Is Monogomy Unrealistic?

I know we all like to believe that we will meet that one special person and there will be no cheating, and the music will crescendo, fireworks will go off, and angels will fly out of our a $ $ es, etc. ....HOWEVER....

Sometimes I just don't know if we're meant to be monogamous. The majority of people seem to have such a problem with it. I, personally, have never been unfaithful, but the fact that several of my partners have, and something like 75% of the posts on these boards seem to involve cheating in one way or another makes the whole idea seem rather far-fetched and delusional. Maybe it's a myth. Thoughts? Comments? Chewing gum? 🙂

I have never cheated on anybody, and I've had opportunities to.

If I did fuck around, I let the other person know, "hey, I'm seeing other people."

But can two people really maintain monogamy....FOREVER? I know it's been done, but it seems to be the minority. Especially in relationships these days. Almost like the ideal of it is even fading away with the older generations.

Forever seems like... forever.

Take it one step at a time.

I still want it - One man One woman its a dream

Its the one thing that drives me insaine

Do you want it because you can't have it? Do you want it because it's a dream?

If it were real and present in all its ugliness, would you still want it? Or would you chase your dream?

Right, SR, that's what I mean. Is it even truly what we want, or is a product of society? Have we simply been "programmed" to THINK that we want it?

Nope, I want to be one soul & one spirit with someone - I want them to be so inlove with me & me them that there is more to life than sex

"that's what I mean"

Where would you Fishies be without us? I spend half my time here articulating what you swimmer are trying to say, but can't.

🙂

WHATEVER HATER!!!!! lol

I think society tells you that wanting to be with just one person is too hard

"I want them to be so inlove with me & me them that there is more to life than sex"

I want this too, but lately I've just been wondering if I only THINK I want this because it's what I've learned from society. It's doubly enforced on women because, unfairly, society still ascribes to the double standard where sex is concerned.

So, have I always been faithful because I really WANTED to, or just because I've learned I'm "supposed" to because coupling up is a society ideal, and also because if I'm unfaithful, I'm a whore? There's quite a lot of pressure to conform in both of these areas. I think it has influenced my subconscious beyond the point of return.

I think I am just fvcked in the heart because I have been lied to sooooo many times - Its not so much the cheating - its THE LIEEESSS

I wrote this on the other one:

If you cant beat um join um - Thats what did it to me. I wanted to know what it was like lying to someone having a secret & the excitment - I wanted to ounderstand why people did it to me.

A few reasons why people cheat like that P-Angel:

* Feeling trapped
* Low self esteam
& for the Main one .... FEAR! Peaple are scared of being alone - or giving up there man/woman because they may not find better, afraid of loss, afraid of being dissliked by there once friend & partner, Scared of hurting someone they love with the truth, or if they have a family then that would really mess the fvck out of your life, even having joint bills & furniture makes it harder to leave!! The easy way? Screw someone else, get the feeling of being wanted back & then its also empowering - some people really do feel like king shiv from screwing soemone else.

Also scared of gettign hurt .... people (like me) cheat because they are scared of gettign hurt - sort of cheat on tehm before they cheat on me.

I'm with ya there pisces. When you think about it, monogamy and honesty go hand in hand, so maybe it's the fact that honesty is in such short supply among people, that those who are suffer for it. And that's the reason they have such a difficult time finding a like-minded partner.

HA! I give up! I'm going to stay single forever and get more cats. I'll be mean to all the kids in the neighborhood and they'll think I'm a witch. I'll become a legend, and years later Tim Burton's son will make a film about called "Crazy Cat Lady".

Ill join ya SS!!! We can have a ockign chair on the patio each!

Opps heh heh - *Rocking

Or you guys could hook up and become lesbians.

Even better!

Ahhhhh...."The Crazy LESBIAN Cat Ladies" HAHAHA! We'll need a table out there on the porch I can set my glass eye on.

That'll really scare 'em! 😛

SR...STOP reading my thoughts, Voodoo Chile!

you're right. there's other people I can mindphuck with.

"That'll really scare 'em!"

Trust me, you'll be doing guys everywhere a great service.

Arrr - Ye wicked witch 😛

Two old lesbians with saggy boobs and one with a glass eye? I'm sure somewhere there's a freak that would be turned on by this, but I'm thinking not so much the hot ones....lol

We can get feral cats, too, pisces that will bite the brats when they come in our yard. It's all coming together!

Roooww

OoOoO & hairy legs!!! can I have a pet spider too?? 😛

Last year's wishes,
Are this year's apologies.
Every last time I come home,
I take my last chance,
To burn a bridge or two.
I only keep myself this sick in the head,
'Cause I know how the words get you.

