It's been a long 3 days since I broke up with my Scorpio BF....... (Page 2)

At least he's trying to talk to you so he cares. Better than 8 months to hear I don't want a relationship. Welp...hope your meeting goes well...if he tries I think he should get another chance.

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Posted by M143
MsTeeq,

I think you are just tired of him. Give him a chance. You are strong.. but I want to ask you personally.

Do you like to be right and alone?

Fear is real. It's not right but Scorpio understand how human being think. Nothing is constant.

I suggest you have to keep it light. Give a try .

hurr durr scorpio strong everyone weak. ooga booga *shakes hands*

stfu

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lmao. you are not Scorpio. You are attacking me. what a S*t*u*p*i*d pig.

Why is it that when people have wronged me I completely drop all feelings for them and never go through the "woe is me" break up phase? 😐

yay. P-Angel is right. That is what think. MsTeeq listen to P-Angel.

Posted by Damnata
Some Scorpio posters just read topics and when they see a Scorpio brethren is being accused of anything...they will immediately jump to the rescue.

Not even bothering to see what that specific Scorpio did or if the bashing is warranted...just blindly jumping to attack.

Other signs care for their own and would back their own too but Scorpios take it to a whole different level.

😆 😆 😆. yes ! lol

Posted by Shaniajam
At least he's trying to talk to you so he cares. Better than 8 months to hear I don't want a relationship. Welp...hope your meeting goes well...if he tries I think he should get another chance.

I found myself about an hour away going, "What the hell am I doing?" lol ha ha ha So I called a fellow Pisces friend (male) and we were able to laugh about it. That helped A LOT! Then my guy called when I was about...30 minutes away to ask me if I were excited to see him. I couldn't/wouldn't lie to him so I just said, "We're not even going there" and laughed it off. Short story without too much detail. When I arrived, I made it clear without being rude that we were still broken up, because he was under the assumption that by me coming, I would see him and we would immediately get back together. Ummm...no. We did get to play/joke around A LOT so that was awwwwwweeeeeeesommmmmmmeee!!! He definitely doesn't want to break up and I believe was trying to figure some stuff out within himself. This happened after our last meet up when I got upset with him for how dismissive he was when dropping me off. He made it clear that I'm very important to him and that he loves me tremendously. We had a couple more relationship firsts...things that we've never done together. His PDA level was HIGH...very high, which is unusual for him. He wouldn't even drive without kissing me every chance he got. Our convo was great. He said that he wants us to stay together for two main reasons...love and what we've already built. He won't ever settle for anything less than a serious relationship with me. He also made that clear. He laid on me in the restaurant and was like, "Oh...and I'm not going to be your casual ANYTHING. Even tonight, if you just want casual sex, I'm taking my ass to sleep. I won't do it." We talked about the difference in our communication styles and neither one of us had any answers as to how that would work out long term. We talked about the difference between being together because you're good together (which is us in person) and being together because you BELONG together. Now that the second consideration...belonging is on the table, that's what we have to try to figure out. When I told him that I HAVE thought about us getting married (from time to time), he actually held me tighter. I confessed to him that in my mind (prior to the breakup), future state meant that if he wanted to stay in this industry, I was prepared to quit my current job to become a traveling housewife, but that was also an opportunity to establish my own virtual business. He absolutely LOVED that idea. He even expressed that he wished I could've taken time off to leave late the next day so that he could see me after work. One BIG thing that happened was that through a series of exchanges that night, he finally said to me, "How can you not see that certai

...he finally said to me, "How can you not see that certain things hurt my feelings." He said that when he tells me that I'm important to him or that he loves me and I don't believe him, that hurts his feelings. I never considered that. At one point he asked me if he was important to me. I said, "No". His eyes got super red and watered up, but he wouldn't say a damn thing! So, I was like, "What....does that hurt your feelings? If it does, don't just sit there looking at me...SAY SOMETHING! I'm not a mind reader." Later on, he did something and I commented on it and he goes, "Can you please be my mind reader? Please?" Lol...he's just not good at expressing himself...at all. We did have sex, but AFTER the series of conversations, which was what I wanted to do...talk. Once he realized that the break up was real for me, he did not even initiate sex, because he knew that I hadn't made a decision on whether or not we should get back together. He just kept telling me that I left him. He wanted to hold me though and when I finally initiated sex, he asked me what it was to me. He was like, "What is it going to be? Is this going to be a casual thing for you?" I assured him that it wasn't...so we did it. lol The next morning I woke up an hour earlier than him to try to figure out how we could bridge the communication gap between us and whether or not I could compromise/concede/cooperate with him long term. I decided to take the risk. So, in the morning I announced that I'd thought of a possible solution. He started laughing and was like, "OK...what did you come up with?" I told him that I agreed that we should be together based on the fact that we are good together, do love each other, and invested a lot of time into us. I suggested that if he were willing and could commit to it, that I needed a minimum of 3 dedicated communication days from him a week. No interruptions of other calls, friends, no distractions...just him and I talking and that I need him to actually TALK to me. He said that he could and would do it. So there we have it.

