give up on him? Thanks in advanced!
Go ahead and re read what you've written here. You are full of inconsistencies. He's doing exactly as you asked. He's been upfront from the very beginning that he sees you as a friend and as a friend ONLY.
Be honest with yourself. You wanted a relationship from the very beginning. You agreed to no-strings-attached because you thought you'd be able to convince him to gf you up.
Learn from this and only fuck dudes who want the same thing as you. You can't handle fwb.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by cap23Go ahead and re read what you've written here. You are full of inconsistencies. He's doing exactly as you asked. He's been upfront from the very beginning that he sees you as a friend and as a friend ONLY.
Be honest with yourself. You wanted a relationship from the very beginning. You agreed to no-strings-attached because you thought you'd be able to convince him to gf you up.
Learn from this and only fuck dudes who want the same thing as you. You can't handle fwb.
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Thank you! I only wanted a few day break not to completely cut the romance out. He spent a very long time pursuing me, messages me all throughout the day even if he knows I'm not awake yet he'll send me messages. We talk on the phone almost everyday and Skype If we can get the timing right. When he doesn't speak to me he worries and it hurts him. All ontop of of all the romantic things he says and does. I just never had a friendship like this before so maybe it was my bad for assuming he felt more too. He just seemed to put in so much effort, my other Pisces friend said I hurt him by going on a date with that guy and he would never show it and now he's trying to protect himself from getting hurt but doesn't want to loose me completely? I would love to know your thoughts on that
all of this is because of the internet
Posted by hydorah
all of this is because of the internet
lol this is true ?
most of the threads here are because of "long term relationship" problems.
The internet lets people believe they can have a romantic relationship from a distance without doing the actual things to be together and the everyday struggle
Posted by hydorah
most of the threads here are because of "long term relationship" problems.The internet lets people believe they can have a romantic relationship from a distance without doing the actual things to be together and the everyday struggle
I decided it would be best to accept that we should only be friends. But now should I break off our trip? We both already have tickets and I promised to let him stay with me... I'm very confused as to why he didn't make plans to stay with someone else he has other friends in the area
Why are you afraid of being with him in the same town/house? Shouldn't this be the best time to find an answer to your question?
Posted by Undine
Why are you afraid of being with him in the same town/house? Shouldn't this be the best time to find an answer to your question?
Hm I thought it seemed as though my question had already been answered, he seemed to have made it clear that he just wants to be friends as pointed out above. Do you feel that there is a chance he feels otherwise? I have a very hard time deciphering him, he is very sensitive and has a lot of feelings he often says one thing but then feels and acts another. I've never been so into / confused by anyone before.
My friends who know the situation think that he may have feelings for me still since he wants to spend that time with me and won't let me go away. But maybe we're grasping at straws?
jfc
He isn't confusing at all .. you are.
You are operating under false pretenses and acting like he's the one being confusing. What is confusing you is your lies you tell yourself.
grow the fuck up already !!!!
Posted by P-Angeljfc
He isn't confusing at all .. you are.
You are operating under false pretenses and acting like he's the one being confusing. What is confusing you is your lies you tell yourself.
grow the fuck up already !!!!
Can you elaborate?
Could you please tell me exactly how I am operating under false pretenses and the lies that I'm telling myself, I an not aware of them and could really use a reality check if this is the case. And I mean this in the most sincere way, thank you!
Posted by aquanib
Posted by hydorah
most of the threads here are because of "long term relationship" problems.The internet lets people believe they can have a romantic relationship from a distance without doing the actual things to be together and the everyday struggle
Id love me some everyday struggle with the woman of my dreams! 😆
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Posted by cap23
Posted by hydorah
most of the threads here are because of "long term relationship" problems.The internet lets people believe they can have a romantic relationship from a distance without doing the actual things to be together and the everyday struggle
I decided it would be best to accept that we should only be friends. But now should I break off our trip? We both already have tickets and I promised to let him stay with me... I'm very confused as to why he didn't make plans to stay with someone else he has other friends in the area
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Just think very clearly of what/how you'd like to be together, then tell him what you wish, without putting pressure, just tell him why it would be nice.
Maybe he'll reject you but you'll feel better afterward for saying it
I think he already told you. He just wants to be friends.
Posted by DMV
I think he already told you. He just wants to be friends.
That's not what she wants to accept though.
She wants what she wants, and acts confused if you tell her anything other than what she wants to hear.
It's very bizarre.
Poor guy.
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So my first attempt to take a break from my long distance Pisces crush didn't exactly work. He texted me the next day and me being unable to resist him replied back right away. Everything has been fine until yesterday when a friend from my undergrad program moved to town and asked me out for a date. I was considering it but then suddenly I felt guilty and realized I didn't want to hurt my Pisces guy. I felt like it was only right to talk to him about it and be honest about how I was feeling. He seemed fine maybe a little taken aback but nothing that made me think he was upset. We are supposed to be no strings attached, but I can't help but have these very strong feelings for him and I told him that I was worried that I was starting to like him too much. So I tried to go away again but he wouldn't let me, he said he thought we should just cut the romance out of our relationship and just be friends instead. For some reason this devastated me even though I agreed that it would probably be best for us. But today I couldn't help myself I tried to be romantic with him and he rejected me and I just turned into tears. I told him that I really needed some time to get over my feelings for him and wanted to delete the app we talk on for a little while. He really didn't like that, but I got him to agree to a four day break with no communication after I told him how bad his rejection hurt me. We've never gone 24 hours without communication. We also already had romantic plans for him to come spend time with me November. He says I'm his best friend, and he just wants me to be happy and doesn't want me to be hurt. But now I'm hurting more than before? When we were romantic it was very very romantic so I'm confused about his feelings. He says he really still wants to spend that time in November with me, and that he still wants me around as a friend and that I'll never loose him as a friend. Does he really just not have any romantic feelings for me anymore just like that? Did he ever? I never tried to pin him down or make him be in a relationship with me. Did I do something wrong? Can anyone here give me some insight on how he may really feel? Should I give up on him? Thanks in advanced!