We're the new face of failure.
Prettier and younger but not any better off.
Bulletproof loneliness,
At best.
At best.

Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)

Collect the bad habits,
That you couldn't bare to keep,
Out of the woods but I love,
A tree I used to lay beneath.
Kiss teeth stained red,
From a sour bottle, baby girl,
With eyes the size of baby worlds.

We're the new face of failure.
Prettier and younger but not any better off.
Bulletproof loneliness,
At best.
At best.

Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)

The best,
Way to make it through,
With hearts and wrists intact
Is to realize,
Two out of three ain't bad.
Ain't bad.

Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me And you,
(Honeymoon.)
Setting in a honeymoon.
(A honeymoon.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(If I woke up next to you.)
Me and you,
Setting in a honeymoon.
If I woke up next to you.
(Honeymoon.)

How is it that even ugly people have opportunities to cheat? What the hell kind of world are we living in?!

To answer your question, no. Monogomy is very realistic. If you don't want to be with one person only, don't.

You girlz are sounding more attractive by the minute.

NOT.

hey pisces, so you mentioned you were feeling weird while your guy was treating you fine. What that justified, or are you on even keel now? I think I can already sense the answer, but I don't want to put words in your mouth.

Hairy everything! We're going au naturelle! Think of all the time we'll save on body maintenance! More time to cast evil spells on all those who have wronged us. Yes, you can have a spider...as long as you keep it away from me...lol

Scorp I am soooo confusssed right now - I wouldnt know my left from my right glass eye 😛

I just dont know what to do with him - he is a serial cheater - I was but I didnt for different reasons - He does it cause he likes to get it on with losts of women - he likes the attention.

"More time to cast evil spells on all those who have wronged us. Yes, you can have a spider...as long as you keep it away from me...lol"

May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the underpants of our enemies!!!

It all comes out now!! I can never trust him .... ever

When we are loving - it is the best love I have ever had in my life & I dont want to let that go - everyone knows how good it feels when you really are great with someone - The amazing happiness you feel inside like you can accopmlish anything as long as he is by your side :cry:

Awwwwww! 😢 Yeah, it's hard to let go of emotional/physical attachment, but it's not worth it if he's causing you pain. Not worth it!

Splitting up with someone for the right reasons is never hard, especially for you guys.

But you gotta do it if you believe it to be right.

* is never easy

I dont know whats right anymore scorp...

"it's hard to let go of emotional/physical attachment" the hardest thing - wish I was unemo!! Detached .... EMOTIONLESSSSSS

I thought maybe its a faze??

Do ever just wish the problem would go away?? & liek just dont want to think about it & want to come back when u both happy again!?

"Do ever just wish the problem would go away??"

That's what makes us different.

What do you mean?

Do you like dealign with problems?

"Do ever just wish the problem would go away?? & liek just dont want to think about it & want to come back when u both happy again!?"

Well of course. That's the Pisces way. Trouble is, the problem won't go away, it just gets bigger. I prefer to face challenges head-on these days. Clear out the old to make way for the new. I think I missed a lot of great opportunities relationship-wise in the past because I stayed to long with people who were absolutely wrong for me, but I ignored the bad because of the few/far-between good moments.

I decided I deserve better than that, and so do you. 😉

Problems don't go away, p. That's why they are problems. If they did go away, they wouldn't be problems.

If it's a harder problem, I'll ponder more about it. At some point, a decision has to be made and it will made with directness and force.

do i think it is unrealistic, it shouldn't be currently.

do i think marriage is a concept that has been programmed, absolutely. not a single doubt in my mind. but it's such a lovely concept.

I have tried to leave already - HE hunted me - did the whole way thru - I tried so many times to break up with the boy! hed come around if I wouldnt answer my phone - he knew Id take him back if I didnt get enough space between cause he knows I love him.
Typical Aqua style - want what they cant have.

We have so many good things going on between us. But its this rollercoaster up & down thats making me sick.

I dont want to bitch about it caus eI dont know if I am just going thru a faze or if this is it- you know?

"you know?"

At some point, you will get sick of it. The only question is whether it's now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, or 30 years from now.

In economics, there's a term called opportunity cost. It applies not to the cost of something you buy, but the cost of something you could have bought instead. In your case, your opportunity cost is time.

Cumon - I said DONT YOU WISH that problems would just go away .... I thought you were sposed to know Fish Language scorp? 😛

"I said DONT YOU WISH"

No.

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Rarrahhahahah - ur evvilll - wheres SS gone - I cant find my hairy spidy (I have named it Spidy Pig btw) heh heh