Once it was decided that we would continue the relationship. He said, "Ok, now I have a song that I need you to hear." I really appreciated the fact that he waited for me to make a decision or see him, etc instead of trying to use this song to influence my decision. I heart him.

Looks like you did get reeled back in. Figured that would happen. You've been posting threads with issues about the relationship since you started. Not sure how much you think things will change in the long run. He may try harder in the beginning, but after a while, the patterns and behaviors always show up again.
But, as long as you're happy, then what I say doesn't matter. I don't agree with your decision, but 'never say never'. that phrase makes me think I need to be more tolerant. Anywayyyyyy, keep us updated

Posted by Scenic
Looks like you did get reeled back in. Figured that would happen. You've been posting threads with issues about the relationship since you started. Not sure how much you think things will change in the long run. He may try harder in the beginning, but after a while, the patterns and behaviors always show up again.
But, as long as you're happy, then what I say doesn't matter. I don't agree with your decision, but 'never say never'. that phrase makes me think I need to be more tolerant. Anywayyyyyy, keep us updated

Thank you for the feedback. I'm aware that things still may not work out. However, I think it's worth the try. If it works out...great. If it doesn't...great. Either way, I'll be fine. The huge thing with crying the Sunday that I broke up with him...that was pretty much what I needed in order to either make this work or eventually cut all ties if the relationship isn't going to work. Now, I wonder...is there a relationship that exists without "issues". I've never seen one in person. Every single couple I know...particularly the strong couples who have been together FOREVER have gone through some serious tests and trials. Some have had them from the beginning and others...they've cropped up along the way. Either way, I do have a lot of "forever" couples in my family...many and not a single one of them haven't been touched by some type of major adversity. Not to say that anyone should be unhappy in a relationship situation, but I just know that they're also not easy. Again, thanks for the feedback!

Posted by MsTeeq1974
Once it was decided that we would continue the relationship. He said, "Ok, now I have a song that I need you to hear." I really appreciated the fact that he waited for me to make a decision or see him, etc instead of trying to use this song to influence my decision. I heart him.

Beautiful ❤❤ I read all three and I must say what a fair tail Come through. I am so happy for you and you know what? I think yall gonna make it just fine 👌ðŸ¾❤

Posted by BlackMamba
i hate how women have to submit to the man's dreams and goals...instead of the other way around.

Lol...for me and this is where I'm coming from...if we do make it to the point where he decides to continue in the industry and I end up traveling with him...it will be a first. I've had men leave their everything for me. I've had men change their plans for me or put things on hold for me. For the first time ever, I want to know what that's like and I believe that love is worth it. I never had the luxury before, because my house was full of kids and the house was healthy, robust, fully functional. So, it wasn't like my houshold was in peril and change could have made it better. I was always the one with the healthier, stable, but had more at risk, because of the kids. My youngest is almost 18 and I'll have the freedom to experience certain things. I'd love to travel with him and be his housewifey. lol I actually think it would be fun. However, that's ONLY if we actually continue to make it.

Then there's the advantage that the way my resume and skillset is set up...if I DON'T like it...I go back to doing me and get back to doing what I know works. Meh.

Posted by BlackMamba
Oh that's nice, you have grown adults, that does make things easier, when you say industry, i hope its not hip hop? I just feel that route is so not realistic...but kudos to you if you can roll like that

Nope. lol Engineering, but with heavy machinery...a specialist when it comes to hydraulics, fuel pumps, heat pumps...all of that good stuff...and other specialty equipment.

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
Once it was decided that we would continue the relationship. He said, "Ok, now I have a song that I need you to hear." I really appreciated the fact that he waited for me to make a decision or see him, etc instead of trying to use this song to influence my decision. I heart him.

Beautiful ❤❤ I read all three and I must say what a fair tail Come through. I am so happy for you and you know what? I think yall gonna make it just fine 👌ðŸ¾❤

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Thank you, but I wouldn't say fairy tale quite yet. Fairy Tale potential...maybe. but thank you for the well wishes. :-)

Posted by Arielle83
^ can this one ever not be a condescending biatch?

Lmaoooo

There was an update that I forgot to add. Previously, I'd said that he looked into my window and didn't bother to ask my son where I was. I asked my son if my bf had knocked on the door to ask where I was. My son said no. I just assumed looking through my window was the ONLY way he could see what was on my bed. Well, come to find out, he'd gone through the lower floor of the house. He said that my son wasn't downstairs and he wasn't going to go upstairs to invade his privacy, but that after walking through the lower floor of the house, where my bedroom is, he decided to leave. Now I know why he had that look on his face in the picture he sent me in front of my house. He felt like he went above the call of duty by going through the house looking for me. Makes more sense knowing how he is. Now, I don't know why this update is significant, but once I realize that I forgot to post about it...it started nagging at me. I really don't know why, but something was like, "Go update the thread". Maybe something will jump out to someone here...meh.

He loves you sometimes we as Pisces don't know the value of a moment until after its gone please try to see his love while in the moment because we aren't guarantee to have those again Scorpio men do try to hold in there emotions but we can see it in there eyes but we want to hear it and see it but this is there way...