Are pisces selfish / self absorbed generally

I only have 2 Pisces in my life one female friend of over 20 years and one friend/lover of over 8 years

Both are acting incredibly "of self" / "all about me" right now .. I have been there rock solid for both these people of late one going through marriage issues where I literally spend hours helping them on the phone daily the other I've probably gone over and above with support in every way possible. I know Im important in their lives and we have strong connections etc but I just kind of feel right now the attention they show me is more because I'm solving a need they have than about me per se. Like it's 80/20 not 50/50.

I am going through a minor health issue right now as well as having a long going serious family issue it has become clear to me neither stop once to ask how I am when they call me with either marriage or work/money problems - if I've been to the doctor neither ask what the prognosis was not how im doing during if they reach out even if im really down as im not getting better ect ...its constantly just me listening to them and their problems and all about them.

Im at the point where im kind of done and feel like it's not about me at all im just "there" as someone to vent to or be of use for whatever.

I feel like if I say something I won't be able to tell any how it is as such behind anything but it almost feels like it's now like a test where they keep reinforcing my realisation of where I stabd and I hate feeling it. now I'm aware of it it's like its getting worse and worse like something that's growing and im becoming very resentful but trying to just be non. I've become snappy already with my girlfriend and told her I've started to have enough as its getting over the top daily all day and to call me in a week.

Is this typical of Pisces and they don't realise they are doing it in their own bubble fantasy world or just coincidence and they both happen to have selfish personalities

Appreciate any feedback so I can think how to process this and how to act further .. As they are 2 long standing situations it's a tough one

No, we are normally the least selfish. We are wise, empathic and all-giving. Your lot probably have strong Libra influences as they are the selfishest (dat even a word, dawg??) of all.

Sorry you feel like this. People tend to fall into certain roles...

For example, if you were advising them for a long time, you entered an adviser-advisee (or carer-patient) role. Thye thing is, it is a one-way relationship. The patient does not ask about his carer's issues or feelings!

If you want to get out of this rut, stop listening to their problems all the time. Change the subject after 2-3 minutes. Bring up your problems if you want to. Or better, go out and have fun with them....this are what friends are mainly for. Do some enjoyable activities together and gossip the hell out of the rest of the hopeless mankind!

I only know one who is self absorbed. He's an addict. The rest of the fish in my life are decent folks. It's the individual not their sign.

Interesting thought on the progressed chart I hadn't thought of that ... Astrology to me is always 50% the other 50% your parents/family/upbringing/life story so I think it's 2 individuals

Ironically one was brought up super rich the other super poor yet they show some of the same fundamental issues in personality

Thanks (still didn't get any better this week more of the same !)

I'm not selfish! I don't try to be at least, I aways put put others feelings/needs first, who are these people you know??

The only people who ive ever known to be in your face, blatantly selfish are Aries women, 3 of them over the years, and don't care to admit it, don't get me wrong, my step sons mum is one of them,hes got learning difficulties, she couldn't give a rats about him, in my personal experience its been so blatant and ' in your face' it blows me away, their audacity!! Just saying, if I was ever like that of fel totally ashamed of myself!

What you are talking about is not selfish at all, just say something about your worries when they first contact you, if you say nothing how is anyone supposed to know you have worries of your own??

They obviously see you as a rock,its not one sided, really, just say! We are so reciprotive we know at a point when we need to return the gesture, don't wear yourself out, it will come, you'll see x

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I'm speaking from my Pisces moon & Mercury . I'm not selfish (well I think we're all a little selfish sometimes) but yes I can be self absorbed at times.

Posted by MarchPisc3s
Why do people always tend to think that it's us rather it being them?

The same argument could apply the other way.

If Pisces is the common denominator..then yeah. It's you.

Why do Pisces think it's not them and default blame immediately to the other party?

c'est le fish

Posted by soundsunscene

I only have 2 Pisces in my life one female friend of over 20 years and one friend/lover of over 8 years

I know Im important in their lives and we have strong connections etc

but I just kind of feel right now the attention they show me is .....

I am going through a minor health issue right now as well as having a long going serious family issue it has become clear to me neither stop once to ask how I am when they call me

There doesn't seem to be any animosity before, "right now", when you are feeling vulnerable, and a little helpless.

Naturally you are more needy "right now" during your diminishing health, and this insecurity is causing you to need more attention.

Without knowing the other side of the story, it's going to be impossible to give a credible answer.

Generally though, Pisces usually only shrug off needy people once it becomes overbearing, and constant. So, it probably would be a fair assumption that you've been pressuring people into suffering through your illness with you.

And though, it's not a bad thing to have support when suffering ... it has to be willing and sincere for it to count as being supportive, otherwise, you'll be a burden to others because they will feel like you are imposing this upon them.

Mainly though, what is underlined above ..... these people were just fine until now. Which means that their inherent nature isn't to be selfish, or you would have addressed that in the summary of their history with you.

By, the omission of saying they were always selfish, implies that they weren't ...

sounds to me like you are just whining because you feel vulnerable and nobody wants to give you love. maybe you should take a look at why that is.

I don't think friends of 10-20 years "whine" to each other as such especially if you have been through major life issues together .. If anything you can tough love a friend that long if you feel they are whining .. Health though is something else and someone who thinks someone is whining about a problem, well that's not a friend you would want on board (not relevant to this situation)

Anyway I think it's more about the people than the sign but it's just part of the package people/they come with

I do think from observation that Pisces don't have much patience for people's problems in general unless they have experienced it first hand then they will literally bleed into your problems with you